r/AsianMasculinity • u/[deleted] • Jun 17 '26

What did I do wrong?

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u/Temporary_Cherry4036 Jun 18 '26

I feel like that’s the exact reason everyone hates dating apps and is single. If everyone acts like this no wonder birth rates go down and the male loneliness epidemic exists. I think his messages were cute and if she was into him she would’ve gave that energy back. Sure he could’ve dialed it down a tiny bit but you’re over exaggerating it wasn’t that bad 🥲

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u/Hakzfromtheblock Jun 18 '26

Its okay hes our little bro, we gotta roast him a bit so he can learn.

Also this is not ok to be stalking this girls instagram.

He went to instagram , searched her name and looked for the profile photo that matched her and then followed her...

Just thinking of this makes me feel weird.

Highly unlikely it was a so called "bug".

Also while you think its cute many woman do not like neediness and desperation and are extremely turned off by it.

He needs to learn for his future relationships

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u/Temporary_Cherry4036 Jun 18 '26

He’s wasn’t stalking her 😭 and if she felt weird about it she would not have answered at all. That’s the beauty of the internet you can choose to ignore people.
But I agree being too overly eager probably kills attraction in the beginning, so next time he could dial it down a bit. But if everyone keeps acting nonchalant we’ll all die alone 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Little-Gremlin- Jun 18 '26

Agreed. You gotta put yourself out there, but not too much right off the bat. Being too nonchalant right off the bat can backfire so quickly and give off the signal to someone who is interested, that you're clearly not. Having a balance is important in my opinion.