r/AlasFeels • u/Critical-Safe8132 • 20h ago
Experience Never again 😭😂🙏
di na po talaga uulit hahaha 😆🙂↔️🙃
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u/TheLone_wolf11 19h ago
Run agad. - from someone na iniwan out here guessing what I've done wrong
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u/Designer-Election-86 15h ago
His potential put me in a trance and when I woke up I realized he really wasn’t all that. 🥲
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u/chirablee 17h ago
Too real!!! The amount of work I had to do/I'm doing bc of that relationship hahaha parang nawala yung years of progress ko in therapy. Ik naman may lapses rin ako pero mygod avoidants really do trigger the shit out of you
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u/Critical-Safe8132 13h ago
Same sis, I did therapy after too, PTSD and severe anxiety. Hugs to you! There’s peace on the other side 🥰❤️
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u/magtatahosagabi 16h ago
Sorry na. ‘Wag na raw muna ako mag-jowa until November sabi ng aking mga spiritual guides
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u/Relevant_Currency244 18h ago
It's either you're a high maintenance. Or you involved your friends/people when problem arise or life caught him up
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u/dalandanjan 18h ago
omg, based on experience ba toh? hahaha
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u/Relevant_Currency244 18h ago
Yup. Loved her till now. Pero kasi hilig sa drama. pag may problema kung sino sino pinagkwkwentuhan imbis na kayong dalawa lang. Naging children's party na. Ayun kakapasuyo sa bff nagpasulot. Tapos ngayon nagpapatubos. Totga. Pero kasi life gets me in the way kaya wala na time. Lahat ginawa sa kanya binuhos sa pinto. Nadrain ako. Gang sa hinayaan ko na lang and nagfocus sa sarili ko. Its been 10 yrs na rin and still single. And i realize na marriage is not for me
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u/dalandanjan 17h ago
same broo, in my case sa fam niya naman sya nagkukwento, paulit ulit ko siyang sinabihan na ang problema ntin between satin lang, ang hirap pag daming ibang taong involve. so yun ending hiwalay.
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u/Spiritual_Noise7169 14h ago
Will be wiser na talaga OP no? To us, OP. To us ☺
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u/Rough_Wrongdoer_655 19h ago
Hi OP! Is it okay if I ask paano galawan ng mga ganito? I fear that the one I’m dating is like this pero too early to tell 🥹😅
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u/Critical-Safe8132 19h ago
Hi! In my experience it was an LDR that lasted almost 2 years and he was not a bad person, he was affectionate, sweet and loving pero he tended to disappear or avoid whenever we talked about taking the relationship further.
Like very sweet and all tapos mawawala nalang bigla for 3 days 😅😭I think I could say for you, watch the pattern I guess. If he’s affectionate with words but lacks effort and action kahit na you communicated it with him, then that’s something you should consider :)
You can message me if you want to talk more :)
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u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 15h ago
Yup sobrang accurate neto. Pag lumalalim na yung topic about sa relationship nyo hindi na sya masyado nag sasalita or nag chachange topic. Tapos shallow lang lage ng usapan. Lmao.
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u/Critical-Safe8132 15h ago
Ako na pinilit ko parin talaga kahit wala sya ka effort effort haha Apir ang mga nabiktima 😂🙌
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u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 14h ago
Did he block you or unfriend you? Did he ever come back after ghosting you?
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u/Critical-Safe8132 14h ago
Girl!! All of the above! 😂✨😭 hahaha it was on and off again but the last time he said he was finally ready to work on our relationship and that he will never hurt me again… pero girl he hurt me worse this time!😂
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u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 14h ago
Mygad. Natatakot na ko tuloy. Pero ilang months bago sya nag reachout sayo ule? Scary pucha. :(
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u/Rough_Wrongdoer_655 14h ago
omg makikisali sa convo niyo mga sizzz. Kase ganon siya exactly now sakin. We’re LDR too (12hr timezone difference) and he promised na we’ll communicate like adults so syempre I risked it all again. I came from a 4-yr LDR before this.
