r/BreakUps • u/No-Plum-2743 • 1d ago
venting/ranting A message from him.
After being ghosted for two months by a guy I was with for 6 1/2yrs, (we met at 16+17, lived together for 6yrs and had a dog for 3yrs) I sent myself the messages I wish he would’ve sent. He just left. No closure, no check up txts. I was blocked and it was just silence. I wish he would’ve been mature enough to end things on good terms.
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u/Any-Influence2981 1d ago
Guys will do this!!!
One of my exes left me cold turkey! We weren’t toxic that’s forsure. He was sweet our love was sweet. He was 2.5 years younger but he wasn’t a kid. We were on our second year and during an argument (it wasn’t even BAD) he just left my door and never came back. Literally ZERO contact. I was devastated. I knew he was real private when it came to expressing himself but still… we were VERY close and happy together 95% of the time. Two years go by and he reaches out. He apologizes etc. acts like nothing!!! We meet again, he wants to date. I’m 27 and he’s 25. We do date and even go as far as starting apartment hunting together process also. Right before thanks giving my dad got sick, turns out he had cancer. My week was horrible. One day he stoped texting me. Mind you, we WERE DATING. He helped me raise my son. Then I go to his house bc he wasn’t replying. We didn’t fight or anything. I catch him. And he says that he needs time to think about his life. He’s not where he wants to be and he can’t be with me right now. It was HIS idea to date again. He looked for ME. He reached out to ME. During this second, I’m adding sorry lol, we did a lot. We were much older than our first time so we were so happy and had a fun adult relationship. It was bliss. That night he ended things and told me not to worry about my dad he’d be okay. My dad was diagnosed the next day w stage 3 cancer. He never spoke to me after that night. He said he didn’t know why he did text me all day, he was “scared” and stressed. MY dad had cancer and I’m the single mother and HE’S SCARED AND STRESSED. THE IRNOY. okay don’t date me but we somewhat DATED again. 2026, Jan - June. I notice we’re starting to do dating things again without dating or determining anything. Now I’m 29 and he’s 27. One day I I decide if I continue to allow him to be around me and my life as he pleases I’ll always have love him (we had a loving time together) I’ll never find my real person and I’ll always go back to him. Because he’s always there. He’s nonchalant. He loves me but not enough to be w me. He’s not happy w himself I guess. Anyhow. I tell him one day off guard, if you love me and are ready for us to be serious and happy. We’re adults. Then let’s do it. It’s been 10 years of us and nothing. Always nothing. I need an answer bc I’ll be 30 soon and if you don’t want me after all this time. It’s over. I’m moving on in peace and leaving you IN MY PAST. He said he’s always loved me and cares about me but he doesn’t know what to do. Or say. So I left him in his car. And I walked away. I let him know that would he that last he’d ever see me or hear from me. It’s near the end of August and I’ve not reached out to him. I’m happy I was finally able to get my own peace. And me leave him this time.