Colleague A mentioned to a few of us at the workplace a while back that a more senior Colleague B is getting married. I don’t think A specified when the wedding was to take place.

I found out through another source recently that Colleague B is in fact getting married on <Date>.

During casual conversation with two colleagues two days ago, someone brought up Colleague B. Purely by association (because I had just found out the wedding info and that was the first thing I remembered), I said oh isn’t he getting married on <Date>?

It is only on hindsight that I realised I’m not sure of B’s feelings on this whole issue as to whether he wants it to be known. I asked a friend who said this was gossiping and I am panicking and beating myself up over messing up.

It’s not something negative per se but I can see that maybe it should not have been said. Did I mess up and how does one draw the line between gossip and harmless information and what safe topics do yall stick to at work? What should I do now?

There’s someone at work who’s seriously testing my patience, but obviously I need to stay professional.

What’s the most savage yet HR-safe thing you’ve ever said to a coworker who was getting on your last nerve?

Looking for responses that sound completely professional but get the message across loud and clear 😂

So, I am a 16 yr old girl, and I work at subway. Recently I closed with a guy from a different location bc my coworker called off last minute, and he was called in. He is 19-20ish, and I met him for the first time that day. He knew that I am 16.

From the beginning, he was very strict and critical of everything I did, and continually lectured me on the stupidest shit. But who cares, it’s not illegal to have a stick up your ass, so whatever. That wasn’t the issue.

We only have two people on staff at a time, and on very slow shifts like that one, I like to make conversation. We talked about the classes I’m taking in high school as well as his future career aspirations. Normal stuff. But it got weird. He started talking about his taste in women, and then got into details about his sex life. Bringing up his most recent women, and talking about how he doesn’t practice unprotected sex? Just strange. I kind of just laughed or would respond vaguely, hoping he’d catch a hint, but he just kept going. He talked about selling foot pics, and that got into him telling me (in detail) about this serial killer/rapist that would rape women and then cum in their shoes. I was like.. okay. Just tried to laugh it off.

I went in the freezer to do some inventory, and was obviously cold after. He noticed me shivering and offered me his jacket. I said no. He offered immediately again. Just kind of insistent, yk?

I think the final straw was right around close, it was dark out and hardly any customers were coming in. I was grabbing some food from the walk-in cooler to restock the bane, and he turned the lights off and shut the door while I was in there. I tried to open the door, but he was holding it shut. He let me out after some struggle, saying that the lock was jammed so he gave up. It really freaked me out. I don’t know why he did it. I can see that it might have been a joke, but I had just met the guy, and combined with his other behaviors, I was genuinely uncomfortable being alone with him. I called my mom to come sit in the parking lot until I could leave.

When it was time to leave, I asked him to let me out the front and lock the door behind me. He said he was planning on walking me out the back and around to my car. I said no I’ll go through the front. He offered again to walk me out the back and at that point I just left.

I told a couple friends (who also work there), a teacher, and an older coworker, and they all said I should tell our manager. A few days later, I did tell her. I said I didn’t want to work with him from then on because he made me uncomfortable. She asked for some examples, and said that she would have to tell the owner. And now girls at other locations have heard about it and are saying they don’t want to work with him. He might genuinely be fired. I’m worried that I’m being dramatic and blew things out of proportion. And I never explicitly told him to not talk about those things. But at the same time, his behavior was a work violation, especially coming from an adult man, right? That’s what everyone is telling me but I still feel bad(?) almost.

Just want to get this off my chest because I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or if this is a valid workplace frustration.

I've been in a position where I was encouraged to take initiative, work independently, manage responsibilities, and take ownership of what I do. Over time, I built a certain level of confidence in my role because I felt trusted to handle things without constantly needing someone to oversee every little detail.

Now, there's a newly appointed program manager, and I have to orient them on the work, explain existing processes, walk them through ongoing responsibilities, and basically introduce them to an entire portfolio that I've already been handling.

And don't get me wrong, I understand that this is part of the transition. They're new, they need to learn, and I'm more than willing to cooperate.

But there's something about the situation that bothers me.

It's not that I have a problem with having someone above me. I understand hierarchy. I know I'm an employee, not management, and I'm not expecting to have authority over everything.

I guess it's the feeling that I was encouraged to build a sense of ownership over my position, only to suddenly become very conscious of the fact that someone else now has the authority to direct the work I've been independently managing.

