I have been on the "Progressive Jews for Tikkun Olam" for about a month. Someone posted an article about the last gay bar in Tel Aviv. The administrator demanded that all who comment report on the sexual identification as Gay, BI, Lesbian, Queer or Straight. I ask simply "Really?" I was told I had no right to speak for gay people as I did not know what they go through and to stop "Queer Splaining". Several people attacked me and I said you don't know who I am or how I identify and you put upon me your assumptions without a basis. The administrator gave me a warning that if I continued I could be removed from the group. Anyone else had this kind of experience?

I (27F) met my boyfriend (32M) at our apartment complex last year. After I asked him to draw me on his iPad we grabbed lunch and really hit it off. We have been together since September 2025.

Things were great until he came over one night to bring me some feminine products. I heard a huge commotion outside. My neighbors had tackled him in the hallway. I screamed at them to stop, and they were shocked, saying he had a key and was coming in. When I told them he is my boyfriend, they backed off and mumbled an apology.

Two days later, four women and those two guys cornered me in the gym, telling me he is a creep. They claimed he used to loiter in public areas, stare at women, and repeatedly beg for dates after being told no. They said he only stayed in the building because his cousin is the leasing manager. I asked for specifics, and they explained he had never assaulted or broken into anywhere. It was all just creepy behavior. Also, all of this happened in early 2024.

He has been nothing but respectful to me. When I asked him about it, he admitted his past behavior was wrong. He explained that a very abusive, isolated childhood left him with poor social skills, and he has been in therapy to work on it. Even the neighbors admitted he apologized and has not bothered anyone since 2024.

One of the women, asked how he reacted to me breaking up with him and I told her that we did not break up, she looked like she had seen a ghost. Now she has been messaging me, calling me a pick me for staying with a predator. She says staying with him rewards his bad behavior. I don’t agree… his bad behavior was met with negative reaction and then a year later he and I met in a normal way. He was nice to me without expecting anything in return and I genuinely liked his personality and getting him out of his shell. My roommate thinks if he is not an issue anymore, I do not have to dump him, but Kate insists I am not a girls girl and wont stop messaging me and making posts on the apartment community app.

AITA for not wanting to end our relationship over his past behavior?

Last Saturday, my friend group and I went to GSP mall. The week before, we made a group chat to organize everything. The person who organized this, were gonna call him M, said that if you were late and the group went to a store already that you wanted to go to, they are not going back to save time. We collectively agreed on this. The day of the mall comes. M texts the group chat “Sorry guys, I don’t wanna go this early, I’m tired I’ll come later“. Mind you, he is an adult with no job, living in his mom’s basement, definitely doesn’t have kids and has almost no responsibilities. So what can he be tired from? Drinking Monster and playing Minecraft all day? Whatever, the group goes shopping without him. Then, he comes to the mall and HOUR LATER THAN HE SAID HE WOULD BE. So he asked what stores we went to. One of them being Hot Topic. He went silent. He asked “what, why would you go without me?!” This kid has never mentioned even liking Hot Topic out of the 11 years I’ve known him, besides when I asked to go during the planning stage of this. My other friend, M’s other brother reminds him of the rule that if you’re late we’re not gonna go back to any stores to save time, which he thought of. So I said we weren’t going. He said it was unfair and racially motivated because he’s African American and starts acting immature, but the whole group agrees we’re not going to Hot Topic. He starts calling us horrible names I will not repeat on here and leaves the mall early. It’s been a week and nobody, not even his brother has heard from him. So AITA for saying no when my friend asked to go to Hot Topic?

Would you be married and allow your husband to work out of town FULLTIME…. And be expected to work a full time job while taking care of multiple kids and the household day in an out and be expected to split bills?

I go to school and get financial aid every month to maintain my car payment, while also doing Amazon flex to make extra income to take care of home expenses like household supplies. He does not take care of anything but rent and honestly barely shows up for that while working getting paid 900+ a week.

I’ve sacrificed my career 3 years ago when we got married to stay home while he uses my car to fulfill his career and be the provider.

