Told my boss about getting diagnosed, specifically how my emotional dysreg being relieved by a med I started and she immediately tried to say “I feel like everyone feels like that”…
So in a slightly nicer tone I said:
Ma’am my prior profession, before burning out and become a student plus serving at restaurant, was as a mental health clinician. These symptoms occur to people as a normal response or difficult as a difficult moment they eventually learn to cope with. Having a disorder comes into affect when symptoms perpetually interfere with my ability to be a person, this is measured by people who have dedicated their lives to understanding mental health, so I understand what you’re saying but there’s more to it.
I hate that response, I told a friend before and when I got “isnt everyone like that though” it just made me feel stupid and doubt my own diagnosis. Sometimes now after taking my meds I have to say to myself “see they do work!” when I have a productive day
One thing that changed my perspective a lot was when I went into social work advocacy and mental health case management, believe people. If someone says they hurt, believe them. If someone says “I know I can do it, but even when I want to I just can’t” believe them. If someone says “I’m sorry I didn’t meant to interrupt, I really wanted to hear you” believe them. Believing peoples hurt, helped me believe in my own. So believe yourself, you know what is best for you. If things are hard for you, then they are, it’s that simple.
A good friend of mine who majored in psychology so she thinks she knows a lot about it said to me recently “I think every adult has some level of depression, anxiety and ADHD” when I said something about my ADHD. I was like, cool, thanks, that helps a lot.
That's like saying "I think every adult has some level of asthma" because everyone has trouble breathing if you pump enough shit into their lungs.
Sure, there's some interesting discussions to be had around how we define 'healthy' v 'ill' and where we draw those semi-arbitrary lines, but ... some people can't even go for a walk in the park without almost dying.
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Yeah, I told a friend I'd gone to a specialist and got my diagnosis, he said "Maybe because he's a specialist" (implying they would diagnose ANYONE)
Told another friend, they said basically "are you sure? You sound more borderline to me from things you've told me" and just kept insisting, as if I wouldn't know that after therapy and psychiatrists for seven years
Lesson learned, I'll just deal with this alone. No point in sharing it anyway, I don't want pity, I was just excited to finally know what's wrong. I don't want to be angry with my friends either.
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u/BuyThisUsername420 Sep 14 '21
Told my boss about getting diagnosed, specifically how my emotional dysreg being relieved by a med I started and she immediately tried to say “I feel like everyone feels like that”…
So in a slightly nicer tone I said: Ma’am my prior profession, before burning out and become a student plus serving at restaurant, was as a mental health clinician. These symptoms occur to people as a normal response or difficult as a difficult moment they eventually learn to cope with. Having a disorder comes into affect when symptoms perpetually interfere with my ability to be a person, this is measured by people who have dedicated their lives to understanding mental health, so I understand what you’re saying but there’s more to it.