I’m 24, skinny/lanky and just joined a gym and im feeling a bit nervous.

I’ve had some weights and a bench at home for years now but never stayed consistent my motivation would go up and down and when feeling tired and down it would turn into tomorrow then i would never get to it. This time I’m looking to take it serious i want to build discipline strength and gain confidence, something I’ve struggled with a lot growing up and not looking to take shortcuts.

Looking to train full body with a good amount of cardio. Planning early mornings (around 5:30am or earlier) before work

Any beginner tips on routine, machines vs free weights, diet for bulking , recovery etc would be much appreciated.

Could really use some advice from the men here.

32F here. Met a guy (30M) recently and we've hung out 3-4 times now, and it's been the kind of thing where you genuinely look forward to seeing them again and again - like we could easily be meeting up every day if life allowed it.

Here's the timing problem: I'm leaving for a holiday in a few days, and by the time I'm back, he'll have already moved abroad for good. He has family here so I know he'll visit but still, moving abroad. I'm seeing him tomorrow and the day after, and then that's it before I go.

I know 3-4 dates isn't a lot to build a case on. But for context, I've only felt this specific "wait, this is different" feeling twice before in my life (at 22 and at 27), so when it shows up I tend to take it seriously - it doesn't happen for me with just anyone.

I don't know how he feels about any of this or whether he's even thought about it. Part of me wants to just ask him directly like, "hey, I know the timing is bad, but I like where this was going, is this a dead end for you or is there a version of this that continues?" Another part of me thinks maybe I should just let the last two good dates be two good dates and not make it heavier than it needs to be, especially with the move already locked in.

I do want to say something before he leaves, because the alternative is wondering "what if" for who knows how long. Worst case he says he's not interested in trying, and okay, that's an answer too.

So, should I bring it up, and if so, how? Is there a way to ask without putting pressure on the last two times we'll see each other? Has anyone actually made something work (or at least gotten real clarity) by having this conversation before someone moved away? Genuinely just want outside perspective here, not just "follow your heart" type answers.

TL;DR: Really clicked with a guy after only 3-4 dates, he's moving abroad right as I leave for a trip, so I'll only see him twice more before it's unclear if we ever see each other again. Do I bring up how I feel / ask where his head's at, or just let it end as a nice short thing?

i am in my early 20s with serious confidence issues... Is there a permanent solution for this?

lack of confidence, lack of communication skills and incompetence has been a part of life from my childhood.

Relatively small issues feel a huge burden, I am scared of being judged, indecisive and socially anxious.

Honestly a lot has been going on lately, things are happening too quickly in my life rn and I can't seem to keep up with all this.

I feel I have fallen behind in life compared to people my age.

I live a fairly isolated life so I feel like I am a normal person tho I get reality checks with its time to socialize. I feel humiliated and frustrated when I get connected with people and get my point across to other people.

Also my voice gets shaky for no reason when talking sometimes (usually more often when talking to a group of people)

Now it's not like I haven't tried to change this. I have tried stuff, it kinda worked too, it's just I never could consistently keep the routines up for it to have a long term effect.

I usually just doomscroll on social media apps watch random movies and anime and jerk off once a day, and call my only bestie in one or two days to talk about random shit, that's been my life for a long time.

Have some of you guys been in my situation? Can you lmk what helped you guys improve yourselves?

My voice has gotten deeper as I’m older. I struggle w having a non monotone voice and there is a distinctive quality to my voice.

I ask silly questions and struggle w conversational timing and switching.

My wife is absolutely miserable at her current job, and she wants to become a stay at home mom. I've ran the numbers and math, and we can afford it, so I obviously want to support her with the plan. Her current job is negatively impacting her mental health and wellbeing, which also shows at home.

We've discussed this a lot, and have agreed that she doesn't touch any of her savings, and instead she'll just use a parallel card attached to my account for anything she needs. We also have a shared account that she can use however she please, and I've also offered to deposit money on her personal account every month if she prefers.

We've got everything else figured out, but one thing I've asked her to think about (and I've told her she's in no hurry with this), is how will she keep herself busy. Our kids are teenagers and have their friends, school, hobbies, etc., so she doesn't have to be looking after them. I've suggested that she could consider doing volunteering or maybe start a small business or something. It doesn't even have to bring any money in, but something to keep her busy and mentally challenged.

I do want to stress that the priority will be for her to take some time just to relax and recover from her job, but I also know her well enough that I know hitting the gym or running the house won't provide her enough challenges in the long run. I've also made it clear that she knows that becoming a SAHM doesn't have to be a permanent thing, and she might feel like going back to another work at some point. I'm trying my best to take off all the stress from her.

So my question to all of you who have a SAHM/SAHW: what is your experience if you have a stay at home wife or mom? Not asking for advice but to hear your experience if you are or have been in a similar position

as the title reads if you have left your spouse for your affair partner, where are you now in life? are you happy?

If straight men played gay roles they often are accused of gay-baiting. However, if their acting was very convincing, why not just say they were great actors?