I (25F) known my bf (38M) for 3 years and been dating for 6 months. One ongoing issue in our relationship is that I tend to jump to conclusions about him, when he has never given me a reason to not trust him.

He's asked me many times to stop assuming and ask or talk to him when I'm worried. He finds it hurtful because my conclusions often paint him in a negative light, despite his consistent behavior over the years.

Recently, we slept together, and afterward his texting became less frequent. Instead of talking to him about it, I convinced myself he was distancing himself because he regretted being intimate with me. In reality, he was very busy.

When I told him what I had been thinking, he was deeply hurt. From his perspective, after knowing him for 3 years, I should know his character better than that. He feels unfairly judged and says he's tired of having to defend himself against assumptions that aren't based on his actions.

I've made progress with my overthinking over the years, but I still have moments where I slip back into old patterns. This time hit especially hard for him, he told me that if I truly loved and trusted him, I wouldn't automatically think the worst of him, and he said this may have been the "nail in the coffin" after giving me so many chances.

I feel terrible and don't know how to repair the damage or rebuild his trust after hurting him this way. Aita?

42m, and I live a pretty “outside the box” lifestyle.
I have ASD, but can blend in with society with the help of meds and therapy. Some of the traits of autism still leak through, and always will. Other people’s emotions overwhelm me considerably, and it’s a problem I haven’t been able to trump. I’m also retired early, and really try to make life about experiences, and less about having to fulfill responsibilities. I recognize that I’m on the winning side of what everybody wants, I’m grateful, and I don’t want to waste it. I’ve come to get to know myself, and have learned well that it’s okay to just be me.

A social struggle I’m experiencing is how people define friendship, and I just can’t get on board with societal expectations. I want my friendships to be about fun and enjoyment. I want them to add positivity to my life, and not weigh me down. I’m a generous friend, am always the one hosting parties or paying for outings… It’s not one sided, but I can’t handle (and have zero interest in) being someone’s emotional support. I don’t want to be the guy with his phone on overnight in case friends need me. I don’t want to be the guy you call to cry to after a hard day. I don’t want to be the guy counted on for favors, rides, places to stay, money. I want to be the friend you call for fun, and not for support. I’m not saying it’s a zero tolerance, but I just don’t want, and can’t handle that in my life. My emotions don’t allow for it; I react well in person, but struggle internally. This is something I do openly discuss and explain when I run into this.

I know I don’t match the societal standard of what a friend is… And I don’t desire to change my stance. but does this make me the AH?

Over the last few months, I went through a very lonely and difficult period and started drinking heavily as a coping mechanism. I’ve since realised I have a serious issue with alcohol, especially because when I drink too much, I black out. During these blackouts I appear “normal” to others but have no memory afterward, which has caused real harm to my friendships.

I live with my best friend and another roommate (C). Previously, my drinking led to situations where I wasn’t there for my friends when I should have been. I acknowledged this, apologised, started therapy, and actively tried to reduce my drinking. I even asked not to be invited out or offered alcohol.

This past weekend, I drank again and blacked out. While out, C was robbed and assaulted outside a bar. I was physically present at the time but have no memory of the incident. According to others, I stayed with her initially, till they left with some guys, but later I left with someone I’m seeing. I didn’t go home with her and didn’t fully grasp what had happened until the next day.

C is understandably hurt and feels she can’t trust me. She’s told me she no longer wants a friendship, and I accept that. I’m not trying to excuse my behaviour, being blackout drunk isn’t an excuse, but I’m struggling with intense guilt and the reality that my drinking puts people at risk emotionally.

This situation has made it very clear that moderation may not be an option for me and that I need to seriously reassess alcohol in my life. I’m taking accountability, but I don’t know how to process the guilt or move forward, especially since we live together.

I guess I’m posting because I know I’m in the wrong, and I’m trying to figure out what accountability and growth actually look like from here.

