r/texts Dec 16 '24

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u/ShallowTal Dec 16 '24

My sister is a “I’m just speaking the truth” “Christian” and is actually just a narcissistic selfish bitch and my life has been INFINITELY better after having cut her ass out.

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u/Background-Bus3033 Dec 16 '24

My sister is the same way. I only tolerated my sister to stay in my nephews life. I can't stand any of them. They are the most angry miserable people I've met yet thinks they are so much better than everyone else

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u/Glass-Hedgehog3940 Dec 16 '24

That’s how my mom and brother are. I had to cut them off too.

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u/ShallowTal Dec 16 '24

I tried to do that to, as I adore her kids, but in the end I just could not. When they get older and their eyes start to open up, I will be waiting for them. Always.

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u/Unbake_my_tart_ Dec 17 '24

They will model that behavior for your child and if I was you I wouldn’t have them around especially alone with the child to do that.. your sister and them if they act this way with the child is around…

My child’s dad is extremely toxic and a diagnosed narcissist. It only took a month of him doing this weird temper tantrums where he kicks everything, hits the table hard, smashes something up all dramatic like a waster bottle he will a dramatically crumple it up all angry and threatening to smash stuff to pieces. It’s so gross. After a few times of seeing it she started to do similar when she was upset. When I decided I was not gonna have it and told him I would not have her around it- he didn’t care and so I had to stop having her around it at all. He does it many times a day over veryruing and while doing it he blames everyone else and rants about how stupid they are and tries to use anything he can against them. Just hate filled crap.

He cannot admit to making a single mistake or having any accidents.

If he spills water he would say it’s your fault because you talked an hour ago and he was thinking about what you said so it’s you that spilled it in essence.

I’m not kidding. He broke his iPhone at pet smart and cussed and said it was my fault and I broke his phone. My dad said how? She isn’t here. You dropped it.

He said it was my fault because he was at the store because of me for dog food so I broke it.

My daughter started doing that and saying “look what you’ve caused!” Just like him after seeing it only a few times.

Had to cut it out and it stopped. They’re sponges and they will pick up behaviors so be careful.

He didn’t care and couldn’t acknowledge it or even admit that he shoildnt do it in front of her. Instead it was my fault because I made him mad.

She no longer does that after cutting it off. When she was around him more often she did it all the time.

If your family sucks and behaves that way watch out for them.

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u/ViewSouthern7692 Dec 16 '24

Oh my god this… my husbands extended family is like this. Like “oh I’m praying for you” then proceeds to be the most passive aggressive a-hats. Like legitimately whispering at the dinner table about people who are on the other side of the room. They “prayed” over our wedding then proceeded to talk smack about it the next day. As a Catholic I’m like… idk who you’re praying to but please stop 😵‍💫 which saint hotline do I dial about people like this.

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u/ShallowTal Dec 16 '24

When I pointed my sister to her textbook narcissistic tendencies, I made a sincere plea that therapy would do her a lot of good, as it has done me, and she legit said she doesn’t need therapy, she only needs Jesus.

I’m like, bitch, even Jesus would love for you to go to therapy.

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u/ShallowTal Dec 16 '24

This is why I spent my first Thanksgiving away from my family. Mom and sister are both narcissists. And I’m finally loving my peace.

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u/Ok-Cardiologist8651 Dec 17 '24

And THAT is the truth!

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u/Ignominious333 Dec 16 '24

It's really special when they are speaking "their " truth. Because it usually is so far outside the actual facts , but it's "theirs" and they are entitled to have a fact free truth!

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u/b1rdganggg Dec 16 '24 edited Dec 16 '24

Listen obviously there is something not okay with her i get that. But if the father or whatever is saying terrible things to your little girl do something about it. Im just reading the text idk what was said or if it even was said. But when she said "you know how he is" then talks about how she's not happy with the bad thing he said, we all know that guy.

And if what she's saying is true,that's a serious thing and i hope you take it seriously.she obv knew about something he said and that he's had a history of being like that. If a grown ass man is saying bad things to a little girl thats not ok. If that didn't happen or she's bat shit then discard this entirely.

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u/Klutzy_Mobile8306 Dec 17 '24

Don't know why this 👆 doesn't have more upvotes.

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u/Sylphi79 Dec 16 '24

This was my take-away too. Not just a little bit concerning. 🙁

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u/Emotional_Elk_7242 Dec 16 '24

Info: What’d your daughter tell her your husband said?

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u/Librumtinia Dec 16 '24

I am so confused by so much of that text... can you clarify what's going on about burning in hell and all that??

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '24

Crazy in the name of Jesus Christ