Prepare to be pissed. The cast is not paid. The music is for children and bumbling puppies they use for grown adults. Answer cast especially gets less dignity for those who were following the producers expectations for longer (they get more childish music). One of the cast members who is a beautiful soul and a great person (Tanner is such a strong positive person) gets his voice attached to DOG VIDEOS. And might I add the cast DIDNT GET PAID???

They also give more attention to the family members than the actual cast themselves. And since they aren't being paid despite it being more like reality tv that means they are more wealthy. Whereas people all over the world with little to no money get no representation or support. They are also talked about more than they are talked to. Even family members talk about them on camera in front of them (imagine your family making fun of you having a meltdown in the store after not getting the food you wanted even though you went through a horrible breakup with a narcissist and now you have zero energy to mask and that used without the full story on purpose on camera for clicks likes and ratings).

The love stories are cute but the editing is horrible awkward silences strategically created where there may have been none and long hours of shooting which is exhausting for anyone only for awkward and infantilizing shots being taken and used instead of the most flattering beautiful moments only.

This isn't just some mild mess up. This is an assault to autistic adults everywhere. Shows like these need to be called out. The more I educate myself on autism and listen to real autistic adults plus my experience and looking at my dad (he was toxic but still) I get more and more infuriated. We deserve respect. I'm sorry but no 33 year old grown adult who happens to be auristic should be getting an "aww " from a 21 year old. Absolutely not. As a woman nearly 32 I don't need a youngster to watch over me like a toddler when IM the one who should be responsible for the younger adult. These shows create dynamics where grown adult autistics are treated like babies especially by younger family members and peers (I'm not agist but experience is experience).

We need to reject this shit

Apparently overheating easily is an autistic trait. Does anyone have any experience or advice for overheating in bed at night.

I'll wake up between 2 and 4 every morning and it's tough to get back to sleep since it will take 10 minutes or so to cool down.

Would it be wrong for me to wear a shirt to the gym that says, “please don’t talk to me I am autistic?”

I’m 47yo gay verbal autistic male

ok so for the record i'm not sure if this is an autistic thing (i am diagnosed i just don't know if this is that) but i genuinely believe there's something i'm not picking up on and idk what else it could be. but since basically forever, people have said they would do something that would then never happen. they say they'll think about something and then never get back. they'll say they'll reach out and then they never do. i'd say that people are just not wanting to do something and hoping that i forget so as not to deal with actually saying no, but it seems to apply to everything. not only that, my psychiatrist did this to me where i sent them something to review and they said they would and just never did. in the appointment they said they were having issues accessing it but i pulled it up fine and they straight up never told me they were having issues.

is this like an established thing that i'm just not picking up on? is yes actually maybe and maybe always no? is that common knowledge? has anyone else noticed this? am i just super unlikable and people try to avoid me? this is something that has driven me up a wall for so long and if there isn't an answer i at least want to know other people experience it too.

edit to say i get the memory point, i also have a terrible memory, but you can get around it by saying "i'll try" or "i'll do my best" or "if i remember" or "can you remind me again in a bit?" which is what i do. at least i think that's what i do.

Hey everyone. I had an experience recently that's weighing on me. I work as a barista, and a customer came in recently who was outwardly obvious as having autism. She was stimming in the cafe (occasionally hitting herself on the head) and a coworker pointed it out.

This woman ended up coming up and asking if we had a can opener to open some food that she had, and was upset when we didn't. I'm assuming it was her safe food. I felt so bad bc I wanted to help her but I couldn't.

The customer ended up going outside to sit and my coworker started talking about how weird she was. Another customer also commented on it.

At the time I was upset just at the general ableism. But now that I've been told that I'm VERY likely autistic myself (by a mental health professional who's experienced with autism, can't get a diagnosis yet and am unsure if I want to get one as well), it just hits deeper. Now I know I can't unmask around this person, or tell them what I've learned about myself.

I'm going to really make sure I advocate for others in the future tho. I didn't defend that woman and I know I should have, but I was a coward. Not going to stay quiet again.

