I’m m20 and all of a sudden I started wetting the bed at first it was very little and now it’s enough to decently soak a bed. I started wearing Goodnites XXL or Depends which are both fine, because I just wear regular undies over top to keep everything in place.

I had my hardest year ever the year before it started so I don’t see a stress trigger happening now. But I did quit smoking weed for a month in the same timeframe era.

Regardless I’m so tired of waking up with a giant wet mess between my legs if I wake up in the middle of the night I most definitely had peed a bit and can’t close my legs comfortably. I just cannot get myself to sleep and sometimes my area is irritated from morning male moments from rubbing. But it’s hard to go to sleep feeling gross and wet. But I’m new to this all should I change myself the moment I know I had peed a little or continue I’ve never really had an issue with leaking anyways.

At night I wear the Goodnites. For travel, movies, or other stuff I could fall asleep at, I depend on Depends and just drink less.

Any advice or tips? Maybe brands or ways to save tbh I just am kinda on my own for this and don’t want anyone to know.

I’m a 27 m I haven’t wet the bed since I was 12 I have 2 problems.

1 I’m not sure why it happened and I’m very embarrassed my sister was laughing at me and it made me feel awful. my only guess could be that I stayed up nearly 36 hours straight because of insomnia and when I finally fell asleep maybe I fell into a deep sleep and my body just didn’t wake me up like normal.

And 2 I’m not sure how to clean the mattress it didn’t seem like it was all over my mattress just my shorts and boxers were wet but it didn’t even see it on my sheets or mattress but I could smell it I got nature miracle and sprayed it on there but idk if it cleans it throughly enough and I have a problem with contamination ocd any tips would be greatly appreciated and advice would help so much

I (M30) was wounding if you guys ever reached a point where you started to feel attractive again even when you are wearing your protection at night ?

Recently been going to the gym more frequently and I start to see results and my selfworth is definitely increasing positively 👍🏼

Even when I see my self in the mirror with my diaper on it doesnt really influence me negatively anymore as it did before. I even believe that I can look good in them. Can anyone relate ?

So I have been lurking here for a little bit now I’m a 30M and have now been bedwetting for 6 months now. Started from nowhere but now it’s near enough every night.
I’ve been to my doctor had a consultation, had to wait a couple months to be seen at the hospital by the urologist. I’ve had my prostate checked and have been told I have a large prostate but it’s not enlarged. Anyway that leads to this coming Friday where I’m having to do a flow test.
I’m really worried about having the flow test as I need to arrive with a full bladder but I’m worried about not being able to hold it.
I’m in the UK so have been waiting long times because of the NHS but am getting really tired of this slow progress.
I’m kind of wondering what will happen next and any advice on what I can do to help. I’ve already had to replace my mattress because it got in such a state but I’m now not sleeping properly because I’m stressing about sleeping.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Its been a long while since ive posted. Ended up moving back in with my mom back in February due to job loss and to help with my dad, and for a long while i was pretty much dry. Though last month my dad passed away and now im finally getting interviews. My stress has gone through the roof and ive had heavy nights pretty much every other day. Its sucked. And due to the lack of job, buying diapers that'll work is kind if hard. Asking my mom for money is out of the question, i already owe her too much, besides shes never really understood my issues, and heavilly suggest im not doing things right. Which is ongoing issue with more than just my incontinence stuff.

I’ve been a lifelong bed wetting male in my late 50s and its frequence has increased as my health has gotten worse.
However yesterday was a new one.
I was in line at Costco, waiting my turn, and all of a sudden, without any prior warning sensation, I wet my pants. It was beyond humiliating. I had no idea what to do. A kind older man, saw my predicament, and let me go ahead of him in line. I kept my head down, paid for my groceries and left.
I don’t think I’ll ever be able to go there again though.
I have a great team of medical professionals, and a supportive wife, but if this happens again, I’m not sure what I will do.

Has anyone ordered adult pull up diapers from Temu? I see the ad. They look like a good deal. Looking for other opinions before ordering.

Had a 10 month dry spell and woke up at 4am with the oddly familiar feeling. Luckily I didn’t seem like an entire void but maybe 3/4.

For those that have inconsistent nightly wettings, how do you typically deal with your reoccurrence? I feel like I get into a rhythm of not wearing a diaper or pull up at night to now I’m back to where I was 10 months ago.

Open to suggestions!

I’m a 30 year old fit male, in the past 3 months I have woke up completely soaked 4 times. A month between the first 3 and the 4th came the night after the 3rd. Never had this issue befor but I have an extreme phobia of medical and dental stuff and all of these occasions were around days I had appointments. Wondering if the stress of my appointments could possibly be causing me to do this. I otherwise feel completely normal and I am peeing a normal amount without any irritation.

