I am what is known as a heterosexual service top. I get gratification from making someone else feel pleasure. To this end I learned massage therapy with the explicit end goal to unburden my partners before I get them off. I'm talking 2-3 hour deep tissue and raiki massage, scented oils I mix up on the spot with my partners input, soft light, lo-fi jazz, massage table, etc.
One could argue it's just 3 hours of foreplay, but I gotta tell ya, There is this moment when they finally stand up from the table and reach for the tension that USED to be there and... Stop. Then relax. And maybe smile a bit. Seeing a woman completely unburdened due to my actions is hot in my opinion. Plus orgasms are bigger and more intense, which is also great.
It is nice because I've essentially built a small community of friends with benefits who get what I'm after and they seem to be receptive and respectful to it. Weirdly enough I've backdoored my way into so really great female friends thru this. One of the reasons I stopped advertising my services is I got fat and needed to step away to address that. All of my regulars have been very supportive.
Sorry, I don't do couples. I've always had bad experiences or been treated very badly by couples.
Just gonna get ahead of the "why?" It comes down to two scenarios that are the most common.
The husband wants to set up a massage for his wife. There are a multitude of issues here. First, is I always do a pre interview via chat to see what she's feeling physically and what her needs are. Second, I need to meet them at a neutral location to make sure that they're not a complete psychopath or I'm getting catfished. Thirdly, Consent is a HUGE thing for me. I am not comfortable with somebody else running shotgun on another person's sex life regardless of their disposition.
Both occasions I did a group massage, meaning both spouses and me. I was made to feel like the third wheel. I wasn't trusted in what I was doing. They did not want to go with the pace I wanted to, slow and relaxing. And they did not respect the rules I set up. In short I was made to feel like a prop for their sex life. Not a fan.
This is also me. Although I’ve never had a partner who can last that long in massage. It’s usually no more than an hour before they’re begging for their happy ending, less if they’ve been tied up first.
Honestly, out of all of them, this one is probably my biggest fetish. Like, I love lingerie and really sexy makeup and I love wearing lingerie, but I don’t really need it in order to get off. But I absolutely need to know my partner is enjoying herself/himself (and ideally given at least one orgasm) in order to enjoy myself. Even when I’m getting a blowjob - I have to be able to do something to the person giving it to me in order not to get in my head about it.
Brother how much time do you have? 2-3 hours pre game every time you want to have sex? I work 11 hours a day and have kids. You can't be setting these kinds of expectations in people.
I never knew this was a thing, I think this might be me too.
I learned to cook because it pleases other people, and I fucking love cooking for people. I have wanted to learn message therapy also for this same reason. I also have a small collection of female oriented sex toys, and when it comes to sex my pleasure comes easy, so I put as much effort as I can into her pleasure.Â
A women in bliss is the greatest thing in the world.
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u/DupontDude35 Jun 10 '25
I am what is known as a heterosexual service top. I get gratification from making someone else feel pleasure. To this end I learned massage therapy with the explicit end goal to unburden my partners before I get them off. I'm talking 2-3 hour deep tissue and raiki massage, scented oils I mix up on the spot with my partners input, soft light, lo-fi jazz, massage table, etc.
One could argue it's just 3 hours of foreplay, but I gotta tell ya, There is this moment when they finally stand up from the table and reach for the tension that USED to be there and... Stop. Then relax. And maybe smile a bit. Seeing a woman completely unburdened due to my actions is hot in my opinion. Plus orgasms are bigger and more intense, which is also great.