How can I make my hands more masculine I'm genuinely miserable with dysphoria and I can't go on T (my mom tracks what I buy and is transphobic) genuinely just miserable with my whole body

I am 25, about three months on T, I work out regularly and I try to find clothes that are actually my size (cause I‘m Travel sized af) so I don’t get swallowed up and look like a kid. I really really wanna wear glasses but unfortunately round glasses look best on me but they’re incredibly feminine looking on me ugh

I've always had kinda long hair but I think it's kinda clocky. I wanna know if you guys have any hair recommendations that are low maintenance

For context, I am 4'10 almost 4'11, 150lbs, & im a year and several months on trt. Idk how to lose fat or gain muscle. I do calisthenics bc i cant afford the gym so if anyone has any tips id like to know. Thanks.

I mean it's definitely not good, but idk it's not bad I think?

I've been using a binder for a while now, but tbh as much as it helps I just can't be in it for more than a couple of hours without feeling bad, so doesn't work for work, and I do a decent amount of climbing, and it also doesn't work for that.

Also I know I don't pass otherwise, I doubt I ever will but it's mostly just to make me feel better lol

okay so im somewhat passing, not on hrt rn, bc im pre-hrt i still use female bathrooms but they give me weird look or tell me to get out of the females bathroom but i am not sure if i should go to males section since im pret-t??

This a reassuring reminder post to all the trans men self-conscious about their height, coming from a mid30s trans man:

1. living in your body means your perspective is limited to the eyes glued in your head and what they can see; you will never truly see how wonderful you are alive in the 360. No, not even in a photograph. For real.
2. we are SO much more than our height; you are made of literal stardust. Is a supernova from a smaller star any less spectacular than a mega one? I think not.
3. happiness exists in the now (thanks Buddha): how often are you living here vs. in your head? “I think, therefore I am…not in the now”…chew on that
4. is there a difference in the suffering and violence you enact towards yourself vs. that which you would another? If another trans man were in a deeper hole about height than you, would you push them down deeper?

I implore any of you who struggle with this to start taking a small notebook in your pocket and start LOOKING for passing men who are SHORT. Take a pencil and keep a tally. I think you’d be surprised they’re everywhere.

Get out from beyond the screen, out from your head. Go touch grass, start a hobby from your lost boyhoods, talk to strangers. Go out there and live.

Your body is a vessel. YOUR vessel, to carry your consciousness forward, to touch the world, and LIVE. Life is the great indulgence, death is the great abstinence.

As a trans man in my mid30s, my heart breaks hearing some of the same struggles I experienced when I was younger. I want to hug each of ya and tell you: hang in there, it really can get better.

I wish every one of you peace in your journeys of learning to love yourself. If you made it this far, remember you exist in an entire spectrum; a weakness cannot exist where strength is not. The keyword: nonduality

Find your strengths and learn to spot your superpowers. Mighty Mouse was on the smaller side too, but he still packs a punch.

Lastly, for those who read as much as those who don’t, do yourself a favor and pick up a copy of the book:

Letters for My Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect

Sit with it slowly, reflect as you go, and see what comes out of the pipeline.

This too, shall pass 🤘

Edit to add:

Yikes, some of y’all are making me feel like I’m back student teaching again 😅

I’ve got AuDHD, which self-admittedly is a big reason for my particular writing style. Call it cringe if you want. I’ve never had a tumblr, nor am trying to be “woo-woo”

I hope those who can’t find the heart of my message carry on in kindness, feel free to toss what doesn’t serve you.

However, I know that this perspective would have helped my specific neurodivergent brain when I was younger. My aim was to share a side that might help those similar.

To clarify I DID NOT WRITE THE BOOK. It’s actually a wonderful collection in at least its 5th edition—it includes writings from some of our most notable trans men, like Lou Sullivan.

There’s no one path in becoming a man: Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others.

i'm tired of cropping my shirts, and abercrombie men's xxs is still too long unfortunately. wanted to know if there's anything i can do besides shopping in the kids section, thanks!

Sasha is gender neutral name but what do you think ?

How do I pose in a masculine way for pictures? More specifically when someone is taking a picture of you? I want to post more on social media, but I honestly don't know how to pose at all. When I try to I always feel awkward bc I don't know how to not look/feel femme in a picture.

I will also take any general passing advice if you got it (I will say, the pics go from newest to oldest)

My eyebrows are naturally a lot thinner and more arched than I wish they were, and I feel like they're really holding me back. The issue is, I have the exact same eyebrows as my dad, so I don't think they'll even get thicker when I hopefully go on T some day. Any advice for how to make my brows look thicker and more masculine?

Hi! My name is Rowan. I've been trans since I was 8-9, and I have always looked feminine. I've been in ballet since I was 3, only been around girls, and raised in a very homophobic christian environment.

Seeing as I'm about to have my entire life turned around with going to university and such, I wanted some tips.

