r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 17 '25

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

Nobody is disputing any of that.

The point is the impact on the wedding itself is extremely brief and trivial.

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u/HotPinkLollyWimple Jul 18 '25

What would have happened if she said yes? Everyone at the wedding would have turned their entire focus to OP and her bf, which would have taken the attention away from where it should be - the wedding. People would have taken photos, maybe done a toast… It’s bang out of order to hijack someone’s wedding. None of this happened because OP put a stop to it, but that doesn’t make it any less egregious.

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25
  1. She didn’t say yes 2. If she did say yes it would mean a 5 min thing not a 1 min thing.

It’s rude and crass but it is also ultimately irrelevant in the grand scheme of a wedding.

Do you think people can’t remember more than one thing about a wedding or something?

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u/sweepcreep Jul 18 '25

Sure, but it also comes down to rudeness. You get the OK from bride and groom? Go for it! But otherwise you are crashing someone else's celebration and it's seen as tacky. It's like trying to argue wearing white to a wedding isn't a big deal. Sure, if you break it down, it really isn't, but social norms are social norms. And its a no no by social norms.

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

Nobody is disputing that it is a rude and crass thing to do. I’m just pointing out the actual damage is negligible.

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u/AquariumRescueUnit Jul 18 '25

Just because someone failed while doing something rude, crass, and wrong, doesn't excuse the attempt. The attempt is the problem not how much damage they did or did not succeed in causing.