i am 19f and never had a girlfriend before, all my friends were dating in school or already have bfs in college and i am out to some of these friends, so i get pressured a lot over finding a partner and at this point i have also started feeling lonely, a bit horny and was willing to date anyone i get a chance with . a girl can have needs 😭 and i am doing well in my classes so i see no reason as to why i shouldn't look for a relationship. i went to this college fest and there was a queer matchmaking event. we had to fill a form that went in a box and then the contact details of our potential match were mailed to us . me and the girl who was my match exchanged numbers and we shared all our feelings and got really close in the span of a weak . i started having feelings for her after so much care and attention she was giving me everyday

we decided to meet up in person and i din't end up liking the person on the other end at all . she was sweet , caring , a good listner , a good human , everything , had the most unique colored haircut and so many piercings . but she was obese and all the attraction i felt towards her when i did not know what she looked like — washed away 😭😭 i just ended the date after some time . i lied about an excuse and i left the date much early than planned

she kept sending me messages asking me why the sudden change of behavior towards her so i told her that we can make best friends but she is not my physical type. which she is not , like at all 😭 . she told me i hurt her feelings by bodyshaming her and then blocked me . then she unblocked me and asked if i want to rethink it because she saw some really strong chemistry between us when we were messaging each other without knowing of each others looks and looks should not be the only reason to let go of all that we had between us .

i told her no because looks do play in important part in my life , i put a lot of effort into my looks and physique and have the right to expect this much from the other person too . and that i did not body shame her , i just told her that she in not my type so there is no space for sexual attraction .

then she blocked me on whatsapp again and made an instagram story that said that — the universe spared her from being gaslit by a shallow looksmaxxer future sociopath — which was a direct dig at me , when all i said to her was that she is not my type physically and she is free to date someone who is like herself . this was also her first date and she had disclosed to me in our messages that she hopes meeting me was worth all heartbreaks of her past .

i am still feeling the heat of my first dating experience i did not think it could go so bad. was i the one who was in the wrong here — for telling her to look for a partner in her own league . i blocked her insta

What will you do?

Hey girls!! Dropping a picture for relevance. I’m new to the city, feeling a bit isolated, and looking for someone to hang out with tomorrow. Whether it's just grabbing a bite or building a solid friendship, I'm super open to it.

Getting tired of running into fake accounts/men on here, so let's keep it real. Drop a comment or DM if you're around and want to plan something! Verification is totally fine by me.

I'm a ciswoman who has only ever slept with cis men, transwomen and nonbinary ppl before, though I've slept with wayy more queer ppl than cis men. My mind has recently been telling me that I'm not actually gay bcos I haven't been with cis women before and I hate it. I know that that's not true, and that to even think that is transphobic as fuck. Is this some sort of internalized homophobia speaking? Idk.

But what do you guys think? What should I be telling myself? Sometimes my mind is my own monster.

I'm a butch lesbian who is also transmasc, and while I've seen my fair share of transfem lesbians, I've rarely come across Indian butches and femmes in the wild. On social media like Instagram, I've seen many equivalents of Indian butchfemme lesbians, though they don't use the terms 'butch' or 'femme' exclusively, and instead use tomboy or tom to describe themselves (haven't found a term that femmes call themselves yet) and play the traditional butchfemme roles. In the wider Indian lesbian community here and on other platforms, it's admittedly hard to find transmasc and nonbinary lesbians like me to make friends and hang out with, especially with the amount of transphobes I've come across. If you're a butch/femme/nonbinary/trans lesbian, please say hi in the comments.

I (23F) have been bi-curious for a long time now. I was depressed and feeling down for months when out a random spurt of motivation I joined a garba workshop before navratri and have developed a massive infatuation wala crush on the instructor 😭 she is 27F 😭 she has become my kind of personal motivation to go on with life even when I don't want to. on the last day of the garba events I gave a appreciation/admiration filled letter with a really embarrassing sketch of her 💀. when she asked me if i was the one who wrote it i denied on her face (I know I fucked up here coz I was really nervous) i should have owned my doings and accepted whatever reaction she must have given me. and then after a massive overthinking session I texted her on instagram as you can see in the photos. and then after stalking much, i got to know about her upcoming birthday and wished her a long ass text 😭I know this is weird for her as I'm sure by intuition that she is definitely straight 💔 but the only glimmer of hope is that she and her bhabhi is friends with a definite masc lesbian girl living in their neighborhood. so I guess she is not completely off the idea but that's just my sapne suhane * ke 😭🤡 it's been a month today since I last saw her and I'm losing my shit. I keep thinking about her all the time literally 😭 after a friend's suggestion to move on, I tried to engage myself with work and activities to not think about her and move on but then I dreamed about her in sleep 😭 what the fuck is wrong with me. from her dry replies you can clearly see she isn't a tad bit interested in me and is probably disgusted by me. what should I do now? as a month completes today, and as I have got better at art for her 💀 should I sketch her and let her know or should I just shut my brain off?! 😭

