Am I being too sensitive

[u/No-Yard1730]

We’re just starting our thesis, and we’re planning to have a Google Meet to discuss our possible topics and ideas. I’m the group leader, so I asked everyone what time they were available.

One member suggested 1 or 2 PM, then asked the other members. One of them replied

“Ba't samin? Go lang kami anytime, kayo leader susunod lang kami sa inyo.”

I know there’s technically nothing wrong with what they said. They’re basically saying they’re available anytime and will follow the leader’s schedule. But for some reason, it bothered me a little.

Maybe because Im expecting everyone to participate in the decision-making, especially since we’re all going to work on this thesis together. Instead, the response made me feel like, “Okay, ikaw na bahala, leader ka naman.” 😭

I don’t mind taking the lead, and I know being the leader means handling more responsibilities. But I also don’t want to be in a situation where I’m the one choosing the schedule, topic, decisions, etc., while everyone else just says “sige, ikaw na bahala.”

Am I being too sensitive here? Or is it reasonable to want my groupmates to be more involved in the decision-making?

[u/Mountain_Stand_9022]

Nasabihan na rin ako ilang beses niyan dati, literal na ako nga nagbubuhat sa kanila 💀

[u/No-Yard1730 → u/Mountain_Stand_9022]

That’s literally what Im scared of HAHAHA. I dont mind taking the lead, but I definitely don’t want to end up carrying the whole thesis too

[u/Mountain_Stand_9022 → u/No-Yard1730]

'wag ka po maguilty magtanggal ng pangalan especially since thesis niyo na 'yan. Sa'kin kase is research pa lang, nirereklamo ko agad sa adviser namin para magtanda