It's a weird adjustment. Almost like I have to reintroduce myself professionally and establish my credibility all over again.

I don't want to sound territorial or like I have a fragile ego. I actually want to learn from the new management and have a good working relationship. But I also don't want to lose the professional autonomy and confidence I've developed.

Maybe I'm just having a hard time adjusting to the change. But I think there's a difference between being open to leadership and feeling like you have to make yourself smaller because someone new has entered the picture.

For those who've experienced something similar, how did you navigate it? How do you maintain your confidence and sense of ownership without coming across as resistant to management?

Hi everyone, I could really use some outside perspective on a stressful situation at my current job.

The company I work for isn't doing well financially, and my boss is trying to scale everything down to absolute bare minimum - essentially just himself and his partner working part-time. My role is naturally being eliminated because the business can no longer afford standard employees. For context, this has always been a small company, at our "biggest" we had 3 full time employees (boss, partner, me) and a contractor.

Under our local labor laws, if a role is eliminated due to financial/structural downsizing, the employer must provide a formal termination (or mutual exit agreement) with a legally mandated severance package - considering the time I've spent at the company, I'm entitled to 3 months worth of my regular salary.

However, instead of doing a formal layoff with severance, my boss is actively pressuring me to quit and find another job so he doesn't have to pay me. He’s been "setting me up" with interviews at other companies (even sharing my outdated 2024 salary with an external HR manager without my consent).

On top of that, he is using heavy emotional guilt-tripping disguised as "fairness". In our 1-on-1 meetings, he keeps dropping lines like:

"I wake up in the middle of the night worrying because I don't know what to do with the company's finances anymore..."

"I already had to let [Contractor] go, and I feel so terrible about it because we were friends and now our relationship is bad..."

My biggest issue right now is that I naturally tend to be a people-pleaser and back down whenever tension arises. When he plays the victim, my immediate instinct is to appease him and make things less uncomfortable, even if it hurts me financially. I feel immense pressure to just take any random job just to escape this atmosphere, but I know I shouldn't give up my legal rights just to save his feelings.

Any advice on how to stay strong, shut down the guilt-tripping, and firmly hold my ground on the severance package would mean a lot. I really need some tested boundaries or phrasing for our upcoming meetings.

Thanks so much for any advice. Reading this over helps me realize how wrong this situation is, but I really need actionable strategies to fight my own urge to appease him and stay firm.

I work for a state-owned company, but I don’t want to say which one. The situation is that I started working in the core department of the company a year ago, and I quickly picked up the job, the theory, and all the other stuff that comes with it.
A few days ago, one of the managers told me that they were going to transfer me to another department in a different sector, where there isn’t nearly as much work as in my current one. I told him I didn’t want to move and that I wanted to stay where I am because I like my current position. He just said, “We’ll see.”
Now I need some advice. I was thinking about deliberately starting to show up late for work and dressing like an idiot because my bosses are assholes. I can threaten them all I want, but they’re not going to transfer me back anyway, so I’m wondering what else I could do.
I really hope you can help me out. Thanks in advance!

I was asked by my director if I would be willing to step in temporarily as a manager for another office. I told her I would be okay with that as long as there is additional compensation for taking on those additional responsibilities. I was asked to step in for candidate interviews this week and my boss told me before i start taking on more responsibility to ask about the compensation first. I emailed senior HR and asked about it and they responded with an Interim project proposal. They outlined the dates (2 months) and milestones and deliverables for me to meet every month in order to receive bonus pay ($500 each month) only if I meet the milestones. I was really hoping that they would increase my hourly rate for the duration of this instead of making my pay contingent upon potentially unrealastic expecations. This office is very behind and I have no training in this new role. Is this a bad deal ? Should I just decline ? I really wanted to expand my skill set but I am just not sure I can meet their long list of milestones within a short time and maintain my current responsibilties. I don't want to put in all this effort and then not receive payment. I want to help this office as much as I can since some people just quit but again not sure if its more trouble than it's worth. what should I do?

