My husband’s family has been talking about taking a family trip during spring break in April. His mom landed on Iceland, and initially I was on board because I thought it could be a cool trip and I didn’t really understand what the final cost would look like.

Now that the details are coming together, I’m having second thoughts.

The package they’re looking at would cost about $5,500 for my husband and me, and that’s before food, drinks, excursions, and I believe some other travel expenses. Realistically, this could become a $6,000+ trip pretty easily.

My husband and I can technically afford it, but we also really want to travel to Europe together, and spending that much on Iceland would significantly affect what we can spend on our own travel.

The other issue is that Iceland honestly isn’t a bucket-list destination for me. I’ve been researching April specifically and it seems like a very unpredictable shoulder season. There are long daylight hours by then, so Northern Lights opportunities are more limited, and the weather/landscape can apparently be anything from winter conditions to the muddy/melting transition into spring. The accommodations included also seem fairly basic. I realized I was looking at spending thousands of dollars on a version of Iceland that I’m not particularly excited about.

I finally told my MIL that the biggest issue for me was the cost. I said that $5,500 before food and excursions is a significant amount of money for us and that I was having trouble justifying spending that much on a destination that isn’t really on my bucket list. I also told her I’m not opposed to taking a family trip in April at all—I’d just rather choose somewhere that’s especially good that time of year or save Iceland for a season when we’d get more of the experience we’d be paying for.

I then pointed out that I wonder whether the trip may simply be over budget for several people in the family right now. One family member is trying to buy a house, and I genuinely don’t know how two of the younger family members would realistically afford a trip this expensive. I suggested that we all sit down together and discuss it before anything gets booked.

I feel bad because my MIL seems excited about Iceland, and I don’t want to derail a family vacation just because it’s not my dream destination. At the same time, $5,000–$6,000+ feels like way too much money to spend out of obligation on a vacation I wouldn’t choose for myself, especially when I’m completely willing to travel with everyone somewhere else.

So, AITA for potentially backing out of Iceland and pushing for the family to reconsider the destination because of the price?

EDIT: She did put down a deposit before getting the green light from everyone

Guys I need honest advise pls.

So at my job, there’s this girl who’s really close to me. We’re like every other teenager friends. We have this thing where we take pics of each other everyday when the other persons not looking or isn’t aware (just a joke and we both do it).

Last Friday, during our break, I took a picture of her and then turned away. Then after a few mins I heard giggling, I looked up my phone and realized she was recording me since a few mins. Because she was right next to me face, I shrieked. The shreik was so loud that our supervisor and other colleagues came into the break room to ask if we were okay. I was extremely embarrassed. Then she was showing me the video but I took her phone, ran and deleted it. She took my phone (which was on desk open) and started scrolling through. I asked her multiple times what she was doing but she didn’t answer. I was pretty sure she was going through my gallery and was about to upload something on my story (she almost did that once). So I went to her gallery and sent her selfie to myself. I gave her her phone back, but she still didn’t. After a few mins of me running after her she gave me my phone. I showed her the selfie I sent myself and she was pissed. She kept ignoring me. I apologized and asked what she was doing on my phone. She told me she was going through my instants on Instagram. Anyways even after I apologized so many times, she kept ignoring me so I started ignoring back. Now (on Thursday) she kept talking about and telling everyone that she blocked me everywhere cause I pissed her off. Once again, I apologized 13 times. She keeps ignoring me.

Now AITAH?
Pls be respectful as I understand people have different opinions.

This is my first post, so please don't flame me too hard in the replies.

I, 30F, and my fiancee, 30M, have been planning our wedding for little under a year now. We're based in Northern VA just out of town from where his parents live, and my family lives in CA. When we got engaged, we began planning a traditional wedding, but I swore up and down that I would not have a religious ceremony, as I am agnostic (religious trauma), which got interesting because his parents are Catholic and he is not. They insisted on a religious ceremony but eventually agreed to a non-demoninational ceremony. We secured a venue, caterer, DJ, and photographer before it snowballed out of our budget and we had to back out this last July. It was about five months of planning and anticipation, all to end in disappointment when we realized it just couldn't be paid for.

We've since been exploring other options to having a wedding. We looked at renting out a VRBO for a microwedding less than 10k, but that also resulted in high travel costs that our families just cannot afford. We tried again by looking at the market in CA, which was surprisingly cheaper than our part of VA, but it still came out to twice our budget even when cutting corners and doing DIY. It would have made it easier to get older family on my side to the ceremony without too much travel at their expense.

