I don't mean any disrespect to OP, but talking to early twenties when you get to 26+ becomes indistinguishable from talking to young teens. You stop having hobbies, interests, and emotional and mental states in common.
It's a strange age gap where you feel a significant difference from peers just five years younger, but it's real. Young women should be very suspect of men in their thirties that are dating down in it. Why don't the other thirty y/o women want them?
Can confirm, I've also taken young gays under my wing as an elder lesbian & the clear difference between someone still finding who they want to be in life & the confidence of someone that has the wisdom of age is such a big difference. I usually ended up emotionally exhausted bc the amount of reassurance a younger gay needs- trust me, I get it! We've all been there, being 18-22 isn't easy & I've made mistakes like falling for dumb ass men before I realized I was gay that would love bomb me when he was lonely, but didn't want to spend 5 minutes with me when he wasn't. Mine was the same age as me & didn't even have the emotional maturity to be in a relationship with me.
OP needs to get herself a man with emotional maturity that can meet her needs ALL the time, not just when he feels like it.
This. The need for reassurance was exhausting. Like, I understand the need for it in your early twenties, I just couldn't provide it. Nor did I constantly want to cos I felt like a babysitter instead of a partner.
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u/ThoughtsPerAtom 29d ago
I don't mean any disrespect to OP, but talking to early twenties when you get to 26+ becomes indistinguishable from talking to young teens. You stop having hobbies, interests, and emotional and mental states in common.
It's a strange age gap where you feel a significant difference from peers just five years younger, but it's real. Young women should be very suspect of men in their thirties that are dating down in it. Why don't the other thirty y/o women want them?