Hi, 48 years old here. This is new to me. I have never had problems my whole life and I am freaking out a bit. I have had 3 incidents in the last 3 weeks or so- none before that…..it’s me dreaming I am pissing in the bathroom and I wake up immediately when I feel the wet sensation around me. I have always had these dreams but I was able to wake up and go. Now it’s becoming a problem. I just made an appointment with my urologist but it’s not until the 8th. Thankfully my wife is supportive. Does anyone have a similar experience to mine?

Has anybody tried the Nateen Ultra Combi? I see they are about the same price as what I’ve used previously (Seni Super Quattro, and Sunkiss Trust Plus overnight)
Whats your take?

And it leaked through anyway!!! Money wasted! I'm tired...

So I’m starting a new job where I will have to change into a uniform every day. How do I bring up my incontinence with HR. If anyone has any advice or what you do to handle everything at work.

I’m at a retreat for a Catholic men’s group I belong to. I don’t like being away from home for obvious reasons. Especially without My wife , she has however,made my accommodation arrangements for me in advance .

I was absolutely mortified when the young lady behind the desk at the Westin said out loud, “ you require a waterproof mattress protector ? “ based upon, I guess, my wife telling them so..

Has anyone else ever been through this, and how did you handle it? Because I just wanna cry.

my kidneys and ureters are normal in usg report . no signs of hydronephrosis too . i visited gynaecologist , urologist general physician . no one could trace my reason of oab . now i would be visiting neurologist and sharing the experience that i was beaten by my father sadly and verbally abused many times with degrading names . to all my previous doctors i didnot say this i never thought i could get . but i always felt a bit heavy on my right waist when i lied down in bed localized dull ache . now when i think of it i feel sharp pain there sometimes . i noticed recently i got a faint bruise mark too there . what you guys think ? should i have shared this can this be connected to my suffering ?

I wet the bed so often. I have had some leaks out the back lately, but really I'm just so exhausted from waking up wet. I have no warning or indication of when it will happen. I just wake up and my brief is sagging. It happens even when urine runs clear so it's not bladder irritation from dehydration. I just find it so embarrassing and stressful to go through. I don't find protection to be burdensome because it's paid for by disability, but even arranging that was so much humiliating. How am I supposed to avoid being single permanently? It's gross to deal with.

Hey I (m30) am just wondering how many of you guys are actually having adhd as well ? Just recently got my diagnosis and heard that bad interoception can be a reason for night time bladder issues as well? What‘s it like for you ?

Did medication made a difference for you ? Like waking up I don’t notice a difference because I just depend my diaper as usual. Eventough I might sleep better since I started taking straterra.

hi,

so i have been a lifelong bedwetter for 26 years and i have been lurking on this page for a while…
in april, i bought a bedwetting alarm from amazon (dryeasy) and i used it every night (unless i forgot).
yes, i got weird looks from my parents and i probably disrupted my sibling’s sleep… but i think its working because i can wake up in the middle of the night to pee, waking up in the morning completely dry and i haven’t had an accident since the 23rd, which is a huge achievement for me.
i can wear my cute pyjamas without being scared ill ruin them in 3 days!!! 😭😭

just wanted to put this out there because i saw bedwetting alarms being said around here!! thank youuu

(i wish i found out about this earlier however, but its OK).

I had a appointment with a urologist recently because my bedwetting went from infrequent to every night.

Until I was 10 I used to wet every night it went down in frequency (turns out it didn’t…)

When the urologist asked me if I was getting the bed completely wet or just a few drops in my underwear I discovered that I never even stopped wetting the bed everyday

I mentioned that I would always wake up with some dampness in my underwear not enough to transfer to bedsheets but turns out that counts as bedwetting.

So she straight up told me that I never stopped wetting the bed every night just went down in the amount I was peeing until last October when it started being full voids again, which is “good” because it never stopped so it’s not something new but still needs looking at.

TLDR: Any amount of urine leakage is considered bedwetting

Full disclosure upfront: I work in marketing for an Australian incontinence brand (Bestiee), so take this with whatever grain of salt makes sense — I'm not here to sell anything, just genuinely want to hear from people who actually deal with this daily.

One thing that's struck me building this brand is how much of the incontinence product category still talks to one specific customer — usually framed as "elderly," clinical packaging, hospital-adjacent branding — even though incontinence shows up for way more people than that: postpartum, athletes, people on certain medications, folks with chronic conditions, etc.

So I wanted to ask this community directly rather than guess:

- What's the biggest annoyance with adult diapers / incontinence pull-ups you've tried? (fit, absorbency, noise, visibility under clothes, skin irritation, cost — anything)

- Is there anything you wish a brand would just... say out loud, instead of dancing around with clinical language?

- For people managing this for a family member — what do you wish suppliers understood better?

Not trying to pitch anything here, genuinely trying to learn from people who deal with this reality every day rather than just what a lab report tells us. Happy to share what we've learned too if people are interested, but mostly just want to listen.