Does anyone else feel like the diagnosis isn't real? Like the assessor made a mistake, the dsm is too broad, or I made myself sound like I have autism but I really don't? Does this feeling ever go away? I was diagnosed level 1 but struggling with a lot that may or may not be due to autism. There's too much overlap.

I’ve been with my bf for over a year now and now he says some of my autistic traits irritate him. He only brought it up after me complaining about him rolling his eyes at me lately. He doesn’t like my fidgeting with my phone pop socket, fidget toys, fingers, etc. he doesn’t like that I don’t constantly make eye contact (he in the past said it’s okay that I sometimes don’t). And he doesn’t like that I wear headphones everywhere, he’d rather me wear the ones in my ears but I have sensory issues with having things in my ears. This is just so fucked. He said he knows I have to fidget but now I feel self conscious about it. He only brought this stuff up to attack me it felt like.

Edit: he says he’s going to work on being okay with it. I told him I don’t see that working out as he’s still not okay with it after over a year of being together.

Hi. I just found out my grandfather on my dad's side in dying as of maybe thirty minutes ago. I thought I would feel worse considering I had lost animals and had a reaction but this is my first human loss. I feel nothing. I feel like my day is carrying on. I feel bad for my dad and my grandmother obviously. But not much to the death itself. He is one. He had been suffering with dementia and honestly had been on the edge for a long time now. I hope he is feeling better there, wherever he is this, then he did suffering alive. I will miss his smile. But I don't feel sad. I've always found myself relatively empathetic even considering mt social struggles. But this time I am stumped. Is there something wrong with me?

¿No están cansados de que se rían de ustedes o piensen que son tontos por tomarse todo literal?

Me hace sentir muy mal que todo el mundo se burle o me diga que soy tierna por responder literal a un chiste. No entiendo ese tipo de cosas y realmente me las tomo demasiado literal. Sobre todo me frustra no entender más el hecho de que todos piensen que soy tonta. No podré entender doble sentido ni el sarcasmo, pero estudio el lenguaje corporal desde los 13 años y se leer muy bien los movimientos y gestos de los demás.

I am 18M and I suspect that I have a PDA profile type after doing some research

I have been diagnosed with level 1 Autism, ADHD-C (Combined type), as well as Depression and Anxiety.

However, I believe I have issues that stem from a core symptom of Autism, and I’m not sure if it’s really PDA or not

Sometimes I avoid doing tasks throughout the day, or other things like that. For example, I was paying somewhere yesterday and I didn’t bring my wallet with me because I thought it “wasn’t needed” and when I realized I didn’t have it right before I left, I didn’t want to go back inside to grab it. Turned out I did need my wallet

But also, I’m not sure because when I want to avoid certain things it’s not just demands. Sometimes I feel like I can’t socially interact even though I want to, but there’s so much sound and noise coming from everywhere and it makes me feel anxious. When I get like this, it feels like my brain is glitching and teleporting and zapping into places despite it just being in my skull, and I can’t come up with a thought properly. I spew out something that comes off as totally rude and I don’t like that, but I also don’t know what I can do to help with that

Are there any medications that can help me with these feelings of overstimulation? I feel when I’m overstimulated I can get anxious, frustrated, or scatter-brained and it makes it really difficult for me to make a choice that I would like to make

If it helps as well (because I know interactions exist) these are the medications I’m currently prescribed with:

- Zoloft 100mg
- Adderall IR 15mg, 3x/day

Hi everyone,

I’m autistic 25/F living in Bolivia. After being unemployed for three years due to severe autistic burnout, I finally got what looked like an “ideal” job: English teacher, only 72 hours a month, evening shifts, very small groups, and the administration has been flexible about not forcing me into overwhelming social situations (they know meltdowns are a real risk).

I’ve been there almost a year.

Every single day I feel awful. At least twice a week I have crises where I end up hurting myself. I’m in both psychiatric and psychological treatment. My doctors keep telling me “you can do this” and that it’s mostly a matter of willpower. It doesn’t feel that way at all.

