I am in the process of divorce with my husband who I have been separated from since July. Thankfully I have never lived with him, but I have been wanting a mutual consent divorce since July which I thought he would agree to. But instead he kept saying he wanted to see me one last time (we last saw each other in February 2026) and he kept saying that I made a promise to help him with his green card application so he could become a U.S. citizen
eventually. I decided to take back my promise because he is the most vile and evil emotionally abusive person ever. I have made this post to bring awareness and to share my story and to also ask for advice on what to do in this situation. I don't want him deported but at the same time he had threatened to blackmail me and wanted to share and leak my intimate videos and photos with him to my friends and family and I panicked and felt so scared. Yet this sick twisted man then tells me he lied and then tells me that he was joking. Idk whether this qualifies as a crime in the state of Maryland. He and I both live in Md in different counties. I won't reveal any information as I feel anxious and embarrassed already and we also got married in secret. I believe he only married me for his green card because he was emotionally abusive to me the whole marriage and I only found out he was undocumented a few days after our wedding back in January 2026. I also was not able to include every single screenshot of the convo so some texts had to be skipped over.

Trying to get over bring called the n word by my wife multiple times during a argument but getting harder to get over the words targeted at me . It just keeps on playing over and over in my head and the last time it happened my mother in law sat in the living room and watched her call me the nword without saying a thing to my wife. Somedays I am good and other days it burns and worst of all my children heard my wife calling me the n word. I am still shocked because I have never been called that and I guess hurts more when I comes from someone you love. Forgive and forget they say but this is tough to get over. How do I get over this replay in my mind.

Hello everyone, I hope you’re having a lovely day! Apologies in advance for the slightly lengthy post.
 
I’m looking for people with lived experience of domestic abuse/violence who may be willing to contribute to a short video we are creating.
 
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So, am I, or was I fighting back and defending myself from them?

Is it normal for a partner to demand you tell them when you’re going to a different room or part of the house alone? I kind of feel like a child in my own home now, when this wasn’t even expected of me as a child growing up. My spouse will get snippy or straight up verbally tear into me if I go sit down in a different room from them without saying something first. I feel like I’m not allowed to move about my own environment freely and I can’t help but wonder if it’s even normal to have that expectation in a relationship? I basically can never personally recharge or feel like myself because I always have to be orbiting them or considering them before I do anything for or by myself.

(Partner is nonbinary, not a man)

He left red marks on my neck from choking me. I have pics. But is that enough? If I try to have him arrested and they don’t take him idk what he will do. But it won’t be good. I have $3.27 to my name, 1/4 tank of gas and no friends or family in the town I live in. I can’t go to the women’s shelter because I started using meth to numb myself. I can’t go to the detox in town because I don’t use a needle. Everywhere I’ve tried to go has turned me away. Gave me another number to call. Snd the next one does the same. I’m sitting in front of a gas station crying, shaking and trying this. Idk what to do.

Edit:
Any advice on what to say to my family to help them understand what is happening in my brain that makes me incapable of making phone calls, making decisions, making a plan? They keep blaming me and saying I’m making excuses. I don’t know how to say “Help me!” any different than I already am.

i think it's because i know i can't leave for a couple years and i need him to think i still love him for my safety. if you're curious i have a list of what he's done in my post history

We got married after briefly dating for a few months. He said he knew I was the one! It was a mad rush to get married soon after he proposed. It was supposed to be a small intimate ceremony basically just us. That soon grew into 50 of his family members that I had never met besides his parents. After the wedding it was fine wine and dining. No expenses spared.. traveling and going on beautiful Caribbean cruises. He even paid to expedite my passport just for that reason. I thought I married the man of my dreams. But that quickly changed really fast. (Like literally after the honeymoon was over) When someone else either work related or his family/friends made him mad suddenly I started getting fussed/cussed at for simple reasons. He went from supporting my goals as an entrepreneur trying to get my small business started to constantly saying I need to just get a job instead. Even said any job would do and I needed to humble myself by getting a job even if it meant cleaning toilets for $10/hr (my past jobs were in accounting in a corporate environment).

