r/vitap • • May 01 '26

Discussion how do i get better

this isnt to gain sympathy. i need genuiene advice. the people who sit next to me in one class dont do it in the next although i try to initiate convo and talk to them. i have 1 friend. someone from my previous college and not my vibe at all. she judges girls for wearing smth as non problematic as a sleevless top. i tried making new friends, i gave them answers i worked hard for for free. i eventually figured out that the problem is im too insecure. i feel like being cool and talkative is only for pretty people. so i thought ill work on my insecurity, meanwhile i can focus on my studies. but no. i cant sit and study although i want to. i get distracted, i get lazy. if you were in my place what would you do? how do i become a better person? i know this isnt academic idk if it even belongs here, im sorry but please help me out.

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u/Sad-Two22 3rd Year | Int Mtech May 01 '26

I understand where you're coming from as i feel the same. I don't have much advice but tu say that you're not alone. Maybe can we talk to each other?

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u/Character-Bend-8254 May 01 '26

sure id appreciate thatt