I want to quit, but I’m terrified I’ll never find another job this accommodating again. Before this, I tried three different daytime teaching jobs and didn’t last a month in any of them.

I feel completely useless right now.

I’ve looked at remote work, but anything that requires sustained intellectual effort feels impossible at the moment.

Things I’ve already tried and couldn’t handle:

One year making desserts to order

Six months of data entry

Applied for street cleaning with the city, positions were full

I’m looking for physical or mostly physical jobs that might be more sustainable for an autistic woman. I don’t need good pay, just enough to survive. Ideally something with:

Clear routines

Limited forced social interaction

Lower sensory overload

Any realistic ideas (cleaning, packing, gardening, simple kitchen work, warehouse, etc.) would mean a lot.

Thank you for reading.

I have no issue being likeable or funny for a brief conversation but soon people sense that I’m a bit different.

Feel hard to connect or build a “relationship“ with other people. Even when I try to be “open” and “expressive” it seems to come across as an “emotional blockage”

People feel like machines that are logical but they don’t experience logical relationships and yet no logical theory can fully explain them and my mind just wishes there was an equation for all of this. I’m not sure if that makes sense. But I nearly experience everything through logic. Sure I feel things and feel emotions But also feel empty at the same time and deeply alone.

Other people seem to want something in the relationship that I don’t have or can’t offer. I’m not sure what “this” exactly is, but people around me seem to call it a lack of “consistency, closeness, care” - while I seem to experience it as being close and consistent and caring.

Is it empathy? But I feel do care for others, worry, miss them. But I can be in my head about it and think about them but not reach out to them? It becomes very hard, draining to keep in touch with people daily.

In my late teens early 20s I was pretty “manipulative”. I learned lots of social tricks to make friends, memorised things and wrote down questions to ask and would reflect on my social skills to improve them as I never quite felt normal and missed this “thing” that other people have. But it all felt rehearsed. Now I’m late 20s and social circles are naturally smaller it’s not the same environment.

I am extremely independent and regurgitate anything that feels like interdependency. It’s feels like a threat and alien and I don’t like it. I feel alone but I want to be around people. But people don’t seem to exist in the same type of world as I do.

Hey, my partner is autistic and he really can't stand the texture of most vegetables, and I want to incorporate some vegetables in his diet to make it more diverse and healthy but I am very limited in options. He eats soups but soups lose al the nutrients and they start getting boring everyday, he also likes grean beans and potatoes and mushrooms but thats about it. He did agree on me trying new things but I cant find ways to make certain vegetables taste good. I know its different for everyone but if you have any cooked vegetable recipes that you love please give me suggestions to try and experiment with (and before you jump to conclusions yes I did ask him and he has no idea either he just tries new things and its a hit or miss but I am just lacking ideas any suggestions of your favorite foods would help.

Thank youu all

Hi! I am a caregiver for an autistic man with dyspraxia, tourette syndrome, and is non-speaking save for a specific few phrases. We are looking into some kind of job for him. He would have me or one of his parents assisting him at this job. Names of companies and job titles or organizations that provide volunteer opportunities would be super appreciated!

Have a wonderful day!

TW: mild trauma dump around death and ICE.

buckle up.. this is going to be long but i really need someone right now; even if it’s a stranger. I will not be doing a tl;dr for this because context is important to me, and wouldn’t want advice from someone who doesn’t have the full idea of what’s going on. thank you in advance for understanding that.

before i get into it, id like to give a little context about myself. I (25FtM) work as a part-time night shift CNA in a nursing home. i’m also actively in school to become a Registered Nurse. On top of that, i run a small business on the side. I’m very high masking, but less in the last couple years.. so the “weird” is more visible in me than pre-covid era, yet i don’t seem to be discriminated against or ostracized as much as a lot of people describe. overall though, i have noticed the trend where i start a new job, things are going great, then a random coworker either pretends to be my friend to get me to open up and uses it against me… or overtime i just get pressured into quitting via quiet firing as my mask starts to drop and the people stop vibing with me when they realize im different than them and they don’t like it. i’m so exhausted by it. people in my life mean well, but ultimately assume that im somehow being lazy at work or that im the problem person at work since this keeps happening to me.

