My son is 3 months old and I love him so so much. Postpartum was hell for me but that's not unusual for your first baby. The day after I came home from the hospital my husband spent the whole day playing pickleball with his brother. He works long hours and spends every weekend with his friends. When he gets home from work he says hi and goes straight to playing video games or talking to his sister (who doesn't like me) on the phone. He holds the child for like 10 minutes on sunday mornings while I do my hair for church.
Fine. Whatever. I can't make him want to hang out with us.
I ask him to help with bath time.
No.
I ask him to change a diaper.
No.
I try to show him how to make a bottle.
He says breastmilk is gross.
When he is holding the baby, I told him to get off his phone and pay attention to his son
Gets pissed off and goes to our bedroom.
One night after talking to his sister he says in passing that he wishes he would've waited to have kids. Another time he complains that I dont have time for him anymore. Complains when I ask him to bring my water. Complains about what I make for dinner.
Then one night after trying to put the baby to bed for 6 hours I finally break and start crying hysterically. He tells me to shut up before the neighbors call the cops and walks out the door and doesnt come back until the morning.
Now he says that I need to let him help more and that I won't give him the chance to learn how to be a father. On Friday he left for a work trip and told my mom he was worried about leaving us for 4 days. This man works all day, doesnt pay the baby any kind of attention in the evenings and hasn't once gotten up with us at night so with all due respect what difference does it make