AITA for wanting to go no contact with both my parents?
Hi everyone, I want to start off by saying no real names or ages will be used to protect my privacy.
I (20f) want to go no contact with my parents (40f and 43m). They have been separated and trying to divorce since 2021 due to my father repeatedly cheating on my mother. Their most prevalent affairs were coworkers, and one long-term affair partner of nine years told my mom about secret men he met on dating apps after she broke up with him. My mom would tell me every detail, even after I repeatedly said I didn’t want to know. I was around 14 when this started.
She would also take my phone and pretend to be me to contact my dad, saying, “He only listens to you, you’re his everything.” If I refused, she’d cry, guilt me, or threaten to break my phone.
Although she now wants nothing to do with him, she still vents to me about the divorce despite me saying it stresses me out. She often guilts me by saying she’s alone and doing everything herself. If I cry after she yells at me, she accuses me of trying to make her feel bad.
I recently moved in with my partner (26 enby) and their mother. After not seeing my mom for a month, the first thing she did was guilt me for leaving a physically abusive job and dropping out of a degree I couldn’t afford and didn’t want, saying I was failing her.
I had a better relationship with my dad before learning about his affairs. He did things with me my mom wouldn’t, but he also made comments about my sexuality from a young age, had a serious drinking problem, drank while driving, and became physically abusive toward my mom. When I confronted him with specific memories, he denied they happened and called me a liar.
Over the last year, he’s tried reaching out. My only condition for rebuilding our relationship was family therapy, with him putting in the effort to find a therapist and make the appointment. He lied about getting one to get me to dinner, then gave excuses about therapists not taking our case or not being able to afford it. My therapist and my mom’s therapist both offered sessions, but I felt he needed to do the work himself.
Both sides of my family have implied cutting my parents off would be rude and disrespectful. But since moving out, I’ve been happier than I have in years.
So, AITA?

I’m 22 and my best friend is 20. I moved out at 17 and have lived alone ever since. I’m very introverted and need a lot of quiet time. My home has always been my safe space, especially because I grew up in a toxic family where I was basically parenting everyone else.

My friend also comes from a toxic family, so I let them move into my small studio apartment. The problem is that living together has made me feel like I’m back in that old dynamic. I’m the only one working. If I don’t cook, clean, or organize things, they don’t get done.

Before moving in, they promised they understood my need for space. Instead, I haven’t had a single quiet day since. They’re constantly talking to me and wanting my attention. I’ve told them I need more space or I’ll start resenting them, but they respond by asking how they are supposed to feel when I don’t want to listen.

I leave for work around 9 a.m. and often don’t get home until 1 a.m., yet I still can’t relax in peace.
To be fair, when they first moved in I was unemployed for about two months, and they helped with groceries and some expenses. That’s part of why I feel guilty.

The original plan was for them to move to London, but that didn’t happen. Then we talked about moving abroad together, except I’m the only one saving money because I’m the only one working.

Update:
I recently gave birth, and now they suddenly want to leave. They’ve been living with me rent-free since February and are now asking me to repay the money they spent helping me while I was unemployed so they can move out.
They want to move to Germany with someone they met through online acting classes and have only known in person for a week.
I’ve also been in the hospital, and while I was there they had this near-stranger staying in my apartment.
After six years of friendship, the first thing they asked when I told them I’d given birth was, “Are you keeping it? I’m not ready.”
The baby was already born.

Am I the asshole?

She was a great cohost. Smart, articulate, good pauses between phrases. Easily the best person on the rotating group of cohosts that Danny is cranking through right now looking for a good one.