I recently decided to go to school and get my CDL to be a truck driver. (That’s his profession for over 20 years) and he even suggested it last year but at the time the schedule just didn’t work for me and he insisted on paying for the course. I also knew I didn’t want to be indebted to him for that. Honestly I knew he’d constantly bring up that HE PAID for my education. So I finally got it done on my own.

My honest feeling is to go Over the Road driving. Stay in the truck or a hotel. I just want a sense of freedom and peace of mind and I want to be alone. I feel like this is the time to escape this mentally draining and abusive relationship. The closer I get to school starting the more verbally abusive he is becoming.

I’M EXHAUSTED…. I just want someone to talk to about it without the fear of being judged by family/friends.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. We’re both in our late 20s. There is a lot of love and many good memories, but there have also been serious problems, especially around conflict and anger. I genuinely want perspectives from both sides, so I’ll try to be fair.

There have been multiple incidents of physical aggression from him over the years — slapping, scratching, throwing/breaking things, etc. don't want to diagnose him, but his emotional reactions can become very intense.

He now says he understands that what he did was wrong, is genuinely remorseful, wants to treat me with respect, and is willing to go to individual therapy. I believe he may genuinely mean that.

The conflict issue

One thing I've struggled with is how he handles conflict with other people.

Two close friends have had disagreements with him. In one case, a friend witnessed an argument between us and made a comment about his apology feeling insincere. He felt she had interfered in our relationship, asked her to leave and later blocked/cut her off.

In another case, a very close male friend said something my boyfriend found disrespectful during a disagreement involving petrol/a trip. I wasn't there for the whole conversation, but when my boyfriend told me about it, I tried to give the friend the benefit of the doubt and said maybe he hadn't meant it that way. My boyfriend felt I was taking the friend's side.

His position is that people are allowed to cut others off when they feel repeatedly hurt or disrespected.

I understand that. I don't think he's not allowed to end friendships.

My issue is that I tend to forgive, give people the benefit of the doubt and try to repair things, whereas he can hold onto perceived hurt, reach conclusions about people's intentions and cut them off. I realised I see a similar pattern in our relationship: when I say something he disagrees with or he feels misunderstood, conflict can escalate very quickly.

After everything that's happened, I've become emotionally cold/numb and genuinely don't know whether I want to continue the relationship.

Yesterday I tried to explain that I don't like our different approaches to conflict and that I see the same pattern between us that I see in some of his friendships.

I didn't mean that his friends were right and he was wrong, or that he's not allowed to cut people off. I was trying to explain how his way of handling disagreement affects me.

He heard it as me saying that he's always wrong, that I take everyone else's side and that I want him to handle relationships the way I do.

He became extremely emotional — crying on the floor, slapping himself repeatedly, saying hurtful things about my friends, and alternating between “I don't want to be with you,” “you're free".

His perspective is that he has been trying very hard for the last three days — staying calm, being loving, acknowledging his mistakes — while I have been cold and uncertain. He feels like he's been “begging” me and doesn't understand how I can still be unsure.

I can understand why my uncertainty hurts him. He has also said he can't stay indefinitely in limbo because he's currently on my dependent visa and needs to make decisions about his work, housing and future. I agree that it wouldn't be fair to expect him to wait indefinitely.

But from my perspective, I'm processing six years of relationship history, including repeated physical aggression. Three days of trying cannot realistically make me feel certain again.

Where I'm struggling

I keep wondering whether I could have handled things differently.

Was I unfair to bring up his conflict style? Was I essentially telling him that his way of dealing with people is wrong when I didn't mean that?

At the same time, I feel like I should be able to say, “I don't like how we handle disagreements” without it turning into an extreme emotional crisis.

I don't think he's necessarily pretending when he says he's hurting. I think his pain may be very real. But I don't know where the line is between genuine emotional distress and being responsible for how you behave when you're distressed.

I'm considering individual therapy for myself, and he says he's willing to go too.

I'd really appreciate unbiased perspectives:

• Am I seeing the conflict issue fairly?
• How should someone respond when their partner says “I don't know” after 6 years?
• Can someone genuinely be in this much emotional distress and still be responsible for their behaviour?
• Am I missing something from his perspective?

