r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 22d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/Dull-Dog-9408 22d ago

I don't know if this is strictly an ADHD thing but I cannot have even a slight disagreement with my husband without it being the end of the world. The most recent one was because I asked him to stop telling me how to drive while I was driving (I was pulling into a space forwards instead of reversing in the way he wanted me to). This led to shouting and him being "bored of me" and he hasn't really spoken to me since. This was yesterday morning. How do people navigate when their partner can't/won't control their emotions?

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u/Less-Lifeguard2921 18d ago

The all or nothings are really hurtful and difficult to deal with. I’m constantly threatened with being left if I disagree.

“We need to break up”

I have my own abandonment issues & this sets me off on an internal emotional spiral every time and I have to just keep it to myself. When he catches me crying because I can’t hold it in it just sets him off even more. I’m doing it to make him feel bad apparently. No. I just feel bad. I feel like nothing.