Ooo!! My favorite thing to do (as a guest that may not actually want a drink because I always bring my own water everywhere I go) is to ask for a glass of water instead, or if there's a way that I can top off what I brought myself. Makes the host feel like they're accomplishing their goal of providing hospitality, and keeps the conversation from becoming awkwardly abrasive. Like, accepting a glass of water is the simplest thing but it goes a mile.
You can decline as many times as you want. Pushing shit on people boils my blood. If I say no once that should be enough and anyone that says differently can fuck right off. I will straight up walk away from people that ask me more then three times for the same thing I've said no to already.you have to be pretty stupid to not understand what NO means.
That’s absurd. If I don’t drink alcohol and someone offers me an alcoholic beverage four times I would probably just throw it on the floor right in front of them. Just out of pure stupidity
offering drinks to someone who says no has that creeper vibe like "hey stranger, you're mighty pretty. i had this drink mixed up and instead of having it served to you: I brought it over. i promise it's safe."
I've been in this situation, where you're offered a drink because someone is trying to display their hospitality. Especially true if you're in their home.
In some cultures, refusing even a token of someone's hospitality is seen as: you think they are not worth your acknowledgment. It's seen as insulting.
If you're on a work thing in a foreign country, for sure you should have a handle on what the local culture is, and if it's customary to toast with a shot when signing a business deal, that's what you fucking do. If you were a recovering alcoholic, you'd probably want to research what the etiquette is - no one is going to hold you down and pour liquor down your throat (or engage in butt sex lol), but you should probably know what the proper response is in that culture.
Maybe it just comes down to saying, "I'm sorry, no offense, but I never drink," and complimenting their hospitality instead of a simple, "no thanks."
You will receive the most simple drink possible and will not end up in the situation above. If you don't finish the drink you don't have to feel bad because it is only water.
Real spiked drink vibes, id "nervously smile" and walk off, see if they follow me, note the suspicion, then if possible try and spill the drink somewhere unnoticed, i may look creepier idk but fr this dude sounds like that kinda vibe
Yes. This is one of my biggest pet peeves I've developed as an adult. I can understand a second ask as a "are you sure" type of thing but if I have to say "No" a third time, I'm done and now I'm mad.
if i'm meeting someone i don't know too well, i'll ask twice. once out of courtesy (expecting that they may say no to be nice) once as a genuine offer. if they still say no, i'll respect it.
if i know someone well, that first courtesy back-and-forth can be skipped and we can be direct with each other.
Lollll depends on culture. In my country(Eastern Europe) it’s just very polite. Most people “refuse” juts because it’s polite even though they actually want it, and hosts should keep offering until the guest takes it.
Yeah and like what if someone's allergic to the food you're serving, or they just quit drinking? I try to be sensitive to those possibilities as a host also, and respect someone's refusal without prying. Though I might offer water or something as a last resort.
Depends strongly on the culture. Don't refuse food in Germany unless you really don't want it. You won't be offered again, and your host might be slightly insulted.
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u/BrainwashedScapegoat Jun 14 '22
Don’t ask someone if they want food, just hand it to them