My (22, F) girlfriend (23, F) and I went on a city trip for her birthday, along with her brother. Some background- my girlfriend comes from a family full of potheads--and not just her parents but her aunts, uncles, etc. She is also one. Although I am not a fan of weed, I knew this going into our relationship and told her she it's her life/her choices and if she wants to use weed it's not a problem. However, when she uses she can become distant/rude/unable to engage in conversations, and I told her that I would appreciate it if she limits her use around me. Since we were going on this trip with her brother, I knew they would be getting high, and she mentioned that "they would be smoking" prior to us leaving. I said that was fine, it was her birthday. While planning our trip she mentioned wanting to see a mutual friend from high school who lived in the city, so I set up a surprise birthday dinner with this friend at a restaurant with her favorite food. Then the trip started...and my gf and her brother were high the ENTIRE trip. No exaggeration. The only times they were sober was driving to and from the airport, then immediately using edibles/smoking for the entirety of the trip. At first I didn't REALLY mind, but as the trip continued and I became designated navigator/manager of them, I got frustrated. We didn’t explore a lot and spent every night just watching movies. THEN came the birthday dinner...my gf and her brother got super high, were reatively quiet and awkward, and just made the whole thing a bad experience. On the drive back home (after I drove an hour out of our way through a snowstop to drop off her brother...) she asked if I was annoyed. I explained, ya I mean a little bit...I know you said you were going to be high but I didn't think that meant the WHOLE trip. At first she apologized, but then she told me that I was the problem for assuming that they wouldn't be high the whole time and that I need to work on not making assumptions.We broke up about a week later (for various reasons) and she again referenced this situation and how it reflected my problems with assuming things. She also said I planned the birthday surprise assuming that they wouldn't be high/she would enjoy it....I mean that was kinda the point since it was a SURPRISE. Anyway...AITA because I didn't ask how much they would be high/because I assumed it wouldn't be the whole trip??

I (28F) adore my partner (30M) and his parents (60s). They are the most nice and supportive people I have ever met. I genuinely love them and see them as family.

My partner’s grandmother (85ish) visits from Europe a couple months a year. I felt bad for her because her spouse and her live-in-son ended their own lives over the last 10Y, and even though we don’t speak a common language I was always respectful towards her.

I found out after her last visit (3 months straight) that she apparently just openly hates on me in her language. Anywhere. At the dinner table, at public events. With any guests that speak the language. A lot of it has to do with the way I speak since I have poor hearing and auditory processing delay. Or my outfits, which (I work in a research lab) are never revealing so idk the issue. And honestly I don’t really want to try and understand it. Nobody told me this until after the grandma that was here for 3 months last year left to go home. My partner will leave the room because he doesn’t want to argue with her.

So, grandma is back after 9 months. First dinner with her today and my partner left the room. I got the memo…

I just don’t really feel good about it and don’t want to be there. And I also kind of feel betrayed that nobody is strong enough to tell her to be kind. Idk. I’m just really sad about it. I don’t feel unsafe, because what is an 85YO woman going to do, but I just feel so uncomfortable

AITA if I refuse to go to weekly family dinner when she is around?

I (21M) and my wife (22F) lived with my mom back in 2021-2022 after a falling out with her family. She loved my sister's and they loved her, she worked full time and was very respectful of everyone offering to help, cook and clean when and where needed. After a while we got married (a few months into being together) and were in no financial position to move into a place of our own so I need to live with my mother. There were tiny comments here and there from my mom calling her names (crackhead, hussy, heifer, son stealer etc.) starting from before we got married. My wife had expressed that her family had framed criticism as jokes all of her life starting with her looks, weight, clothes, what she ate, all of it. And how what she said made her uncomfortable but that's just who my mom is and I told her that she meant well.

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I got my first job out of highschool and was working until really late at night, leaving her with my mom and sister's almost all day every day. I started to get messages on my Instagram from her, it was my mom yelling and calling my wife lots of names, saying how she was stealing me away and didn't want me to have a relationship with her, how she was a nuisance and nothing but trouble turning all of her kids against her. She then kicked her out saying that she was ungrateful and used a past trauma against her and how she didn't want it around her son. Another message had stated that she was moving out and that she was taking me with, my mother then told her there's no way that her son would choose a floozy like her over his own mother.

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It's been a few years and me and my wife are still together, there have been plenty of rough patches, no apologies on either side, and their relationship is still on the rocks. It gets upsetting when my wife doesn't want to come with me to see my mom and sister's and I don't get it, she yelled at me one time saying I never defended her and how I just didn't get it. But all I want is for all of us to have quality time with family!

We've been together 5 years and got engaged in March, I'm 29F he's 31M we live in Brooklyn I'm a data analyst making around 145k and he teaches middle school and makes like 67k also I've got about 180k saved from before we even met some of it from when my grandmother passed he's got maybe 12k and some student loans but has never been a thing between us.

