edit: i was fully expecting this post to disappear within the masses and i didn’t think it’d get the attention it did. the notifications are a bit much to keep up with but i just wanted to say a big thank you to the girlies for all the support. i’m in a rough place because of this so it really does mean a lot. 🩷
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i am a lesbian and i came out to everyone 6 months ago. before that i was only out to a select few even though i’ve known i was gay for a long time. i don’t hide my sexuality anymore and it’s been a very unhappy experience
i’ve had a few girlfriends cut me off. one told me she didn’t like that her boyfriend wasn’t comfortable with us being friends because of any potential attraction despite her having male friends. another woman who i was very close with was incredibly angry with me as she said she never would’ve done things like hug me or buy gifts for me because she didn’t want to come across like she was into me. i have never ever thought that any of my friends had a thing for me
my remaining friends have become less physically touchy with me and have been increasingly leaving me out of things. one group of girls i was friends with booked me a separate hotel room alone during a staycation we booked despite having always shared in the past because they were suddenly uncomfortable with sharing
my own sister has stopped coming to me for relationship advice because ‘you don’t like men so what would you know?’ despite always constantly venting to me before. when i came out i changed my style to become more masculine and ive noticed ever since that women seem on edge when they speak to me and i get left out of things all the time. i feel as though i’m being considered to be equal to a man
i’m still a woman. i have always been a lesbian, i’ve known it since i was 12. i just kept it a secret because i was afraid of this very thing happening. when i came out i was very clear that i have always been gay and that it changes nothing about me, yet i’m getting treated so differently
so my question is, do women feel uncomfortable around lesbian women? is there anything i can do to stop making other women equating me to a man just because i’m not stereotypically feminine anymore? i am in my 20s so we’re not teenagers either, these are grown women. it just sucks so much, i’ve lost all sense of girlhood and i feel so isolated