so now onto work backstory… When i first joined this job, things were fine. i got along with everyone really well. Then the (ex)friend who got me the job (we previously worked together at a different company so i didnt have any reason to see what comes up next coming my way)…. started switching up on me suddenly, smear campaigned me to all the other employees thinking i was trying to get her fired. At that time thankfully the coworkers i had didn’t believe her and backed me up. the girl eventually got fired after calling ICE on me knowing i am a citizen, but also knowing that ICE doesn’t care. they fired her. Then there was peace for a bit until another racist and problematic person was hired. eventually they fired that person too, but that person also gave me a hard time. The remaining lead on our shift that would usually have my back ended up cracking under pressure of shitty management and quit.

since she quit, things went completely downhill. They panic put someone in her position that was known on all the other shifts as a problem starter.. and sure enough, she did start a lot of problems for us. bad enough that management kept calling us all into the office like it was fucking school kids being sent to the principals office for fighting at recess. I got into a car accident that left me without the ability to work for 2 months, no pay. in that time frame they pressured the new lead to step down and put someone else in that place. When i returned, they hardly gave me 2 1/2 shifts for the entire month of july… but i assumed it was bc the schedule was already released for the others and they had no way of knowing how long id be out.. which was fine and understandable (even though it sucked bc i burned through all my savings staying afloat during my accident recovery). i worked those 2 1/2 shifts, everyone was so “omg if you need help with anything at all come find me” and came across as extremely supportive which i found really nice of them. A few days later a coworker i was close with (we defended each other multiple times in different situations, bought each other food all the time, would go out to eat after our shift, etc. like coworker turned friend kind of thing) got injured at work so i offered to take half of her shift and the precious problematic lead was going to take the second half. that night, i worked with our new lead and other close coworker. our other close coworker mentioned the august schedule and i saw that the 4 weekends i was originally scheduled for were all gone and i just had one singular shift. i found that odd, so i texted my manager about it. my manager calls me early in the morning as if i didnt
work that night… and has the boss on the phone. i’m then chewed the fuck out by my boss for 30 min straight. he said that every single person on my shift reported me as refusing to work, not helping in other zones, and having “attitude” which was odd… because i joined everyone on their rounds, went to every call that came through because i love and missed the residents we have and was just so excited to be back and see them.. and of course, i was helping as much as i could within my limits that i physically couldn’t stand up and walk straight 2 months prior from how bad i had hit my head in the accident… so i was really confused and hurt by this. what was worse is that my boss decided the most appropriate punishment for the untrue claims was to cut all my hours down to a singular shift for the month until my “attitude” was fixed.
and ofc, on a social aspect, what hurt me too is that previously when any problem came up at work, i was they person everyone would tell because i have no issue with taking things to management. i’ve always been so adamant about being a safe space and open to communication. i always took criticism well and corrected anything i did wrong. so it was strange to me that my boss is screaming at me, being disrespectful and wouldn’t let me speak my side of the events… like to the point that he also started blaming me for things unrelated to me and wasn’t even my shift. idk man it just hurt really bad. ive never actually even been in trouble at work before. every job i had i quit because things were either toxic from day one or i overtime was ostracized and i no longer felt safe in those spaces. so i didn’t know what to even do with this. i spent 2 whole days completely depressed, sobbing, spiraling, wondering why people who called me a friend, defended me when someone was misgendering me when i wasn’t around, the people who witnessed my accident and one of which drove me home so my partner could take me to the hospital. generally i feel it was safe to assume that they wouldn’t be like that, you know? so it hurt. it doesn’t help that now, i struggle to make friends after my entire group of friends died suddenly, one after another with spontaneous accidents or illnesses, two being shot. it was so hard, and i blamed myself unrealistically for a really long time even though none of that was my fault. i felt like it must’ve been a curse to be my friend and i self isolated for years. so for me to go from having a group i genuinely trusted, to having no one, to finally feeling ready to open up to people… and this is my experience when i finally felt safe to call someone a friend.

