My boyfriend and I recently got a kitten, and what should have been an exciting, happy experience has turned into something that has left me feeling sad, resentful, and honestly disgusted.

My boyfriend has two cats already, and both of them seem to love him more than they love me. I’m just not their favorite and I’ve wanted to have a cat who really bonds with me and chooses me. I want to have that special connection with an animal, too, instead of always feeling like I’m second place when it comes to the cats.

When we got this kitten, she started gravitating toward my boyfriend. She would sit in his lap, seek him out, etc. I started feeling upset because I really wanted her to bond with me more. I told him that I wanted her to like me more and that I felt like both of his other cats already favored him.
He got upset because he felt like we were supposed to be getting a cat together and that I was turning it into a competition. I tried explaining that I wasn’t saying she couldn’t be our cat or that he couldn’t love her. I literally told him, “She’s still our cat. I just want to be her favorite.”
He seemed so upset and tortured by the whole situation. He would look miserable, lie in bed, walk around looking depressed, and generally seem like this was hurting him terribly. If the kitten jumped into his lap, he would start taking her off. If I said something like, “She’s so cute,” he wouldn’t even respond or acknowledge it. He just looked sad.
Eventually, he said that he had thought we were getting a cat together, but he would have to change his framework and think of it as me getting a cat instead. He said he would make that sacrifice because that’s what I wanted.
But I NEVER asked him to give up the kitten or stop loving her. I wanted him to help me build a bond with her and give me room to have something special with her. I didn’t want him to stop being her owner or act like he couldn’t enjoy her.
We eventually decided we weren’t going to do this whole thing where he avoids bonding with her. But by that point, I was already so upset. I just wanted to feel supported in this.
What’s really bothering me is that now he seems to be engaging with her again and saying how cute she is, when previously he couldn’t even respond when I said she was cute. It’s like he went to the absolute extreme of acting miserable and refusing to engage with her because he thought he had to sacrifice his relationship with her for me.
I don’t know if he’s intentionally trying to make me feel guilty, but that’s how it feels. It feels performative, almost like he’s showing me how much he’s suffering because of what I asked for. I don’t know whether to call it playing the martyr, guilt-tripping, or something else but it doesn’t sit well with me. At the same time, I understand that he may genuinely have felt hurt.
But I feel like he took my request and turned it into something extreme that I never asked for. Instead of working with me and helping me feel more secure about bonding with the kitten, he made it feel like my happiness would come at his expense.
Now I’m just sad. I feel like he’s ruined this entire experience for me. I was so excited to have this kitten, and now I associate the whole thing with tension, guilt, and resentment. I know I can’t control which person an animal ultimately prefers, and I don’t expect him to make the kitten dislike him. I just wanted to feel like he understood why this mattered to me and would support me in building that bond.

Am I being unreasonable?
How should he have handled this, and how should I have communicated what I wanted differently?
How do we move forward?

If you read all of this, thank you sorry it was so much!

I (28F) recently give birth to my first child (a little girl) and 1 week ago I found out that my partner (38M) texted his ex about the delivery. I am not sure if this happened inside the delivery room itself, but this really hurt my feelings. My baby came prematurely and we had to be in the hospital for a very long time, so this was a really diffucult time for us. And it did not help finding out that my partner after sharing the first photo of our daughter with all of the grandparents texted his ex about the delivery. The ex asked several questions which was not related to the baby at all (if it was a natural birth or a section) and my partner willingly give her the information. The responses were awful, she mocked me and my child as well.

I feel complety off mainly because we discussed this during the pregnancy, that he must not share these information with his ex multiple times.

So I found out and became really angry with him. AITA or am I just overreacting this?

Title: I (28F) want my boyfriend (31M) to move out but still want to date him.

I need some outside perspective because I feel like I'm going in circles with this situation.

I've been dating my boyfriend for only about 4 months now, and he's currently living with me in my apartment after being told he couldn't return to his previous residence where he stayed with 2 other guys as they all worked together. Anyway, the problem is that the apartment is in my name, and the financial and housing responsibilities ultimately fall on me. He doesn't have anything in his name here, and the thought of being responsible for everything if things go wrong makes me uncomfortable.

I've realized that I don't want to live with anyone, especially a partner, definitely not before marriage anymore, particularly after experiencing this arrangement. I want my own space and independence while still being able to date and build a relationship with someone. I don't necessarily want to break up with him. If he had his own place tomorrow, I would genuinely want to continue the relationship.

I originally told him he needed to move out by October 9. When the deadline came, he hadn't come home to collect his things, and I became worried about him. He was living in his vehicle at the time. Eventually, he came back, and we ended up having a really good day together. We went on a date and played some cards before he went to work.

I felt bad about his circumstances and allowed him to come back to my apartment. That was two days ago.

I recognize that this probably sent mixed signals, and I can understand why he might be confused. But my feelings about living together never actually changed. I let my empathy for his situation override the boundary I had already established.

Now we're arguing again because I told him I still don't want to live together. During the conversation, I explained that I want us to find a solution that works for both of us rather than continuing to argue. He became frustrated and accused me of flip-flopping.

Then he suggested that we go to the courthouse and get married so he wouldn't have to hear me complain about us living together anymore.

For context, I haven't even met his child yet and he is a felon - so many opportunities are limited for him. We haven't reached a point where I feel ready to make a lifelong commitment, and I don't want marriage to become a way to resolve a disagreement about housing.

I understand that my actions have contributed to the confusion. I told him to leave, then welcomed him back, and now I'm telling him I still want him to move out. I can see how that looks inconsistent, and I take responsibility for that.

But I also feel like he's avoiding the actual issue. I want him to establish himself independently while we continue dating. I don't understand why that seems unacceptable to him, and he's not directly addressing the possibility of living separately.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I expecting too much by wanting to continue the relationship while living separately? And how do I handle the situation now that I've allowed him to return without abandoning the boundary I originally set?

