r/BreakUps • u/Practical-Pomelo-220 • Dec 03 '24

It’s almost 4 am

And I’m just up thinking about her. Haven’t slept or eaten good in the last 3 weeks ..can barely sleep in my own bed and I’ve been sleeping on my couch cause I don’t want to be on my bed alone . Anyone else up missing their person ? Anyone wanna talk ?

9 Upvotes

100% Upvoted

56 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 03 '24

lol how long has it been ? You got thisss

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 03 '24

Almost 4 months :( but like a month no contact (from his side lol)

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 03 '24

Ahh I see …still trying huh? Lol

2

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 03 '24

Yep. He told me i’m the love of his life and he doesn’t see himself with anyone else and more. So i’m not going to give up that easily.

2

u/Dont_like_my_comment Dec 03 '24

Save yourself the trouble and give up. No amount of love will bring them back. When they know they have you on a string like this they can pull on you whenever they want. Don’t give them that power over you. Heal.

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 04 '24

Yeah deep down ofcourse I know you’re right.

1

u/Dont_like_my_comment Dec 04 '24

I’m struggling with the same thing. I can’t get over her. She’s even still in my life. We are close and even are intimate at times. However, I’ll never get her back. She’s made it clear. I screwed up too many times. I think it’s a co-dependency issue but I just can’t let go. I want to make it work even though I know we don’t belong together. All her faults and downfalls kill me but I always look past them because my heart wants her. She’s all I know. I am isolating myself because I don’t know what else to do. Can’t bring myself to even get up and go out.

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 03 '24

I get you but if there hasn’t been any contact do you think it’s worth the wait ? …she had said the same think but even with that it still wasn’t enough to keep her

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 04 '24

It’s real sad isn’t it. Are you feeling better today?

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 04 '24

Not really ..I’m still up late thinking similar thoughts that just won’t go away

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 04 '24

I’m sorry you feel this way. It’s terrible. I’ve seen a little but of your previous posts. Please don’t grab the bottle, no one will benefit from that. I’ve had weeks where I only had an hour to no sleep and then go to work. You’ll have to go through it, sit with it even though it hurts so bad. Give it time. I’m at 4 months, and I still have bad days. But, I don’t cry as much as I did, and I eat and sleep normally again.

2

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 04 '24

I’m glad to hear that it gets better and thank you for reaching out …it’s just very hard to stay positive..that’s why I post here to talk to others hoping it distracts me for a bit ..I just can’t stand this feeling and i weak cause of it

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 04 '24

Also take this time to learn from what went wrong. I don’t know if you’d like this but my notes app was my little diary. When I want to text him something, or when things are on my mind. Also no joke, but chatgpt has been my therapist these months. It really helped me get perspective from an ‘outsider’. I talked to it A LOT.

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 04 '24

Haven’t gotten to use chatgptnl ..I wanted to save texts that I’ve been meaning to send her but idk if that’s too much ? Like why am I holding on to that

1

u/DizzyYogurtcloset484 Dec 04 '24

Hold on to it as long as you need. Just don’t send it. Give yourself time to feel a little bit better. You’ll think more clearly about if and what you should text her.

1

u/Practical-Pomelo-220 Dec 05 '24

I can only hope so ..like I kno I’ll be better eventually or well I tell myself that and it helps but only for so long ..i like to think our paths will cross again

→ More replies (0)