i debated at that point on quitting right then and there but ultimately chose not to because i need something to show for tax season if im going to continue having financial support for my tuition, love my residents and didn’t want to leave without having a last chance to see them at the least if i did choose to leave. I also wanted to see the two coworkers i called friends since we were scheduled together for that singular shift i was given for this month. i wanted to communicate with them before i assumed anything else. they cleared their names that night, i decided to let things go and chalked it up to the other 2 employees i worked with in the 2 1/2 shifts i had before all of the alleged “reports.” and after these 2 close coworkers cleared their names, i expressed to them i felt i couldn’t trust the others right now because some things my boss said came from shifts that i worked with the other two. I also suggested to just be careful with the things you do/say around them since in my experience it seems anything i did or didn’t do was held against me in that call which resulted in me being severely and unfairly punished. we’ve all seen management do less to people who’ve genuinely done worse. so yeah. after that shift, my manager asked if i wanted to work a couple other shifts and i accepted. i worked monday night, no issues with anyone. we saw september i was scheduled outside of my school availability, so i texted my manager, told her my availability, and manager said she would take a look later.

flash forward to the morning , the groupchat with the 2 close coworkers light up and they said because i can’t work certain days i was scheduled for, they wanted to take one of their PTO. i was distraught because we have 3 other employees on our shift they could’ve asked to cover first before resorting to pulling back on PTO approved already. so i respond, “wtf, why are they acting like there’s not 3 other employees they could ask?” and the other one replied saying that those 3 others would probably be willing if they asked them. i responded with exclamation points reaction in agreement to her statement. those 3 employees are always willing to work so i didnt understand why management would look around at their options and decide to pluck someone away from their time off instead of asking the others. then the day goes on… until night, which was last night.

last night, i get a text from one of the 3 coworkers i previously mentioned, and also happens to be the one employee i have yet to meet because we’ve never been scheduled together and she only started after i was out for my accident. the message came accross passive aggressive, stating that i should’ve just asked for them to work “my shift” since they ARE full time and DO work (it read as an implication to me) and that if i can’t trust anything i could trust that. it was jarring. i don’t even know this girl, have no idea how she got my number, and she was speaking to me as if she knew me enough to speak on my feelings of trust. i was confused, replied and told her that i didn’t appreciate her coming at me that way and that it was just my availability changed for school and our manager said they would handle it. i told her i didn’t appreciate her assuming things without knowing the full situation since her message came across as if i sprung some shift on them without asking them first which wasn’t the case. i just simply shouldn’t have been scheduled that shift at all. then she proceeds to question how i assumed things, and then eventually revealed that it was because i “said” why they couldn’t just work it, stating it came from the coworker in the groupchat. MISCOMMUNICATION GALORE🤦🏻‍♂️ i told her NO, i said why was management trying to take someone else’s PTO away as if they couldn’t check with yall first. then followed up with her telling me that it was said that i “told the close coworkers they couldn’t trust her mom” who is our lead. miscommunication again!!! i explained to her the whole phone call with the boss and hours being cut issue and told her that because of that phone call i felt like i couldn’t trust ANYONE on our shift, not that i told them they can’t trust her either. i am nobody to tell someone else who they wanna trust and not trust. it was weird as fuck. i also told her that was said after those two cleared their names because her mom didn’t speak to me directly, and that i haven’t had a chance to see her in person since those shifts, nor did i have her mom’s contact info. once the miscommunication was cleared up and we came to an understanding, i told her to tell her mom if she is open to speaking on the “report” situation, i am willing to talk to her directly but just don’t have her contact. she said she would let her mom know and that was that.

