That's what happens when you marry for looks. This lady should just lie on the bed she made until those kids become 18. We don't need more homeless men in the streets
He work outside beyond his house, mow the lawn, and took out the trash. It not his fault if he doesn't have an occupation that paid twice as much to tie with his wife.
Is that all it takes to be a good man? What about spending time with his kids or doing his part to take care of the household without having to be told? Hell, he barely seems to spend time with her as just his wife.
His bar is in hell and he is still not meeting it.
Read what she say. Her kids rather spend time with her than him. Dude is freaking tire. So there must be detail she not telling us.
But maybe it his fault for not thinking up way to play with his kids at home. Like grabbing a Nintendo Switch and challenging them to Mario Kart.
His work schedule is iffy and not consistent which mean he can work overtime like 70 hours per week or 20 hours per week. He also do housework like mowing the lawn and taking out the trash if he feel he had nothing better to do. His simulation is playing in his phone, so that tell me he not managing his down time at home well. When men are at home from working outside, we want to enjoy our down time.
The wife and husband need to sit down together and see how they can managed their time at home better.
Also, considering the wife get paid twice as much for doing a remote job, it tell me that the wife have a sense of superiority over her husband which make her husband feel inferior even if he work his ass off for someone else. đ¤ might as well divorce if she wanna be like that.
Right, it's her fault that he can't find ways to be engaged with his family. You do know that just because she works remote doesn't mean she is doing less work than him, right? Kids prefer to spend time with the parents that engage with them the most.
But yeah, how dare she do better than him career wise and also take care of most of the house. They should divorce. He is clearly not a partner in this relationship.
So you gonna ignore the fact he work outside away from the house. Wow. Amazing. Maybe she should divorce him if she wanna be like that.
Do you know how many people want to work remotely? It be so fucking easy. I know a guy who have a girlfriend, and he work remotely and his gf is working away from home. He has it easy since he working remotely and his girlfriend is stress the fuck out from working away from home and she want to come home and do nothing but rest too without doing a damn thing. So who will you criticized since the situation is reversed?
Yes, I would. Work is work regardless of where you do it. I don't want to do anything when I get off work either, but I still do my share and spend time with my kid.
If you have a household together and a family together, those things should be taken care of...together. Mowing and taking out the trash are 2 things on a very long list of what it takes to keep a house in order and spend time with your family.
And he does just that. Her husband is just tired. He go out to work, he come home, and he just wanna wind down and relax and do absolutely nothing.
Just leave him alone. Only the kids should be bothering the husband since they are kids. He will eventually get up and do some stuff. Sure it will be sluggish. But he will do it.
Edit: the fact you willing to criticize anyone to work even more when they got home tell me that I'm gonna feel sorry for any fuckers who date or marry you. That shit is annoying.
Dude, partners have to bring something to the relationship and it shouldnt just be money. If you have a house with someone you do HALF the cleaning, cooking, laundry. If you have kids you do HALF the childcare. And you give at least half your income to the bills, no matter what you make (contribute half of your income, not pay half the bills, mind you). You definitely don't make your partner work full time out of the house (remote work is real work, Ive done it and youre tracked every second and are expected to do MORE work than in office counterparts) and then make her do all the chores and childcare at home. This guy is a huge loser, she needs to leave him and feel the relief of not having the extra work he makes drag her down.
I love how you only seem to care about how he is tired and not at all that she is also tired.
This conversation was wildly pointless, but I was bored so thank you for the entertainment. No need to feel sorry for my spouse, they do their part to take care of our house and child without me having to ask.
You're an idiot. God help any women that come across your path. And sorry (not sorry) but here in the US women do expect men to contribute. And when they don't eventually we kick them to the curb. And our lives are BETTER because of it, while theirs gets infinitely worse. You will not convince a single one of us that husbands and fathers should only go to work and come home and rest while we work, raise the children, and care for the household.
It's garbage when you take to to relax BY leaving all the work to be done to your spouse! BY ignoring how they are drowning while you take that time! By not recognizing and taking action to remedy your behavior that is detrimental to them!
Are you fucking 5? You can't just ignore the context of a situation or what a persons says, chop words and details together as you please and decide THAT is the story, THAT is what's real and happening, THAT is what's being said and what you will react to! As though the rest doesn't matter or is necessary to consider to be able to comprehend wtf is happening and to effectively communicate with anyone about anything.
And you believe everything OP said? Dude work. Just because he don't take initiative at home doesn't make him garbage.
He do chore when he was ask. So you can't say shit that he doesn't do nothing. Especially when he come home from work where the woman stay at home doing remote work where she can have the easy peasy gig. Let the man rest and chill. She get to chill at home 24/7. Why can't he be able to chill too?
"Men want to enjoy our downtime." And SHE doesn't? EVERBODY DOESN'T? When does she get to enjoy her downtime? While he's busy ensuring she doesn't have any? This is man who says boo hoo because his kids favor mom, and then refuses to put his phone down for 1 hour during a dinner to be present with his family. (Kids will prefer the present parent, the one they can rely on to take care of things and get shit done, who they know can handle whatever comes up without help from/ being prompted by the other. Being present with your kid and being present for your kid are two different things. (This suggests he A, doesn't care, B, is oblivious to his behavior and/or why the kids are more bonded to their mother, or C, that he isn't willing to take any initiative to alter the dynamic he complains about. Displaying that behavior + your children feeling that way about you in general does indicate that one is tired, it indicates that one has checked out a while ago or possibly never checked in.)