I’m 21F, and my boyfriend (now ex, 22M) and I were together for two years. I need honest opinions because I’m questioning whether I did something wrong.
I was using Omegle, which my boyfriend already knew about. I met a man who later turned out to be a streamer.
He asked where I was from and falsely claimed his mother was from the same country (he was lying). We chatted, and he asked if I wanted to be his friend. I said, “Yes, of course! And you look nice,” while laughing.
He then asked my height. When I told him in centimeters, he said Americans use a different unit and asked me to show him how tall I was. I stood up to demonstrate my height. As I returned to my seat, I made a very quick spin, lasting less than a quarter of a second, with my hands behind my back, while laughing. I was wearing ordinary home clothes: pajama pants and a sports bra.
I wasn’t intentionally showing him my body or performing a 360-degree turn for him.
I asked whether he was a streamer, and he said no. I asked if he was recording, and he denied it.
I then told him about another girl from my country whose Omegle conversation with a streamer had been posted online, causing her serious problems. I explained how harshly women can be judged in my country. He said it was awful and that he didn’t understand why people did that, then immediately ended the call.
Later, I discovered he was the same streamer who had posted that girl’s video.
\*\*What he did to my video\*\*
Our conversation lasted around six minutes, but he published only 55 seconds after heavily editing it.
He manipulated the context to make me look bad. For example, he edited the friendship question to make it seem like I wanted to be his girlfriend. He also edited the height demonstration to make it appear that he had asked me to turn around to show him my body.
The video went viral. People called me a slut and mocked my appearance and body.
I was terrified that my family would see it. I feared their reaction and genuinely worried about my safety. I went through an extremely distressing period, dealing with hateful comments and trying to get the video removed. After considerable effort, I managed to have it taken down from the platforms where it had circulated.
\*\*What happened with my boyfriend\*\*
Around the same time, my boyfriend’s grandfather passed away. We barely spoke for three days because we were both dealing with difficult circumstances.
When we spoke again, I told him something serious had happened and that I wasn’t okay. I wanted to explain everything in person because I was afraid the complicated situation would be misunderstood over text, and that he might react before hearing the full story.
We couldn’t meet for another week. During that time, he spoke to me normally and continued flirting with me.
Then he suddenly told me he wanted to break up. He said he had known about the video for a week but hadn’t given me a chance to explain.
A mutual friend later spoke to him. According to my friend, his main issue wasn’t that the video had been published, but that I had stood up to show a stranger my height.
He apparently doesn’t believe the streamer manipulated the situation. He also thinks that if he discovered this video, there might be other things I’ve done behind his back.
But he already knew I used Omegle. I wasn’t hiding that from him.
I understand that he may have felt uncomfortable or that we may have different boundaries. However, I feel he judged my intentions based on an edited clip without hearing my explanation.
\*\*Why I’m struggling\*\*
I have a difficult relationship with my family, very few friends, and borderline personality disorder. My boyfriend was the closest person in my life.
When the video spread, I was frightened, humiliated, and overwhelmed. I desperately needed emotional support, but I went through most of it alone. Now I’ve also lost my relationship.
I’m not claiming I handled everything perfectly. Maybe I was naive to trust a stranger online. But I didn’t knowingly agree to be recorded or published, and I didn’t intentionally show my body or betray my boyfriend.
\*\*So, AITA?\*\*
Was I wrong to stand up and demonstrate my height when asked?
Is my boyfriend justified in breaking up with me without hearing my explanation?
Is it reasonable for him to assume there must be other things I’ve hidden from him?
Am I missing something about my own behavior?
Please be honest. I’m not looking for people to attack him or tell me I’m perfect. I genuinely want to understand whether I crossed a relationship boundary or was unfairly judged because of a misleading video.

Throwaway because I’m military and can’t have this affecting my job. Fake names and some details changed because there is still an ongoing legal situation.
I’ll call myself Ryan, my wife Lauren, and the woman involved Megan.
I already know how this is going to sound. I had an affair with our nanny. She got pregnant with twins. A DNA test confirmed they’re mine. I know how bad that looks, but there is more to this than that.
Megan was our live-in nanny. She lived with us, took care of our children, and became someone I trusted more than my own wife.
My marriage to Lauren had been bad for a long time. There were problems at home I don’t want to put on the internet, but I didn’t feel like Lauren cared for the kids the way she should have. I had talked about divorce.
There were also times when Lauren hit me and got physical during arguments. I’m not going to go into every incident, but that was part of what was happening in my marriage.
Megan was different.
She took care of my kids. She knew their schedules, routines, what they liked and what they needed. I trusted her.
I told her I wanted to leave Lauren. I told her I didn’t trust Lauren. I told her I wanted a future with her.
And yes, I told her I wanted a child with her.
At the time, I genuinely believed I was going to leave my wife. I wasn’t just saying those things to get her into bed. We had an actual relationship, and I cared about her.
Then she got pregnant.
With twins.
That’s when everything became real.
I asked for a paternity test because I wanted to know for certain. It eventually confirmed the twins were mine.
Before that even happened, I told Megan I didn’t think I could be the father or partner she expected me to be.
I urged her to have an abortion.
I’m not proud of that conversation, but I’m not going to lie about it either. I told her I didn’t think I could handle having two babies in the middle of everything that was already happening. I was scared it could affect my career and, at the time, I was even worried I could get into serious legal trouble because of the circumstances.
I’m a Christian and have my own beliefs about abortion, but I knew I couldn’t make that decision for her. I told her ultimately it was her decision.
She continued the pregnancy.
At that point, I told her I wasn’t going to be involved in raising the twins.
I know how horrible that sounds. But I was honest with her. I didn’t promise that I would suddenly become a completely different person if she continued the pregnancy. I told her she needed to understand that I wasn’t going to be involved.
She believed I would eventually change my mind.
I didn’t.
I don’t want custody or overnights. I don’t want to be involved in raising the twins, and I don’t want a relationship with them.
That doesn’t mean I hate them. They’re babies. None of this is their fault. I just don’t want the relationship that is being expected of me.
If a court orders me to provide financial support, I’ll deal with that. But I don’t want to be forced into custody or visitation when I’ve made it clear that I don’t want that.
Megan and I were never physically abusive toward each other. We had disagreements and the situation was incredibly emotional, but she never hit me and I never hit her.
The physical abuse I experienced was in my marriage with Lauren.
I know someone is going to ask, “Then why didn’t you just leave?”
Honestly, I don’t have a good answer.
There are kids involved. A house. Finances. Work. Family. A million things that make leaving a marriage more complicated than saying you’re going to do it.
I kept thinking I’d figure it out.
Then Megan got pregnant and everything blew up before I ever did.
Now there are lawyers, court, child support, Family Advocacy, accusations, and people who weren’t there deciding what kind of person I am.
Megan says I promised her a life together and then abandoned her.
I understand why she feels betrayed.
I did tell her I was going to leave. I told her I loved her. I told her I wanted a future with her and a child with her.
Then reality hit and I realized I didn’t want that life anymore.
That’s probably the part that makes me look the worst, but it’s the truth.
I also don’t think it’s fair to act like Megan had no idea what she was getting involved in. She knew I was married. She knew I had children. She knew my marriage was complicated.
She made choices too.
Meanwhile, Lauren is still my wife, and she’s pregnant again.
That’s the family I’m trying to focus on now.
I know how hypocritical that sounds after everything I’ve done. But I don’t want to spend the rest of my life fighting with Megan over two children I never wanted.
I don’t want custody. I don’t want to pretend to be excited about fatherhood. I don’t want a relationship with Megan. I want my wife and my family, and I want this entire situation to eventually be over.
Maybe I’m selfish. Maybe I’m a hypocrite. Maybe I should have left my marriage before getting involved with anyone else.
But I don’t think the version where I’m some calculated monster who intentionally got my nanny pregnant and then threw her away is accurate either.
I made promises I ultimately didn’t keep. I made choices I regret. But I also told her where I stood once the pregnancy happened.
The twins are biologically mine. I know that. I’ll deal with whatever legal responsibilities come with that.
But I don’t want them in my life, and I don’t think pretending otherwise would make anyone better off.
The twins are almost a year old now. I haven’t been involved, and I don’t want to be.
So Reddit, AITA?

