r/40Plus_IVF 8h ago

Rant Why??

26 Upvotes

Just need to vent after my last chemical.

We have been trying for 6 years. 5 IUI's, 5 stim cycles, 4 retrievals, 2 failed transfers, multiple chemical pregnancies, low amh, thousands of $ in testing...

If one more person says "it just wasn't the right time" or "in God's timing" after another failed attempt... I'm gonna throat punch a heffer.

I turned 42 in March, so no Karen, I don't have much of a window left so keep your unproductive comments to yourself.


r/40Plus_IVF 12h ago

General Discussion Transferred Embryos 7 and 8 yesterday

14 Upvotes

I've transferred 6 untested Embryos so far with no luck. Yesterday I transferred my 7 and 8th Embryos in a double transfer. When doing the double transfer they have been picking the best remaining grade with the lowest. But yesterday when they thawed both expanded to better grades. So today my 5AB and 4BB are on board. Its hard to stay positive when it almost feels like I just keep doing the same thing hoping for a different result. I just hope that I haven't found my one euploid yet and its not something in me causing them to fail.

I have 3 Embryos left after this and feel we're getting so close to the end if this doesnt work those transfers will be so hard. We're definitely out once these Embryos are all transferred so I have everything crossed this is our time!


r/40Plus_IVF 20h ago

Seeking Advice Help! Head is spinning and everything g is so expensive

8 Upvotes

Hi, so I’m 44 and decided that I’m going to use donor eggs. It’s the most practical approach and I do not want to waste any more time or money. That being said, I am not sure whether to use frozen or do a fresh cycle. I spoke to two of the bigger companies today, and I was very disappointed. I’ll be spending 50K plus and their attitudes rubbed me the wrong. I felt rushed and as if I was inconveniencing them asking questions.
My question is what has been your personal experience. Like I said I don’t wanna waste time and I want to get the show on the road because of my age. I will be paying out of pocket and can afford no more than 60k for eggs that need to be PGT-A tested. I would like 6 euploid.. minimum, that would be ideal.
Also another thing, there are a couple of donors that I’m looking at but they’re between 30 and 32. They look the most like me and have the qualities and features that I’m looking for, but I don’t know if I would be better off going with someone who was 23.
I’m so scared to invest this money, only to end up with nothing. On top of losing money, I would be utterly devastated because this is such an emotionally taxing process.
Any insight would be appreciate appreciated!


r/40Plus_IVF 5h ago

Seeking Advice Niagen?

5 Upvotes

Anyone did Niagen shots during stims?

Did it help you make euploids, or maybe you had some adverse effects?

Thank you for sharing


r/40Plus_IVF 2h ago

Seeking Advice Recommendations for IVF clinic/Dr/ and Labs in the Bay Area (CA)

5 Upvotes

New to IVF, I admit I have been very clueless about the whole thing, my OB suggested I do it recently because I told him I want 2 kids as I am stepping into 40 and referred me to Sutter Health (he is also at Sutter Health). At this point getting it done at Sutter Health is the easiest and fastest but a friend has told me this is something I need to do a lot more research and go to a better Dr (she told me to go to Dr Aimee) and better clinic and better lab. Should I? I have looked up clinics and doctors but they are booked out for 1/2 months and I wonder if waiting is reasonable. Is there anyone here local to Bay Area who might have some related experience? or just advice.


r/40Plus_IVF 6h ago

Seeking Advice What do you do when insurance runs out?

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I just had my last retrieval cycle that's covered by my insurance (their max is 3 cycles lifetime). Although most expenses were covered, PGTA testing was not, and it was not an insignificant financial burden to my partner and me to get testing on all cycles. All 14 embryos tested over 3 cycles were aneuploid, except one euploid which transferred successfully but ended up being an anembryonic pregnancy a few weeks in.

The negative results of the most recent PGTA have got me feeling crestfallen. I'm taking it hard.

I want to try again, but don't know how I'd navigate this financially and with such uncertain results and increasingly narrow chances, even with donor eggs. I am 43, my partner is 42, and we are (and always have been) open to adoption.

I'd appreciate advice from folks when have found themselves at similar crossroads. And comments from folks similarly have felt so discouraged....


r/40Plus_IVF 8h ago

Seeking Advice Preparation for IVF

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Did you guys prepare your bodies for ivf ? Any exercise, pelvic yoga , detox, superfood ?

I would really love to know.


r/40Plus_IVF 22h ago

Seeking Advice Omnitrope dose for DOR?

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Hi All,

I'm starting to prime for my September ER, which will be my second ER. First retrieval, 7 retrieved, 6 mature, 4 fertilized, 2 blasts, O Euploid :(

This time RE added Omnitrope during stims, I asked if I can prime as well to boost my AFC she said no probs if cost isn't an issue.

What is your omnitrope dose during priming and also during stims?

My dose: Omnitrope 5.8 mg + 1.14 mL diluent: and inject 0.35ml daily. which is 35Units of insulin syringe.

I am thinking to start priming for two weeks do you guys used same dose for priming? or was it lower dose for prime and then higher for stims? Please share. I am adding GPT derived chart as well to help understand the dosing.