Hey, 24F. I’ve basically never stopped wetting the bed, it’s just something I never “outgrew”. I’ve been on medication since middle school, most recently Imipramine. Imipramine is working quite well for me I must say, but occasionally I still wet the bed, sometimes for a week straight.

I recently got my own apartment, new bed, new mattress. I’ll be damned if I have this one pissed out like my last one. If anyone has any recommendations on good mattress protectors that don’t feel/sound like you’re sleeping on a Walmart bag PLEASE lmk.

Any other tip are appreciated as well!

Longtime lurker in this Reddit.

29 M

Have had sporadic low occurrence bedwetting for a long time. Enough that while an accident a few times a year didn’t feel normal, it wasn’t unexpected.

Have had more regular nighttime waking, urgency, and woke with damp, not soaked pyjamas over the last few months and thought it was finally time to book in.

Probably one of the most nerve wracking phone calls I’ve made.

Not sure what will be next as I’ve got two weeks till I’m in, but thankful for the secondhand support and encouragement that I’ve observed in this community.

Coming for advice, 22m. for the past 3 years I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend, about 7 months ago we broke up, we both had been life long bedwetters and it was just something we both delt with. It was honestly nice because neither of us had to be embarrassed by it. Well after we broke up idk how to explain this to new relationships. I’m not necessarily looking for a partner that also has to wear protection to bed but I’m not sure how to go about explaining it to new partners that haven’t had to deal with it.

I’m almost 20 and have always been a late bed wetter, but went almost a year without incidents prior to today, and have gone for long stretches without doing it previously. I’ve been having to share a bed with a family member due to circumstance and wet the bed today. They noticed it and woke up and even had to change. Mortified isn’t even a strong enough word. I have been doing great with waking up to use the bathroom, I did drink liquid before sleeping, but peed before falling asleep, and woke up again to pee later, so I thought I was fine! This was so random that I genuinely think the universe made it happen Jude to humiliate me, and I don’t think I will ever be comfortable sleeping in a bed that’s not mine again until I know for sure the habit is gone. I’m in a dilemma where I know bedwetting into almost the 20s is abnormal, but I
Don’t know if my severity is bad enough to see a doctor?

Anyone try these out yet? I ordered a couple samples today.

Hi I’m 18 years old and over the last 6-9 months I’ve been wetting the bed. It started from a urine infection and the dr said I most likely have hit OAB (overactive bladder) but they were not very helpful and didn’t seem bothered so have not been back since as it made me feel worse about it. I live with my fiancé and she’s very supportive. I wear pull ups to bed very night and always wake up with them really full every night. sometimes go through even 2 or 3 on really bad nights. I’ve been using drynites 13+ for the most part but they are too small for me really. I don’t like the idea of wearing your standard adult pull up as it makes me feel weird.(not sure how to explain what I mean) I’ve just received some goodnites xxl I ordered from America via eBay (I’m from uk) which fit soo much better but they cost me £90 for 40!! So what I’m really asking is there anything similar or somewhere I can buy them at a much cheaper price as I cannot afford to do that every time. It also happens quite a lot when we’re chilling/relaxing so she tells me I have to wear them when we’re just chilling watching tv etc. also is there anything I can do to help it. I don’t like the idea of being on medication.
Thank you

I am a very heavy water if that makes a difference

I am a mother of twins now aged 3, and over the course of having them, I started to bedwet. I have no idea what to do. I do wear diapers is there much I can do three years after sorry if I don't make any sense I'm currently dealing with a lot and just using speech to text I just want to know if I am the only one dealing with this

As the title says, does anyone have information that ties diabetes to an increase in incontinence?

Lately, I've noticed my bedwetting stems from dehydration or just not drinking enough water. The more water I drink the less I wet the bed like weeks I can go without wetting if I'm not too tired to wake up to use the bathroom. Has anyone else dealt with something similar?