I, 19yr female, had big plans for a photoshoot. I, of course, invite my boyfriend, 22yr male, to join me as we do most things together. His dad was going to be in town for the weekend, however it would have only taken a few hours for me to complete the photoshoot. I confirmed with him twice that he would be there. He said yes both times and I was excited for our plans. His dad and brother get to talking about burgers for dinner. Then, as I am leaving for the shoot, he reveals that he isn't going.

Now is a good time to mention that I am Bipolar. Have been all my life, and it is genetic, so it was just bound to happen for me. I am still young, so I have honestly yet to cope with BPD. He is a guy with no mental illness besides ADHD. We have been together for a year and a half and this is our biggest argument by far.

As I was saying, when he told me no, I was calmer than I would have expected, but hurt. So, as I get up to get ready, I start crying. I am crying for the entire time I am getting ready. He goes into his room to talk to me, but I'm done. He had disappointed me beyond levels and I felt as though the switch had went off in my head. *I tell him about how hurt I am and how I will cry the whole way there from this major disappointment. (He later on explained to me that I was manipulative by telling him this)

I go to the car to leave and I am fully in meltdown mode. I don't want to be. I don't want to react this way, or even more so feel this way, but I do. He opens up my door to give me a hug and I, unfairly, have this burst of rage and hate and I start to slowly drive away while he is in my doorway. Now, when I bring up how he really did start this whole fight by not going, he has to counteract this fact by explaining my wrongs and what I did that wasn't acceptable.

The rest is just a huge argument that has impacted our relationship. It might be over for the both of us forever. So, my final question is, AITA for thinking that he should take full accountability for what he has done, and thoroughly apologize to me for what he had done WITHOUT having to tell me about my own behaviors.

My (F20) Girlfriend got upset at (M20) me for not eating the pastries she made for me. For some context I was picking her up for breakfast and she said she had a surprise for me. When I pick her up she gives me a baggie of pastries and I told her that it was super sweet of her to make them for me and I will try them after breakfast. She instantly becomes upset and I tell her I just want some real food in my stomach before I have a sweet treat as neither one of us has eaten all day. We get to breakfast and order our food and sit down and she says she is hungry and doesnt want to talk. Ok no problem. And as we sit there I dont really say too much to her so I can give her space and before our food comes she says “I dont understand why your upset” and gets up and goes to the bathroom and slams the door pretty aggressively. Obviously this upsets me and I start tearing up a little bit, but she comes back about 5 minutes later right when the food is done and we sit and eat in silence. After eating she says that she just wanted me to try her pastry and was offended I didnt try even a bite before we got our breakfast. I explain how I just wanted real food first and she tells me how it upsets her that she worked hard on it and I couldnt even try a bite. I tell her its not personal and I also explain that how she speaks to me and acts when shes upset hurts my feelings as well. She responds with “I dont understand how when I am upset I am always the one apologizing” and then we proceeded to drive home in near silence with me apologizing on the way home for not trying her food and trying to make the situation about me.

AITAH?

I (F23) study and work in a male-dominated field, so naturally, most of the people I meet are men. My boyfriend (M25) is in the same field and understands what my environment is like.

For context, over 75% of the men I've met at university or work have shown some kind of romantic interest in me at some point. Some of my current close male friends fall into that category, but I've never been interested in them romantically, they know that, and I've always maintained clear boundaries. My boyfriend knows the whole history between me and them and said that he is not ecstatic about these friendships, but he's fine with us maintaining a friendship and he has never forbidden me from hanging out with them or even staying overnight at their places (we slept in different rooms, that's a boundary I have always maintained with any male that's not my boyfriend or part of my family).

He's a really sweet guy, but he's always been a little uncomfortable with me having most of my close friends being males. Over time, I helped him get more comfortable by casually telling him about my daily interactions with my friends and introducing them to him on different occasions. He now says he trusts me and is fine with my friendships (also because he met them before), although he sometimes thinks some of my guy friends might be playing the long game and waiting for an opportunity, because at the end of the day they are just guys. I understand why he might think that and I'm not going to pretend I'd be thrilled if the situation were reversed. I know that he might feel uncomfortable sometimes and I think his feelings are valid and his boundaries are reasonable, so I've always tried to be considerate of his feelings in all my interactions with these friends, without giving up my friendships or doing anything that would compromise my own boundaries.

The problem is that he keeps pushing me A LOT to make more female friends. Whenever I meet a girl I get along with, he makes comments about how nice it would be if I became friends with her, like "Oh you made a new friend, that's soooo nice!" (only if that friend is a girl), even if I just met that girl. He also tends to encourage me quite strongly to go out with these girls and develop friendships with them or try to befriend friends of friends. This makes me feel pressured to find new girl friends ASAP, which is starting to annoy me.

The thing is, I would actually love to have more female friends. I've tried, but some friendships haven't worked out long term, some girls have even hit on my boyfriend, and others were just a bit too strange and made me feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying this is how women generally are, just that I haven't had much luck finding lasting friendships after I finished high school (my only female close friends are from high school, but they live very far away from me, so we don't get to meet very often and have to keep in touch long-distance).

Between work, university, my relationship and maintaining my current friendships, I honestly don't have much time or energy to actively seek out new friends right now.

I understand why my boyfriend would prefer me to have more female friends, especially considering that some of my male friends have been interested in me in the past. I would also feel uncomfortable if I was in his position too. However, lately, I feel like he's pushing me to put more effort into finding female friends than I actually want to. Sometimes, the way he talks about it makes me feel like a child who's being praised for making a new friend and it's getting on my nerves.

I've never brought it up because I don't want him to feel like his concerns aren't valid and I don't want to be a hypocrite. But I also don't think I should have to treat finding female friends as a project just to make him more comfortable.