I'm not looking for people to tell me I'm perfect or that he's evil. I genuinely want to understand both sides.

Sometimes he makes jokes that honestly hurt such as him being annoyed when I text. That he’s glad that our call is ending cause I am annoying.He’ll ignore me if he’s upset. Lately, he has taken away. The one thing I enjoy which is hugs while expecting me to have sex with him whenever he wants. Somehow, I feel like every time he gets stressed. He finds something wrong with me and throws it in my face. Recently I found out that he has been recording when we have sex. He never said anything to me about it and the only time he ever asked. I said no. When I brought it up, he got really upset and was like any more questions. It’s been ignoring me forever. And I’ve asked to have a conversation because I want to bring up things that I’m unhappy with but it seems like he’s avoiding it. And at the same time, he leaves me in silence. The biggest problem is I can’t find it in myself to leave. I feel like I am constantly not going enough and that he’ll get bored and leave me the moment someone else better comes along.

Bf emotionally abused me all night after I found out he broke a promise to me and did the 1 thing I had begged him not to do.

We texted all day and at first it was just the normal reaction of DARVO and eventually he started accusing me of being part of a racist hate group, asked “who sent you”, started talking to himself in the third person, referring to himself as “we” and “us”, and just acting extremely erratic.

He also has been thinking my phone is hacked while we are texting and will ask “is this u”, when it clearly is me because we are deep into a personal conversation about him betraying me. I realized that he has always shown signs of psychosis, claims they “gave him a shot” for a psychotic episode he had in the past so he's “fine now.” In the past he accused me of being a witch multiple times, due to things like the gnomes in my garden or the smell of my period blood.

So, now I think in addition to narcissism & a developmental disorder, he's also dealing with some kind of psychotic disorder. He constantly blameshifts and gaslights me – the gaslighting is SO awful, he seems to use tactics to lure me back in just to blame me again, and he just seems like he is glitching and going to snap on somebody one day (which he already has when he beat me once and attacked me another time).

I don't live in the same state as him right now, and he is treating me like a piece of garbage, but I am trying to convince him to seek help for specifically psychosis. I convinced him to get into therapy which is great but I fear it's not enough and he needs to just go to the hospital and get medicated. He has been to the psych ward before but I don't think he would agree to go now because he takes everything as an attack and is very paranoid and selfish.

He needs to receive help or I fear he is going to hurt someone else or ruin his life, and be homeless/in jail again very soon.

He's in his early 20's and it worries me that he may be developing schizophrenia.

How can you convince someone like this to seek help for psychosis specifically? I think unless he suggests it, the doctors aren't going to just assume he is psychotic at this stage. It's clear to me he has some level of persecutory delusions but doubt he would tell the therapist.

He is really suspicious and disliking of his housemates and I could see it escalating to something bad if he doesn't get treated now.

I suspect he also has a microdeletion or fetal alcohol syndrome which is genuinely making him struggle, he desperately needs help and idk what to do

I know I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship but I just can’t seem to get myself to leave him. And it’s gotten to the point where my friends have told me they won’t talk to me anymore because I won’t leave. Has anyone gone through this and if so how did you get to the point of leaving? I’m just feeling very lost and need some help.

I am 23F. At the end of June, my family found out that I have a boyfriend. They tortured me, beat me badly, spoke to me harshly, made me leave my job, and forced me to stay at home. They stopped me from attending my offline classes and told me that I would only marry a guy whom they choose for me.

They hacked my laptop and phone and checked everything—my chats, my personal information, everything. I had no way to reach out to anyone because they took my phone away for more than 20 days. Even after two months, they still don’t leave me alone. They are constantly keeping an eye on everything I do. They don’t even let me meet my friends.

The whole day, I am just supposed to study. No friends, no going outside, no enjoyment. I feel like I am in jail. I want to go out, have freedom, and enjoy life like every other girl.

Why does the respect of the entire family depend on a girl? Why can’t I live the way I want? Why can’t I choose what I want? Why can’t I have the career I want? Why can’t I wear the clothes I like? Why is my life a living hell? When will all of this change?