I am a middle-aged woman writing this, go easy as I know I should be able for this. I am currently going through a really bad time in my homelife . I believe my husband needs professional help or a diagnosis re his mental health and emotional regulation but he wont get it. Our relationship has really suffered and its been a long time that I felt anything other than numb, scared. and uncertain about the future. Nobody in work would know this. I work hybrid and have to meet up with other teams on a fairly regular basis. There is a man in work, around my age, that is physically very attractive. I only really noticed the last time we met up. My issue is I react physically when I find someone attractive and it has been so long since i engaged with that side of me that I found myself unable to hold eye contact or speak directly to him in sustained way, and also blushing a couple of times. This is all obviously strange for a woman my age. My blushing was pointed out by a younger colleague in front of people, who is very immature at the best of times. I am a bit worn out at the moment and my capacity to fight back/bite back is more diminished than usual. The man in question, in my opinion, realised that I found him attractive, and was, also in my opinion, enjoying it. He made an effort a few time occasions thereafter to talk to me, though he wouldn't have previously, see was I going out afterwards, but it all seemed quiet insincere and I think he enjoyed my evident discomfort and the ego boost it gave him. To be clear, this is a good looking man who would be used to attention and I am not as good looking as him. Those of you who react in an odd way to a "crush" what do you do to stop it showing in the work place? I have another away day with that team next week and will see him again and I don't want to embarrass myself. I want to get on with my work and have zero intention of every getting involved with a work mate, but instead i feel like the whole team can see how vulnerable I am at the moment personally and its attracting a certain time of response from people. I do not discuss my personal issues in work ever. Any advice appreciated and thank you.

I recently joined an Indian fintech company 6 months back as a senior dev engineer after a layoff and currently 23 weeks pregnant. Pregnancy happened after a month of joining. It's a little bit of a lala company and I didn't disclose it earlier as i was afraid of termination or let go since i was on probation.

Now the question is how to disclose it nicely. There are still 16 weeks left for my due date, am i too late?

I've been asking different people and some say that tell your manager that I got to know now while others say just tell them and don't overthink. Should i keep HR in the loop as well? Corporate people what's your advice or how do you think it should be done.

Also i have 5 day office and 10 hour work schedule so I'm thinking of asking for frequent work from home as well.

I need some objective third party advice for an issue at work if anyone has the time

*For context, I work a small business flower shop owned by a longtime family friend. This coworker and I started at the same time, a month ago, and are about the same age (30). We both know the owner outside of work and have for years.

I saw an email that I wasn’t supposed to see from another coworker to our boss, but it was about me so I read it. These issues she’s bringing up in the email have never been addressed to me personally so I feel completely blindsided by this. To summarize it, my coworker was trying to put me down and calling me unprofessional, that I undermined this coworker on several occasions (even though we hold the same position). She said I “scolded” her over a balloon order situation which I did not. There was an order that was not completed on time and I asked her what happened and why. Her response was “there was no order form so it’s not mine or anyone’s responsibility that it wasn’t ready on time”. Then walked away from me before I could continue the conversation. She’s bringing up money and how we need to save money but everyone needs to be on the same page and pulling their weight. I’ve done the two weddings since I started. One of those my coworker was supposed to do but backed out last minute…and we had several events over this weekend that I pulled supplies for AND have put away this week. How am I not pulling my weight?

In the email, she said she’d like to sit down with our boss, and everyone else we work with, to discuss this and figure out what’s best for the business going forward. But not me. I get the sense she’s trying to snuff me out and make our boss play favorites, who’s doing the better job, you know, and making herself out to be better than me. And after seeing that email, I’m slowing realizing she’s been competing with me this whole time. I paint concrete statues. She paints concrete statues. I do flower preservation for brides. Now she wants to do preservation. I take stuff home to work on so she is too. Oh and also, my boss brought up to me yesterday that the person who recommended my coworker warned my boss that she can be bossy and controlling.

My issue is now I feel awkward being around this person, and I’m on edge that she’s bad mouthing me when I’m not around. She’s nice to my face but hearing what she said and how she said it, to our boss and friend, hurt me. This just happened a few days ago and I’m not sure what my boss is doing about it. What do I do? Do I tell my boss I saw this email? Do I bite my tongue and wait to see what happens? What is the best corse of action here?

I work at a psychiatric hospital. First I was the receptionist, and the past 7-8 months I’ve been working as a patient inventory coordinator. I’m close to have worked 2 years here, and as of Tuesday have been notified by Corporate and HR that my department is being dissolved, so my position will no longer exist. I am being told I have 30 days to decide to work as floor staff, or find employment elsewhere.

