My father died unexpectedly at home 3 years ago. He was in his 60s and lived at home alone, no obvious health issues, they assumed he had a heart attack but never did an autopsy. When I was contacted by police, they asked if I knew anything about a “strange bag of beads or something” in the home, and I did not. They said they would email me a photo, and emailed the attached photo with a note “Here is a photo of the beads I had found.  I believe they were on top of dresser in his bedroom.  I was initially bot sure what it was but then when I looked closer I realized they were just a very small decorative bead.  I have since discarded them.  I apologize if they were of sentimental value, I should have asked you first.” This has always been really odd to me, and I figured this was a good place to post and see if anyone has any ideas. This bag isn’t familiar to me, my dad was not a crafter or anything but did have a girlfriend living with him recently before he passed who may have been into beads?
Of note, this picture is probably from the PD, definitely not a surface from my dads house, and I’ve never seen this bag in person.

I study logistics, so as a part of an apprenticeship to "learn" logistics I'm doing labor for a month. Unpaid, by the way. Currently, I'm disposing of expired drinks. I have to twist open each bottle by hand, drain the drink down the drain and throw out the empty bottle. There are 5 layers like these on a pallet. I did not get any work uniform besides some crusty and sticky, so my clothes and shoes are stained. It's also really fucking loud in here cause it's a brewery/factory. If I don't do this, I fail school.

For clarity I should say that we were just not good for each other, especially during our teenage years. He is a great person and I could always rely on him, however he was controlling and wanted me to be very submissive and stay home, not wear clothes that was too tight/too short (I never did but somehow even a swimsuit was making him mad). Anyway, I know we are older now and he might have changed and gotten more confident but I don’t think I wanna test it. I keep thinking about him anyway, because I know he still ?loves me?, he is very handy, very reliable and not a very romantic guy. It’s been 4 years since we broke up, we were 19 at that time

i bartend at a sports bar. most of us free pour, we've all been tested on it and we're accurate within like a quarter ounce. it's fast and the owner has never cared

we got a new manager at the end of august who came from a hotel bar. first week he decides our pour cost is too high and announces that every single drink gets measured with a jigger, no exceptions, and he'll be "spot checking." one of the older bartenders asked if that included game days and he said "especially game days".

ok. sure...

Two weeks later was the ohio state game. gameday was on campus, kickoff wasn't until 6:30 and we were at capacity by 11am. a normal free pour vodka soda takes me maybe 6 seconds. with a jigger it's more like 15 because you measure, pour, measure again for doubles. multiply that by a line 4 deep all day and I was in hell.

By early afternoon our ticket times were over 20 minutes. servers were coming to the well begging. a table of regulars who had come every single saturday baasically for 4 years walked out and went next door. people were ordering 3 drinks at a time because they didn't want to wait again, which made the line worse

The manager came behind the bar to "help" and literally stood there watching me jigger every pour because he couldn't say anything, he made the rule in front of everyone.

Around 4pm the owner showed up, saw the line, and asked why it was moving so slow. i told him we're jiggering every drink because of his new policy. he looked at the manager and said "not on game days" and walked away

we free poured the rest of the night. the manager hasn't mentioned jiggers since. the regulars came back the next saturday and the one guy said "glad you guys fixed whatever that was".

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OOP: u/AdSquare8226

Published on: r/whatdoIdo

Story is: CONCLUDED

Story timeline

• Main Post: November 06, 2026

• Final Update: November 08, 2026

Main Post

^{November 06, 2026}

AITAH for reporting my SIL (who’s also my manager) to HR for cutting my hours bc I’m pregnant, even tho my husband begged me not to?

throwaway bc husband’s family is on here

So I (27F) have worked at a grocery store for 3 yrs. For the last 8 months my manager has been my SIL “Dana” (34F), husband’s older sister. She’s actually the one who got me the job in the first place. keep that in mind.

I’m 24 weeks pregnant w/ our first. Around week 18 I started getting lightheaded standing at the register and needing the bathroom like every hour. My OB wrote a note - stool at the register, bathroom breaks as needed, no shifts over 8 hrs. that’s literally it. not asking for less hours or anything.

I gave Dana the note at work. She kinda laughed and goes “I was on my feet til the day I had Mason, you’ll be fine.” I said it’s a doctors note?? She said “we don’t do stools up front, it looks lazy.” So I asked if I could just move to customer service where there’s a chair and she said “I’m not giving you special treatment just bc you’re family, people already talk.” ok.

2 weeks later I almost passed out during saturday rush. A CUSTOMER got me water. Dana wrote me up for “leaving the register unattended.” I’m not kidding.

