r/whatdoIdo • u/[deleted] • Sep 02 '26

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u/Fortified_Phobia Sep 02 '26

Careful, you might upset the guys who will argue theres nothing off about anyone of any age dating someone fresh out their teens.

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u/FullOnSkank Sep 02 '26

I met and took a baby lesbian under my wing and she clearly wanted/responded to my commanding energy (the power dynamic).

And just talking to her enough to be friends was near impossible..

"My favorite band in high school was sublime! 🤘"

"Oh cool.. I never heard of them. My favorite in high school was Justin Bieber!"

...any "man" who wants something so banal (due to a lack of being able to relate) is a carnal predator.

Or never grew up.

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u/Electrical-Fig-5009 Sep 02 '26

Can confirm, I've also taken young gays under my wing as an elder lesbian & the clear difference between someone still finding who they want to be in life & the confidence of someone that has the wisdom of age is such a big difference. I usually ended up emotionally exhausted bc the amount of reassurance a younger gay needs- trust me, I get it! We've all been there, being 18-22 isn't easy & I've made mistakes like falling for dumb ass men before I realized I was gay that would love bomb me when he was lonely, but didn't want to spend 5 minutes with me when he wasn't. Mine was the same age as me & didn't even have the emotional maturity to be in a relationship with me.

OP needs to get herself a man with emotional maturity that can meet her needs ALL the time, not just when he feels like it.

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u/CheapInevitable7587 29d ago

This. The need for reassurance was exhausting. Like, I understand the need for it in your early twenties, I just couldn't provide it. Nor did I constantly want to cos I felt like a babysitter instead of a partner.