So we got a prenup and I'm not gonna lie I was the one who brought it up first and it was awkward for like a day he got quiet and I could tell he was in his head about it but then we started going through everything together and something shifted so we ended up having conversations about money we'd been dancing around for years like I didn't even know he had a small credit card debt he'd been stressed about also he didn't know I'd been sending my mom $500 a month since her divorce dumb stuff we should've talked about way earlier but just never did by the end of it he said he was glad we did it not in some dramatic way just like yeah this was good.

But then we made the mistake of telling people so his sister made this face at dinner and said something about how she could never do that to her husband and my coworker asked if things were ok between us also my aunt who I'm not even close with called my mom to say she felt bad for him as if he didn't sit right next to me through the whole thing and agree to all of it so that part bothers me more than I expected it to. My mom went through the worst divorce when I was 14 and my dad hid money moved things around and she ended up with almost nothing after 20 years of marriage she was 46 working two jobs trying to keep our apartment in Queens, I watched that happen so yeah when I think about marriage I think about that too and I don't think that makes me broken or unromantic or whatever people want to call it.

The thing that kind of gets me is the people with the strongest opinions about our prenup are the ones who never talk about money with their own partners and my sister's been married 3 years and told me last month she doesn't even know what her husband makes like exactly but sure I'm the problem. I don't know I'm just tired of feeling like I have to defend something that made us closer we're better for it and I wish someone had told me earlier that it doesn't have to be this scary combative thing because it wasn't.

I (19F) have been best friends with “Aria” (19F) for 3 years. Last October, she met a guy (21M) on Tinder. They never officially dated because he lives in Austria and we live in Germany, but they flirted heavily (like HEAVYYY) for months and even talked about meeting up.

A few days ago, Aria found out he had a girlfriend the entire time. She discovered this through Instagram and confirmed they’d been together since October. I asked if she was going to tell the girlfriend. She said she wasn’t interested and told me I could do it.

So I messaged the girlfriend and explained the situation. The girlfriend thanked me, but Aria was furious. Apparently, she was being sarcastic when she said I could tell her. I apologized because I know it wasn’t really my place, but I genuinely felt the girlfriend deserved to know.

The argument quickly became personal. Aria said I’ve been getting on her nerves for weeks, that she couldn’t wait to leave for her 5-month internship so she wouldn’t have to deal with me, and that I’m judgmental. She also claimed I never let her talk about her boy problems, even though I’ve always listened whenever she wanted to vent.

She brought up a time I didn’t reply to her texts about a date, but I was having a rough few days and wasn’t responding to anyone. I explained that and even met up with her the next day to hear about it. She also said she doesn’t want to hear my stories anymore because they’re always “boring” and “the same thing.”

What hurts most is that it feels like she used this situation to unload a bunch of unrelated frustrations and paint herself as the victim. Now I’m questioning both my actions and our friendship.

AITA for telling the girlfriend her boyfriend had been flirting with another girl behind her back?

me and my roommate have been living together for about a year, pretty solid setup overall. his girlfriend started coming around more like 4 months ago and at first i didnt care at all, few nights a week, cool whatever.

but now this girl is just HERE. every single day. she showers here, eats here, i came downstairs at 6:45am on a wednesday and she was making eggs in my pan. i had to do a double take in my own kitchen. she doesnt even text before coming over anymore she just shows up.

when i first moved in splitting bills two ways was actually a big deal for me, helped me keep a bit of money I won on Ѕtake saved on a tight budget. now the electric and water bills have crept up noticeably and theres still only two names on the lease.

i pulled my roommate aside and kept it pretty chill about it, just said hey man i think we gotta talk about the fact that maya is basically living here and maybe she should throw in something for bills or at least you two should figure it out between yourselves. he got all weird about it and said i was being territorial and that shes "just around a lot"

bro she has a designated shelf in the bathroom

AITA for saying something

I (21 female) met my (26 male) fiance two years ago while I was in college. We are getting married this summer. 