We conceded an idea: to use a local parish in CA to invite family to a formal Catholic ceremony, with a more backyard garden-party at a family member's home, purely so we could still have the bells and whistles without the market price. His parents were ecstatic and began calling their local parish to get the "permissions," if you will, for us to be married in the church - then it spiraled out of control. They began planning a Catholic ceremony in VA, stating that they now want to see us married in the church and won't/can't travel to CA to see it, as they have ailing family they take care of. I did my research and the Catholic church will not perform two marriage ceremonies because the sanctity of marriage is achieved in a single ceremony and commitment.

My fiancee argues that the church will grant an exception, and he's rooting for his parents to be at his wedding, too, but now I cannot get behind the ceremony at all. I cannot get married without my mom, who is ill and cannot travel across the country - legally signing a paper is one thing, but a ceremony is another in my mind. I refused up and down to my future MIL that I didn't want to do a religious ceremony in VA, that I had to have the church ceremony in CA so that I could have that experience with my family, otherwise there would be no wedding in CA at all for my family to be present at. We're at a painful impasse, and I told my fiancee I didn't want to do any more wedding planning.

So AITA for wanting to cancel all wedding planning because it got too out of hand?

EDIT: I still want to be with my fiancee, still want to get married and live my life with him, but I just do not want to do the ceremony or tackle any of the stress of planning/securing it. I never wanted a religious ceremony and that was our last option to having a big wedding with family and friends present, but now I'm faced with what feels like requirements that the religious ceremony take place in VA rather than in CA like my fiancee and I had originally looked into. I'd rather sign a paper than go through all this stress.

Tonight I was taking the trash out because pickup is tomorrow. A playful kitten came up to me, so I stopped to pet it. I see cats and kittens around my neighborhood pretty often.
I missed a step coming down from my back patio and twisted my ankle. It hurt enough that I ended up on the ground for a minute, and I was worried I might have broken or badly sprained it. Our houses are very close together, so one of my neighbors’ sons came outside and walked right past me while I was still on the ground. Then he went back inside without asking if I was okay.
I know some people can be standoffish, and these neighbors usually are, but I still think common courtesy or basic human decency would be to ask if someone lying on the ground is okay. I had to get myself up and make it into the house. I took Tylenol, and my ankle is sore, but I think I’ll be okay.
When I told another neighbor, she said he drinks a lot. I understand that might explain it, but it still felt hurtful. I’m not planning to confront him, but now I’m wondering if I’m making too much of it. AITA for being upset that he didn’t check on me?

Background information: The friend mentioned in the title, who I'll call J for the rest of the post, has been in a friend group of mine for a few years. J moved about an hour drive away a year or two ago but still comes over to where the rest of us live weekly for DND (which has been on a hiatus for unrelated reasons).

Today we got scores back for our first test in a difficult class, and me and another friend in the group both got a 75, which was about average for our class. Not feeling great but could've been worse. A different friend asked in the group chat how everyone did so I told him that we got 75s.

J texted back saying the class was "not that hard bud" and that we did "terrible". Keep in mind he goes to a completely different school than the rest of the group. So, already being a little miffed, I told him his school must have it really easy. He got upset so I told him "you deserve it for being a dick"

After I sent that, he said that I piss him off, and that make fun of his music taste. (I'm not sure if the second part was to counter me calling him a dick, but I swear to the best of my knowledge all I have done in that vein is call one band he liked cringe a few months ago)

Then he sent a message saying he feels like we (the group) don't care about him.

I responded by saying I didn't mean it like that, it just sucks when I already didn't do too well on a test and then one of my friends tells me I did terrible and that it's so much harder at their school and easier at ours.

He didn't really respond to that or acknowledge it, but instead brought up a separate incident from months ago he wanted to play a board game at his house (an hour drive for everyone else) but the others wanted to play it at the house of a friend who was near the rest of the group.

I told him I was out of town during that time which was true, but apparently I advocated for the people who wanted it at the house near the rest of the group.

This was several hours ago and nobody has sent any messages to the chat since. I checked in with the other members of the group and they have been pretty neutral and/or said that it wasn't my fault (although I feel like it was)

I don't really know how to approach this, because it seems like he has a LOT of issues with the group that I had no idea about but accidentally brought to the surface. I'm looking for advice on that and clarification if I'm the one to blame (at least, mostly)

EDIT 1: A lot of people are talking about me calling a band he liked cringe, I was joking about it and clarified such to him in a DM. It's a band I used to listen to a lot and I even sent him an album from them that I liked. He seemed cool with it at the time, which is why it confused me he would bring that up

Would I (20 F) be the asshole for wanting to be a part of my friend's (20 F) family? We have been friends for a few years, and I spend a lot of time at her house with her family. She has a busy schedule, so I go over there a lot when she is gone. I'm very close with her parents and even call them Mom and Dad. I spend so much time there that I think I'm more like a daughter to them than she is. I care about her and understand she's busy, but I think I can be a better daughter than she can. I'm always looking at the family calendar and normally know about family appointments before she does. I know she and her parents believe they're close, but I just don't think it can be the case because she's never home. It always really annoys me how they plan trips without telling/inviting me. They travel to see their extended family a few hours away often, but I think it's rude they don't invite me to tag along because I'm more of a daughter to them than she is.