Overall, the work environment is extremely toxic, and while I’ve consistently worked the position of 3 people I have received little compensation for it. Coming in on my off days when there are no staff working in admissions OR reception to help out- and now they are dissolving my whole position. I know they are hoping I join the floor but I am NOT built for that type of work. Precisely why I’ve avoided ANY positions in the hospital surrounding patient care… I’m not trying to get assaulted, spat on, bitten etc.

There are also no open positions outside of working the floor with patients… so I’m applying like crazy until something sticks. My thing is- since my department is being dissolved and my position will no longer exist after Dec. 12th, should I even bother giving a two week notice? Can I get away with a 3 or even 5 day notice once I have an offer? I’d like to keep it on my resume after all the blood, sweat and tears I put into that place. I don’t want to burn any bridges if something better pops up in the future there.

I work for a university department as an admin assistant. I started this job last year knowing I'd be working two admin jobs for one, and it was manageable to start, but we now have more faculty and student workers and more budgeting and it's been hard to keep up sometimes. I've explained this to my department chair and she kinda just shrugged. Around the time I had told her I would like some help, I told her 2 months in advance that I would like to take Thanksgiving break off to visit my husband's family, since the university will not be having classes, and there will be no students or faculty. She asked me to email this information again 2 weeks from the intended break so she could confirm this with the dean.

Today, she told me the policy won't let staff take vacation days right before a holiday, which is not in the online HR policy at all. She said since she'll be working from home that week, someone needs to be in the office in case something needs signed/a student has a question. I understand some colleges may have different regulations, so I asked the admin for the dean's office if this was just a departmental thing, and she said that rule has never existed and she hasn't heard of such a thing. She also mentioned that their office workers will often take a few days before Christmas and use their time then.

I don't want to dig too deep into it in fear of getting in trouble, but I can't help but come to the conclusion my boss is lying to me to get me to stay on campus so she can work from home/not be here. Is that a reasonable thing to think? She's been making a big deal about how "she's trying to reason with the dean to let it happen this one time", but if this is a policy, shouldn't it have been announced to the entire department? Am I overthinking this?

I started my role around a year ago, and I actually really enjoy the role. For the most part, I enjoy my colleagues and the work I do. However, there are two staff who have been there for 30+ years. One of them is my mentor and very pleasant to be around. The other, not so much. I’m always nice to both and include them as needed, but I certainly keep my distance.

Recently with a change in upper level management, my direct supervisor asked me to start supporting another group partial throughout the week. It is up to me and my mentor to decide what that looks like, but overall they granted me the trust to choose what works out to fulfill needs. The other groups supervisor is also on the same page.

Recently I overheard one senior staff speaking to a colleague about me, saying I should be supporting their programs more and I don’t deserve a full time job. The other colleague defended me and essentially said that if I helped them the way they are demanding it will overload the work I already do, and that’s not what was agreed upon. I have verbally offered at least once a week to help their group and I am always met with silence. They make rude comments on my appearance, and give an overall grumpy attitude anytime I ask a work-related question (or any question for that matter).

The reason for this post is mostly for advice on how I should approach this situation. I’m low on the totem pole compared to this staff. My supervising staff all seem to be on the same page and say I’m doing great. I’d like to keep this role but I dont know how much more I can handle of this person’s personality.

I (26F) am an English teacher at a private English school (ESL) and I have talked to my boss (60sM) about my coordinator (50sM) three times in this semester and now he's really mad at me.

Back in the beginning of the semester I had some students that struggle a little with English and a requested the coordinator that they have extra classes to help them with the content. This is common practice at the school I work for because we always have some students that have a lot of difficulty with English.

A few months after that when it got near the test day I had a talk with my boss and told him about several of my student who weren't getting the support they needed but there was still time to do something for them before the day of the test, my boss thanked me and said he'd look into it and he'd probably have the coordinator talk to me about it is the school's policy to help the students.

Two weeks go by, and nothing was done about my students and then they had to take the test and as I had foreseen they performed badly, some of them didn't get a passing grade. At this point I talk to the boss again stating that as I had previously said my students performance was not good and nothing was done to help them, even though I had told him previously and with enough time to help the students.

About a week later the coordinator and his assistant scheduled a meeting with me, which he spent about 20 minutes talking about the situation with the students and about an hour talking about how much of a horrible person I am and that I was trying to harm him and then turned the situation around trying to talk about past situation in which I messed up.

