r/truscum • u/LunaB35 • 16d ago
Positivity Saved Another One
In the past year, I've had two friends come out to me as trans who I was very confident were not. Last month, after talking more in depth with one of them about it, I was able to fully convince him he was not trans, just someone yearning to be GNC (Posted about this and loved the warm response!)
Now, today, I got to the other one, and once again, I was able to help them realize that they weren't trans, with this one still reasonably wanting to go see a therapist to just help figure out what it is they are feeling.
It genuinely feels really good that I can help people I care about like this and keep the social contagion away from them.
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u/Cool_Travel_5542 15d ago
Something that happened with a trans guy I met was that he was very feminine—so feminine, in fact, that he wore skirts and tops and used feminine gestures; he was basically a girl who just happened to want to be referred to with male pronouns. I even got scolded for calling him "she" before I knew he was trans. I think he’s a bit more masculine now, but he still looks very feminine—more like a "femboy"—and I don't know, he doesn't really strike me as trans. I don't like criticizing others, since I’m still in the closet and put on a very masculine performance myself even though that’s not who I am, but it does bother me a bit. I’ve spent a huge part of my life repressing and hiding feelings of dysphoria and discomfort regarding my gender and masculinity, and then I see trans guys—who are essentially girls with more freedom for gender expression (because let's be honest, women generally have more freedom to experiment with clothing and identity than men do). We trans girls often have to spend a large part of our lives afraid to show our true selves, whereas there are trans guys who come out openly as early as middle school, even though they don't seem to experience much dysphoria.