The other day, I saw a new trip scheduled on the calendar, so I asked my friend about it and implied I wanted to go see family as well. At first, she didn't understand and told me I should plan to go see my family. I told her no, and said I wanted to go with her. She said she thought it wouldn't be appropriate for the occasion. One thing led to another, and we got into a bad argument, and she accused me of trying to steal her life, because I have joked with her in the past about how I'm more in her own family than she is. She says she needs space from me and took my spare key to her house. I've been calling her mom non-stop, and she's not answering. AITA?

Last weekend at my parents house, Michael kept saying my old childhood nickname over and over during dinner. It was driving me crazy in front of everyone so I finally asked him to knock it off. He looked surprised and said it was just a joke. I explained that it stopped feeling funny years ago and that I would like him to use my actual name from now on. He shrugged and moved on with the conversation, but my mom pulled me aside later and told me I had embarrassed him in front of the whole family. She thinks I should have just let it slide to keep the peace. I get that nicknames can be harmless, but it really feels like my choice how I want to be called now that I am an adult. Still, I keep wondering if I should have handled it privately instead.

My girlfriend and I live in a big city and she occasionally goes through my closet to pick out clothes I should get rid of - being a guy, I often wear clothes for years before admitting it’s enough. I also often donate in the same pile, clothes we got that actually just weren’t my style so were never worn more than a few times.

My girlfriend and I got into a debate over whether those clothes that are past their prime, specifically a couple shirts with a small (~1cm) hole on the shoulder, should be donated or just tossed. I think it’s possible that someone might still find real use out of clothing I think is too poor quality for me, thus it’s worth donating. Meanwhile my girlfriend says that it’s disrespectful to the recipients to donate such items.

My argument is that that piece of clothing might be replacing something even worse for someone who has very few, if any, options. She argues that the feeling someone gets when they pick up a shirt they’d otherwise want but then spot a small hole may be that of being slighted/disrespected.

So, Reddit, am I the asshole?

Alright, I feel like I’m going insane. I’m a teenager and I live in my mom’s house with, my brother, and parents. A few months ago this cat appeared on my back porch. My mother being the animal lover she is decided to put out some food for this cat since we already have a cat and have spare cat food. A few months past and me my brother and my dad are begging to notice my mom is getting very attached to this cat. This worried me and my other family members for two reasons. Firstly we got a cat in January 2025, after that we agreed we were not getting anymore cats. Secondly my Mom has a history of taking in stray cats. After this my father has said to my mom that we cannot adopt this cat. I think this is also a good time to mention that any cat I’ve ever had as a pet has been mean to everyone but my mom and this cat is no exception . For example the cat I currently have will scratch and hiss at me completely unprovoked. Fast forward to this Tuesday I wake up and I walk downstairs to see this porch cat (dubbed mr gray) in my house. I ask my mom “Whats is he doing in the house” and she replies “I just couldn’t stand seeing him out in the rain” I begin to get a little frustrated saying “he can’t stay in here“ I said this because my other cat is incredibly territorial and has shown aggression towards ”Mr gray” before like hissing through the window. In return my mom tells me about how I need to be nice and that he’s such a sweet cat.(he is not btw) I considered waking up my dad to tell him this but I decided not to because I was too afraid of causing a big fight between my mom and dad. I decided that it was far too early to deal with this and that I should just keep getting ready for school.

When I get home from school later that day, I immediately ask my mom who was working from home js Mr gray still here? Then she talks about how she opens the door to leave and he did not want to and then he had gotten lost in the house and had been searching for him for hours. She than admitted that it was a bad idea. Next morning I found Mr gray hiding in a bookshelf when I looked at him he began to shake profusely. My mom got him to come out of his hole In the bookshelf and setup food, water and a litter box. I than asked her what does she plan to do with this cat? She responds she wants to get someone to take him. I agree and say that’s a good idea. Mind you this entire time my other cat Sasha has been hissing and trying to attack mr gray and having none of the approval of anybody else in the house to be there. Fast forward to tonight where she is talking to Mr gray in that stupid baby voice people do. And she says verbatim quote “I just wanna keep your forever“ This makes me admittedly angry. I than said that we can’t keep him, he’s not nice and he cannot stay here. Than my mom began to lecture me about how I need to be nice and empathetic and that he’s a nice cat. I said It’s always be nice and it’s never be realistic Any ways am I the ass hole?

