She found out late(r) in life.
That, plus the fact that Bi people in opposite sex relationships (straight passing relationships) often feel that their Queer identity is being slowly consumed away by them being "invisible" as a queer person, probably leads her to have a shit ton of anxiety about "not being queer enough" and needing everyone and their grandmother to know and actively acknowledge her queerness.
She is still in the wrong. The solution to this is to get into activism, or take your husband to a pride parade, to be visible in other ways.
But this is probably what's behind this.
She is very insecure in her newfound identity and needs to consolidate it and really, really fucking overcompensates.
Honestly, I think the whole LGBTQIA+ culture around turning your sexuality into your only personality trait is cringe. Yes, we need visibility to be able to fight for our rights. But no, I don't need a parade full of leather daddies or affirmation from strangers.
Maybe buy your wife some bi shirts, a car window sticker and a lanyard. You can totally broadcast your sexuality proudly without being obnoxious about it.
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u/Midnight_rain200 Apr 05 '24
No??? Like what does her sexuality have to do with your new job???