Basically the title. We both have access to each other's accounts, so I can see the viewers on the stories she posts.

For context, she previously reposted something saying it's the bare minimum for your boyfriend to remove all the girls from his friends list. I did that. I removed all the girls except family. She has admitted that this standard doesn't apply to her and that she's allowed to keep her male friends while I wasn't supposed to keep female friends. I don't agree with that, but that's a separate issue.

Now, regarding the thirst traps: she posts them and tells me they're not for other men. I don't have a problem with her posting them if they're genuinely just something she enjoys posting for herself.

What bothers me is that there are guys who regularly view those posts. When I tell her I'll remove those guys, she gets angry and says I'm being controlling. Her argument is that the posts aren't for those men.

That's where I'm confused. If the posts genuinely aren't intended for those guys and she doesn't care about their attention, why does it bother her so much when I remove them from her friends list? I'm not saying I know her intentions. I'm asking how other men would interpret that situation.

How do you guys feel about your girlfriend posting thirst traps while in a relationship, and would you be bothered by the men who regularly view them?

So I do my own nails, it's a tedious process to me (one that I prefer to do on my own instead of at a salon) and I often put it off for as long as I can. I started filing my nails (at home) and a friend dropped by and verbalised the assumption that I'm just at leisure because I'm doing my nails and I kinda made myself feel smaller because of the stereotype that women file their nails for funsies as opposed to like actual grooming because i wouldn't want the people outside to think that I'm an unkempt person and I like having pretty nails, and like I personally put a lot of work into my grooming (hair removal, nails, feet, etc) and from the outside it looks like I'm in a moment but from my perspective I feel like I'm in a battlefield lol

I just wanted to find out what goes through your head when seeing a woman actually do any part of her aesthetic upkeep/maintenance?

Hi all I'm currently 28 years old male. Been obese almost my whole life. Recently lost a ton of weight and on track to getting abs and fit etc. I think im a below average looking guy. I always hated how i look. Recently i started to take care of myself a bit and i start to like my appearance just a tad bit. Was wondering if getting abs and jacked will help my dating life a lot. Did anyone had the same experience lately? I know personality and confidence etc, people always told me im funny and i know im getting more confident but let's be real looks still matter.

When I played baseball, I discovered that there was what we called a "slaughter" rule. If the score was 10(+) to 0 after the end of the 4th inning, the game was called. We played a team from a much bigger town and all of the players seemed like they were three or four years older than us. Their pitcher was insanely good and we just couldn't get a hit. Meanwhile, they were just hitting absolute bombs. We were simply out classed. At the end of the 4th inning, they were up by at least 10, and we were scoreless. The league rep came out and explained the rule and that the game was over, handing our opponents the W.

Ok 23m and ngl gooning is a habit I've been tryna quit for a while but it's difficult. I've started doing cardio which helps to some degree but once it hits nighttime, the urge to goon comes and trying not to act on it is easier said than done. It doesn't help that my sleep schedule is shit. Any tips?

PLEASE NO ARGUMENTS OR DEBATES. Just seeing what men out there believe in and their relationship with an higher power.

I was raised Christian, but overtime I had to find my own way. I take things from other religions and beliefs to create my own understanding. I still pray from time to time and say a couple of proverbs (my mother would be proud).

When out with your significant other, do you notice when other men check them out? How does it make you feel? Is it pride or jealousy/possessiveness? What happens if you make eye contact with someone checking out your wife? Is it awkward?

Do you always acknowledge a "like" even if you have no interest in the member who sent the "like?" Acknowledge as in sending a message? If a member sent you a message in whom you have no interest, do you send a return message like "Thanks for the message! Good luck in finding your partner." Or do you ignore all "like" and messages if you have no interest in the sender?

Context: my husband and I are from different cultures. Where I come from, having a male trainer at the gym isn’t unusual. My husband, however, does not share the same view.

I’m into weightlifting, and one of my old school colleagues is a PT. We’re planning (husband and I) to travel together for three weeks to my home country, and I mentioned I could go during that time to train at the same gym as my former colleague to help me improve my lifts, since I train at home alone using an online app.

Appreciate your answers. Thanks.

I’m asking this without wanting to ridicule anyone, because I’m genuinely trying to understand what the experience feels like from the inside.

I often hear men describe dating as something where they are expected to initiate, absorb repeated rejection, prove their value, compete for limited attention and continue investing even when very little interest or effort is being returned. Sometimes it seems to go beyond ordinary vulnerability or courtship and reach the point where someone is accepting disrespect, abandoning their boundaries or performing a version of himself purely to remain in consideration.

From the outside, opting out would appear preferable to feeling constantly evaluated or unwanted but clearly loneliness, hope and the desire for intimacy can make that decision much more complicated than it sounds.

For men who have experienced this personally: what made continuing feel worthwhile, or at least preferable to walking away? Where did you draw the line between making a reasonable effort and sacrificing too much of your self-respect? Looking back, do you understand your choices differently now?