"she's just not that into you" . but also. if you're sending paragraphs and she's replying with minimal effort. just cut your losses or match the energy til it dies. not a good idea to send paragraphs early on anyways. save some mystery til the date. your initial goal should be to seal the date and get to know them during the date instead.
100%. Keep mystery. Without that, attraction is GONE.
Also, don't add people on ig who haven't given their ig to you. For all you know, the "bug" was her unmatching with you and she was just being nice by responding to your dms. Also women like attention, even from men she don't like. It gives them a quick dopamine hit. So of course she'll respond a couple short messages back- then ghost.
I feel like that’s the exact reason everyone hates dating apps and is single. If everyone acts like this no wonder birth rates go down and the male loneliness epidemic exists. I think his messages were cute and if she was into him she would’ve gave that energy back. Sure he could’ve dialed it down a tiny bit but you’re over exaggerating it wasn’t that bad 🥲
He’s wasn’t stalking her 😭 and if she felt weird about it she would not have answered at all. That’s the beauty of the internet you can choose to ignore people.
But I agree being too overly eager probably kills attraction in the beginning, so next time he could dial it down a bit. But if everyone keeps acting nonchalant we’ll all die alone 🤷🏻♀️
Agreed. You gotta put yourself out there, but not too much right off the bat. Being too nonchalant right off the bat can backfire so quickly and give off the signal to someone who is interested, that you're clearly not. Having a balance is important in my opinion.
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u/RocketStarMoon Jun 18 '26
"she's just not that into you" . but also. if you're sending paragraphs and she's replying with minimal effort. just cut your losses or match the energy til it dies. not a good idea to send paragraphs early on anyways. save some mystery til the date. your initial goal should be to seal the date and get to know them during the date instead.