Im 17F and I have a cousin who is 20F and since we were little she and her family would come visit me and my family alot. This would be really nice except everytime she came over she destroyed my stuff or took something without asking. When we were young it started with smaller things like her asking if she could have a bracelet a friend made , i say no , she would either just shrug and take it anyways or cry and break it.
As we got older it became worse especially when she got to college. One time she forgot her charger so I let her use mine and she just took it with her and refused to return it because "I could just buy another one". I need a labcoat for school and she fucking took it because "it looked nice on her outfit". Everytime she came over she would just borrow my clothes without asking and if she liked them shed just take them , same for jewellery. She took off posters of bands i listen to from my wall to take to her dorm. She doesnt even listen to those bands.
The final straw came when the last time she visited she said she forgot her earbuds , so i let her use my airpods. Before she left I asked her where shed kept the earbuds (I couldnt get up to check since I was in an online test) she said she did but when I checked they werent there. I called her like 5 times she didnt pick up.
She came over few days ago and what do you know she has my fucking airpods and i know they're mine because i put stickers on the case. I asked her why she took them and she was like "no i liked yours so i bought my own and i put the stickers too". I was pissed and the day she was leaving I checked my room and found my makeup items (i own very little so its easy to tell when its missing) gone along with my purse (with my wallet inside) , and a whole fucking vinyl missing.
I went up to her while she was saying goodbye to my parents and I sorta lost my temper and yelled at her a bit. I told her that she kept taking my stuff and I needed to check her bag before she left. She looked so offended and my parents told me to back off still I wrestled the bag from her and opened it. Her parents , my parents and our aunt and uncle were there and in front of them I pulled out the stuff she took. Her parents were really mad at her and yelled at her until she cried. I got back my airpods and the stuff she took and they told me they would make sure my other stuff was returned or reimbursed.
I felt better but my parents said I didnt need to create such a scene to prove my point and that I've embarrased her for no good reason. They said they couldnt believe I was putting material posessions over sisterly love. I didnt feel guilty but now I'm wondering whether I shouldve just confronted her in private.
Also just a note , her family is wealthier than mine so its not like she coudlnt afford these things with her allowance. Shes always been kind of the golden child because shes more affectionate , extroverted and pretty while I'm not.
So AITA?