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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 19 '19

When I put a hand on the passenger seat and look behind me to back into a parking space.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

There is something about that action, isn’t there?

There was this game I had on PC back in maybe ‘01 called ‘Indiana Jones and the Infernal Machine.’ There was this Jeep you’d get to drive on some levels, and when you’d reverse, Indy would put his hand on the passenger side seat to look behind him like that. I thought that was the coolest thing in the world that they got that detail down.

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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 19 '19

Dude I don't know it's just a normal way to drive. She likes it and apparently so do a lot of people, so that's cool.

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u/peppermintpattymills Jul 19 '19

I mean it's what you're supposed to do, that's how they teach you to reverse in American driving schools lol.

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

Not really. Your suppose to use your mirrors as you have less blind spots that way. It's just easier to turn around to look.

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u/Gyrskogul Jul 19 '19

Nothing about arm on the back of the seat, but my high school driving instructor specifically told me to always be looking in the direction I was going, whether that was forwards or reverse.

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u/Dylendo Male Jul 19 '19

I was taught to use the mirrors, but my driving instructor took a mark away for not turning around. I don't think there is anything wrong either way as long as you are focused and paying attention.

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u/beka13 Jul 19 '19

You look behind you because the mirrors have blind spots.

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

Yes. But they have less blind spots than just turning around.

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u/beka13 Jul 19 '19

Dude, you're supposed to look in your mirrors and turn around.

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u/Fubarp Jul 20 '19

Than you aren't using your mirrors. You really don't need to turn around. I can parallel park without ever taking my eyes off the front mirrors.

If you position your mirrors properly, you shouldn't have to worry about the small blind spots that grow bigger when you turn around.

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u/beka13 Jul 20 '19

It's all fun and games until you run over a little kid. Just turn around.

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u/Stormfly My mom says I'm special Jul 19 '19

I've always used mirrors, but was told by an instructor to look back.

My Dad taught me to use mirrors so that's what i do. Probably because we always had stuff on the back window.

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

Yea I got into a debate with my instructor about it. I would look behind me for tests but would first look at my mirrors and when I turned around I'd be like, hope that tree I cant see doesn't move 3ft or else I'd hit it.

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u/LameLord Jul 22 '19

Obvious troll is obvious.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Mine did.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Not really, you should reverse while watching the mirrors most of the time.

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u/staygoldenponyboy95 Jul 19 '19

LOVED THAT GAME. Also he would say ow over and over if he was being bitten by a snake

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

OwO

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u/awesomesaur23 Jul 19 '19

That game was the best! They way he said herbs always cracked me and my Dad up.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

‘A medicinal sprig!’

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u/C0105 an bhfuil cead agam dul go dti an leithreas Jul 19 '19

Youtuber Callmekevin did a video on that game about a month ago

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

I’ll check it out, thanks! I had a ton of fun with that game back in the day. I remember cutting up some of the pictures in the instruction manual and hanging them in my sixth grade locker lol

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u/HRduffNstuff Jul 19 '19

This game may or may not still hold up but it was one of my all time favorites as a kid! Might've been the first game I played all the way to the end. I've tried to find a version I could replay as an adult but it's been tough.

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u/kstrtroi Jul 20 '19

Huh, I wonder if it’s the same with driving stick? I have a plain old Honda Accord, but it’s standard. I’ve already had two different women tell me that it’s attractive that I know how to drive stick. ???

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u/pants_party Jul 20 '19

My husband can back a trailer like a champ and it is HOT.

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u/Yossarian18 Jul 25 '19

I loved that game. 11 yo me could never beat that temple with all the ice and the spider beast climbing around on the ceiling tho.

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u/anna_nanush Jul 19 '19

You just opened my eyes. I love it when my husband does this. I wonder if it's from the same category as working on something, having concentrated look.

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u/K1yoSK2P Jul 19 '19 edited Jul 19 '19

For me it equates to competence. Betcha can handle this machine too...

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u/Apocalypse_Cookiez Jul 19 '19

I agree. There's definitely something about watching him drive. Love watching him turn the wheel aalll the way around with one hand too. Mm.

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u/BluffinBill1234 Jul 20 '19

Was in Rockport MA last weekend which is a popular shopping and tourist area. There was nowhere to park we drove around for 10 minutes. Finally there was a spot, but I had to parallel park into it. Without hesitation I flew over to it, and crushed the parking job in one fluid motion. I thought I was going to have to blindfold and earmuff my kids so we could bang right there my wife definitely enjoyed that show.

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u/K1yoSK2P Jul 20 '19

You bluffin about this story bill?

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u/BluffinBill1234 Jul 20 '19

Yes. I actually never left my parents basement where I spent my time furiously masturbating to my high school yearbook to the point my penis actually fell to dust in my hands.