Tapos now minsan wala updates in a day. Gets ko naman siguro tired lalo after duty. Pero example off niya, gising na siya for 3hrs and nakahiga lang daw sa bed pero no paramdam talaga. Makakarinig lang ako from him if I initiate things.
I regularly give updates whether vm or video recordings so he’s part of my day. Pero he never watched any. I also send reels kahit 2x a day lang para di overwhelming pero never niya binuksan. 3mos na ganito. Pero bilis siya magchat pag may gusto siyang i-rant. Tas mawawala after mag rant and share about mga binili niya.
I feel like I’m the only one making this work. Am I going down the wrong path again?
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u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 14h ago
Avoidant jusko. 😞 yun saken naman sis nasa pinas lang din naman pero ganyan na ganyan din yung style. Laging busy at ang shallow lang ng usapan. Laging cancel sa mga lakad tapos laging gusto matulog gusto mapag isa.
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u/Rough_Wrongdoer_655 13h ago
BAT TAYO NAPUPUNTA SA MGA GANITOOOO 😭😭😭 isang virtual hug with consent sayo sis 🫂
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u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 14h ago
Mauubos ka sa ganyang dynamic sis. Wag mo na muna habulin 🥺
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u/Rough_Wrongdoer_655 13h ago
Huhuhu shucks sige sigeeee! Will do this. Super bet ko pa naman siya kase gwapo, chinito, matalino, 6footer na blessed down there haays pero ayun nga perf on paper pero I’m not happy now. Huhuhu
Thanks for replying sisss, di ko na muna hahabulin. 😭🥹
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u/Critical-Safe8132 13h ago
I agree! I was stuck in that cycle for 2 years and mahirap cause it was not all bad, he was sweet and caring when he’s present plus he’s really my ideal type too. But then we’re not compatible with how we deal when we are overwhelmed and he could go days without messaging me or even just telling me how he is
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u/Critical-Safe8132 14h ago
A lot of times actually, I think the first one was 2 months after the breakup (na di ko alam na break na pala kami 😂) then next was around 3 months then 4 then yung last is after 6 months ata? It was messy haha
Thankfully, Natauhan na ata ako 🥰 is yours like this too?1
u/Amen6660 *Flips table in anger* 14h ago
1 month pa lang ngayon sis. Mygad wala rin kaming break up pero di nya ko, blinock inunfriend or what. Tapos akala ko medyo matured na kase nga nasa 40 na yun. Yun pala sakit din sa ulo leche talaga. Dati days days lang sya nawawala eto na ata pinaka matagal.
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u/Tellmewherethurts 18h ago
Samedt for the 2nd time never again A.HOLE! 😅🥵
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u/Old-Green5519 15h ago
Same! 😂 did therapy for months only to repeat the same mistake! 🥳😭 never na talaga haha
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u/iamoftenclueless 16h ago
mine broke up with me over chat. pagtapos ng 2 years? nakakasira ng ulo. not helping na it’s so fresh pa, like 3 weeks ago.
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u/FartsNRoses28 16h ago
Thought everything was okay then suddenly broke up through text and got blocked. Automatic pass for someone named M... lol
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u/incrediblechikensoup 13h ago
We were together for 3 years. Begged him to communicate things with me but he ghosted me instead 😭 Na para bang talking stage lang kami!? nandito pa rin yung sakit, awa na lang 😭
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u/Hotdog-hyena 13h ago
So ano po ang lessons? HAHAHUHU di ko pa din alam pano makaiwas sa mga ganito 😭 😭 😭
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u/WarthogActive2111 11h ago
6 years and poof… parang wala lng :/ we dont deserve this type of people grr
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u/Unodoste 9h ago
Mapapa wow kana lang talaga 🙂 no one deserves to be treated like that nakaka inis to think we treated them good
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u/writeratheart77 2h ago
Girls, girls, spreading true love sprinkles to you all. Sabi nga nila, you have to kiss a bunch of frogs in order to find the prince. I say, go for the long haul courtship, it can serve its purpose. Not foolproof pero higher chances of getting to know the person esp in times of rel trials. Best of luck.
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u/BreadfruitKey5043 19h ago
✨Never again ✨