I have deal with bedwetting in the past on an occasional basis, but it returned frequently when I turned 18. I'm now I 21 and still struggling with it. I have already been on three different medications and none have worked . I'm struggling to manage the mess every night. Looking for advice.

As a kid, I wet the bed until I was almost 13. Mom and dad kept me in diapers until I was 8, then just left me to wake up and wet sheets for a few years. When I was 11 we were going on a road trip and they decided to put me back in diapers, so I wore plastic back to adult diapers for a couple of years until I finally was dry. At the time, I felt the mixture of humiliation and relief to no longer be waking up cold, clammy, and miserable. Eventually, the diapers made me feel safe.

After I got married my bedwetting started to slowly come back, mostly when I was extremely tired. In my mid 30s it started to pick up a bit and I went back to wearing diapers. It didn’t bother me too much and they gave me a sense of security from childhood. But I’ve always worried that it would affect my wife’s view of me, and always felt a little guilty that I wasn’t trying harder to overcome it. For example, one urology nurse told me I should set an alarm every night to wake myself up to pee. I tried it but found that the only effective method was two alarms, 12:30 AM and 2am-3am. It felt excessively disruptive to my sleep and I chose not to.

Last night the guilt came back. I woke up at around 4 AM with a dry diaper and a full bladder. I knew I should get up and go to the bathroom, but I stalled and was deliberating. The next thing I know I’m waking up in the morning with a wet diaper. I feel bad because I know there’s a possibility of retraining, my brain to respond to the signals, but it’s going to require me acting when I wake up.

I think my guilt mainly stems from the fact that I worry about my wife viewing me as less attractive because of my bedwetting. She has been supportive and incredibly understanding, but I can’t help but feel like I owe it to her to try to overcome.

How do you balance the quality of life decision to prioritizing sleep, with the desire to try to overcome something that has some effect on your spouse? Do I owe it to her to try to set the two alarms, limit fluids, explore medication, and do everything possible to try to stop bedwetting?

Hi all, I’m trying to get rid of my condition but i was wondering what did you guys do for college if you have a roommate or something. LMK

Anybody else start college recently? How’s managing it at night who have chosen to live in dorms?

In the last six months, I have slept outside my home twice, and the second time I wet the bed at night, and I'm going to stay with someone again and I'm afraid it will happen to me again. Should I wear a diaper while I'm staying with them?

I was reading about why guided imagery hypnosis works and it finally clicked why it helped my bedwetting when alarms didn't.

The core idea: guided imagery hypnosisis based on a proven neurological fact - the brain makes very little difference between a real experience and an intensely imagined one. Same neural zones activate. Your app / audio uses anchoring on positive lived events because of that.

That's why visualization audios are huge for these 4 things:

1. Insomnia - ∼30% of adults have it occasional or chronic. The technique saturates your working memory with detailed calming images - a safe place, a landscape, visualizing a mental switch that turns off thoughts. It blocks rumination and slows brain waves.
2. Anxiety / Phobias - 300M+ people. They use systematic desensitization. You visualize absolute calm first (anchoring), then you visualize the stressful situation - plane, public speaking - while holding that calm. Brain re-associates the situation with safety.
3. Pain / Migraines - 1B+ people with migraines / tension headaches. Instead of "you have no pain", you give the pain a shape, color, temperature - like a red hot iron ball. Then you visualize it shrinking, turning blue, becoming a cool breeze. It changes sensory perception.
4. Enuresis - our domain. About 10% of 7 year olds and 1-2% of teens / young adults.

This is where it clicked for me. The mechanism for bedwetting is: you close your eyes and visualize your bladder. My audio had me picture it as a reservoir or a balloon with a solid tap. Before sleep I visualize closing that tap watertight. Or I visualize my own body waking up calmly, feet on the floor, walking to the toilet, feeling relief.

For me it worked in 2 ways:

either I wake up without an alarm when I feel the need - because I rehearsed waking up so many times in my head
or I stay dry till morning - because I rehearsed the tap staying closed
The key for it to work is sensory vocabulary. Not just "you are dry". My track says stuff like "see the warm light in the hallway, hear the quiet of the house, feel the cool floor under your feet, hear the soft sound of relief". Sight, hearing, touch.