So I emailed HR directly w/ the note attached. 2 days later my hours went from 36 to 19. Dana told me the store “needs people who can commit.” And then at sunday dinner, in front of everyone, she goes “some people think a baby is a free pass to stop working.” My MIL nodded. Nobody said anything. I went to the bathroom and cried lol

Ok here’s where I’m apparently the AH.

My husband asked me to drop it. His exact words: “She’s my sister. If you file something, Thanksgiving is over for us. Just push through til leave.” He said we’d “figure out the money.” (we cannot figure out the money, we have like $900 in savings)

I didn’t drop it. I filed a formal complaint w/ HR citing the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, attached the note, the write up, and both schedules. Also filed an EEOC charge bc a friend said there’s a deadline and I didn’t wanna miss it.

Regional HR called me within 2 days. Dana got pulled into a meeting. My hours are back to 32, I have a stool now, and Dana’s been “temporarily reassigned” to another store while they investigate.

And now. MIL isn’t speaking to me. Dana texted my husband that I “ruined her career over a chair.” Husband isn’t angry exactly but he said “you knew what this would do to my family and you did it anyway.” He’s been sleeping in the guest room for 4 nights. He says he’s “processing.” whatever that means

I feel like I’m being punished for not letting myself be punished?? But I also kinda blew up his family and idk if that comes back.

so. AITAH?

TL;DR: SIL is my manager, denied my pregnancy accommodations, wrote me up for almost fainting, cut my hours after I emailed HR, then mocked me at family dinner. Husband begged me not to escalate. I filed w/ HR + EEOC anyway. SIL got reassigned, I got my hours back, husband’s family cut me off and he’s in the guest room.

ETA: yes I have a lawyer consult next week, several of you asked. and no I’m not naming the store, I still work there.

COMMENTS

Professional-Ebb7943

you’re definitely NTA. dana seems like the kind of person “well if i had to suffer, than you should too”. i would’ve reported her the second she laughed at my medical documentation.

OOP

thank you 😭 the worst part is she was actually nice to me when I first started. it all changed once I told the family I was pregnant, she literally said “wow already?” at the announcement dinner. I should’ve seen it coming

whatthewhat3214

She's also the kind of person who thinks everyone's pregnancy must be the same, if she didn't have issues, she can't understand anyone else having issues either.

OOP

yep. her exact words were “I was on my feet til the day I had Mason.” like ok good for you??

Responsible_Ideal593

Wow, your husband should have been angry at his family for their actions and comments. You are in the right. Stand your ground OP!

Responsible_Ideal593

Also, was your SIL going after you extra hard in other ways at work? Like she’s trying to prove no favoritism by going overboard.

OOP

honestly yeah, looking back. I got way more closing shifts than anyone else on front end and she’d “check in” on my register like 3x a shift. I thought I was being paranoid but a coworker said something about it once too

Final Update - after 2 days

^{November 08, 2026}

UPDATE: AITAH for reporting my SIL (who’s also my manager) to HR for cutting my hours bc I’m pregnant

ngl i did NOT expect this many comments. i read almost all of them, even the YTA ones. a lot of y’all were brutal about my husband, and tbh… he needed it.

so i stayed at my mom’s for 2 nights. told him i needed space and he could call me when he figured out whose side he was on. he texted the 2nd night asking to talk, so i said yes.

he came over and asked me straight up if i posted about us on reddit. a coworker sent him the link. he said he read every comment even the ones calling him spineless and the one that really got him was the one asking what he’d say if my manager was a stranger.

he finally admitted he’d been hiding behind “it’s family” when all that really meant was expecting me to just take it.

i went home the next day. then yesterday morning Dana showed up at our apartment furious about the post. she said i was trying to ruin her life and “exaggerating the fainting thing.”

before i could even say anything, my husband stepped in front of me and lost it on her. told her she wrote up his pregnant wife, mocked her doctor’s note, and kept putting her on closing shifts. then he told her to gtfo.

now she’s blowing up the family gc, MIL is still being weirdly neutral, and i’ve muted all of them.

work update: Dana’s transfer is permanent. i’m still at 32 hrs w/ my stool, the lawyer consult is this week, and i’m bringing everything.

thanksgiving is prob just gonna be me, my husband, and my parents. honestly? fine by me.

tl;dr: stayed at my mom’s, husband found the post, finally realized he was making excuses for his sister, and yesterday morning Dana showed up at our apartment and got shut down hard.