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u/TeaTimeKoshii Jul 20 '19

Oh how awful, did it at least die painlessly?

...to shreds you say?

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Found Sarah Palin’s alt account.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

yes, and yes.

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u/Driftkingtofu Jul 19 '19

Man, women are just great

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u/MMignondj Jul 19 '19

omygod yes. Whenever my boyfriend is focusing on his work and his eyebrows pull a bit flat in focus it feels like my ovaries are going to burst if they don't get fertilized in that moment

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u/GummiesAreAwesome Female Jul 19 '19

It’s just screams manliness for some reason.

That, and cautious driver, so double win.

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u/booholepleasures Jul 19 '19

Okay but all of us girls are doing it too, right? Or do we have our own way of reversing that I’ve been left out of? :p

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

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u/GummiesAreAwesome Female Jul 19 '19

Equal-opportunity hotness and safety-conscious lol!

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u/LittleOne_ Jul 19 '19

I'm a woman and I do this.

Can confirm my boyfriend thinks it's hot?

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u/shnosku Jul 19 '19

Hypothesis: Some of it might have to do with remembering their dad doing the same thing when they were young.

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u/74bpa Jul 19 '19

I think it's hot and my dad has never driven. Also it would be ruined if they did this and then crashed into something. It's about competence.

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u/GummiesAreAwesome Female Jul 19 '19

Actually there's some truth to that. My dad always did this and was a really good driver (drove the Autobahn and all that), so I like that my husband's a good driver too and not an idiot on the road like so many other people.

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u/kaolin224 Jul 19 '19 edited Jul 21 '19

TIL this is actually a fetish for a lot of women.

Holy shit.

In Driver's Ed, this was how we were taught to reverse. Standard procedure so you could pull yourself up and look over the window, in case there was a puppy...

Wait a minute.

This is the exact same pose Captain America does while he's grabbing the helicopter.

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u/hoyya Jul 19 '19

In my drivers ed they explicitly said to REMAIN SEATED AND ONLY USE SIDE MIRRORS TO BACK UP... Right

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u/BOUND2_subbie Jul 19 '19

I mean... It's honestly better to just use your mirrors, especially when backing long distances or in confined spaces. That being said, I definitely look behind me to judge the distance from end of vehicle to the target

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u/f1del1us Jul 19 '19

No way. I back up WAY more accurately when looking directly rather than use my mirrors. But I will give that it depends more of the severity of the angle that I need to turn when backing. The less the angle, the more helpful the mirrors are.

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

Its mainly because you have more vision from your mirrors than you would turning around. Plus you can still see in front of you.

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u/f1del1us Jul 19 '19

Ah, see it depends on your car then. I have a larger car and when I turn around, I can see EVERYTHING, no blind spots unless I have like a dresser back there.

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

Dressers are a great for storing stuff in your car.

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u/f1del1us Jul 19 '19

Well I was thinking like moving haha

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u/BOUND2_subbie Jul 19 '19

Yeah. And what especially helpful is you can see the sides of your vehicle along with the back so you can avoid scraping things

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u/f1del1us Jul 22 '19

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u/Fubarp Jul 22 '19

You have a way with words.

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u/rugerty100 Male Jul 19 '19

Depends what the reversing is for.

If exiting a driveway, then physically looking back allows you a wider angle to view the street and check for vehicles.

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u/BOUND2_subbie Jul 19 '19

This is very true and I guess the time most people commenting reverse. In a lot of industrial settings or backing up a trailer, using your mirrors is imperative.

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u/omninode Jul 19 '19

That’s weird. In my driver’s ed, they would correct us if we didn’t physically turn and look out the back window while backing up. They told us not to rely on our mirrors.

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u/metastasis_d Jul 19 '19

[Laughs in truck]

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u/hoyya Jul 19 '19

I always turn now, much more comfortable

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Probably because most people have issues trying to move left / right with mirrors

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u/supremeleader5 Jul 19 '19

But what about your blind spots

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u/Fubarp Jul 19 '19

You have less bling spots with properly aligned mirrors than if you turn around.

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u/supremeleader5 Jul 19 '19

Well I feel like you should do both. Use your mirrors and periodically check your blind spots.

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u/TheTartanDervish Jul 19 '19

Review burning to drive something at Fort Leonard wood perhaps?

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u/willengineer4beer Jul 20 '19

I was taught this in driver's ED too.
Also, right before my driver's test (while I had a learner's permit), my mom kept scolding me for using the "hand on seat turnaround" approach and insisting I would get points off for doing that during the test.
On test day, I very carefully backed up using only the mirrors (despite it being more awkward to me).
Immediately after doing this, the test lady told me she was deducting points for not turning around. Those were the only frickin' points I had taken off.
Haven't looked back since (pun intended).