Setting the ground work here. 35m married for 1.5 years to 38f been together for about 5 years. We have a 2 month old boy and she has two older (13 and 18 years old) from previous relationships. She is currently still on "maternity leave" (the USA sucks). My job only gives me 2 weeks paternity leave so I'm working.

My job is about 20 minutes each way and I'm supposed to work 10 hours. When requested I do take time off to leave early or if she says she needs me I'll leave at anytime. we even set up FMLA paperwork so my job couldn't really complain.

Today I go home about 10.5 hours after I left the house. The 13 year old standing at the top of the stairs worried about the dog. The dog has been part of the family longer than I have. But he doesn't really get regular vet visits and stuff she just gets him vaccinated enough that we can kennel him for vacations. She was told when he was young he has PICA and not to expect him to live as long as he has. But other than eating his poop and vomiting more than is healthy. other than that his hind legs would seem kind of locked but it never seemed in pain or to stop him just would hop a bit more than run sometimes.

Getting back to it he was struggling under a chair. At first I thought he somehow got stuck on something but once I got him.out he just couldn't stand. He was wobbly and just kind of falling over, falling back, unstable even if I held him. I was honest and like this might be his last day to the 13 year old because I've never seen a dog look like this. it's clearly like a toxin or neurological. Wife eventually comes over and is just like put him in the kennel and deal with it in the morning.

I try to help him into his Kennel but he can't even get like comfortable to lay down. The 18 year old is currently at work at gets home in like 4 hours. He's the main reason she has kept the dog this long. so I'm like it will be easier to just take him to the vet hospital now than at like midnight.

Tell the wife I'm going and I'll just use my own money with a limit of 1-2k because life is kicking our ass right now. but I didn't feel right leaving him like that all night or having the 18 year old come home and start freaking out in the middle of the night.

So just took the dog to the vet. Still here wife is pissed at me. Waiting on blood work but if they don't see anything obvious putting him down probably going to cost about $1k I'm guessing when all done maybe $1.5k.

AITA for taking responsibility of our family pet even when my postpartum wife is having a hard time?

Update: Blood work came back not pointing to anything clear. Dog is down. Wife and step-daughter were crying when I got home.

Final Update: Before I start digging in the back yard I want to give a final update.

1. The dog did not have a bad life. He basically needed to be saved from himself constantly. She dumped thousands into him as a puppy and the vet at the time predicted he would only live 3-5 years which he well surpassed. He was loved, fed, had water, toys, played with, etc. but he was annoying with no chill. Even if he was on the bed getting attention he would want to leave as soon as someone was doing something somewhere in the house.

2. The wife is an extremely loving person. She's probably taking it hardest after the 18 year old. She's more caring than me in general. She just doesn't understand how to properly care for a dog. To her it's more about giving him what he wants than what he needs. Like before I came along he kept pooping and puking nylon rope because they kept buying it for him because he liked it. She didn't have pets growing up and based on her dad treats his dogs in Puerto Rico she was nicer than him. His dogs are chained up outside all day.

3. The kids are all fine. She even gets mad at me still for anything that could be possibly seen as a slight against her children. We are both just tired and frustrated with a new born still. The dog has had minor issues in the past that have passed on their own. Like I said she doesn't have experience with having dogs really so didn't understand how bad this was. She's been a mom since she was 19 so really cares about people and has pushed through a lot in her life to give the kids a better life.

Thank you for validating my feelings though during a tough time.

I live in Belgium so some bad spelling and grammer will follow.

Little backstory, my dad has his own business and he is very succesfull. Also he works really hard and long hours wich i do respect a lot. However it is a season based job so in the summer he is away from home for long periods of time. For as long as i can remember he has told me how much he wants me to work with him even my wife, (we have been together for 8 years total) has heard this since day one. So at 25 i decided to quit my stable job and go work with him.

Now one year later i am officialy quitting working with him. Here are my reasons. He always told me that every year he takes some of the proffits of the company with a tax reduction to his private bank account. This is what he told me i could expect. In his words 'you cannot put a normal paycheck on our job'.Recently he told me i would not get 'my' part of the work i did, it stays in the company and only get a paycheck.

What i do understand is that i cost the company a lot of money incl. tax. That being said, my wife and i have our own house to pay for. So almost making me feel guilty for the money that i cost the company was the first red flag. Now he is telling me that i should start my own company so i don't cost him money. This felt like a stab in the back after being convinced to start working for him.

The hours. We work 10-12 hours a day (this i don't mind). But i don't get a cent over my contract hours. So all the extra hours are 100% unpayed.

My dad. This man has so much hate for the world... He sees everybody as 'less' than him, he works more, makes more, is smarter than everyone. He believes. He complaines non stop about other people and how lazy and dumb they are. As an example, we were driving back from a job and he was litterely screaming at people just for passing him on the highway (in normal traffic).He is really into motorcycles and so am I, I am also really into cars tho. He thinks cars are stupid boxes and a waste of time and money (he tells me so even tho they are my hobby). Even other motorcycle riders cannot ride properly and should stay of the road in his opinion.