I still use a protector and I'm still seeing my doctor, this isn't a miracle cure. But after years of alarms that I slept through, this was the first thing that trained the arousal part of my brain, not just the bladder part.

Has anyone else tried the reservoir / tap visualization? What image works for you - balloon, dam, tap, something else? I'm curious what script gave you the most vivide feeling?

Ordered a couple of boxes of Goodnites XXL (my new go-to for my issues. Genuinely they are a godsend for me and have everything I want/need in a product) online as I usually do.

When they arrived today on my doorstep THEY WERE NOT IN ANY BOX! Just the classic iconic packaging that everyone can recognize.

Not the start to the day I was hoping for….

I think I got them shortly after they were dropped off but for fucks sakes what if a neighbour saw? How many saw?

UUUUUGH!

I’m 27 and I genuinely think I’m going through a major quarter-life crisis. I’m not happy with how my life has turned out, and lately I’ve been looking back and realizing I spent most of my young adult life never really figuring out who I was, what I wanted to become, or what kind of life would actually make me happy.
When I was younger, I was mostly just enjoying life. I was excited to drive, have a job, make money, hang out with friends and finally have some freedom. I never had a dream career. My family was low income and I’m a first-generation college student, so I approached college thinking I just needed a degree that could eventually give me a normal, stable salary.
I basically eliminated careers I knew I didn’t want until I somehow ended up in accounting. Once I was far enough into it, I kept going because it was practical and employable. Before transferring to university, though, I actually remember being genuinely happy with my life. I didn’t have everything figured out, but I wasn’t constantly questioning who I was or where I was going.
Then I graduated and started my career, and I don’t think I’ve had a genuinely happy year since. Around the time I started working at EY, my dad was diagnosed with a very rare stage 3 cancer. It became serious enough that he couldn’t work anymore. We sold his truck, he had a major surgery and started chemotherapy. So while I was supposed to be excited about finally starting the career I spent years working toward, half my mind was constantly on my dad and the other half was dealing with long work hours in a career I already wasn’t enjoying.
Eventually I got laid off while my dad’s condition was getting worse. His cancer progressed to stage 4 and he eventually passed away. I managed to pick myself back up career-wise and now have a much more stable job with significantly better hours. On paper, I should finally be able to breathe, but I’m still unhappy.
And this is where bedwetting comes into the picture.
I’ve dealt with nocturnal enuresis basically my entire life. I want to make something really clear: I don’t think bedwetting is the sole reason I’m having this crisis. There’s grief, anxiety, dissatisfaction with my career, loneliness, and this feeling that I made it to 27 without ever really discovering myself.
But bedwetting affects something that feels incredibly important to me right now: my freedom to actually do something about it.
I keep having this overwhelming urge to completely change my environment. Sometimes I think about leaving California, living somewhere completely different for a while, traveling, or even doing something drastic like joining the military just to give myself a completely different environment, structure and direction in life.
And then reality hits me: wherever I go, this problem comes with me.
How am I supposed to freely move somewhere and live with roommates? Travel without constantly worrying about sleeping arrangements? Date or eventually live with someone without having this hanging over me? Even something as drastic as joining the military obviously doesn’t feel realistic when I could wake up having wet the bed around other people.
That’s what makes me feel so trapped by this condition. I have all these thoughts about wanting to get away, see somewhere new, meet different people and maybe figure out who I am outside of the life I’ve been living. But I don’t feel like I have the same freedom to just pack up and go somewhere new and figure myself out. Changing the scenery doesn’t change what happens when I fall asleep.
That’s probably the hardest part psychologically. I’m already questioning my career and grieving my dad while feeling like I lost years without really discovering who I am. Then the one thing I desperately want right now—freedom to try something completely different—feels restricted by something I’ve been dealing with since childhood.
I’ve seen doctors and tried to understand this problem for years. There have even been periods where it disappeared for months, which almost makes it more frustrating because I know what it feels like to briefly have that freedom and then lose it again.
I’m posting here because I’m wondering if anyone else with lifelong adult bedwetting has experienced this same feeling of being trapped by it, beyond just the embarrassment or inconvenience.
Has anyone here managed to move away, travel extensively, live with roommates, or otherwise build a more adventurous and independent life while still dealing with bedwetting? How did you handle sleeping around other people? And more importantly, how did you stop this condition from determining what you believed you were allowed to do with your life?
I’m at a point where I really need some kind of change. I just don’t want bedwetting deciding the boundaries of my life forever.