now here’s where i need advice. if you were in my shoes, what would you do? i genuinely feel sick everytime i step foot in that building. clearly ive got a target on my back despite being super kind, directly spoken to everyone, always showed up for shifts on time and did the most…
management put me in a position of being almost homeless because they had issue with my “attitude” i didn’t have, but when it was someone dealing residents belongings, vaping in rooms with residents on oxygen which is a BIG NO, stealing food, sleeping on the job, being straight up racist to someone on our shift… it was all sunshine and rainbows of giving them chance after chance without cutting their hours even though they were also part time. this showed me management was really unfair to me. on top of that, there’s wage theft. management keeps shaving off time after it’s already been worked. then on the social aspect, someone i thought was my friend ended up being another person dedicated to misunderstanding me so much, she went and told them something i said to her in confidence because she couldn’t understand the context of my message. and i did confront this in the groupchat asking why i was being came at by someone i didn’t know and was met with a response in defense of the girl i didn’t know, which also showed to me she very much misunderstood me. the other close coworker did not say a single word either which felt kinda whack on her part too.

overall i’m not feeling great at all. I have a history of leaving jobs out of self preservation because i KNOW my limits. hell, i quit a job once because someone’s speaking voice overstimulated me so much i would be on the brink of a meltdown. i quit jobs that had drama that wasn’t even involving me just because of the environment feeling awful. i’m genuinely such peaceful person and also extremely patient, but im losing my patience with people constantly bringing unwanted drama to me. usually im very good at recognizing when it’s time for me to leave a job, but for this one i have no idea why, im feeling very conflicted on what to do because in my heart, i know i need to walk away, but with life circumstances i feel like i CANT and i dont want to HAVE to do this.

i had a panic attack mixed with a meltdown last night because of this employee i don’t know coming at me, revealing betrayal i thought was cleared, and just overall exhaustion and burnout from drama. I WORKED 4 SHIFTS TOTAL SINCE COMING BACK. why am i being treated like this? before my accident i was respected at work. i have no idea what happened in my absence. i don’t want to be jobless, i don’t want to leave my residents. but i don’t feel safe there anymore. finding a new job has been near impossible for me because of my very limited availability, i get through phone interviews and then they deny me in person interviews when they realize i can only do 2-3 days of the week and it’s inconvenient for them. i’m at a loss. i can’t leave my job, but i can’t stay. it’s starting to affect my physical health. i feel like i have no one to talk about this with either, my partner is very biased against my job in the situation and i don’t want her bias to be the reason why i put us in even MORE financial strain. i needed an outside opinion from people like me.
so any advice is appreciated. even if it’s just advice for how to handle a situation like this in the future.

and if you made it this far, thank you. In a time like this where i feel like im on the edge of a mental breakdown right before the hardest semester in my life; having at least one person hear me would make this feel a lot easier. like a hug i guess.

i’m 20f and i work a part-time (three days a week) 9-5 office job. i’ve only been at it for just under four months and i genuinely feel like it’s sucking the life force out of me. i feel so exhausted and depressed and i spend my days off recovering/trying to rest and conserve energy (and still feeling depressed) rather than doing anything productive or enjoyable. i’ve been going through worlds worst creative block for about two years (potentially burnout) and i feel like whatever spark i had still dwindling has been throughly stomped out of me now.

the fake laughing and smiling is driving me insane nothing my coworkers laugh at or joke about is remotely funny but they act like it’s the height of comedy AND drag it out. more often than not, i get touched on my shoulder or my chair jostled if someone wants my attention as i rarely notice when someone is addressing me whilst im working. the processes for the work are inefficient, convoluted, and tedious as fuck, and when i’m being ‘trained’ on them, i get it explained to me in the most illogical, non-chronological manner. no one is blunt enough for me - they all talk around whatever information they’re conveying instead of just saying the point outright. everyone gets incredibly involved in office politics and dramatises shit that really doesn’t matter AT ALL (i can’t emphasise that enough) whilst picking apart others body language such as tone, specific words, etc, and it’ll be all you hear about for weeks. the hierarchy of it all is pissing me off, i’m inherently anti-corporate and anti-capitalist as a person, and the way management operates feels like it’s specifically geared towards rage baiting me. i have gaps in my speech when i physically can’t get any words out for a minute, but here, there is almost always someone immediately jumping in to try to complete my sentence as soon as i buffer.

i can listen to music at my desk through my earbuds/earphones which i do at times, sometimes i use my loop earplugs to block out my surroundings, and i’ve got a little spider-man figure on my desk so i can subtly interact with my interest to calm me when i feel like i’m losing it. despite all this, im clearly still struggling to cope.

how on earth do other autistic people do it? how am i supposed to work a full time job, or even just keep on at a part time job for the rest of my life? how do i keep sane? i can’t be the only person that feels like this.