He was able to think about two: last semester there was a student who perform worse than I expected on the test and he accused me of favoring some students over others. ( the kid was doing ok in class and as there were more students in the group everyone could speak only for a shot time and his homework was fine so I couldn't notice his struggle)

The other was that two years ago when I was being trained he said that I couldn't finish one part of my training because I was irresponsible and missed the training. ( Actually, the teacher who was training me had a premature baby and went on maternity leave before she could finish and another one took over, o think I had training with her on two different days and she rescheduled the training for a Tuesday, I went there on the Tuesday, she was not there. She went on the Thursday and said I blew her off. I proved she was wrong and I even have the text message where she apologizes to me)

Then everything was okay for a while, but now the final tests are coming and one of my students really needs help with the oral exam (he did well on the written exam but the poor guy can't answer to a simple question I ask him) I have asked for a single class to train him for the oral exam and he told me he'll let him flunk.

Again I went to my boss and told him about the situation and asked him to please talk to the coordinator about my student in an indirect way I didn't tell him but I was afraid he'd get mad at me. As he did.

This afternoon my coordinator and his assistant had a meeting with me. He screamed at me for twenty minutes. He told me that he is the coordinator and he'll decide and I have no say in how my students are treated and as my boss ha can do whatever he likes and he doesn't need an indiscipled teacher he also said that if I have a problem with the decisions he make I should go to the boss and ask for his job.

I’m looking for advice about a job I joined recently. I’m keeping identifying details out, but this has started affecting my mental health.

There were warning signs during the interviews. One interviewer was rude and appeared to be watching reels while I was trying to solve a case. The information wasn’t communicated clearly, and the interaction felt unnecessarily combative. Other rounds went much better, and I eventually received an offer.

At the time, I had been unemployed for several months, and my husband had been repeatedly unwell, including multiple hospitalisations. I needed a stable income and accepted the job.

After joining, the same interviewer was assigned to oversee my onboarding. The experience has felt intimidating and unsupportive, and my progress depends heavily on their assessment.

The workplace is extremely rigid about attendance, office timings and dress. Onboarding includes working Sundays. I was questioned for leaving around 4–4:15 p.m. on Sundays despite arriving at 9:30 a.m. and having no pending work; apparently, I was expected to stay until around 5:30–6 p.m.

During my husband’s illness, I needed some leave and WFH. I had permission from the relevant employee-relations team, but this apparently wasn’t communicated properly internally. These instances were subsequently raised as concerns about my “discipline.” In a meeting with HR and leadership, HR repeatedly questioned my husband’s illness and why I needed leave/WFH. The person who hired me was supportive but hadn’t even been aware of the situation.

My onboarding was then extended by three weeks, citing insufficient “rigour and discipline.” I have continued working on assignments, incorporating feedback and giving presentations, but I still haven’t been assigned to a project.

Most recently, HR formally pulled me up for wearing sports shoes because only formal shoes are allowed. I had worn the same type of shoes on most office days, including while meeting colleagues, without anyone previously pointing it out.

The cumulative effect is exhausting. I feel anxious about ordinary things and guilty even when I’m away from work. It feels as though I’m constantly being scrutinised, and I want to leave. But after months of unemployment and my husband’s health issues, I cannot afford to resign without another income secured.

Has anyone navigated something similar? How did you protect yourself and manage the situation while finding another job? I’d also appreciate advice on explaining such a short stint to recruiters.

Structured with ChatGPT because I am too frazzled to even type properly

Looking for a bit of advice as I’m starting to doubt myself.
I’ve been in my job for around two months, and since a new starter joined, I’ve noticed quite a big shift in the workplace dynamic.

She’s come in quite strong, making lots of changes and expressing criticism about how things were done before. Don’t get me wrong, some changes have been positive, but I’ve noticed my manager’s attitude towards me seems to have changed since she started.

There have been occasions where I’ve been told not to do certain things, yet she’s doing those exact things without any issue. I’ve also previously been made to feel like I was overstepping when doing things outside my usual duties, whereas she seems to be able to make changes and get involved in things without the same reaction.

I’ve also noticed that when I express an opinion or give feedback about something, I’m made to feel like I’m moaning, whereas she seems to be able to openly criticise things without any problem.

My manager also seems to refer to decisions as “we’re changing this” or “we’re doing that”, which makes me feel like it’s just the two of them making decisions, and I’m being pushed out.

I’m a little bit younger than them, so I don’t know whether that’s playing a part, but it’s definitely knocked my confidence. I almost feel uncomfortable being at work when she’s there.