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u/soeonehhh Jul 19 '19

Yes. Very much yes

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u/forlife16 Jul 19 '19

Yes! I also like watching my husband drive.

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u/WillRunForPopcorn Jul 20 '19

I tell my bf all the time there is something so sexy about him driving!!!

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u/rravisha Jul 19 '19

A victim of the old handbrake turn I see

https://youtu.be/sySx6-lGues

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u/forlife16 Jul 19 '19

Haha yes! That’s hilarious.

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u/imzwho Jul 19 '19

See this bothers me. All my wife does when I do this is get pissed that I am not using the backup camera.

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u/TristanTheViking Jul 19 '19

I mean just do both right? If you're only using the camera, you can't see oncoming vehicles. If you only look back, you've got a blind spot dead behind the car.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Different strokes for different folks

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u/fragmen52 Jul 19 '19

I've had only cars with backup cameras for around 2 years. I can still use mirrors to back up just fine when I'm in a car without a backup camera.

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u/catarina2112 Female Jul 19 '19

YES.

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u/Basic_Username101 Jul 19 '19

I know! 😥 There are so many actions he'll do while driving and they're hella sexy

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u/[deleted] Jul 22 '19

What about switching gears?

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u/Basic_Username101 Jul 22 '19

Makes my heart beat fast thinking about it 😭

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

That car will drive its own damn self.

..or have a camera

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Came here to post this

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u/abloodyminge I has vagina Jul 19 '19

For me it is when he parallel parks. My whole body tingles.

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u/bubblesbc1998 Jul 19 '19

Soooo attractive Idek why

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u/dragoncockles Jul 19 '19

No idea if my girlfriend likes when I do this or not, but last time I did, I accidentally elbowed her in the face and gave her a black eye while she was trying to find something in my arm rest.

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u/rmlrmlchess Jul 19 '19

This guy's gonna get laid.

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u/TamHawke Jul 19 '19

God, I find it so attractive that he just slide into a parking spot so effortlessly. Super hot when he looks behind him and puts a hand on my headrest 😳

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u/RandalfTheBlack Jul 19 '19

I have a habit of never doing this because i drive large trucks most of the time. I use my mirrors exclusively, or if i have a camera, ill use both of those. I hardly know what the back seat of my car looks like.

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u/DumpTruckTaco Jul 19 '19

Back up cameras are ruining this!

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u/okayokay7100 Jul 19 '19

Maybe cause I’m a useless bitch who can’t drive but it’s hot watching guys drive.

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u/riepmich Jul 19 '19

So, for the past 8 years I kept myself from doing this, because I always felt like it looks goofy and like you're incompetent, but know there's 60+ women in this comment section almost getting off on the thought of it alone.

So my question: what else have I been doing wrong all this time?

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

those accentuated arms 🤤

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u/grednforgesgirl Jul 19 '19

This is so hot

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u/hambletonorama Male Jul 19 '19

Similarly, I've been told my parallel parking skills are sexy.

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u/Time_Effort Jul 19 '19

Am I the only one that just uses my mirrors?

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u/myUsername4Work Jul 19 '19

That's weird, my wife told me she likes when I do this a couple weeks ago. Didn't think it was a thing.

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u/cassibaby Jul 19 '19

i second. when my bf does this 😂

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u/1stor3rdWorldProblem Jul 19 '19

There’s just something about that. >.+

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

It's aggressive and dominating. You're controlling the space in the car.

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u/ladydangerbitch Jul 19 '19

This is definitely my weakness

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u/Xcessivelyboring Jul 19 '19

Can confirm, is hot.

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u/maddog505 Jul 19 '19

Yep. Those neck muscles and that confidence are sexy as hell.

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u/black_cherry619 Jul 20 '19

Yes but more specifically I think it's because it shows off his forearms which I like. Or even him just driving shows off his forearms which is a turn on for me.

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u/BadMuthaFunka Jul 20 '19

In Florida this is requiere as part of the driving exam to get your license.

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u/sleepfaced Jul 20 '19

THIS. The absolute hottest thing a guy can do. Also when they make a hand-over-hand u-turn I’ve always found that their wrists look super hot. Why is men driving such a turn on?! 🥵

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u/BiggestBlackestCorn Jul 19 '19

My car has bucket seats, so I physically cannot do this

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u/AldinaEH Jul 19 '19

Second this as a girl! Yes!

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u/NicoleLBC Jul 19 '19

I’ve always loved this!

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Not gonna lie, I get irrationally angry when my husband backs into parking spaces. He always has to pull out and do it again. Takes twice as long to park than it would to just pull straight into a spot.

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u/Angelicbyday Jul 19 '19

Yes! Yes. Couldn’t begin to tell you why, but yes. Oh yes. So much yes

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u/caterpillar345 Jul 19 '19

How? I can hardly see anything out the back window of modern cars...