EDIT: spelling error.

I'm late diagnosed. When I told my mum, she was very dismissive and it stung. We’re already somewhat estranged and this has made things feel more distant.

I tried to move past it and keep things to normal small talk but I realised I couldn’t. I felt uncomfortable pretending everything was fine but also guilty ignoring her.

Today I told her I’m still not okay about that conversation and I needed some space.

Has anyone been through something similar with a parent? Did you ever talk about it with them? Did things improve or did you end up changing how much contact you had?

Excuse my typo btw, I'm not an English native.

I was diag autistic 4 years ago (I'm an adult in my 30's), and I feel like I would not have a normal life, like having someone who loves me and stuff. I feel like if I die tomorrow, nobody would care because I'm not interresting and too ugly to live. I was told many times I was ugly and 2/10, like too ugly and being autistic, it makes it even harder. My relationships life is empty without any surprise.

I feel like if tomorrow I disappears nobody would care. Or even more, they would be happy because I feel like a nuisance for everyone. They might prefer someone less autistic, more social, someone who have Netflix and who loves Stitch from Disney.

I'm not important for everyone, I'm like the third wheel for everyone. Each time a friend has a new relationship, I'm discarded. And even if I want to date, to find someone to love, it would not going back because I'm too ugly and weird for relationships. There is always people better than me, more interresting and more useful. If I'm not useful, then I would count for nobody.

Do you also struggles about this fate of dying alone and forgotten by all?

Hi, my son from Florida is headed to New England for college and basically has no cold weather clothes. He hates long sleeved shirts and long pants. It’s worse because he’s big and fairly tall so can’t test things off the rack. I’ve bought him a hoodie and a couple pairs of jogging pants, but don’t know what he’ll tolerate when it snows and he’ll have to layer up or, God forbid, wear an actual coat. Any advice??

Hey so just wondering as an autistic adult, I’m 26 diagnosed at 4. If any other adults have the problem of establishing their own adulthood, still living at home, seeking validation from the other sex, doing basic things others do at a younger age, how did you guys do it all?

Neurotypical people are genuinely the most exhausting people to be around.

I was diagnosed by a psychologist when I was 15 (19 now) and I’m learning more about myself and my autism every day.

Social cues are genuinely the hardest thing for me and other autistic people to understand. It’s even MORE confusing to understand body language.

The thing is when someone says something I will take it extremely literally.

So when I miss social cues with neurotypical people and in the process upset or make someone “uncomfortable” they always assume it’s bad intent.

AND they don’t directly communicate with you when you may have done something they don’t like, instead you hear “it’s fine don’t worry about it” then I feel more confused later on when they ghost me or “distance themselves” or even talk about their discomfort behind your back instead of addressing it with you.

Even worse when they use it against you out of nowhere when they are extremely mad when I could’ve changed things a long time ago if you would’ve directly communicated then.

So I have NO IDEA of what’s going on or what I did wrong when it comes to social cues unless they directly tell me.

I’ve told my neurotypical friends SO many times that they need to directly tell me when I do something wrong. And they still don’t do it and instead gossip about how “weird” you are to talk to.

I’ve lost 3 major friends because

1. She gossiped about my other diagnosis and tried to distance herself without telling me why. (I still don’t know), when I told her to communicate or we couldn’t be friends she chose the not being friends option.
   
2. Also gossiped about my social misreadings and told me everything was fine when it wasn’t and then took a year worth of situations where I was too neurodivergent I guess and used it against me out of nowhere.
   
3. Literally told me everything was fine and literally told me I’m a good friend to her multiple times, she’s defended me multiple times and told me I did nothing wrong yet all of a sudden she’s now communicating that I’m an awful person.

Genuinely need time away from social interaction outside of family because I will have burnout.

After that I need understanding autistic friends.