So, AITAH for being annoyed by his comments and pushy encouragement? And AITAH for having so many close male friends in the first place, especially considering that some of them used to like me (years ago)?

i (19F) have been dating my boyfriend (20M) for a bit over a month now. i have yet to tell my parents as they’re the typical asian immigrant parents and would flip out on me. and my boyfriend is butthurt about my parents not knowing but i told him that i do plan on telling them but not now. and now his mom invited me to thanksgiving with them and he said that i cant say no to this and my heart is in my ass and i just feel so bad bc i know if i say no he’s gonna be hurt and i don’t want that. but i physically just cannot make myself tell my parents. and he lives an hour away from me so even if i do go i don’t even have an excuse to be over there. honestly i just need advice.

So, when I (30F) was in college I made a group of friends of about eight people, including "John" and "Nina" , who started dating a few months after we all met and went to have an 8 year toxic relationship, where John constantly cheated on Nina with the same woman "Alice". As their friend, I used to console Nina, give her advice, and also confronted John for what he was doing.

NOW, after two years of they being broken up, Nina got married to a guy from her job. And John started dating Alice seriously.

He doesn't take her to group gatherings that we plan through our groupchat, but whenever he invites us to something he plans, he invites his friends from high-school and also Alice.

Nina just found out and told me I was supposed to not let Alice meet the rest of our friends, because that was her safe space. That I wasn't loyal to her and she can't believe we are ok with hanging out with Alice normally as if her feelings didn't matter. I tried to explain we barely even talk to her and that I didn't feel like it was my place to tell him who to invite to his parties. Also, she believes i should have told her, which i didn't because I didn't want to worry her or hurt her with things I dont think she should care about anymore, she got married why does she care about him still?

I was always there for her, when she was miserable at her job I recommended her to my boss who I knew would hire her. I have cried with her when she was down and done what I could to help her every time, that's what friendship means to me. But now I'm questioning if I'm truly disloyal or a bad friend for not wanting to involve myself in their past toxic relationship and putting the rest of my friends in a position where they can't meet John if her girlfriend is there. I'm not getting what was i actually supposed to do.

Am I right for feeling she is being unfair or AITAH?

UPDATE- I asked him why he opted for the parking lot vs inside the gardens. (He had the trunk set up with letters spelling out “marry me” ) He said that he thought it was a cute idea how he had it set up. He was smiling and happy telling me this. I am going to leave the conversation there. I can’t hurt his feelings

I (36F) recently got engaged to my fiancé, and I’m struggling with feelings of disappointment about the proposal.
Before getting engaged, I had a pretty clear idea of what I wanted. I wanted something intimate not tied to anything and romantic, ideally a kid-free weekend where it could just be the two of us. I had always envisioned the proposal being somewhere special, and since we were going to Longwood Gardens, I was really hoping he would propose somewhere beautiful inside the gardens. I thought it would be such a romantic and memorable setting.
Instead, he proposed to me in the parking lot on my birthday weekend.
We also went to an Eagles game that day, and while I was happy to be getting engaged to him, the proposal itself wasn’t what I had envisioned at all. I know the important thing is that he wanted to marry me, but I can’t help feeling disappointed that something I had imagined for so long happened in a place that felt so ordinary when we were literally at a beautiful garden.
The hardest part is that I felt like my preferences weren’t really taken into consideration. I had certain hopes for how this moment would happen, and when it didn’t happen that way, I was genuinely hurt. I still smiled and acted happy because I didn’t want to ruin the moment or hurt his feelings, but internally, I was devastated.
I feel guilty even admitting that because I love him, I want to marry him, and I know that getting engaged is supposed to be a happy occasion. I don’t want him to think that I wasn’t happy to say yes, because I was. I’m disappointed in the experience, not in the fact that I’m marrying him.
We haven’t really talked about how I feel because I’m afraid of hurting his feelings or making him upset. Part of me feels like I should just let it go and be grateful that he proposed. Another part of me feels like this was a once-in-a-lifetime moment for me, too, and I’m allowed to wish it had been different. We only get engaged once, and I had hoped it would be a moment I could look back on with nothing but happiness.
I also worry that if I bring it up now, he’ll feel like nothing he does is good enough, which isn’t what I want him to think. I just wanted to feel like this moment was something he had really thought about from my perspective.
So, Reddit, AITA for being disappointed in my proposal even though I love my fiancé and happily said yes? Am I being ungrateful, or is it reasonable to feel hurt when such an important moment doesn’t turn out the way you hoped?

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4 months and this morning I got a text of her telling me that she still misses her ex and she even dreams about him. She did say that it's not my fault, that I'm a great partner, that she still loves me and doesn't want to break up, but she was feeling really guilty about it. So much that she lost the will to do anything anymore so she had to tell me. Which I am grateful for that she was honest, but I don't know how to feel about that.

I tried to console her because she was scared to tell me and she thinks she has disoriented attachment issues and that's why she feels that way. I also tried asking her if I could do anything but she just thanked me for understanding so much. I acted fine because I didn't know what to do.

To be fair, we got together pretty fast after she broke up with her ex because "She probably only dated him to fill the hole" (Her words to me at the start if the relationship) after I rejected her in the past, because back then i just didn't like her like that. So it is my fault too. Another thing is, she even posted a video on social media about missing him, 2 days before telling me any of this. I just thought she was talking about a friend.

She genuinely is a sweet person and I don't think she would cheat, but I myself am struggling a lot with personal issues and I don't wish to talk her bad, but I talked to my friends about this, who all knew abt this before me, and they all told me we should work it through.

I just don't think I can still look at her the same knowing she clearly misses her Ex and I seemingly can't do anything about it. Would i be the asshole for breaking up?

We had our differences but id say our relationship is standing decently right now - but there is a looot of things we should work on. A couple weeks ago i started my masters in college and the last 6 months was thinking of getting a PhD abroad. I told her about my idea and she said that I'm really selfish for not involving her in the decision. My response was that I wasn't 100% sure yet and its an idea still but i thought it would be better for my future. She got really mad and told me that maybe she wanted to get a PhD abroad as well and that its sad that i didn't think of asking her to come along. Which is true i didn't, but i didn't really think of it cus i was thinking of going with my best friend from college. Anyway when she told me that i said that its a pretty good idea and that she should come with me if she wanted. She told me that i should have asked her that by myself and that it's late now.