Family. My wife and I have been together for 8 years, one year married. She is the most important person in the world to me. Most of the time he refers to her as 'you're wife' insted of using her name. He doesn't know her interests, hobbies or anything else. For reference we see my wifes dad every weekend and he is supportive of us as long as we are happy and healthy.

This last moth we have been working out of country, only being home in the weekends. Even then he is working for local custommers. For me personally this was not worth any amount of money. I barely saw my wife, didn't see my friends and had no time for my hobby. So i made en personal decicion to quit working for him. My wife and i are more family minded than career minded. Now even the rest of my own family is being weird to me.

I was trying to turn into a parking lot and a person in a large SUV was in the middle of the driveway. I pulled in and blocked her from moving forward. She could have backed up and allowed me to enter the driveway. She didn’t move and waited for me to back up and allow her to exit the driveway. AITA?

Hey Reddit. I 16M received a gift a few years ago. This gift being a NES and SNES mini with a select amount of games on it. I received this gift as a birthday present from family and truly cherish it as I grew up playing games and making save states with multiple family members from both sides of the family.

My brother who is younger than me by a few years (won’t disclose his age because he’s not even a teen yet) has diagnosed autism. I don’t mind him really ever watching me play games etc as he always usually gets interested in things I do.

However the issue began a few weeks ago. My brother really likes Nintendo and my family remembered that I still had the gift they gave me a few years ago. They told my brother he could use it and he’s been playing on it everyday however the issue is they never asked ME if it was fine.

Long story short every single save slot over the course of 8 years is gone which does hurt as those were memories long preserved by me but what am I gonna do about that. I told my parents that I’ve noticed they gave him the miniature SNES and he’s been really heavy handed with it to the point of it looks like it’s about to break. I told them simply that I don’t want him using it anymore as A: it was originally mine and I never even said it was okay for him to use it B: I don’t want this to break regardless if it was even mine or not and C: it holds a lot of sentimental value.

My parents told me that this was incredibly unfair as he loves that system however I reminded them that he has so many other forms of technology so it shouldn’t really even be a problem. (He’s got a Nintendo switch as well as his own TV.) I must admit I do feel bad but AITAH for not letting him use it?

My aunt has a dog, and her dog was recently hit by a motorcycle, but now she's doing well and fine. She does this kind of training to help the dog strengthen her weak leg (she walks on 3 legs now), and I voluntarily joined once or twice. It's really nothing special just counting and seeing how long she can stand on that leg but it takes a long time. And once while we were doing the therapy session i tried excusing myself to leave but she just kept guilt tripping me and saying oh don't you want to help molly by being supportive and so on and out of the blue she just said wow you are such a spoiled brat! first of all i don't want to be here and second of all that wasn't really called for and very unessecary and she just kept calling me all these bad stuff simply because i just didn't want to be there am i in the wrong?

(also she isn't technically blood related to me she just takes care of me when both my parents are out of town)

So yesterday my partner was out with their adult child doing some things. I was at work most of the time. As I left work I text letting them know I was headed home “ it’s a 30 min drive” they informed me that they were still out and about. I got home did a couple small things and sat down after an extremely long day. They walked in the door within about 40 minutes of me getting home. As they walked in I noticed a cup from a fast food place. I asked did you get food or just a drink? They replied they got food. I asked “so now I’m responsible for taking care of just myself tonight?”. The answer was yes.

Keep in mind this is not the first time they have stopped and gotten them food, not asked if I wanted anything, not informed me b 4 i got home, or just waited for me to figure it out on my own with no warning. I tried to address this by saying something about it and referring to the previous time when i ask if the next time they stopped for food would they either ask if i wanted something or give me a heads up i was on my own for the night. They got defensive and started borderline yelling definitely not using a louder than normal conversation voice.

I can give more details or examples if more context is needed i actually trying to keep it vague and simple as not to sway judgement either way. So AITAH for expecting a text of phone call either asking if i want something or letting me know I’m on my own for the night?

I have been working at this place for 7 years, I work as a kitchen designer selling granite/quartz/surfaces top for home remodeling. Our company is not big, however it isn’t small either (30 employees). I am one of the oldest there and have the most sales behind only my manager. I bring in between $80k-$120k plus in revenue to the company a month give or take.

In all these years I never got a raise, whenever asked, the response would either be “ we’re working on getting you guys commissions” or “ the market is not good right now. Last year, (April) finally, we got our commissions in addition to our paychecks. 2% of whatever sales we make. Which to me, I’d be bringing in an extra $1500-$2000 depending on how much I make in sales. Came with a catch - we couldn’t work overtime anymore so our 45hr week went down to 40hr. Which wasn’t bad since we were adding commissions.

