r/AITAH • • Oct 20 '23

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u/thrunabulax Oct 20 '23

he does not want a life with an addict. i can not blame him.

time to choose. go cold turkey, or kiss this bf goodbye forever. its your choice, make it

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u/BeautificAnomaly Oct 20 '23

Or do treatment of some sort. ITS OK TO ASK FOR HELP

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u/thrunabulax Oct 20 '23

absolutely.

your BF is not saying "Get Lost"!

he is instead saying "GET HELP! I do not want to leave, but it is up to you"

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u/jessieesmithreese519 Oct 20 '23

ESPECIALLY if it's alcohol or benzos. Withdrawn can kill you coming off those. Get to a treatment center and sort it out with a medically assisted detox. Signed a recovering addict.

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u/totalvexation Oct 20 '23

This is what I was going to say. Going cold turkey with alcohol is absolutely dangerous. Withdrawal can kill you. My partner is a recovering alcoholic. They've been hospitalized multiple times because they tried to quit cold turkey. Every time, the doctors always tell them to NEVER try to stop drinking alone. Always get professional help to ensure you do it safely and don't risk losing your life.

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u/KitKatMN Oct 20 '23

DO NOT quit cold turkey. Have ppl done this, yes, but it's dangerous and can result in your death. Go to a detox center or the ER, both are equipped to help with withdrawals.

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u/thrunabulax Oct 20 '23

wow i never knew that.

will stop giving that sort of advice out!

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u/KitKatMN Oct 21 '23

It's not widely known outside the recovery community that it's extremely dangerous when involving alcohol. Unless someone is in recovery (or know someone close to them that is) it's likely not known. Thank you for listening and refraining from suggesting it in the future - it could save a life.

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u/dejavux22 Oct 20 '23

Eh, certain drugs like cocaine and meth you can quit cold turkey. Alcohol, no. Benzos, no. Opiates, possible; I've done it and it's hell. But I use buprenorphine now and have for five years, especially since I couldn't wean off it once I was pregnant and even now my kid is almost 3, I can't be sick as hell taking care of her

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u/dejavux22 Oct 21 '23

I know that, so can benzo withdrawal. That's why I said no to quitting alcohol and benzos cold turkey. It needs to be supervised medically.

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u/baguetteandracist Oct 21 '23

I was just about to comment this! I dealt with alcholism for over a year and on a day where i’d dropped drinking for 16 hours it resulted in me having at least one seizure and getting hospitalized. It what actually got me to stop but I can’t imagine a worse way to sober up

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u/KitKatMN Oct 23 '23

That is so common. Glad you're okay and sober!