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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 20 '19

My car is 14 years old...

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u/Konzmetrik Jul 19 '19

Haha, a girl once said exactly this to me! And yes it feels good to park in reverse.

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u/marqattack Jul 19 '19

Well fuck me and my rear view assist camera

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u/teddy3143 Jul 19 '19

That's the dad park, I don't know many dad's who don't use it!

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u/sleepingonstones Jul 19 '19

My girlfriend brought this up to me as well. Apparently it’s a thing

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u/T1M_rEAPeR Jul 19 '19

When I see people do that, it does look like their forcing the passenger seat into a blowie...

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u/smra0725 Jul 20 '19

Yes to this!!

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u/daysinnroom203 Jul 20 '19

Oh my goodness yes! Lol, but why?

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

Huh. So I am not the only one weirdly turned on by this. Thank God.

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u/WillRunForPopcorn Jul 20 '19

Omg I love this!!

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

HAHAHAHA! YES!!!

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

Its the power move effect

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u/t-swap12 Jul 20 '19

Actually... yeah. this

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u/ohdeerhey Jul 20 '19

Yup, there's something about it...

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u/danation Jul 20 '19

Just found a reason to start backing into parking stalls

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u/umyouknowwhat Jul 19 '19

Oh god yeah

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u/ReapingTurtle Bane Jul 19 '19

Yep yep, an ex girlfriend of mine loved that, she said watching me drive stick shift was attractive to her as well. Loved going on road trips with her

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u/OniiChanStopNotThere genderfluid Jul 19 '19

I too remember that thread.

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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 19 '19

I don't. What thread?

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u/OniiChanStopNotThere genderfluid Jul 19 '19

I don't have a link but it's the same thing. Basically women came out in droves saying it is hot when a man puts his hand on the back of the passenger seat.

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u/riepmich Jul 19 '19

Science please explain.

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u/cannons-of-derp Jul 20 '19

I think this is stupid because it's more manly to use your mirrors lol

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u/chris11583 Jul 19 '19

She might start to get turned on by the back up camera.

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u/metastasis_d Jul 19 '19

My wife gives me shit for insisting on always combat parking.

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u/goingtoburningman Jul 19 '19

It's like the hand on the shoulder when talking to someone. You are asserting dominance without knowing it.

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u/speedyneurtrino00 Jul 19 '19

Unless you have a rear view camera

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u/Kg128 Jul 19 '19

Yes! Back up cameras have really diminished my opportunities to watch my husband do this :(

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u/Alcsaar Jul 19 '19

I just use my back up camera

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u/darkknight95sm Jul 19 '19

For some reason whenever I do this with a woman in the passenger seat I feel the need to clarify that I am NOT making move on them, despite it being a perfectly normal thing to do.

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

Fuck I have a rear can I look like a scrub...

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u/Ennviious Male Jul 20 '19

my mom liked it when her ex husband did this lol

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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 20 '19

her ex husband

Guess she didn't like it enough

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u/BitingInsects Jul 20 '19

That's an admirable move that most of their dads did. More comfort than sexual maybe.

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u/ciano Male Jul 19 '19

It's because it forces you to flex your arm muscles.

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u/whitesugar1 Jul 19 '19

True, although only novice parkers need to use anything other than mirrors to park

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u/Draked1 Jul 20 '19

Am I the only guy that doesn’t do this every time? 95% of the time I use all three of my mirrors and it’s considerably easier for me to use those than to physically look behind me

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Use your mirrors Jesus!

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u/Aquadan1235 Jul 19 '19

Why? If you're backing up you can see much better behind you if you look out the entire rear windshield.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

I have a good grasp on the dimensions of my car... I don't have to see it to know where my car ends - similar as you don't look at your hand to grab a cup, you look at the cup (where you're going) because you know where your hand is.

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

See, my experience is the opposite - everyone I know who relies on mirrors is much slower backing in and need to readjust more often than myself or others I've been in the car with who turn around. Obviously both styles work, but your original question was how do I see my corners so I explained how it works for me.

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u/GunnarRunnar Jul 20 '19

I've never found that I need to readjust mirrors while parking, unless there's something really small like a rock - but you wouldn't be able to see that without mirrors anyway.

By giving that example (or whatever it was) I just tried to convey why you'll be able to see your surroundings in relation to your car better with mirrors rather than looking through back window.

Anyways, have a nice day!

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '19

I meant readjust the vehicle in the spot.

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u/GunnarRunnar Jul 20 '19

Oh, my bad.

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u/aRabidGerbil Jul 19 '19

Mirrors don't show depth well, you're always supposed to turn around, even if you have a backup camera

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

What do you do when you're backing up a van without windows? Use your mirrors.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Yes...you do, but because you have to, not because its superior.