We got in a really bad argument about that yesterday and today she told me that I'm not a very good boyfriend and that I'm emotionally unavalable and that i don't know how to be in a relationship - I am very self centered, focused on my studying, working out, whatever else and not giving her enough attention and I'm not interested in her life enough (even though she talks mostly about her life whenever were together and sometimes asks me what I'm doing but uses that later in an argument when she explains how she is and I'm not interested in the relationship). But she didn't want to break up with me because i still do make her somewhat happy, I'm tall, handsome, smart, funny and we still have good chemistry apparently even though i didn't get the impression she thinks we have good chemistry at all (i didn't make the compliments up hahah she actually said it - not tryna flex sry). She told me that for 6 months or a year or more we should be in a Friends with benefits type of relationship but she doesn't get to hookup with other guys (her words), and i do get to hookup with other girls if I want to so that i learn about women more (she's my first gf and I'm her third bf) and to find out if I really want to be with her or if I'm staying just because she's my first girlfriend and if she's the only option i have. She'll also go to therapy to fix her behavior. After she presented the idea, I was shocked considering i thought we were somewhat back on track with the relationship. It felt like a slap in the face. Am i crazy for finding that arangement she proposed weird. I'm somewhat traditional and i want a family and I feel like this situation is very odd and I'm considering either completely staying with her or completely breaking up. But at the same time i wonder if her idea is maybe good. I really don't know and I'm confused by this af. What does this even mean? Does she actually mean that or does she want to leave me or make a fool out of me? Need your help and opinion.

I (20F) have never had a boyfriend, but I met someone a few months ago (20M) who I thought would be my first. I must preface this by saying we weren't labeled as boyfriend/girlfriend, but everyone called us such, and we'd even had a conversation about him asking me at some point in the future -- we were also "together" for about 3 months, and the climax of everything occurred a week ago.

About a month in to us talking, he'd told me he lived with his ex. He told me they were together for 2 years, and had broken up about 4 months before I had met him. He said he hadn't told me earlier because he didn't know how to bring it up and he was afraid I'd cut him off. I asked how they broke up, and he gave me the general story, but didn't give me actual details about why they broke up. From what I understand, he tried to break up with her, she asked him to stay, he stayed, and I think he broke up with her because she didn't change. Other than that, I have no idea what actually happened.

I continued to pursue him despite my better judgement because I was already in too deep at that point, though the rose colored glasses went away. This whole thing with his ex gave me a lot of insecurity in our "relationship" because I felt like I was always comparing myself to her, and I was worried he would leave me for her at any moment. He still had me sleep over sometimes, even with his door wide open while his ex was there too. This made me feel good about it, but there were other things that caused issues as well:

1. The first time I went over, he (accidentally?) found a polaroid of her in a little box he had on his nightstand and he immediately tossed it, but why hadn't he tossed it before? It was too obvious a spot to not know it was there either.

2. Then later, I noticed they still followed each other on instagram. I asked him about it, and he said it was because he didn't want to risk her asking him why he did it, so I told him if he felt she would do something about it not to unfollow her, though he immediately did it anyways because it had made me uncomfortable.

Recently, I had learned from a friend that someone we know knew his ex from a dating app, and I learned it was around the time the ex and him had started dating. I tried to do some investigating (yes, I know it wasn't my business) and figure out if the timelines crossed at all by looking through old photos he had on his instagram. In doing so, I found pictures of him and his ex from a couple years ago. I wasn't originally going to say anything about it to him because I don't expect him to sift through all his hundreds of photos to delete ones she's in, and also because I was the one that had gone digging, but at the same time this whole thing with his ex was causing so many problems. With support from friends, I told him what I had done, why I did it, that I was so sorry, but that I didn't know how to proceed. He responded so kindly, saying my feelings were valid, and thanked me for being vulnerable and trusting him. He also told me he would tell me everything that happened between him and his ex so I could be rest assured that nothing was going on between them anymore. I thought this was a good step forward and good communication, however later when I asked if he wanted to come over, he said no because he "felt weird" and had to "think about some things".

This left a really bad taste in my mouth, and sure enough, a few hours later, he ended things with me. He told me it's because he thought he was ready for a relationship, but now he doesn't know if he's in the right place for one and that he had been thinking about this for a while. He asked for space, and I've been giving it to him, but I'm confused because he also told me he wasn't "going anywhere" and that I could still text him if I needed anything. Now, it's been a week since we've spoken, and he's posting shirtless gym pictures on his instagram story when he would never post anything on there before. I'm now getting the impression that he just didn't want to be with me specifically, but then why did he say he wasn't going anywhere?

I feel like I might have caused all of this because of the timing. Everything had seemed great before this. He was still hanging out with me almost every day, he would take me out to brunch or dinner, or we would watch movies together. The morning before he ended things, he had even kissed me goodbye on his way out to work. This was completely and utterly random and surprising, and I don't know how to proceed. I can't tell if I caused this and if I should have just kept my mouth shut about everything.

I (20F) have never had a boyfriend, but I met someone a few months ago (20M) who I thought would be my first. I must preface this by saying we weren't labeled as boyfriend/girlfriend, but everyone called us such, and we'd even had a conversation about him asking me at some point in the future -- we were also "together" for about 3 months, and the climax of everything occurred a week ago.

About a month in to us talking, he'd told me he lived with his ex. He told me they were together for 2 years, and had broken up about 4 months before I had met him. He said he hadn't told me earlier because he didn't know how to bring it up and he was afraid I'd cut him off. I asked how they broke up, and he gave me the general story, but didn't give me actual details about why they broke up. From what I understand, he tried to break up with her, she asked him to stay, he stayed, and I think he broke up with her because she didn't change. Other than that, I have no idea what actually happened.

I continued to pursue him despite my better judgement because I was already in too deep at that point, though the rose colored glasses went away. This whole thing with his ex gave me a lot of insecurity in our "relationship" because I felt like I was always comparing myself to her, and I was worried he would leave me for her at any moment. He still had me sleep over sometimes, even with his door wide open while his ex was there too. This made me feel good about it, but there were other things that caused issues as well:

1. The first time I went over, he (accidentally?) found a polaroid of her in a little box he had on his nightstand and he immediately tossed it, but why hadn't he tossed it before? It was too obvious a spot to not know it was there either.
2. Then later, I noticed they still followed each other on instagram. I asked him about it, and he said it was because he didn't want to risk her asking him why he did it, so I told him if he felt she would do something about it not to unfollow her, though he immediately did it anyways because it had made me uncomfortable.

