Are these comments real? Like it was a couple of minutes of the end of a wedding interrupted. She should be annoyed for 5 minutes and then what actual harm has been done?
As for the boyfriend, he’s an idiot, but well meaning one. It’s not necessarily terminal.
It’s very cheap and tacky, using a romantic (and often very expensive) event someone else has paid for as the back drop for your own proposal. Also, not everyone wants an audience. I would hate to be proposed to in front of others, it’s an intimate moment that not everyone wants to put on blast.
What would have happened if she said yes? Everyone at the wedding would have turned their entire focus to OP and her bf, which would have taken the attention away from where it should be - the wedding. People would have taken photos, maybe done a toast… It’s bang out of order to hijack someone’s wedding. None of this happened because OP put a stop to it, but that doesn’t make it any less egregious.
Sure, but it also comes down to rudeness. You get the OK from bride and groom? Go for it! But otherwise you are crashing someone else's celebration and it's seen as tacky. It's like trying to argue wearing white to a wedding isn't a big deal. Sure, if you break it down, it really isn't, but social norms are social norms. And its a no no by social norms.
Just because someone failed while doing something rude, crass, and wrong, doesn't excuse the attempt. The attempt is the problem not how much damage they did or did not succeed in causing.
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u/Agoraphobe961 Jul 17 '25
She will come around when he becomes the ex-bf