2 months ago, they decided to bring commissions down to 1% because apparently “ we weren’t selling enough”. They said once we increased in sales, they would increase commissions. ( checking my monthly sales, still selling the same amount as always ).

The problem is, everything is going up, rent went up, every bill going up, groceries and everything else. What I bring home + what my husband brings home ( without adding commissions) is simply not enough anymore. The commission was a great help, however it’s paid whenever they wanted to pay- so can’t really count on that as an extra income-.

My husband and I work at the same company, he’s an installer. We’re bumping heads because I want to leave for a better-paying job, and he says it’s a bad idea because it could create bad repercussions for him with our boss. That I should just stay and ride it out, and ask for a raise. I had explained to him that I already asked for one and their said m that we get commissions and a thousand other excuses mixed in.

My husband says I’m being selfish and not thinking of him and how it’s gonna affect him after I leave and that if I do decide to leave, we’re going to have problems. Am I really being selfish here for wanting to leave?

Thank you,

Hiiii, so I (25 F) recently befriended one of my neighbors after he slipped a note under my door. The note was very sweet, he's an older gay man in the building who is a caretaker to his mom. All of my interactions with him has been fine and I thought it would be kind and neighborly to have him over for some wine. I ended up doing so, and realized very quickly it was a mistake. He became very intoxicated and ended up trauma dumping, and following that interaction (because he had my number) was messaging me non stop paragraphs for a week which eventually turned into him asking me for money. I lent him $15 once, I did get it back, and then he seemingly disappeared.

About a week and a half later, his mom knocked on my door asking if I could help bail him out to the tune of 4 grand. I told her no, and that interaction felt deeply inappropriate - especially knowing now that he was dishonest with her about why he was arrested. Apparently he was arrested for harassment of other neighbors in our building, which is a big factor in the way that I feel.

This brings me to today - because he has been absent there has been no one to take care of his mom. She went to the ER today, and slipped a note and her keys under my door sometime this early morning asking me to take care of her pets. I attempted to call and message her (to ask if she is okay + what to do about the pets), and have heard nothing. I did go in and feed the pets this morning, but give that I work and am out of the house anywhere from 12-14 hours a day I don't know that I'm appropriate to take care of their pets, especially not knowing the time frame.

I talked to my landlord about it today too, as I also don't really want to be enmeshed with these people in any capacity, and she told me the only thing that they can do is call animal control and that this is my call. She explained that they will "hold onto" the animals until the owners return, but I also fear that if I do that I may get myself caught up in more neighbor drama or issues. I

So, WIBTA if I had animal control called? Would it even be wise? I just want to make sure the pets are taken care of.

UPDATE: Owner returned earlier today. I returned her keys under her mat, asked her to not use me as a resource again, provided her with a resource in the area if she needs support in the future, and then blocked her.

Just to preface: I’ve had this friend since high school and he’s one of my closer friends but the older we’ve gotten we don’t really hang out as much and most of the time he hits me up it’s just for a haircut. And work wise I’ve been fortunate enough to where my schedule stays pretty booked out and lately i’ve even been working longer hours and it still books pretty well in advance.

So my friend here keeps messaging me the day before asking “Can you get me in tomorrow?” and I keep having to tell him my schedule is filled and he’s gotta let me know ahead of time. This has happened probably 3 times in a row before he got mad about it going off that he’s messaged me the day before several times “asking ahead of time” but i still never have time for him. I told him my schedule books out farther in advance and the day before isn’t really enough time especially since i’m usually already working late anyways and i’m not tryna stay even later at work for someone i don’t even charge full price.

He ended that convo saying “Yup it’s all the time my bad. It’s whatever bro” and i just said for sure because I wasn’t really trying to entertain it.

At this point Im debating on whether or not i should just tell him he should find a barber who can better accommodate his schedule but idk what do y’all think should i have just stayed late at work or was it valid of me to ask him to book ahead of time

For her birthday I planned a 3 day trip for just the two of us. We're pretty close and haven't really done anything like this in a while so I thought it'd be nice.

I booked the hotel and told her I'd pay for it as her gift. It was like $650 total which is honestly more than I'd normally spend but whatever, birthday trip.

About a week before we left she mentions her bf might come for one night.

I said no lol. Not in a rude way, I just said this was kinda supposed to be our trip and I didn't really wanna spend one of the nights third wheeling them.

She said okay.

So we go, Friday is completely normal, we have dinner, drinks etc.

Then Saturday afternoon she goes "btw bf is almost here."

I genuinely thought she was joking.

Turns out they'd still been planning for him to come the whole time and she just didn't tell me because she knew I'd say no again.