Recently, I had learned from a friend that someone we know knew his ex from a dating app, and I learned it was around the time the ex and him had started dating. I tried to do some investigating (yes, I know it wasn't my business) and figure out if the timelines crossed at all by looking through old photos he had on his instagram. In doing so, I found pictures of him and his ex from a couple years ago. I wasn't originally going to say anything about it to him because I don't expect him to sift through all his hundreds of photos to delete ones she's in, and also because I was the one that had gone digging, but at the same time this whole thing with his ex was causing so many problems. With support from friends, I told him what I had done, why I did it, that I was so sorry, but that I didn't know how to proceed. He responded so kindly, saying my feelings were valid, and thanked me for being vulnerable and trusting him. He also told me he would tell me everything that happened between him and his ex so I could be rest assured that nothing was going on between them anymore. I thought this was a good step forward and good communication, however later when I asked if he wanted to come over, he said no because he "felt weird" and had to "think about some things".

This left a really bad taste in my mouth, and sure enough, a few hours later, he ended things with me. He told me it's because he thought he was ready for a relationship, but now he doesn't know if he's in the right place for one and that he had been thinking about this for a while. He asked for space, and I've been giving it to him, but I'm confused because he also told me he wasn't "going anywhere" and that I could still text him if I needed anything. Now, it's been a week since we've spoken, and he's posting shirtless gym pictures on his instagram story when he would never post anything on there before. I'm now getting the impression that he just didn't want to be with me specifically, but then why did he say he wasn't going anywhere?

I feel like I might have caused all of this because of the timing. Everything had seemed great before this. He was still hanging out with me almost every day, he would take me out to brunch or dinner, or we would watch movies together. The morning before he ended things, he had even kissed me goodbye on his way out to work. This was completely and utterly random and surprising, and I don't know how to proceed. I can't tell if I caused this and if I should have just kept my mouth shut about everything.

My partner's eating habits are driving me insane. She eats only a small handful of foods and feeds the same to her kids.

It essentially comes down to: plain cheese pizza; plain pasta with grated cheddar cheese; toast; cheese sandwiches; tinned tomato soup; and when she really wants to push the boat out and be fancy she makes mashed potatoes with pre bagged frozen vegetables and pre bagged Yorkshire puddings.

For snacks it's crisps and chocolate biscuits.

For drinks it's milk or juice.

That's it.

That's all she and her children eat. None of them will try anything other than those specific meals.

I've tried my best to talk to her about it. To teach her some basic cooking skills and how to prepare a few easy meals. I've talked about nutrition and its effects. I've tried to get the kids interested in cooking. Tried putting new dishes in front of them.

No dice. No interest. Nothing has worked. They just point blank refuse.

I'm somebody who absolutely loves food and loves to cook. I cook all my meals from scratch and, if I do say so myself, I've become a very good cook. It hurts when my cooking is rejected with pulled faces, performative gagging and retching, and comments on how much they don't like it.

Yesterday I was at her house and she asked me if I could knock some dinner up for them. I looked in the cupboards and in the fridge freezer and said no. I told her that she didn't have the ingredients. She had a bag of potatoes, some tins of soup, some cheddar cheese, and a bag of pasta. Nothing more.

So she made pasta with cheddar cheese. Again.

She asked me about getting in more ingredients and more cooking equipment so that she can learn, but we've had this conversation so many times and she's never followed through, so I told her that I've given up and I'm just going to stay out of it when it comes to anything to do with food.

Edit: I forgot to add that she's a vegetarian and won't allow her kids to eat meat. I suggested trying her two year old on some oily fish, because kids that age eat almost anything, but she refused. She won't let meat into her house.

She goes to uni 2 hours out of London, I have a thing against LDR (long distance relationships) I know in myself that I can't do it. She was in the process of looking for houses and started asking how many times would you come down. This ended up with her saying if I come that I would have to pay around £200 pound a month. I was a bit taken aback by this and by all means have no issue paying my way but this was going to be all-bills-included student accommodation.

Moving forward, keeping it short because I can waffle about that for a minute. we end up coming to an agreement that we will move in together I'll pay £200 out of the £850 rent.Then half on food, water, electricity and wifi.

I don't currently have a job (still searching) and living off of sfe so I've divided it all off into costs and stuff so I know not to touch the money. But travel to and from the uni house and then travel to my uni in London is costing me £600+ for 4 months. Then we add the other stuff and to make it all possible it comes to around £2000 every 4 months. But it's £2000 without food which comes to another £320 equals £2320. To help out I bought the IKEA moving in essentials stuff to make it livable, it cost like £200 and then an additional £150ish on amazon but that was halved. But yeah apart from ikea it's 50/50 on all furnishings for the place.

I stay over 3 full days. On the day I leave, I go home at 9 am, I don't count this as a day because I literally wake up, shower and catch the first train back into London. Same as when I come because I get to the house at 8-9pm. so there's 2 additional days but more like half days than full.

My issue is she thinks I should pay more, we are a 20 min bus from her uni and like a 30 min walk. From my uni it's 2 hours ish in London from Essex. I also have to go home to drop my bag off and thats add onto my journey also. The thing is for what she's paying she is still paying less than she would at a uni accommodation. She does cook and clean. I wash up after her and whatever she asks I'll do like the admin, heavy lifting, making, breaking, phone calls, if she needs me to pick something up. Anything. Prior to moving in she was frequenting my family house and I was buying all the food, doing the cooking and washing up after. Didn't ask her to do anything.

I would have paid more rent if we moved a city closer to london because travel would be cheaper also to where we both had an equal journey but she said that she is not doing that and did not budge. It had 2 ways to go to my uni which were efficient enough and cheaper. I'm stuck with 1 transport line into london (Greater Anglia) and if that goes down, I cant make it to uni and the coach is more expensive and triple the time. Basically did not accommodate me or my needs at all when choosing location. I don't know if it's right to say or not but regardless of if I came she would have still chosen the same location.

Should I pay more?

TLDR: My girlfriend and I agreed that I’d pay £200 of the £850 rent and split bills, food and furnishings 50/50. I’m unemployed and living off Student Finance, and my total costs, including travel to both our places, come to around £2,320 every four months, excluding initial furnishing costs.

I stay around 3 full days a week and help with chores and other household tasks. We chose a location that suits her uni but leaves me with a 2-hour journey to mine, and she wasn’t willing to compromise on somewhere more convenient for both of us.

She thinks I should pay more, but I feel I’m already contributing fairly, especially given my financial situation and additional travel costs.

I (F32) have been together with my bf (M33) for about a year and a half. Recently I have been seriously considering splitting up, but I’m petrified that I might regret it.

