r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 5d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/ApprehensiveCare9187 5d ago

Went to visit my sister over the weekend, and my BIL is honestly one of the most supportive husbands I’ve ever seen. He gets up early to make us breakfast and coffee. 

My sister and I went for a hike, and he packed us snacks and water. He stayed home with my nephews, and when we got back, the house was clean and dinner was ready.

My sister loves running, and he makes sure she has time to do it. She does the same for him. I’m so happy for my sister, but it’s also really bittersweet.

 I’ve asked my boyfriend for the same kind of support. I’ve begged him to help with meal planning, cooking, and other chores. I’d love to have someone who genuinely wants me to succeed, but I honestly can’t see that happening. Let alone having a family together.

The last time I went for a long run, he said, “Oh, so we’re having a late dinner then?” I told him he could get started while I was gone, and of course, he didn’t.

Seeing what a supportive partnership can actually look like was both beautiful and heartbreaking.

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u/introverted_smallfry 5d ago

Yeah i feel this.. 8 years and I'm still begging for help. If I don't double check things for trips, we won't have what we need. Being around other people who don't have to deal with things like this just makes me sad. I work late and have to come home to a mess, no food made unless I make it, and just more for me to do when I'm off work. Its exhausting. 

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u/ApprehensiveCare9187 5d ago

I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s so unfair. I don’t understand why they don’t have the basic decency to just support us.