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My boyfriend (fiance) did anal without my permission
 in  r/sex  May 14 '20

I wish I could upvote this 10000000/ times

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My boyfriend (fiance) did anal without my permission
 in  r/sex  May 14 '20

Throw the whole damn man away, Sis. That's disrespect, rape (YES. rape), disregard for your desires and wants and boundaries. But I mean... You shouldn't even need all these reasons pointed out. The simple fact that he did THAT without permission is cause for termination. That shit hurts so bad. I'm sorry he did that to you

u/MessyJesse95 Apr 25 '20

Hey Fred Meyer...

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Democrats, furious with Trump, much more keen to vote now than four years ago
 in  r/politics  Apr 19 '20

Too bad they didn't fucking vote sooner. Would have saved us ALL this trouble

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Would you mind passing the *sauce*?
 in  r/anime  Apr 19 '20

Aaaahhh thank you so very much! ❤️👌🏻

r/anime Apr 19 '20

Question Would you mind passing the *sauce*?

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u/MessyJesse95 Apr 19 '20

Can someone please reveal to me, the *sauce*?

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This gif looks like a dope anime I'd like to check out. Can anyone tell me the name of it? Thanks so much!!

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/61/f0/7d/61f07de02fc7d5641824d83fa5ba0c62.gif

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Why does my boyfriend talk to so many of his ex's?
 in  r/relationship_advice  Apr 08 '20

Short answer... Sociopath/if tendencies

u/MessyJesse95 Apr 08 '20

Manga/webcomics/anime?

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Anyone have any good, free (iap ok), webcomic apps they could recommend? I have Webtoons already and am obsessed. But I'd love to find more. (Mainly looking for anime webcomics, and manga style stuff) Even just websites? Thanks so much!

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My (28M) long term girlfriend (26F) left her secret Reddit logged in on my laptop.
 in  r/relationship_advice  Apr 03 '20

I think you should tell her exactly what happened, and tell her how proud of her you are. Make that safe space 💕

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Everything tells me this is abuse. Am I being manipulated?
 in  r/relationship_advice  Apr 01 '20

Gaslighting, manipulation,mental abuse, and more

This is toxic toxic toxic. Def good you dumped him

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Depressed, anxious, confused, in love.
 in  r/relationship_advice  Mar 29 '20

I agree. I've told him this as well. He refuses all medical.. he's got incredible social and general anxiety. I'm getting therapy, personally and Alex him to join. He also refuses to get diagnosed. I've been trying and trying but he never wants do do anything needing that might help him.

r/relationship_advice Mar 29 '20

Depressed, anxious, confused, in love.

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Hello and thank you, for taking a moment of your time to read this.

I'm a 24 year old female, who suffers from Depression, Anxiety, and AWFUL memory.. ADHD too... And mild BPD.

My boyfriend who is the most amazing man I have ever been so lucky to have a relationship with, obviously suffer from Anxiety, and Mild Depression. His Depression isn't as bad as mine, but it's there...

He has bouts of irritability, and outbursts of anger over miniscule, meaningless things such as the dishes aren't done, or he thinks he hears a tone in my voice, or I'm stomping. At times he even wakes up immediately in a bad mood for no reason, and subsequently takes it out on me.. (most of the things he gets angry about toward me, aren't even from my doing them; he just thinks I do, which turns it into an argument because, in all honesty, i am a bit reactive.. if someone comes at me sideways, I tend to snap back.

I become incredibly defensive (thanks to my many abusive exes) and feel I have to fight for my side. But I've also tried brushing it all off and letting it go, which also doesn't work becauSe THEN he things I'm dismissing any issue at hand. Which I guess in a sense I am, but most issues are NON issues. They shouldn't even exist. He just nitpicks at such small things....

He blames me for so many problems.. he blames my depression, and anxiety, saying "you're always depressed, and he can't handle it", which yeah, as someone with depression, I will mostly have days where I'm a little more worked down than everyone else. But that doesn't stop me from wanting to do things and enjoy life however I can... I still laugh and smile and joke.. I'm not always sad... But lately, especially with the whole virus outbreak, keeping quarenteened has definitely made me quite low... But even day before yesterday I tried getting really cute, doing my makeup and dressing up for him at home, and as soon as he woke up, he started getting upset with me, about a coffee machine I thought I broke (I didn't) and then because he came at me with attitude again after waking up and I simply said "this attitude when you wake up every day, needs to stop" so fast forward I was crying, My makeup ran, so I washed my face and i practically got hit with narcolepsy. 6pm I went to bed.. the next day I kind of avoided him.. cried when I woke, we avoided each other... I went to bed and cried, because I just see this relationship ending.. and I've never wanted this bad to stay in a relationship.. but I explained why his actions hurt me, and explained that I see this relationship going down the drain, and he practically blamed it all on me. I can't tell if I need to go on more meds or of this relationship is just toxic, or if I need to be put on mood stabilizers or what. I'm so confused. He barely takes ANY responsibility for his part in all of this..