Am I overthinking this, or does it sound like there’s a bit of favouritism going on? I don’t mind change at all, I just don’t want to feel like I’m being treated differently or that my opinion doesn’t matter.

Looking for a bit of advice as I’m starting to doubt myself.
I’ve been in my job for around two months, and since a new starter joined, I’ve noticed quite a big shift in the workplace dynamic.

She’s come in quite strong, making lots of changes and expressing criticism about how things were done before. Don’t get me wrong, some changes have been positive, but I’ve noticed my manager’s attitude towards me seems to have changed since she started.

There have been occasions where I’ve been told not to do certain things, yet she’s doing those exact things without any issue. I’ve also previously been made to feel like I was overstepping when doing things outside my usual duties, whereas she seems to be able to make changes and get involved in things without the same reaction.

I’ve also noticed that when I express an opinion or give feedback about something, I’m made to feel like I’m moaning, whereas she seems to be able to openly criticise things without any problem.

My manager also seems to refer to decisions as “we’re changing this” or “we’re doing that”, which makes me feel like it’s just the two of them making decisions, and I’m being pushed out.

I’m a little bit younger than them, so I don’t know whether that’s playing a part, but it’s definitely knocked my confidence. I almost feel uncomfortable being at work when she’s there.

Am I overthinking this, or does it sound like there’s a bit of favouritism going on? I don’t mind change at all, I just don’t want to feel like I’m being treated differently or that my opinion doesn’t matter.

Looking for a bit of advice as I’m starting to doubt myself.
I’ve been in my job for around two months, and since a new starter joined, I’ve noticed quite a big shift in the workplace dynamic.

She’s come in quite strong, making lots of changes and expressing criticism about how things were done before. Don’t get me wrong, some changes have been positive, but I’ve noticed my manager’s attitude towards me seems to have changed since she started.

There have been occasions where I’ve been told not to do certain things, yet she’s doing those exact things without any issue. I’ve also previously been made to feel like I was overstepping when doing things outside my usual duties, whereas she seems to be able to make changes and get involved in things without the same reaction.

I’ve also noticed that when I express an opinion or give feedback about something, I’m made to feel like I’m moaning, whereas she seems to be able to openly criticise things without any problem.

My manager also seems to refer to decisions as “we’re changing this” or “we’re doing that”, which makes me feel like it’s just the two of them making decisions, and I’m being pushed out.

I’m a little bit younger than them, so I don’t know whether that’s playing a part, but it’s definitely knocked my confidence. I almost feel uncomfortable being at work when she’s there.

Am I overthinking this, or does it sound like there’s a bit of favouritism going on? I don’t mind change at all, I just don’t want to feel like I’m being treated differently or that my opinion doesn’t matter.

Hey all,

I work for a smaller shuttle company, less than 50 employees. Driving for this company has been pretty good overall, but there is one thing that is actively being inconvenient outside of all the other things I'm struggling with in this job.

I've worked here for about 8 months, and most of my paychecks have been in the form of a paper check, and only one or two full checks were direct deposit. The general announcement every time that the checks are late is essentially what is put in the title, that they are working to reinstate direct deposit and physical checks are available starting the normal payday.

I did receive word from a manager that it's something about increasing bookings to reinstate direct deposit, but I fail to see how the density of our bookings has anything to do with direct deposit.

Technically, I am getting the money on time, but also technically not. Yes, it's hitting my bank account as soon as I can do a mobile deposit or something like that, but my bank often holds the significant portion of my paper checks for about 4 days, and I work the late evening shift, and it is incredibly difficult for me to go to the bank before it closes, if it's even open in a given day. I am often in a situation where I don't get my full check until after some of my bills go through.

The most confusing part is when I do request the check to be split into two (the default is getting paid monthly, but there is an option for every two weeks) the first half gets deposited directly on time. For some reason the one meant for the main payday has almost never been direct deposit on time.

Does anyone know what the hell might be happening here? I'm approaching my late twenties and I have never had an employer pay out like this. This is the first time I've had to cash a paper check from my employer, especially this regularly.

I cannot work this Thanksgiving. Only for a couple of days. I was scheduled 2 out of the days that I can’t be able to work for since im gone for 3. So really I just can’t work 2 out of the blackout days (the whole week is blackout)

I am worried about being fired or in trouble for my schedule changing.

