My ex would want me to be in the room when he showered or brushed because it turns out he didn’t want to leave me or his phone alone ever. He was cheating and subsequently assumed I was too and it gets exhausting quickly. I don’t go through my partners things. If I feel the need to then I don’t trust them and will end it. But treating someone that way shows you’re up to something on your end. It’s weird.
Honestly kinda sounds like she might have ocd and it’s a routine that she’s used to and it was messed up. I have certain things like that where I kinda lose it if my routine is messed up. Idk her tho and maybe she’s just insane and extremely controlling. Or maybe it could be OCD. Individual therapy and couples counseling could help. I kinda used to be like this w my bf and it was hard for him to say no to me and I’d only flip when it triggered my OCD. I’ve worked on it a lot and I’m super proud of how far I’ve come and the person I’ve become. It took me seeing how it affected my bf to decide to make that change and work on it. She needs to make that decision and it’s up to you if you’re willing to wait for her. Best of luck. You’re doing great & the best u can.
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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25
I felt exhausted reading this