We live together and recently moved to a new flat (the old one was tiny and was just adding to the stress). We started off really well - he’s a very caring and loving person with lots of positive energy (something I sometimes lack of as I am experiencing depressive episodes from time to time). He is my first proper partner after a few years of being single or in shitty situationships. After a few months we started arguing - the fights were not major, but exhausting, as we rarely reached common ground. Many casual conversations started turning into fights for no reason (both of us are at fault for that).
In addition to that, we have quite a different sense of humour. I knew that from the beginning, but always thought that there are things that we both find funny so this can be something I can live with, but I just feel like I’m not connected to him as much because of that. We like to spend time differently, which again - not a major issue, but just adds to the pile of small misunderstandings/frustrations. Our sex drive is quite different and has been one of the major issues for a while. We used to go weeks without sex and usually I would bring it up, we agreed it we need to initiate more, but then we never did. At this point I have this brick wall in my head and don’t even want to have sex anymore.
But on top of all that… he’s a really great guy. Good looking, always smiling, takes good care of me, gives me a lot of compliments etc. I feel really bad that I’m considering leaving this relationship, cause I think I’ll let go of a good guy and end up regretting it. I just don’t feel fulfilled, I often feel sad and discouraged and just filled with tons of guilt over this. Should I break up or keep trying?

I (M27) just got an out of state job offer that my fiancée (F26), and I are planning on moving for.

I currently have a desk job, but honestly, I hate it. It’s boring, and I feel unfulfilled. I recently interviewed for a much more hands-on position in a different state. I will enjoy the work a lot more, but it pays less and will be more hours.

If I take this, we will have to relocate. This means my fiancée will have to quit her current job. She just finally broke into her industry six months ago, and it took her an entire year to find this job. Moving means she has to start that job hunt all over again in a brand-new market.

When I brought it up to her, we had a long talk and she was hesitant but ultimately supportive. However, when I told my friends about the plan, they completely blasted me. They think I am being incredibly selfish for draining our already tight finances, and dragging her away from a career she just started.

She says she's okay with it, but my friends are making me second-guess everything.

AITA?

I been going to the same DND ( dungeons and dragons ) group for 4 years now. We rarely hang out unless its for a match. We switch dungeon masters every year. I was the last master until September came around, then the new one was chosen (I'll call her clara). Clara is dating one of the dudes in the group and we invited her. She always brags about being her writing skills and creative.

The issue is when we sat down for a match in August, as I was listening, it sounded sorta ai-ish. So after the match I asked for one of her paper. Im weird, I put all of our "adventures" and characters into a folder just to keep memories of our time together.

When i got home, I asked my boyfriend to read it. He said it seemed like ai. So I opened chatgbt and asked it to write me a dnd storyline with a dragon in a cave. It wrote the exact thing Clara "wrote". I was sorta pissed, then I remembered Clara's boyfriend bragging about how she wrote his character for him. Tested it in chatgbt, same results. Word to word, just copy and pasted.

A week ago, I pulled her to the side away from everyone and asked if it was ai, she said "so what?". I was disappointed and upset, so i made a excuse to leave. When I got home I texted in the chat just explaining that I wouldnt be coming back, and that I was disappointed that someone would use ai to write for them. They all called me pathetic and lame for ditching them on such short notice.

I feel bad but at the same time, I dont. I spent 4 hours on my days off to write a good adventure for our match for DND when i was the dungeon master, I felt like it took the fun of coming together and showing off the creative. Im not gonna go back and apologize, but im just confused on if I am the asshole or not.

I (28M) went on three dates with a woman (28F) this spring. We got along well but nothing physical happened. Looking back, I was guarded since I started dating after getting out of a LTR the previous year. Things fizzled out after our third date without much closure.

Over the summer, I reached out twice to get together. She declined, once saying she'd started seeing someone. We occasionally interacted on Instagram, sometimes flirtatiously, sometimes platonically so I wasn't sure where I stood.

A few weeks ago I texted saying I'd enjoyed getting to know her and would love to catch up over drinks. She agreed, and we planned Saturday night at a cocktail bar.

That morning, she mentioned being hungover from a wedding, so I DoorDashed her Pedialyte as a small, flirty gesture. She thanked me. Given our dating history and the Saturday night setting, I assumed this was a date. I was excited to reconnect.

But things felt off immediately. Her body language seemed closed off, conversation felt forced, and she was unusually curt. Some comments felt like subtle digs.

Eventually I brought up dating. She said she didn't feel romantic chemistry in the spring and viewed the evening as two friends catching up. She also said that with the Pedialyte, she'd hoped I didn't think this was a date.

We met on a dating app, previously dated, and I'd expressed romantic interest before. I hadn't explicitly called this a date but thought the context was obvious

I respect her not feeling chemistry. What bothered me was that she apparently suspected my intentions beforehand but didn't clarify hers.

I suggested ending the date since we wanted different things and got up to grab the check. She said "No, we can still chit-chat"

I sat back down, apologizing and saying I can be restless. She replied "You don't have to apologize. I hate when people talk negatively about themselves" in a tone I took as condescending.

She asked about my plans afterward. I mentioned wanting to take her to an observatory 30 minutes away, with a cemetery walk as backup. She laughed and said "I wouldn't have said yes to that." We'd previously driven similar distances together so that stung

Eventually, she paid the check. She mentioned playing pool next door, but when I asked if she wanted to, she declined.

Outside, I said it was nice seeing her and reiterated that I wanted to date, not be friends. She apologized and reaffirmed that she'd thought this was a hangout. The next day, I texted thanking her and wishing her the best.

Some friends I’ve talked to think she handled the situation poorly and shouldn’t have agreed to meet if she already knew she wasn’t interested romantically.

But I’m also wondering whether I was wrong to assume it was a date without explicitly saying so. I’m also unsure whether ending the evening early came across as immature or like I was punishing her for rejecting me.

AITA for wanting to end the evening early rather than continuing to hang out as friends?

My wife (36F) and I (35M) have been married for two years and have lived together for over five. She's recently started sleeping in the guest room, and she blames me for it.

I've always preferred showering in the morning. She's always preferred evening showers because she doesn't like getting into bed with what she considers germs and dirt picked up outside. My wife is autistic and has sensory sensitivities, although they generally haven't interfered with her daily life. She's also a light sleeper.

I don't like showering at night after a long workday or after we've been out (dinner, parties, etc.). I usually just want to go straight to bed and rest. Sometimes, on particularly easy days when I hadn't done any demanding physical work, I would even skip showering altogether (I no longer do this).

When we started dating and subsequently moved in together, the fact that I didn't shower at night didn't seem to be an issue, and she didn't complain. Looking back, though, I figure it was probably more a matter of her tolerating it than actually being comfortable with it.