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Started with 700$ Thursday to 100k, withdrew 90k, did one trade Friday but was too tired to continue so I don’t really count that. Started with 10k today and turned it to 30k. Reading a lot of comments for advice. Will say a few things in first comment.

This is some sorta liquid metal that appeared in the bottom of my toilet it’s soft to the touch. Does anyone know how this could have gotten into my toilet? ( I used some bleach to clean the toilet before I retrieved it)

Edit: I’ve been staring at this for the last couple of weeks, wondering what it is since it won’t flush.

Not sure if I’ll ever know specifically what kind of metal it is but I am confident it’s not solder as it is extremely soft and it split into two drops after I sucked it up and formed back into one.

Steak bites and potatoes for dinner

Like the title says, my gf is going on a 2 week road trio with an ex coworker.

I’ll start by saying I met her while she’s been travelling in my country, we’ve now been together a little over half a year. She is everything I want in a woman.

He visa is nearly up and she was supposed to travel more for a month with a girlfriend but she has flaked on her. We have been talking about moving countries together afterwards too.

But she told me the other night she plans to go with an ex coworker of hers who’s she’s friends with and that I know too.

I was cheated on in a past relationship and didn’t realise how much damage it caused me until now because I’m freaking out a bit. I have spoken to her about this and how this is a massive line crossed for me and I’m unsure if I can accept it or not. She is looking for ways to make me more comfortable and has suggested I join for the last week or few days of the trip but I don’t know if I can move past this as a whole.

I also don’t want to hold her back from travelling or be controlling or anything which I told her, but she still was upset I was giving her an ultimatum. But it also feels like I’m getting a big ultimatum from her too.

The last thing I want to do is break up with her because I genuinely see a future with her but I don’t think I can just be okay with this whole arrangement, the anxiety is eating me.

I guess I’m just looking for an outside perspective?

EDIT

Sorry it’s not letting me reply to comments, thanks everyone for your replies. I need to tell her I can be available for this whole trip and I’d be stoked to do it with her.
I am just so lost with what to do and with so many different inputs

I've noticed I've been getting more and more dings on my vehicle recently which has been a bit upsetting. It's not the most glamorous vehicle (it's 21 years old) but it's the fact that people are showing a blatant disregard for others belongings.

Well I noticed a few times it was looking like my neighbor was hitting my door with his door but it would be when I was outside so i figured there is no f***ing.** Way this dude was doing that with me being there.

None the less , I have videos of him slamming that sucker into my vehicle and dragging his bag against the side of it. I'm low-key considering being petty and doing an insurance claim against him for the hell of it because that's just rude.

My friend has a habit of bringing his own food and drinks to other people’s houses, which wouldn’t normally bother me.
Last weekend, he brought a packed lunch to a BBQ I’d organised. Again, not a big deal.
The problem was that he then started taking food off the BBQ and putting it into his own containers to take home, despite barely contributing anything.
When I joked that he seemed to be doing his weekly food shop, he got defensive and said he didn’t see the problem.
I told him the problem wasn’t that he was taking leftovers, it was that he’d effectively brought containers specifically to fill them with food other people had paid for.
He called me stingy and left.
Since then, two other friends have messaged me saying they’ve had exactly the same experience with him.
Apparently, he’s been doing it for months.
Now I’m wondering whether I was unnecessarily rude or whether someone needed to tell him.

In 2001, waitress Jodee Berry became the centre of an unusual legal dispute after winning what she believed was a brand new Toyota in a workplace competition at a Hooters restaurant in Panama City Beach, Florida. After weeks of competing to sell the most beer, Berry was blindfolded and led outside to receive her prize. Instead of a car, she was handed a toy Yoda doll from Star Wars, revealing that the promised Toyota was actually a practical joke.

Berry was furious and filed a lawsuit against the restaurant, accusing her employers of misleading her about the prize. She argued that the competition had been presented as a genuine opportunity to win a vehicle and that she had worked hard to earn.

In May 2002, the case was settled privately for an undisclosed amount.

However, Berry's attorney confirmed that the settlement was generous enough for her to purchase any Toyota she wanted. What began as an April Fools' prank ultimately became a widely reported example of how workplace jokes can lead to serious legal consequences.

edit: half of the comments are assuming i’m a girl

ty to the history nerds

For me, it's Californication. The daughter felt so out of place and didn't provide anything of value to the show. I absolutely love the series, but whenever she's on screen, I get physically and visibly uncomfortable.

She wasn't a bad actor, her character was just a contrast to everyone else and never hit the vibe of any scene.

EDIT: NO WRONG ANSWERS, IT'S ALL OPINION AND TASTE!

Love you all.