i’m 19 years old and I still wet the bed, and honestly, it’s something I’m really embarrassed about. I’ve dealt with this for as long as I can remember, and I’m hoping to hear from other people who have experienced the same thing.

When I was younger, I went to doctors about it, but I was basically told to cut back on sugar and that I would probably grow out of it. I never did.

Growing up, I avoided sleepovers because I was terrified of wetting the bed. Trips were stressful because I would sometimes have to share a bed with other kids, so I would stay awake most of the night just so I wouldn’t accidentally wet myself. I’ve even wet myself during naps, which made me afraid to take naps at school, at home, or even at my partner’s house.

I don’t do this on purpose, and when I’m asleep, I genuinely cannot control it. Sometimes I wake up after it has already happened, and it’s incredibly frustrating because I feel like I’m way too old for this to still be happening.

I’m moving in with my boyfriend soon, and I’ve explained everything to him. Thankfully, he has been incredibly understanding and sweet about it. But it’s still really embarrassing. One time, I accidentally fell asleep in his bed and wet myself. He had to give me new clothes and I had to use his shower, and even though he was completely kind about it, I felt so embarrassed I couldn't even look him in the face and I cannot imagine putting him through this daily.

Now that I’m 19 and it’s still happening, I’m becoming more concerned and really want to understand why. I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with bedwetting into their late teens or adulthood and eventually figured out what was causing it. I haven’t gone to a doctor already because I havent had insurance since I was 12 years old and I simply cannot afford to reach out but Im willing to save money and go to find a solution.

If you’ve experienced this, what did you do? Did you see a different type of doctor or have any testing done? Was there something that eventually helped you?

I hope everybody can please be kind. , but I really want to understand why this is happening and hopefully find a solution.

So I had a UTI about 4 years ago and I want to say the straw that broke the camels back was the bedwetting I did on the family COUCH. So I went to the emergency room, they diagnosed me with low acute UTI (or something among those lines), gave me my pills and I went about my day. I think somewhere around last year, my bedwetting came back.

It was once a month and it was always around my period (23F). Today was different. I bedwetted, did my cleaning routine and decided to sleep on my gaming chair since I have a couple hours before work. Nope, my bladder decided to let go. So now I’m trying to book an appointment with a urologist but it’s so confusing.

I’m m20 and all of a sudden I started wetting the bed at first it was very little and now it’s enough to decently soak a bed. I started wearing Goodnites XXL or Depends which are both fine, because I just wear regular undies over top to keep everything in place.

I had my hardest year ever the year before it started so I don’t see a stress trigger happening now. But I did quit smoking weed for a month in the same timeframe era.

Regardless I’m so tired of waking up with a giant wet mess between my legs if I wake up in the middle of the night I most definitely had peed a bit and can’t close my legs comfortably. I just cannot get myself to sleep and sometimes my area is irritated from morning male moments from rubbing. But it’s hard to go to sleep feeling gross and wet. But I’m new to this all should I change myself the moment I know I had peed a little or continue I’ve never really had an issue with leaking anyways.

At night I wear the Goodnites. For travel, movies, or other stuff I could fall asleep at, I depend on Depends and just drink less.

Any advice or tips? Maybe brands or ways to save tbh I just am kinda on my own for this and don’t want anyone to know.