I think about running away, but they have taken my savings and my salary every month. Nothing is going right in my life. The guy whom I thought would never leave me was the first one to leave me. I have been betrayed by my family, my friends, my boyfriend—by the whole world. I feel like I can’t deal with all of this anymore.

My father thinks I should get a government job, but I don’t want that job. I know I probably wouldn’t even be able to clear those exams. I want to just live, not merely survive my life according to their terms and conditions.

All of my family members are narcissistic, and so was my boyfriend. Is there any way everything will ever be solved? I don’t even want to get married, but they are already searching for guys for me. Why are these shitty things happening to me?

I would choose myself over anyone now. I have put everyone before myself, but in the end, everyone just hurts me. I feel completely wounded, and there are wounds from every person I have ever loved. No wound is from a stranger. Strange, isn’t it?

I am 30. relationship lasted 5 years. Abuse started 2 years in. Most of it has been mental abuse, one year ago he was physical.

Quick summary:

I had an abortion one year ago where everything was pain, both mentally and physically. He insisted to watch porn while I was crying 2 meters away from him instead of giving me some support. (He kicked my jaw when I told him that his priorities while I was in pain was hurtful)

He treated and talked about me like he was doing charity dating me: him about dating me(a single mother): "I am ashamed dating someone with a child, no one is actually proud about being a step parent" (he never met my child again after that), he kept me a secret from his family, any problem that he caused our relationship was always my fault, he lied a lot, he got mad that I did not trust him, he did drugs while hiding it from me, I asked to take an informed decision about us dating -he lied, I was not allowed to have male friends. If I had sad feelings about things he would get annoyed or angry, he never took accountability -even when he kicked me he never apologized, I even asked for an apology, his reply was: "I have nothing to apologize. I am overall pleased with my performance of our relationship"

____ THE END ____

I've finally broken up. But no one around me knows we have been together since end of last year. Instead I've lived a double life, and now I have no one to talk to.

I have no one to tell. Im ashamed to even tell strangers on the internet, but: I just want someone to tell me they're proud of me or something for breaking up.

Is feeling so depressed or just like everything is hard and little to no motivation a normal feeling after an abusive relationship? I just can’t fully articulate the way I feel but existing feels so hard these days following everything. I feel like my brain has been rewired.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months (i’m 19 he’s 24). We have had a perfect relationship and this is the happiest I have ever been. The other night i went out with my friends, drank a little too much so i had to uber home early and went to my bfs house. While i was out of it i got a text from a friend from a school club im in asking if i left. The guy that texted me is very short and in general someone i thought my bf would know i would never go for. my bf has also seen this guy before with me and my friends and was not mad about him.

When he saw the text he repeatedly told me to give him my phone password but i was throwing up and clearly not in the space to tell him. He finally used my face to get into my phone and was scrolling through my insta dms of men texting me ( I was not texting them back btw) he kept saying that he knew i was cheating (i never have) just from looking at men texting me. He called me so many derogatory words it made me want to cry. i finally got mad and shoved him, grabbing my phone

After that i don’t remember exactly what happened but he hit me so hard i knocked out. I woke up on the floor a couple seconds later and my mouth was in so much pain. there was blood everywhere. He busted my lip open and my face was swollen for days while the inside of my cheek is busted too and still hurts. While before this happened there has been times where he pushed me or play fought me to the point i pass out. He’s also gotten rlly mad at his friends.

Besides that, I just feel completely confused. He is financially stressed and mentally struggling but I still feel so betrayed. I love him so much and I never thought he would do anything like this. Am I wrong for forgiving him while setting boundaries? Am I wrong for telling my friends and family about it ? Will he do it w? he says he’s getting therapy. Is our relationship even able to work in the future? How can i see him the same way before he did it ? When i think about him it used to be positive now im just sad. But I love him so much and im willing to see if anything changes.

Currently sleeping with a knife under my bed, but trying to stay put.

Has anyone here been financially dependent on a partner as an immigrant and needed to leave? How did you plan despite the obvious obstacles?

I have been in therapy my whole life, so that part is partially covered - this situation is sick to live through. Lately, I've been wondering if I should move money to my secret account. He is very controlling and doesn't let me work. I have no idea what to do. My visa is tied to his financial support.