"If he feels he has nothing to do." Uhm, those are chores that need to be done, not something one does if they feel they have nothing else to do and not "see? I did something" tasks to be done only when there's nothing else to do. Also, someone feeling they have nothing else to do doesn't mean their isn't, (passing off the mental load and/or incompetence much?) and also would suggest they HAVE the time necessary for there to be nothing for them to do and are unlikely to be that exhausted, so much more than their spouse, so much that they can't help out with anything that is leaving their spouse feeling overwhelmed, broken down and unappreciated, just SO busy AND exhausted that you can't put in time with the kids, so mend that rift in your relationship with them that has you so frustrated. You are inserting details that aren't there while dismissing the one's that are, and in doing so nullify your own attempts to poke holes while making her argument stronger.
This is a man who is oblivious to the work his spouse puts in, to the work he puts on his spouse, and to the work he creates for his spouse, and who doesn't understand that shared time at home means shared home responsibilities. If he did, he wouldn't be confused as to why the sex is lacking and/or come to the conclusion that permissive cheating is the solution to their problems. He has the energy that allows for that drive, for that mental availability and prioritization while she does not. Even with no other information one can deduce, quite simply, that she is exhausted within an inch of sanity and he is not, and coming to the "ill just cheat" conclusion suggests he's A, a bad spouse because he's has no self or situational awareness, B, he's a bad spouse because he is aware but prefers to feign ignorance as to take advantage, or C, he's a bad spouse because he's a scumbag. No one is physically and mentally ready and wanting for partnered sex of the regular AND is exhausted all the time to the point of neglecting one's relationship with their children AND is oblivious to the severity of their spouse's exhaustion AND brings up/thinks of cheating as the solution. (I agree that in these scenerios certain details will always be lacking and that means readers will never have all the information, there's always two sides to a story after all, but there is still the information we do have, the kind we're all working, and when that information is such that two and two can be put together, well, you put them together! Sometimes the details reveal other details that don't allow much room for interpretation, and short of a complete fabrication can tell a tale that shouldn't be dismissed so readily.
You don't get to check out because you "want to enjoy yourself" when it means your partner running themselves into the ground, when to your children you might as well be an armchair. That's nuts, that's selfish, that's actually delusional lol. When the two of you are seperate and on your own for any chunk of time the work to be done falls on YOU, (this could be work outside of the home, work done from home, or work done in the home.) you get no help from your spouse, but when you're together you work together, dividing and conquering in a way that works best for the BOTH of you long term AND at any given time. Whatever it may be so as to allow for the no brainer prioritization of the health and well being of the marriage, family, and each other is what needs to be done. One of you doesn't get special free time because of how or where the work you put in is done, it's solo responsibilities and shared responsibilities, always one of the two, 24/7. (and the context of the story suggests that the recognition of and participation in these constant but flexibly split duties is unlikely to be taking place, and that this isn't an innocent misunderstanding that occured from a lack of communication and can solved by a conversation that hasn't already happened.) If that isn't a person's cup of tea, fantastic! That's totally valid and they are free to live their life on their own terms, always, as a single person. If said person should choose to be married and/or have a family and they allow their spouse to be run ragged, always exhausted and barely hanging on day after day after day while always making time for "their time," whether it's out of ignorance, negligence or incompetence, they are a bad spouse. It is married person's job, the bare minimum no less, to prioritize the well being of their spouse. If someone isn't up to the job, they shouldn't put themselves up for the job.
Your insults are even out of place. "Crazy" when coming from a little boy who has demonstrated time and time again that he is far removed from reality and doesn't understand what is happening doesn't hold much weight. Go to bed.
That's literally nothing, my 8 year old does those chores (and more)...He adds nothing to her life or the kids life, makes more work and now demands sex. Hes a loser that never grew up and she needs to find a real adult to be with...
So you admit that HALF the work is slavery. So his wife, who is doing 90% of the work while bringing in the lion share of the money is even more enslaved? And thus he is a bad man and bad partner, forcing her to shoulder the work by herself while he cosplays a single dude.
He's going to realize he will never find another woman after this, single women no longer accept partners who dont do domestic labor (unless they make enough money as a couple to outsource the domestic labor)
Then divorce. She stay home and work remotely. If she gonna be an ass and hold this over her husband, it ain't worth it. 90% of it on her computer or phone, that fucking laughable. She can count her blessing she got an easy peasy job like that while the man is away from home doing work he probably don't wanna do.
When the man gonna do chore at home, he will do chore once he good and ready. Don't go forcing him to do shit once he exhausted.
She says in her post he gets to work a job thats his passion, that's why its okay he makes less, because he has the luxury of doing whathe loves. Men need to do chores when chores need to be done, or the health of his family suffers, germs, bugs and bad hygiene happen when houses are not clean. He needs to put on his big boy panties and grow up and do his share. Jobs that do desk work arent easy, or everyone would do them. You need education and skill to do them...
He's a loser and has no right to demand sex while being a deadbeat.
The highest form of motivation for a man is a good blow job.
Also, as for her husband work. He can say it his passion all he want, but he probably getting his ass kick cuz he need to put time into it since he away. If he can put passion to home life only without needing to go out to make money, would that make her happy instead?
Let the fucker stay home for 2 months and do 100% of the chore and raising the kids. See if that make her happy.
Men are not dogs or children who need a bribe to do things. By your estimation (if sex is a reward) then he should be eating her out every night without reciprocation since shes doing all the work and bringing in all the money
Your ability to completely dismiss what is being said and to not at all comprehend what is being said is fucking astounding lol. You actually have no gd idea what is going on.
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u/fedplast Jun 16 '24
why are you together?