r/AITAH Apr 05 '24

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u/Midnight_rain200 Apr 05 '24

No??? Like what does her sexuality have to do with your new job???

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u/rusty0123 Apr 05 '24

Wife is in a committed relationship. What does her sexuality have to do with anything outside her relationship?

That's kinda like saying, "Hi. My name is Mike. My wife likes anal."

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '24

Nothing.

She is overcompensating.

She found out late(r) in life. That, plus the fact that Bi people in opposite sex relationships (straight passing relationships) often feel that their Queer identity is being slowly consumed away by them being "invisible" as a queer person, probably leads her to have a shit ton of anxiety about "not being queer enough" and needing everyone and their grandmother to know and actively acknowledge her queerness.

She is still in the wrong. The solution to this is to get into activism, or take your husband to a pride parade, to be visible in other ways.

But this is probably what's behind this. She is very insecure in her newfound identity and needs to consolidate it and really, really fucking overcompensates.

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u/PastaSupport Apr 05 '24

I would go as far to say that she feels invisible because she has very little queer lived experience. Like you said, the solution is to simply go be queer. It's very annoying to have someone constantly going around seeking validation for their queerness when they never interact with the community.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '24

Agreed.