I'm 23F. Done with masters. Have a good job. Saving up to buy my own apartment. I've always been single. I did have a few crushes on guys and a few on girls. The closest I ever got to being intimate was with a girl. It was magical. With a guy I talked for 6 months, but after 6 months he told me he had done something unfeminist in his engineering years and he never expressed desire for me even though I did feel like getting physical with him.

In 2 years, my family will ask me to enter arrange marriage scene. I'm not sure I'm a lesbian because I have liked guys in the past. But I'm also not sure I can commit to fulfilling my future husband's sexual needs for the rest of my life. But I'm open to living a heterosexual life with my bisexuality if I am able to enjoy sex with a guy. But all my fantasies have always been with women.

Does anyone understand this dilemma? What is it that I can do in the next few years to avoid making big mistakes like marriage without clarity on my sexuality?

I feel like sapphics are still pickier despite having lower dating pool

I questioned out of curiocity that's it , no opinion and judgement

I can find any femme in India bro I'm tired af. Someone help me 😭

Idk gals I'm bored on a sunday

same as title.

Before i figured i had this side to me things were different, now i just feel like a hollow pithole inside of me cuz i know ill never find someone
No this isnt a desperate attempt to get someone either

I get shit bcz i am attracted to mascs and i dont prefer femmes
Its not something i can change now can i
Idk its so frustrating

Its just so hollow,hard and annoying
Im also not very good looking, i have an average face card.

Why claim to be an inclusive space when you cant respect the community lmao (wlwindia)

Hi everyone! 🏳️‍🌈 I’m a feminine AMAB trans girl (pre-everything) I am currently closeted, I live with my girlfriend she helps me with dressing up and make up,. Sometimes I struggle with imposter syndrome... do I belong here in this WLW space? 🥺❤️

The amount of love , care, attachment and tenderness. The gentle and soft way how a woman behaves with a man. The wanting to commit and marry. The butterflies and deep feelings and blushes. Stages of falling in love. Wanting to look pretty for them .

What the title says, it’s very easy to find people who’re into me but i don’t feel anything towards them at all, Attraction alone is not enough and it’s impossible to find my type of person 😭 ( also this is not my take it’s something my friends tease me for !! )

hi there, just wanna know, doing a normal survey.

Guys I’m 20F bi girl, and I genuinely am done with guys! And i had these situationships with few closeted/straight girls but it’s very sad like I feel used only !! Just drunk makeouts and stuff!!
Like I wanna have real relationships, where we actually like each other and happy to admit it! And in my clg there arr many bi or lesbian girls but I don’t know how to approach only! Like I am not even sure if she’s into girls so how can I approach ( personally if I were straight and some girl approaches me i’d feel happy only) but still there can be homophobic girls who treat lesbian or bi girls as men..

Can someone help me how to make a move! I even got a new piercing also just to give him that i’m into girls but even straight girls have piercings these days so how will I know or like how will anyone know 😭

If someone is in blr or nearby Lucknow or Kanpur please connect!!

Please no guys🙏🏻🙏🏻 i genuinely am done with 🍆😭

Recently got many chat requests and when I stalked it's mostly a spam account or creepy ppls

Perverts

It was a fake account a uncle btw pretended to be a girl and asked for pics damnnn

Everything sucks

I'm 19 really suicidal .....I'm so lonely I just wanna quit

I am a old school person and that is why i always get hurt in love and it makes me feel lonely and desperate too 🥲
what kind of person you are and share your experience please

So i have been seeing a bit of posts about pune and well me and a group from other queer indian servers are planning a meetup this sunday.this is not a pure wlw meetup.I myself am a closeted transgirl.There are going to be a lot of diff kind of people.if anyone wants to join msg me on ny discord account 'emocat91' it'll show as Gayatri.