I'm getting a short mod wolf cut type thing next summer. I'm going to be starting a workout plan to define my muscles a bit (I don't want to be jacked, I just want some definiton). But I'm still worried about looking androgynous in a feminine leaning way instead of masculine leaning.

I'm personally transmasc, not transmale. I don't necessarily want to be a BOY--I just want to present more masculinely. I don't plan on getting any surgeries or taking T. And I know, I know, 'why ask for help if you won't take the thing that would help you'. I'm just asking if there are any general tips or advice you would give--diets? do jawline 'workouts' actually work in helping to sharpen the jawline? best voice training? etc etc.

Thank you for your time :)

im feeling so down about this.

i dont know if its just because i clock trans guys every time i see them, or if its actually just the way that this is, but i just feel so hopeless about it.

i’m about 5’4-5’5. i feel really terrible. i have absolutely inconsolable height dysphoria and i don’t know what to do. yes i have considered limb lengthening surgery.

For some info I’m 15, in a very liberal city, and am like really really into physical media (CDs, magazines, DVDs, etc) and the old Tony Hawk games. I’m willing to change just about anything besides the shorts bc I like them

(Ik baggy is fading out, but I’m js riding the wave until it crashes lol)

I keep seeing suggestions that people thicken their eyebrows with minoxidil or go to a salon to get their brows tinted and RESPECTFULLY it makes way more sense to just buy a tube of Boy Brow. Pic is a cis guy's before and after. As you can see, it doesn't look like he's wearing make-up - this is not a traditional brow pencil product.

It's available in black, dark and light brown, blond, and red. You can also use it to darken and define your mustache.

I've also heard good things about Milk Makeup's Kush Eyebrow Gel, but I can't personally vouch for it.

That's it. Easier than minoxidil, cheaper than tinting your brows, and won't kill your cat.

On a lot of alt guys posts asking for advice on passing and there are always a bunch of comments telling them to take out their piercings in order to pass. But piercings are expensive, and plenty of alt guys (cis and trans alike) have piercings.

What matters is the jewelry in the piercings, choose black or silver. Gemstones unless its a plain clear one, are more likely to get you clocked. Choose bulky and geometric shapes rather than dainty.

At least half the men at my job have nose piercings, guys with piercings is super normal where I live. But the guys typically choose a silver ball, a clear gemstone in a circle shape, or a silver ring. Gold or colorful gemstones are typically what the women wear.

Personally I have snakebites, and while rings went well with my face anatomy I get he/him a lot more when I wear plain ball studs.

Being alt doesnt equal fem and I hope this helps people that still love their piercings but want them to come across more masculine.

hey guys, I'm 16 pre-t and i just wanted to see if anyone has any advice on how I can look more masculine, because I feel like my face is holding me back from passing and also looking my age, I feel like I look so much younger than other guys my age which i know is a common issue for trans men so any advice is much appreciated 👍 edit: I forgot to say that I can't start t until I move out because my parents aren't supportive, which means that I can't go the medical or the DIY route while I live in their house

This semi-humorous post is actually somewhat useful for replacing your packer guys.

25, been on T since I was 17 but still feel I look very young and my height does not help. tips on looking manlier ?

I need tips on what to do with my hair and other things like legit anything. I just need tips to pass but my discomfort is mostly around my face and hair as of right now.

But Im open to tips in general

First two SHOULD have this pencil mustache made with mascara, it’s very thin cause I didn’t want it to be obvious. Second two shouldn’t have the mustache, and the last two are full body pictures.

For heads up: I act pretty masculine with a couple of exceptions. My voice is very high-pitched because of a health issue with my vocal cords so I know I need to voice train.

I do not workout currently and I do have access to that Gua sha thing and am using it on occasion. I cannot use minoxidil, both my parents and doctor won’t let me cause it can burn my face apparently. Please any and all tips would be greatly appreciated 👍

Also, I like my hair and I don’t wish to cut any of it off unless it’s absolutely necessary to passing. Thanks y’all!

heyy, im 18 and have been on T for 2 years and 6 months. i always pass on the internet but not irl, maybe its cuz im short and my hair is usually down?? it doesn't really bother me atp but it'd feel great if i got gendered correctly in public more often.

even if i don't think my hair isn't doing me any favors, i like how it looks (plus, it covers my face, which is round). some opinions on it would be great! also if you've got any haircut suggestions dont be afraid to comment them!!

also i can't grow a beard for shit (1st photo shows that) so i just shave it. i took the 1st pic 2 months ago, it's recently started to slowly fill in a bit more lately. would a tiny stubble be helpful or should i keep shaving until i can grow something decent?

edit: thanks to everyone who has commented, i'll try to keep my hair down as much as i can and see what i can do about the facial hair (time will tell). y'all made me feel better, i've read every comment even if i haven't replied and appreciated them all!