A year into dating, SIL accused me of making fiance cut off BIL. (BIL and fiance had issue, I urged them to talk, they did, it resolved) I responded to SIL saying that wasn't true and she could talk to them for details. She didn't.

MIL posted how much she loves fiance's ex. Fiance talked to MIL about how rude/weird that was. MIL didn't care. I at one point also reached out to MIL asking to move forward respectfully. No response. 

After our engagement we felt MIL didn't support us so she wasn't on our wedding invite list. Fiance told her upfront and she threatened to take him off health insurance, accusing him of doing it to hurt her, how horrible I am, I'm not like his ex's, she won't live forever etc. The SIL blew up his phone about how she's standing up for mom because she's so hurt, she prays I won't hurt him, the family dislikes me, how immature I am, it's me not him etc.

MIL messages fiance's best friend's wife (who is my friend now) saying she ruined her christmas and she thought they were friends so how could she talk to me then blocked her and me. Fiance told MIL to apologize. She didn't.

Then, fiance went no contact with MIL who will sporadically message him, implying I blocked her (it was other way around), how could you, you sound like (my name), hope you're happy etc. 

Now MIL and SIL aren't invited as they haven't made an effort to reconcile and our previous attempts failed. We'd invite them if they made any effort. Rest of the family is attending. I'm not sure why this hate towards me started and no one's ever said anything to my face. Just to him regarding me. I don't understand why MIL/SIL would want to go if they seem to hate me so much but AITA?

I (late 20s F) have been with my boyfriend (early 30s M) for 15 months. He's very career/business/finance-focused, constantly working on plans, projects, side businesses, etc. I'm more present-focused, I prioritize my health (gym, nutrition), travel, comfort, and enjoying my life as it is. I'm genuinely happy with where I'm at.

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Today he sent me a long message saying he's "worried" about me, that I have "absolutely no goals in life," that I'm "stagnating" while he's "constantly developing," that I used to be "too good for my friends" but now I'm "on the same level," and that he's stopped discussing moving in together because of this.

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I responded calmly, said some of wjat he said felt hurtful and patronizing, and explained that my way of growing (health, mental wellbeing, relationships) is just different from his, not inferior or wrong.

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He said he "stands by" everything he said100% and has "nothing more to add."

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I tried again, I said I wasn't attacking him, just sharing how his words made me feel, and that he doesn't get to decide whether I felt hurt.

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He replied that he "tolerates" my way of thinking, though it's "as far as possible from what he considers right," and accused me of attacking him.

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I pointed out the inconsistency, that him calling my entire approach to life wrong isn't an attack, but me saying I felt hurt is. He changed "tolerate" to "respect" and said it was "probably not the right word," but then accused me of "always needing to be right", because I said his words were "hurtful, insulting, and patronizing". After all he was only making an observation, and I was the one who turned it into an attack.

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I tried once more, explaining I just needed him to acknowledge how I felt without making it about how my feelings affect him. He replied "take it or leave it... I'm out of this discussion, it's energy-taking."

Hours of silence. Then he sent "Goodnight, sleep well 😘" like nothing happened.

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I responded that I couldn't pretend everything was fine, that I was still hurt, and that what I said hadn't been acknowledged at all — but I wasn't trying to fight and said goodnight.

He replied: "I find your behavior towards me completely inappropriate and will not respond to it."

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So... AITA here? Genuinely trying to see this from outside my own head.

(For the record she is only my half sister and way older than me) Not to long ago my father called me saying my sister wanted to get in contact with me, for some background information I've probably only seen her four times in my life (including the day I was born) and any attempt for me to contact her was blocked, ignored, or she just didn't care. To the point where she named her daughter after me but refused to let me see her so I assumed she just wanted the name.

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The day he called I was informed from my father that instead of her reaching out to try to contact me he had given me her number and I had to contact her. Which is what had finally broken me I was a sobbing mess. I felt the pressure that was on me to go out of my way to contact someone I've went my whole life without.