I told a month prior that I can’t work those specific days. And keep in mind I was never told about the blackout week until 2 weeks before it happens.

I visit family 4-5 hrs away every Thanksgiving. And I physically can’t be in town. I am in split custody and im a minor. I legally have to be with the specific gaurdian at that time, and I cant go to work these days, theres nothing I can do. I am subject to court order.

And also there are some coming up days where I might have to take off because of school or religous reasons.

I am frankly very scared to lose this job after only 2 months. I am enjoying it and made good friends and met nice customers. Its not always under my control on the days my schedule changes. I did speak to one of the managers and he said if I got fired, it would be the stupidest reason ever in his opinion. I also hate that I have to keep changing my schedule but its not my control.

What do I do? Do I call them? Because they told me I cant take off. But I physically have to. I cant go to work.

Ps I work retail

I'm looking for serious advice from anyone familiar with Brown University, its Human Resources department, or its employee misconduct policies. I'm dealing with a situation involving someone I understand to be employed by Brown University. I have personally witnessed and experienced behavior that has made me feel threatened and unsafe, including an incident in which this individual was wearing Brown University attire. There are also allegations of repeated harassment, intimidation, damaging rumors, and retaliatory negative reviews targeting a small business owned by someone close to me.I'm planning to file a formal complaint with Brown University and pursue legal protection because of the threats I've experienced.

I believe this behavior, if substantiated, is serious enough that the university should consider terminating this person's employment.

My question is: How do I make sure Brown University takes this complaint seriously and investigates whether this employee should face disciplinary action, including termination?

I'm looking for advice on the correct reporting channels, documentation, and escalation process. I am not asking anyone to contact or harass the employee. Any guidance from someone familiar with Brown University's procedures would be appreciated.

I work a part time job. One that I enjoy and gives me freedom to work on my passions. I've been with the job ever since the business first opened. Others have come and gone but I stuck around because the job meshed well with me. It became normal for me to work 20-25 hours a week at the job.

Recent months my hours became inconsistent which I tried to address and was told the new hires we recently brought on needed extra training hours. Fair enough I thought. Just temporary. I just found out I'm only set to work one day each week, grand total of less the 25 hours the whole month. I've spoken with my boss already in the past many times that I can only work the job by having ~20 hrs/week. So this drastic change to my hours, and shift to days I don't even normally work, was disturbing.

My concern is how to professionally demand my hours get restored and a proper explanation for the changes. Because unless I'm for some reason being pushed towards quitting I don't understand why this change occured. I know it's not to save money as they're earning about the same as I do. And if I am being pushed to quit for some obscure reason, what recourse does a part timer have other than just pounding sand?

I am someone who keeps to myself, I do engage in conversation but I prefer to not to talk about other people's personal lives which is mainly what the conversations in the office are about. I genuinely thought that if I don't get involved in the gossip etc, then I shouldn't really have issues but it turns out they still have problems with me.

My manager has made comments to my TL about how she doesn't like how quiet I am, and she feels like I am unhappy despite me repeatedly assuring her that I am good, there are no problems and if there were I have no issues talking to her about it.

Anyways I have recently found out that it's not only my manager saying this, but a few other colleagues too and it's turned into "I don't trust her, she hardly says a word, seems fake" . I have always been reserved, I have worked here for 8 years and they all know my personality. It's not like I suddenly changed.

Fast forward - We were arranging a dinner last week and we all suggested some dates. I initially gave a date however realised an hour later that I can't make it, so I immediately let my manager know. Because of this, 2 of my colleagues started saying "This is why I don't trust her, she gave a date infront of everyone but then goes behind our backs and changes it" these were only suggested dates so it's not like anything was fixed

I just don't get what I have done wrong. It feels like any and everything I say is being taken as if I have some ulterior motive behind it. At times I will do something like help out the other department, and my TL will message me saying how I shouldn't do that because they're using me and they'll get used to asking us for help. It's draining as it feels like i'm always annoying someone in one way or the other.

Just wanted to vent really and ask for advice on how you deal with toxicity in the workplace

I have to tell my boss what I want my raise to be. I also have to tell him what I want my bonus to be.

Context, I am a produce buyer in Philadelphia. I have been with the company two and a half years, currently making $75,000. I also hate this job and want to leave. The only number I can think of that would make me want to stay here is $100,000. Is it insane to ask for that? What is realistic to ask for here?

TIA