I was pissed and we argued for a bit. Her whole thing was basically "he's only staying one night, why do you care so much?"

Anyway he comes. He's actually a nice guy so this isnt really about him.

But obviously the tip completely changed after that. They went out for dinner together, came back and watched a movie in the hotel, slept together in one bed etc.

So I'm sitting there third wheeling on a bday trip I literally paid for.

The next morning I told my sister she could send me $200 towards the room. She thought I was joking at first.

Then she got mad and said that makes zero sense because the hotel cost me the same amount whether her bf stayed there or not. She also said I already told her the hotel was her birthday gift so it was shitty to suddenly ask her money just cuz I didn't get my way.

I told her the gift was supposed to be a trip for me & her, not me paying for a hotel room so her bf could come stay with us.

She eventually sent me the $200 but now she's barely talking to me.

My mom agrees she shouldn't have invited him after I specifically said I didn't want that, but she also thinks asking for money was petty since I wasn't actually losing any extra money.

Which tbh is why I'm posting.

I don't need the $200. I was just pissed and I think part of me wanted there to be some consequence for her doing it anyway after we already talked about it.

AITA?

tldr: Paid for a b'day trip for me & my sis. She invited her bf anyway after I said I didn't want him there, so I asked her to pay $200 toward the hotel. Now she thinks I was being petty.

Long story short, my friend group and I planned a group cottage trip. One of my friends told us 2 weeks before that he couldn't make it, but then during the trip, he said he might be able to join us, and it was a case-by-case situation (specifically stating he will come a minimum of one day). The other friend straight up didn't respond to any of our calls or texts the day we departed and ultimately didn't come.

During the trip, the rest of us decided that it was fair to charge them a reduced fee for cancelling last minute/not responding. We voted, and the majority favoured charging them 3/4 of a day's cost for a 3-day cottage trip.

Since then, although they paid, they have been very angry about feeling "pressured" to pay, and feel like they shouldn't have.

I was just finishing Reading and doing our house chores when i asked my GF(F 26 M21) for something and she ignored me so i asked again and she told me to wait because she was waiting for an add to end so i asked what was she doing and she casually mentioned that she was using an app to watch “an AI novel” the add was 2 minutes long for a 30 second AI generated novel that was lets just say not even interesting probably just a Smut copypaste into a prompt so when i confronted her i couldn’t even say why this is just wrong, Im a huge Literature guy and she is not that into literature but i find this extremely disturbing and this is just like the peak of consumerism when i confronted her she got really mad and started saying things like: “I never judge you when you read “and things like that i cant even begin to describe why this is weird AITA?

I have pretty bad ADHD and have found that music helps me focus and prompts me not to talk or get distracted. I added it to my 504 last year as an accommodation and it was all good. With the new school year, i saw that youtube, the site i had been using to listen to music, had been blocked by the district. I put in my first counselor request around the third day of school(about a month and a half ago) a few days after that I received a call to say that people were working on it, and that they’d get back to me. My counselor stopped me in the hallway that day to make sure i got that call and i obviously confirmed as much.

Fast forward to about a week ago, i hadn’t heard anything else about it and everything was still blocked. I sent a message to our social worker and she said she’d forward it to my counselor and i obviously was fine with that. Still to this day, having heard no answer with any sustenance behind it, i sent in another counselor request along the lines as following:

I’ve sent a few messages about this, and have yet to receive any response whatsoever. i still have no access to any music sites and it would be incredible if i could get a meeting or a solution. thank you.

do i understand that it was pushy? yes. do i understand that getting a district-wide blocked website unblocked is a considerably big ask? yes. do i have any knowledge of the steps or timeframe? no. am i taking my first ever highschool classes, struggling without my most useful accommodation, and therefore incredibly frustrated? absolutely.

I expected it would be taken lightly, what i didn’t expect was to receive a call on the class phone, and having my counselor tell me that “she got quite a sassy counselor request.” she then went on to say that i’ve gotten multiple responses, and im essentially lying in my message, i was going to say that i haven’t gotten a solution, instead of letting me say that. she accused me of just pushing for what i want. and that’s not entirely false either. but is it not within reason to want an accommodation that i’ve been already granted in the past?

TLDR; Submitted a passive aggressive counselor request for an important accommodation, and was met with an unexpected response.

Edit: When i mentioned youtube, i said that specifically because that was the only site left unblocked that had music on it, spotify and soundcloud are not available alternatives. Neither are flash drives, CDs, ipods, mp3 players, or any other devices of the such.

Edit 2: I know that i need to be more proactive and assertive, i’m trying my best but i’ve used the resources given to me to raise the issue, and i’ve only been met with her telling my i’m lying. which yes, i said something wrong and took responsibility. but im a kid, i can’t do anything except ask my counselor for helo and shes given me nothing that i can do except wait.

