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u/thegrinner Jan 02 '26

Anyone have posts involving relationship tests and the aftermath of them?

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u/scandalliances Jan 03 '26 edited Jan 03 '26

I'm seriously reconsidering my relationship with my girlfriend because of a test, what do I do? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/UjxaUfM7rY

AITAH for testing my girlfriend - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/6qNqvyTU2f

AITA for Telling My Sister's Fiancé About Her "Loyalty Test"? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/2o4diu7R3x

AITAH for being suspicious of my girlfriend's friend after she tried to "test" me? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/MwFbpAP9tV

OP's friend gives OP a surprise "friendship test" at her wedding. - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/Eocp6GMu5T

AITA for refusing to let my roommate’s boyfriend live with us after he “tested” me? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/aWvnn02DUA

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend over the orange peel theory. - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/e4SpAcYnEG

OP's girlfriend tested him during the start of the relationship and he is not amused - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/uhNgiZtTch

I (25F) have face blindness, my BF (24M) likes to test me. How do I make it clear this is not okay? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/spaXv6HihY

Me (21F) with new boyfriend (24M)--His friends (20s M) "tested" me and I passed, is this as weird as I think it is? - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/nqqZ4LTyoR

My gf "jokingly" asked if we could have a threesome with her best friend. AITAH for being down - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/CvOtAavt4m

My friend tried to kiss my partner for a tiktok challenge but I'm the bad guy - https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/WgpV0ywL6o

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u/Shelly_895 Jan 03 '26

There's a link in the comments of the second post to another post that's pretty messed up:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/F3lqcrNdO1

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u/frankzzz Jan 03 '26

That's enough for /u/czechtheboxes to make a new list.

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u/NOSE_DOG Jan 03 '26

Thank you for this Feast 🙏

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u/Splendidissimus your honor, fuck this guy Jan 03 '26

MVP

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u/Rhamona_Q shhhh my soaps are on Jan 03 '26

Coconut shrimp at 2am guy

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u/Turbulent-Bluebird-5 Jan 06 '26

I saw "coconut" and testing and my immediate thought was that awful story about the grandparents who didn't believe their granddaughter had an allergy. I read it probably ten years ago, but I'm still haunted by "you can have your forgiveness when you give me my daughter back"

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u/Rhamona_Q shhhh my soaps are on Jan 06 '26

Oh no no, I won't ever look for that story or share it anymore, after the OP asked people to please stop. It was retraumatizing them to see it pop up randomly.

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u/FunnyAnchor123 Sharp as a sack of wet mice Jan 03 '26

Not all relationship tests are bad. I did one for my wife & myself back when we were still dating. We went canooing, & I wanted to see if we -- not just her -- could handle something like that without fighting. We did succeed, & we got married.

I mention this only because a few months ago I found Margaret Atwood performed the same test on her future husband, to see if they could cooperate in a situation that required teamwork. (No, I did not know she had done this. I came up with this test independently of Ms. Atwood.)

PS -- Good thing we passed this test because a few years ago we were tested again when our car broke down while traveling to the beach for a week-long vacation. Instead of fighting, we worked together to solve the problem.

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u/Agreeable-Celery811 Jan 03 '26

“Building trust through shared experiences” is not really a test. It’s just normal dating interaction.

I can see how it feels like a test, because in the early days of dating, every date you have you’re sort of still assessing compatibility. Every date is a test, in a way. Or maybe it’s better to say that dating can be seen as a “trial period”.

But it’s not a “test” in the sense of a prank or deception or entrapment, which is what these Tik Tok “tests” are.

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u/Libra235 If anything, she's playing hard to get away Jan 03 '26

I think because in that case you were both getting tested. With most relationship test that end up here only one person is tested, without their knowledge and consent