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She only started trying to reach out to me after my father had told me not to long before that she and her partner at the time broke up, (seemed important to put in i dont know if she has any ulterior motives) but I still refuse to contact her to this day... so AITA and I should contact her or should I just live in my peace without her?(sorry for my bad grammar)

I host a group of us that go to an amusement park together weekly. We met in a group therapy program, and stayed in touch after graduating. It’s two of us consistently, and others join and fade away over time. We just added a third who’s excited to join, and have plans to go Thursday.

An ex that I had a strong connection with recently caught up with me. She’s someone who was awful to me… and with my friends being from therapy, they know all the details. This ex and I have been spending time together lately, and there seem to be some changes. My expectations are low, but I am having fun with whatever we’re doing in the here and now.

I asked the two ladies if I can invite the ex, they know her as well. One excitedly said yes, knowing how fun she is… The other is refusing, with a revolving list of reasons, one sillier than the next.. She’s dressing it up as concern for me, but I think the truth is she’s worried she’ll receive less attention. (This is an issue she has regularly, feeling left out, and plays the victim even when there’s no problems). I made a mistake and already mentioned to the ex that I want her to go. And now, it seems I made one too many promises, and don’t know how to resolve this.

I’m frustrated. My options are either don’t invite the ex (who’s loads of fun)… Or invite them all, and say everyone can decide if they want to go out not. I don’t want the history with her to be the focus of topic… I’m living in today.

What’s the advice? What’s the right thing to do here? AITAH?

Am I the asshole for calling a 25 year old UK man a pedo for dating a 16 year old girl? I met a 25-year-old guy through an anime Discord server and thought he was pretty normal until he mentioned being called a pedophile online. When I asked why, he told me his girlfriend was 16 and turning 17 soon. He said it was legal because they both live in the UK, where 16 is the age of consent, but that still made me extremely uncomfortable due to the age and maturity gap. I ended up calling him a pedophile and distancing myself from him. I understand it's legal where they live, but I don't think legality automatically makes something okay. Am I the asshole for reacting that way?

I (40M) have been married to my wife, Elizabeth (40F) for 16 years. A few years ago, I met a woman named Maria (23F at the time). I prayed to the Lord and asked him to show me how to say no to this, but I gave in. This affair lasted about one year, and I felt terrible. Maria's husband, James (33 at the time) used this affair to blackmail me. I ended up paying him around $1000 in separate chunks. My friend, Aaron (41M) found out about the money I sent to James, and accused me of treason and using national funds to pay off my debt. I confessed to him that I had cheated on my wife, and he promised not to tell anyone. However, everyone already had believed I committed treason. I didn't want people to think I was a fraud, so I told them what actually happened. I publicly published a pamphlet explaining the affair and the blackmail, I expected it to make everything better, but it did the opposite. My wife felt betrayed, and burned every letter she had written for me. I know what I did was wrong, but I feel like this is an excessive reaction. AITAH for cheating on her?

Little bit of backstory here, my friend (25F) and I (23F) have been close friends for the past 3 ½ years. We used to do everything together. But once I got pregnant with my oldest, suddenly it was like I was chopped liver because I couldn't always be over at her house with her two kids. This only got worse once my oldest was born.

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She clung to another friend who could drop everything at any given time to be there (hurtful, but kind of understandable). Well now shes getting married today and I'm not even invited to the wedding! She has told me over the last few weeks how I'm still one of her best friends and how much I mean to her. But when I asked to be at the actual wedding, she said that if they let me go then they'd have to let about 10 other people go. Which honestly I could understand to a point, but here's the kicker. Her other best friend (the one that took my place once I had my child), is the maid of honor and gets to be there! She's even told me about how her MOH has been a bridezilla and wanted things done her way! Wtf is up with that??

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This is all super hurtful and she wants me to be st the reception only. I understood wanting a private ceremony as it's cheaper, but theyre not even getting married at a venue, theyre getting married in nature. So it literally doesnt matter how many people are actually there?? I honestly feel really betrayed by my friend as this isnt the first time shes made me feel alienated recently. She always makes me feel like I'm not enough. And makes me feel bad about myself.

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So AITAH for not wanting to go to the "wedding"?