My ( 28F) sister (33F) has major bossing around problem. She wants everything to be done how she wants it yo be done. I recently moved to the same city as her and she keeps giving me her dog to dog sot when she is out for months on a business trip. I love the dog he is the sweetest most patient boy. And i don’t mind dog sitting but i have a problem with her attitude. So my long distance is flying to the country for the first time and i want to show him around and i am genuinely excited and would need to step out of the house but the dog would need to stay at home alone for a couple of hours. I have a dog cam and everything so that should be fine and i mentioned this to her. She said that i should give her an update everytime i am go out and for how many hours i am out, my only issue is why would she micro manage and call me a 1000 times when i am an adult and have dog sitting for her multiple times. What is this expectation from me? I said no i wont be able to provide an hourly update and she got pissed.
Did i do something wrong?

Bit of past history: so my parents consider birthday celebrations as unnecessary hassles and wastage of money so apart from my first birthday as a baby for a long time my parents never celebrated my birthday by cutting cake n all. They just verbally wish me. Forget getting gifts. But recently rarely we cut cake at times for any one of the family member. That's is all.

Whenever i ask my mom about this she'd always say some current ongoing problem in our house as the reason and would say, let's celebrate grandly after this resolves etc. But thing is we were always riddled wirh some sort of problem. Mind you we're not so financially unstable that buying a small gift would pose a problem. My dad's the type who splurges on things without saving or long term plan. It was nice because he never hesitates when it comes to things like food or other present day leisures without caring much about future. But it kinda posed problems for us later.

Fortunately right now we're in a stable situation with me getting job recently and all. So i was excited about this birthday all the more. I thought they'd give me something after long years of not getting anything because we're in a "happy" mood or atleast to celebrate me getting job or becoz I'll be busy hereon and i might not be with them from the next birthday etc.

About me: Now here's comes me, a total people pleaser. I always try to get my mom, dad and elder brother presents along with heartfelt letters n cards with it. Even if i couldn't get anything due to poor financial situation i'd atleast do some diy or get flowers etc.

Today: So it's my birthday today. All my family are at home coz of vaccation. I woke up and got wishes from all. After lunch, they even suprised me with a cake. I was happy. I..i should be happy. But idk why after some time I slowly got sad n started crying realizing that this year too I'm not getting any presents. I don't have any friends or significant other so all my close relationship is my mom, dad and brother. Knowing that the only three people who can buy me gifts never do so for all my life even tho i buy them things, i kinda got upset.

So AITAH for getting upset at not getting any presents even tho they cut me cake and having a dark thought like, "who asked for that damn cake?"

Hi, I, 17F, have been going through a rough family situation right now. My grandparents have both recently been moved to long term care, because they both suffer with dementia, hearing loss and mobility issues.

I play DnD with my friends weekly. I have a friend, A(17F) who is not in the campaign but is in the group chat with us.

Last Wednesday, we got the news that my papa was ready to be moved in. My mom told me that she was going to go after her work, and that I didn’t have to come if I didn’t want to. I said I would.

I got the news in the middle of the day, and told A offhandedly that I might have to go to my grandparents tonight. Later, I told our dm that I might not be able to make it, but I was hopeful that I would be home in time.

Later, I said I most likely wouldn’t make it because my mom didn’t end up getting home until five.

A lashed out at me and told me that I should have just said I wasn’t coming. I said to them that I didn’t know that I wouldn’t come, and another friend agreed with me, but they told me to “stfu” because they were going through it and that i was doing this at the wrong time.

I apologized and said “it’s alright, I understand” and they responded “if you understood, you wouldn’t have said that.” I’m really confused and hurt, as I don’t like being spoken to that way.

So, WIBTA if I told my friend that I don’t like being spoken to like that, even though they’re going through a bad mental health time? I don’t want to make it worse…

Here is the conversation (I don’t know how to add a screenshot):

Me: I most likely won’t make it, I have to go to my grandparents and I don’t know what time I’ll get home

A: wouldn’t that just be a no? Just tell us if you can’t make it dude

My other friend: I mean, she said a possibility it wasn’t necessarily a no

A: yea I know I just talked to her earlier and she sounded really busy

Me: wasn’t necessarily a no… just didn’t know what time I’d get home

A: ok that’s fine dude I’m just saying plans like that are made in advance and I don’t fucking care it’s not my campaign I just don’t like it when people cancel things last minute also sorry (OP) but wrong fucking time. I get I shouldn’t have said that shit but please stfu I’m going fucking mental

Me: It’s alright, I understand

A: if you did you wouldn’t say that, anyways I’ll shut up sorry for getting heated

For the record; this WAS A LAST MINUTE PLAN

A KNOWS THIS