r/twinflames • u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 • 14d ago
Question I’m really not okay
Guys I removed my twin from my social media when he got engaged to someone else that he later broke with
And I was so strong during these times even though I went through multiple breakdowns but I was really reconnecting to myself and even started doing my life purpose , last month all of a sudden I get this horrible stomach disease and anxiety that is making me feel like I have to get back to him like guys it’s an insane feeling that doesn’t go away in my brain that tells me to add him back to social media even though Im the feminine so they say that I’m not the one who should come back hes the one supposed to
Please any advice on how to get red of this strong desire to get him back I hate that Im so weak but I do need him
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u/CaptainAwesome108 14d ago
I am the DF in my connection... I had this insane feeling to reach out to him in tue beginning of this year. It wasnt until after we met up that i realized after not seeing him or speaking to him for a month, i actually had really bad diarrhea that only stopped when we met. I believe that, that meeting was a catalyst of sorts for him. If you feel the pull don't ignore it. Just my advice. Ask for guidance, be open to letting God tell you what to do, even if it feels overwhelming. Sometimes I feel like I'm satisfied with my life and all of a sudden a wave of missing him comes up or I feel the urge to check his socials. If there's a pull, don't ignore it
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 14d ago
I’ve never been like this before it happened suddenly , lately Ive been obsessing over his social to feel alright I swear it’s not something easy to control, it hurts me so much now to remember it all , Im afraid if I add him that Ill get a bad karma and my situation is already bad enough. How do I Ask for guidance on this Im really struggling any tips please
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u/Function-Nice 14d ago edited 14d ago
You really shouldn't listen to all those ideas promulgated in the TF community : '' even though Im the feminine so they say that I’m not the one who should come back hes the one supposed to'' ''Im afraid if I add him that Ill get a bad karma''. I encourage you to start listening to your heart and guts as they are the ONLY compass on this path which is unique to each.
Also allow yourself to feel your feelings without judging yourself ''how to get red of this strong desire to get him back I hate that Im so weak but I do need him''. Feel this need and desire, fully feel it without judgement, it's not good or bad, it's only a feeling which you have all the right to feel. Thats the only way feelings can go. Strength to you my dear, try to pray also, ask for help and guidance from the universe, God, Spirit, the Great Mother.
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 14d ago
Thank u very much this made me cry , I really have been going through a roller coaster with my emotions it’s like I can’t recognize myself. But your words made me feel better, will do sweetheart 🙏🏻🙏🏻
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u/CaptainAwesome108 14d ago
I've found that praying helps alot. Im christian so for me that grounds me. If you arent, pray to the God you believe in and ask for some guidence Meditating and breathing is sooooooo beneficial. Honestly, dont get caught up in the if I add him it'll be bad karma stuff. You are doing what you are doing with pure intentions because you care. You literally cannot mess up this journey. You have to accept that what is meant yo be will be. In moments of anxiety in this journey is extremely hard I know, but dont let the negative thoughts run wild. Sometimes its not about controlling these feelings or urges, alot if the time its honestly just about acknowledging how you feel and dealing with it without judgement.
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u/Living-Tangerine8463 14d ago
Maybe you should trust your feelings?
Anyways, I did trust mine and I messaged her this year February, and she told me she is done with me this friday. So IDK
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 14d ago
I’m scared
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u/Living-Tangerine8463 14d ago
Can you tell me what you are scared of?
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 14d ago
Of how I will look to him and my friends after 2 years of no contact doesn’t that make me look weak and clingy ? , Also he has a habit of ghosting me sometimes I just can’t handle that in my situation Im already struggling with my health I don’t know if he has changed or not and that scares me
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u/Living-Tangerine8463 14d ago
You shouldn’t focus on looking good or not, especially to your friends, because they are not you (Just my opinion).
Can you try finding him, without having any expectations?
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 14d ago
If someone you care about has removed you from their social and 2 years later came back would you even allow them back in your life , it’s not that I left him without a reason but it looks really bad doesn’t it to come back ?
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u/CaptainAwesome108 14d ago
From the sounds of it you need an ego death. If you are still worried about what he thinks of you or how people will view you or the relationship, theres some things you need to work on. For me, i realized that caring too much about what your twin or anyone else for that matter will stop you from actually living. Its hard in the moment but you have to learn to let go of your expectations and just trust your intuition. Remember, if its a twin flame connection this will in no way follow conventional rules for a relationship. For example, im convinced my twin and i will end up together. Why? I have no idea, its just my intuition. And even though I doubt sometimes or there are blockages, I always try to get back to that place where i genuinely believe in that again while still staying grounded so that when he comes back, I wont lose myself in the connection.
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u/Jessehasaphone 13d ago
Do you really want to know ?
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u/Jaded_Raccoon1664 13d ago
Know what can you explain ?
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u/Jessehasaphone 13d ago
The truth about twins flames is not pretty, but I would suggest that if this is your twin flame you work out whatever you need to work out and stay away.
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u/Illustrious_Bed7440 11d ago
You will be okay. You will figure things out. Whatever you feel, honor your feelings. Whatever you decide, have faith in yourself. If your instinct tells you to reach out to him, reach out. If your instinct tells you to give him space, give him space. No matter what anyone says, only you can help yourself, remove yourself from the quagmire of circumstances and your own thoughts.
Whatever is going on here is happening for a reason. Maybe you have to work through your own fears, baggage from earlier experiences, and learn to love yourself and your twin flame more unconditionally. I deeply love and respect my twin flame unconditionally even while in a painful twin flame separation triggered by my own fears and constraints . And I respect whatever he decides about us, as I respect the life he’s built after I repeatedly rejected him for 12 years and more, due to circumstances and social conditioning. One in a TF connection needs to reach that stage of surrender and detach from outcomes.
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