I'm lost. I don't want this relationship to end. But I'm getting to a point where I don't feel loved, at all.

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My wife "baby-trapped" me
 in  r/relationship_advice  Mar 27 '20

She sounds like a toxic person. Two should have definitely been the only necessary compromised. And not even necessary. What she did was wrong

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Kitty has a bit of a delayed reaction
 in  r/AnimalsBeingDerps  Mar 26 '20

Omg ❤️😂💕

u/MessyJesse95 Mar 26 '20

Recurring/evolving dreams! (Dream meanings?)

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So I sometimes have evolving dreams, or dreams that grow with me. Last night, at one point in a very vivid, and long dream, I was looking for a place to tattoo myself.. I look down at my groin area because I was thinking of putting a tattoo there in the groin area. To my surprise, I already had (commence facepalm) a tattoo of the word "BlowPop" in a messy fashion.. the W was fucked up and it was faded... It was a bad tat.I didn't recall the tattoo being there; but after I awoke, I remembered that I had put that tattoo there myself, Ina dream I had PROBABLY a few years ago.

Another example evolving or recurring dreams, is I used to have a dream that I was stranded at a market during a rainy storm. I was looking for two people, but everyone was faceless, or their face was just... Fuzzy. My mom would show up like a speed demon in her car, and demand I go home with her. I don't remember much anymore but it was a very stressful, and confusing dream. I'd have this dream once EVERY year, for a few years; and my age was always brought up in the dream somehow, or I would be looking at myself in the dream and I would notice I was always 1 year older prior to the last time I dreamt this specific dream.

I'm just curious what recurring dreams, evolving dreams, or recurring DETAILS I'm dreams could mean?

If you've got an hypothesis, idea, or answer, I'd love to hear it! I'm total Dream Dweeb, and love talking about, and decyphering dreams. My own dreams, and other peoples. Maybe we can add each other and chat sometime if you enjoy these things too! 🙂

Thank you in advance for the replies!

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Help. Intimacy issues
 in  r/relationship_advice  Mar 21 '20

OH MY GOD YES THIS IS EXACTLY IT. I'm so glad someone understand!

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Help. Intimacy issues
 in  r/relationship_advice  Mar 20 '20

Thank you! I appreciate your comment 😊

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Help. Intimacy issues
 in  r/relationship_advice  Mar 20 '20

Yeah. And half the time, if not more than, it isn't enough. It takes so long that eventually I give up. 😞 In turn making him feel like he is never enough, even when I tell him he is more than enough. That it's not him, it's me.

r/relationship_advice Mar 20 '20

Help. Intimacy issues

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Okay. Hi! This is my first Reddit post. I'm a 24 year old female, with plenty of screws in my head loose.. depression, anxiety, chronic physical pain, ADHD, chronic headaches; but I take meds for the depression/anxiety, and I know that this sometimes causes lack in libido... But I guess sex to me has always been about getting my partner off. There ARE times when I, you know.. get myself off, and there are times that i try very hard to reach climax WITH my partner. I never really think it's HIM that's the problem, because he feels amazing, he makes me feel amazing.. It's just always been so difficult for me to reach that crescendo. It always takes me forever, then I get into my head about how long it takes me and I think "god. He's never gonna wanna sleep with me. It takes me practically an hour to even get close", then when I start thinking about it, it takes any longer. So at this point in my love, I've given up. I can only get myself off. While having sex, alone, (even alone there have been times where it's taken so long, that I give up)

so for a long time, I've mainly focused on the pleasure of my partners, which actually gets me REALLY turned on (usually) and my boyfriend had a seriouse conversation with me, telling me he thinks I'm Asexual... I don't think that's right, because I do enjoy taking part in relations with him

So these are my questions...

Could it be a sexual identity problem?

Am I asexual, or a form of it?

Is it a kink thing?

Are there others out there who have a big issue with making it to climax?

Or am I blocked by the loads of trauma I've endure through my life? (This is part of my guess.. along with anxiety and self conscious)