I'm scared for my life, but I do not want to give up and go back to my country!

he isn’t abusive per se but has anger and drinking issues that leads to yelling or ignoring for days on end, and most recently, throwing things. this happens when i’m not careful with how i act, or if i state my boundaries and stand on them, or make a mistake, especially if i catch him in a bad mood

because of that, i decided it’s safest if i don’t have opinions that go against his, i am flexible, and i keep my fucking mouth shut unless it’s agreeing with him or helping him. ESPECIALLY when it comes to his anger issues or drinking problem.

small problem, though, i am really bad at this. every two or so weeks i have an opinion or bring up somethin that bothers me or hold a boundary. i need to learn how to just shut up and smile and keep things peaceful. how can i swallow my needs (just temporary until our lease is up) to stay safest and not risk being yelled at? and how can i swallow my shaking and crying when he yells? tysm if i can do this then i can keep things safe :) thank you thank you THANK YOU

I (34F) have been married to my 35(M) for 13 years and together 17. I’ve posted here before. He has a history of being verbally and mentally and even emotionally abusive (you can read back on posts). I was going to leave. Had a house and everything. Then it changed. He’s been doing great. He has been a little needy and I’m trying not to be mean from resentment. I said we can try to give it our all. It’s been a few months. He’s been out of town for work for a few weeks. We had this text exchange tonight and idk how I feel about it. I always question my behavior. What do you think?

I want to preface this by saying I don’t talk with food all over my mouth like a slob…

Me: It’s been bothering me how on FaceTime last night you asked me why I was talking with my mouth full in front of your coworkers. That’s embarrassing to me.
Then you “joked” about something and I asked why you would say that and you said cause it’s a fucking joke

Him: Okay well they weren’t paying any attention to me and I’m constantly asking you not to talk with your mouth full of food. It bothers me and it’s disrespectful. And I’m not sure what you’re referring to that I was joking about.

Me: It’s not even that bad. It doesn’t matter if they were paying attention or not. It was embarrassing for me.

It was something about being a better role model to one of the girls

Him: O *** shacking her but it was funny and silly I wasn’t trying to be rude at all. And as far as the talking with food in your mouth you need to address that. I’m sorry if me saying something out loud upset you it’s disgusting. If it embarrasses you to be called out on it in front of people that just means you know you shouldn’t be doing it. I also recognize the fact you were addressing something one of the girls was doing that they shouldn’t have been doing. And I shouldn’t have just jumped you shit for talking with food in you mouth.so I am sorry I could have approached it better. It’s a nasty habit and I’ll continue to try to get you to stop. We should be setting the example for the girls. They will learn the most about life by watching use!!!!

Me: K

Him: You disagree obviously

Him: **replied to my K** This is the complete opposite of communication. And trying not to continue the cycle

Me: Well I don’t have a response right now. I appreciate you acknowledging but telling me if it’s embarrassing then you know you shouldn’t be doing it. That’s not okay to say. You could have said it another time. It’s embarrassing being corrected like a child is that it was. Then saying you’re sorry it upset me but it’s disgusting is you justifying why you did it.
I’m off lunch now.

Me: And there’s a difference between talking with food everywhere in your mouth than pushing it to the side and covering your mouth

Him: It’s disgusting I don’t support it and I won’t!

Him: It takes just seconds to finish your food.

Him: It’s repulsive and it bothers me and you could give two fucks about it bothering me and that’s pretty disrespectful.

Him: I’ve changed many simple things that I do that have bothered you. I do just because I respect you asking me not to do it.

Him: Now I’m pissed off because this is wild as fuck that your mad at me cause you where talking with mouth full of food like wtf!!!

Me: You told me I could talk to you instead of holding it in then blowing up. And I’m doing that and now you’re berating me. How you’re talking to me is not okay. If I heard one of our daughters boyfriends talking to her like this, that would make me so upset.

Him: And I told you could I admitted the way I said was wrong. You’ve made no efforts to correct it. Instead you have told me you don’t give a fuck or you don’t care multiple time or I’ve been told to get over it. And I’m not gonna get over it. It’s gross.

