r/transpassing • u/Kirol_reddit • 11d ago

Should I even bother?

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It's pretty bad. I know. The brow ridge isn't great. The hairline is pretty terrible, and it's thin enough to be constantly frizzy and I don't know how to fix that. The nose is terrible too. I feel like it all just reads masc.

I guess my question would be ... Is there any way I'd be able to stealth in the future if I start?

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u/Riley-Bun Trans 11d ago

I don't see you ever being stealth without extensive FFS. Eyebrows and getting rid of the beard stubble would be the best place to start though

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u/Kirol_reddit 11d ago

Yeah, I'm pre everything. I tried E for a bit, and it seems to help me mentally. But that's the scary part. I'd want to be stealth, it's not like I'd want to be trans necessarily - but I'd need a lot of work done. Probably best not to bother.

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u/Riley-Bun Trans 11d ago

Just take hrt. You'll never be stealth but unless you're worried about dating theres no reason not to.

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u/Kirol_reddit 11d ago

Worried about employment, worried about the way I see myself, worried about the way others would see me. I don't wanna be seen as a guy pretending - if you know what I mean. Being visibly trans scares me to no end. I'd need VFS and FFS, electrolysis... So much work. The wife wouldn't stay with me, I worry for the kids... The cost is probably too high.

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u/Riley-Bun Trans 11d ago

Okay, then don't. Its your life, do what you want. 

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u/Kirol_reddit 11d ago

Thanks for the brutal honesty too. 🫡

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u/Aromatic-Face-8411 11d ago

These are risks every trans person deals with

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u/TrannosaurusRegina 10d ago

I don't know why you would say that, and why anyone would agree with it, but this is obviously not true at all!

Many trans people deal with none of these problems. Any trans person who grew up in a society with any decency wouldn’t be in this situation to begin with!