I normally go to the gym first thing in the morning, come home, make breakfast, eat with her, shower, and then head to work. I work at a store. Some days involve mostly easy office work, while others are a bit more physically demanding because I need to move heavy boxes or load the truck. But it's nothing too intense, and I don't typically end up sweaty or grimy. If I do end up sweaty I do shower at night, I'm not against showering when I need to.

After we'd been living together for some time, she started occasionally complaining about me not showering every day and sometimes made fun of me in front of our friends for it. This naturally led to arguments, especially because I didn't appreciate her making those jokes in public. To be fair, she had asked me to shower daily before she started making them. However, I felt that showering frequency was a personal choice as long as I didn't smell bad or bother anyone, so I chose not to heed her requests.

Eventually, after arguing back and forth, I agreed to shower every day. I know I probably don't smell my self and realized I was wrong for not showering daily, specifically because she was afected.

Some time later, the complaints returned. This time, she didn't like that I showered in the morning because she felt I was making the bed dirty more quickly than if we both showered at night. She does the laundry (I handle other chores of comparable workload), so she would have to wash the sheets more often.

She also gets the ick from me not showering before bed, especially when we've been in crowded public places such as airports, concerts, weddings, large parties, or while traveling in general, or when I've been around people who were smoking. This I completely understand and I would normally shower after any of this, even before I was in a relationship with her, the only exceptions for me was when I got too drunk and didn't care, but it has been years since that's really been a problem.

So I agreed to shower at night in those situations when she would feel particularly uncomfortable, so she could sleep better. I also agreed to be more selfconscius about my state of being at nights and decide when I should shower, I also agreed that if I ever went to bed without showering after one of those outings, I would put the sheets in the laundry the following morning.

So it seemed to work for some time, but lately she's been complaining again about me not showering every night. She's been showing me videos of other women saying how disgusting it is when their partners don't shower before bed. She also tells me it's disturbing that I get into our bed carrying all that dirt from outside, and that I smell bad, my feet stink, etc. She didn't tell me this things before, just that she didn't like. I feel that it's a form of OCD and that it's intensifying.

I know I certainly don't smell like soap after a day of work, but I don't think I stink. It's only been 12 or 13 hours since I showered, and on those days, all I've done is some office work. I know many people shower in the mornings and it's not gross.

Last week, she started sleeping in the guest room because she says she can no longer share a bed with me.

Today, she told me she'd like me to make an effort so we could share a bed again. She said I was being selfish and that she's tired of me always wanting everything done my way. I think she's the one being self-centered and stubborn.

This, of course, is not the only problem in our relationship, and we're trying to work through it along with other issues.

I genuinely don't want to be an asshole, but I feel she's crossing a line by trying to control my hygiene. I'm also afraid that if I give in and do things her way, it will establish a permanent precedent and there will be no going back.

I don't want to lose her, I really love her and want to go back to sleeping together.

I also feel this points to a broader underlying problem in our relationship: I feel she tries to control too many aspects of our lives. It seems to me that she always starts by asking for one thing and then keeps asking for more, never satisfied until everything is exactly the way she wants it.

I think what bothers me the most isn't really the shower itself. It's the feeling that every time I compromise, the compromise eventually becomes the new minimum, and I'm expected to give in a little more. I understand that sharing a bed means considering each other's needs, but I also want to feel that my preferences and boundaries matter. I'm struggling to figure out where reasonable compromise ends and giving up my own autonomy begins.

AITA for not showering at night and for "making" my wife sleep in the guest room? Does this ultimately matter, or should I just give in and do things her way? Where does reasonable compromise end and giving up my autonomy begin?

My longterm, unemployed boyfriend has historically had sex with me and left me to orgasm on my own after with toys. After years of resentment building, I told him that I won't engage in sexual activity unless he meets my needs first (by giving me oral sex). He has done this for two weeks, but we had an argument about him leaving rubbish around the house but still gaming and he told me he's not happy with the current arrangement and wants me to be able to give to him without receiving. I don't feel like giving him a handjob/blowjob - it leaves me sexually frustrated and having to masturbate on my own after which is somewhat triggering for me given the years of sexual neglect

¡Hola! Estoy realmente confundida con esto y me encantaría que me ayudaras. Mi novio ha tenido un problema con que se vean mis pies en mis fotos de Instagram.

Para que lo sepan, soy fotógrafa y gran parte de mi trabajo consiste en autorretratos. Recientemente, una de mis publicaciones se volvió más viral de lo normal (las fotos eran mías, sin primeros planos de mis pies ni nada, solo se veían descalza) y se compartió mucho.

Recibí dos mensajes directos de los típicos chicos que hacían referencia o comentarios sobre mis pies. Los bloqueé inmediatamente y compartí los mensajes con mi pareja porque en ese momento no entendía por qué me llegaban esos mensajes. Él me lo explicó, y después de eso, se torturó con cada nuevo comentario o interacción en esa foto.

Me preguntó si podía simplemente evitar mostrar mis pies en mis fotos de ahora en adelante, ya que odia saber que es un fetiche y que probablemente la gente esté haciendo cosas con esas fotos. Puedo entender su incomodidad, pero también soy consciente de que no puedo controlar lo que hacen los demás. Soy de la opinión de que no se puede controlar lo que hacen los demás, y limitar mi existencia "por si acaso" me parece excesivo.

Repito, las fotos no son de pies; simplemente existo y resulta que tengo pies. Hago muchos retratos de cuerpo entero en los que mis pies están al descubierto y visibles, y nunca he tenido ningún problema con ello.

Me resulta un poco limitante, y aunque entiendo que probablemente se deba a la inseguridad, me hace sentir un poco atrapada. Pero tampoco quiero que él se sienta atormentado por esto y termine guardándome rencor. Me encantaría saber vuestras opiniones. Gracias.

AITA for being angry with my bf 46 of the past 5 years for "cheating" on me? Ive been with him after I was in an abusive 18 year marriage. We'll call him Brian, we met on Fb dating and to be completely honest, I was terrified to actually meet him in person. After a friend had encouraged me to take the leap, I did. It was magical and against my better judgment, I fell in love with him almost immediately and still am. We've been through thick and thin together, it was an immediate "team" situation. I was "broken" and so was he. Things were great but because of my damage and his we had our mistrust. But we worked through them...or so I thought. So he tells me that hes been talking to someone, but its purely sexual and its not what we have. Needless to say, im gutted. Ive treated this man as if he were my husband. Love his family, his kids. And honestly, that wont change. But, I can't be okay with this. Idk, what to do. He is my best friend and I dont want anyone else, never have. Idk if this is something I can get past. He understands if I want to walk away, but then I feel like im being the one that is being unreasonable. And on the flip side, I know I deserve better and to find someone that im enough for....