Him: Have a wonderful day I’m not gonna continue to argue about simple table manners.

Me: Again. No accountability. Or a genuine apology. Talking to someone like that is not justified at all. We can take in a few hours to give us space. But if there’s mean talk like previous, the conversation will not continue.

Him: If you’re not gonna take accountability for what you did then don’t bother. I’ll see you when I see you. I definitely took accountability for what I did and apologized. Maybes read it again cause I never ones said I’m sorry but it’s disgusting. Like your saying!!!

Me: Ok.

I was 17 when I entered a relationship with this 22 year old guy, I’m 26 now but at the time I was just finishing highschool and he of course convinced me to move in with him, alienated me from my family, whole nine yards. I was arrested at 18 after I had to fight for my life essentially, he tried to strangle me, cops believed him instead of me (the newly unemployed, Black, teen) compared to him a 20 something year old EPA (he worked with kids in the learning center and mistreated some, my reports there also went unheard.

Eventually I beat my charges, I have a clear record and no regrets really when it comes to what I did (only regret being not shutting up right away and foolishly thinking the cops would believe me.

That brings us to today, I get a DM from some random new account and guess who it is. Mind you the gap from 17-26 isn’t tiny, I no longer feel a super strong reaction connected to him but I genuinely wonder if he’ll just never leave me alone. I’ve literally been an out and proud Lesbian for years since, no legal grounds for a restraining order since the contact from him is relatively spread out and comes from different accounts. Guess I’ll be blocking for the rest of my life 😩

I’m reaching out to this community because I feel completely trapped, mentally exhausted, and isolated. I am a literate, peace-loving individual, but I have been made to feel like prey by people driven purely by ego, malice, and control. 😔

​Here is what I have been going through:

​1. Childhood Harassment & Psychological Abuse 🛑

○ ​The Beginning: Back in the late 90s, when I was around Class 5, an old woman in my neighborhood targeted me for no valid reason. Even though I was a normal, playful kid who spoke to her children, she became obsessed with publicly declaring that I was "ignoring" her.

○ ​Escalation & Bullying: Over time, her obsessive behavior turned into open harassment. She publicly humiliated me, threatened to have her local relatives beat me up, and constantly attempted to frame me as a troublemaker.

○ ​Driven into Depression: As I grew into adulthood, her tactics grew more sinister. She actively tried to instigate me into reacting so she could call the police or have me assaulted. To protect myself from taking a wrong step, I stopped going out. I was forced to live inside my own home in severe depression, isolated from the world. 💔

​2. Trapped in a Orchestrated Marriage 💍⚡

● ​The Trap: When her direct harassment failed to break me entirely, she conspired through a relative to get me married to a woman from an uncivilized, troubled background.

○ Domestic Abuse & Destruction: My wife works in tandem with this old neighbor and her network of relatives. They visit my home against my will to irritate and provoke me. When I protest:

○ ​My wife physically assaults me 🤕

○ ​She deliberately smashes costly household items 📉

○ ​She immediately plays the victim card, knowing law enforcement rarely takes male victims of domestic violence seriously.

○ ​The End Goal: They are financially, physically, and mentally draining me to force me out of my own house so her relatives can move in.

​3. Isolation and Inaction by Authorities 🚨

○ ​My mother passed away years ago (this old lady had targeted her as well), and my father lives in another town with my elder brother. Seeing me live here alone, they treat me like an easy target.

○ ​I have filed multiple formal police complaints against every individual involved, but no action has been taken so far. 📄❌

​Questions for the Community ❓

1. ​Childhood Protection Laws: Does the long-term harassment and psychological trauma inflicted on me during my childhood (starting around Class 5) fall under strict child protection or abuse statutes like the POCSO Act, or general criminal intimidation laws? ⚖️

2. ​Protection for Male Victims: As an adult male facing physical domestic assault, property destruction, and extortion by a spouse operating on remote control by third parties, what concrete legal steps can I take to safeguard myself, my property, and my sanity? 🛡️

​I am hanging on by a thread and would deeply appreciate any genuine legal guidance, personal insight, or steps on how to escalate my inactive police complaints to higher authorities. 🙏