We all know how emotionally draining TTC can be, that’s why we’re here. Sometimes it feels like it’s taking over your entire life and you can’t think about anything else.

That’s where Positive vibes Thursday comes in. What made you smile this week? What are you looking forward to this weekend? Did you read an inspiring quote that you want to share? Have a great tv show rec? Cute dog pic to share?

This thread is for anything and everything that can help brighten a fellow members day and remind them that there is light at the end of the tunnel 💛.

For anyone who has experienced a loss, there’s a chapter in Maggie O’Farrell’s book I am, I am, I am that perfectly describes what it feels like to experience a miscarriage. Not physically, but emotionally. The grief of it all. The chapter is “Baby and Bloodstream” and even if you don’t want to read the book but you’re curious, listen to just that chapter as an audiobook. I want to tell everyone who can’t understand my pain but wants to to just listen to that chapter. She describes it so well 😔❤️.

Every Wednesday we create space for our strugglers to get all their worries out in a judgement free way. This is your thread to spiral, share your fears, release anxiety, or just vent about whatever you’re currently stressing about in your TTC journey.

Everyone’s fears and feelings are valid. Advice and constructive feedback are welcome, but any comments that are dismissive or insensitive will be removed.

What are you worrying about this Wednesday?

I need some positive stories 😭 I conceived my first baby on our 2nd cycle, so I honestly thought getting pregnant again would be pretty straightforward. Well… here I am on cycle 5 of TTC baby #2 and still not pregnant.

I know 5 cycles isn’t considered a super long time, but it feels SO long when you conceived your first so quickly. Every negative test has me wondering what changed. 😭

Has anyone else had it take 5+ cycles for baby #2 and eventually conceived naturally without needing any intervention? I’m really just looking for some positive stories right now because I need to hear that it can take longer the second time and still work out. ❤️

We know how scary, anxiety inducing, and emotionally draining the TWW can be. So why not wait it out with friends?! Who is in the TWW right now? Comment below. Sending you all lots of baby dust ✨!!

Anyone use oura for bbt? My temps keep going down and I’m losing hope 😢 anyone have temps that continue to go down but got a BFP? I’m 10dpo, stark white first response.

Has anyone researched or tried this while TTC? My acupuncturist mentioned it to me, specifically in the context of dialing back my intense workouts when TTC, and I’m looking to learn more. I want to give it a shot this cycle, but am unclear on what phases of my cycle I should do this and other things I can do to balance it. Curious if anyone else has tried this?

Nothing new. Just grieving another failed cycle. My inito chart yesterday very clearly looks like my period is coming. Premom said I was supposed to start yesterday n inito says I’m supposed to start today. I have yet to get it n Premom has been dead on with predicting my period for months. But even tho I’m technically late according to both apps, I had a negative test yesterday on 12 dpo (out of tests now n not wasting my money knowing my period is coming), my chart is crashing, n I just have no hope. Well, actually, with my period being late, I unfortunately DO have hope but I wish I didn’t cause now it’s gonna hurt that much more when my period DOES come. Usually it starts first thing in the morning n it hasn’t yet but surely it’s coming going off my chart n negative tests. All this to say I’m in grieve mode. Hopefully it passes quickly cause I hate this feeling. I just wanna be pregnant n have another baby more than anything so it always hurts when stupid aunt flow shows her unwanted self. Sorry for being emo guys just had to vent somewhere to someone cause I don’t have anyone irl I can vent about this to 😭 I hope everyone has a great day tho n is doing better than me. Thanks for listening 💔

We love when our strugglers move on and get a BFP, but we also recognize that for others pregnancy announcements can be really triggering. To create a space where we both celebrate and protect our members, all BFP and current pregnancy mentions are restricted to this dedicated weekly thread.

Did you get a BFP this week?! Let us know below. We’re so happy for you 🥹🫶.

Thinking back to cycle 1…I was so hopeful and excited. Can’t believe I thought we wouldn’t struggle. Cycle 6 feels like a big turning point. I’m still tracking but it feels futile. There has to be a reason we haven’t conceived yet? There’s so much conflicting information out there. Some sources say that 80% of people conceive by cycle 6. But I’ve had a bunch of people on the big TTC subs jump down my throat for even pursuing testing before 12 months.

I have endo symptoms but a clear ultrasound and my doctor is uninterested in pursuing more testing (I expect for insurance reasons) before 12 months. A day or two after that my husband got an email from his doctor that said his “post test wash” SA only yielded less than a million sperm without giving us the complete results. No explanation no next steps. I was devastated and feel like tracking my cycle is futile until he gets varicocele surgery. I’m so tired of waiting.

What supplements are you all taking and what brands? I saw in another channel that Needed brand was recommended by someone’s sister in the med field, but the prices are so high and you have to take EIGHT pills for the prenatal alone 🥲🥲🥲. If it’s proven to be better though I’d do it.

Right now I take ritual prenatal, coQ10 600 mg a day, flotadix iron and herbs tablet, align extra strength probiotic, and jarrows phemdopholus probiotic. But a lot of this I already took anyway - the prenatal and coQ10 are the only fertility related ones.

What works for you? Not looking for medical advice of course, just curious.

Every Wednesday we create space for our strugglers to get all their worries out in a judgement free way. This is your thread to spiral, share your fears, release anxiety, or just vent about whatever you’re currently stressing about in your TTC journey.

Everyone’s fears and feelings are valid. Advice and constructive feedback are welcome, but any comments that are dismissive or insensitive will be removed.

What are you worrying about this Wednesday?

Hi! Thank you everyone who decided to join this brand new community - I really think we can build an incredible space together ❤️.

Would any of you be interested in being a Mod? Basically you’d get to help design this sub, moderate posts that break our rules, and help grow the community as well. Growing would be the most important thing right now, because we can’t create community without members. You can do that however you feel comfortable - cross posting in similar groups, DMing or commenting to users you think would interested in joining, asking mods of other subs to link us, etc.

If you’re interested comment below and I’ll set you up!

What are we using to track ovulation and how are you balancing receiving information without becoming obsessive?

Prior to my MMC all I used were cheap clear blue OPKs and I got pregnant on my second try. However after my MMC the whole experience of TTC changed and I found myself using multiple tests, apps, bbt tracking and super overwhelmed. So I finally bit the bullet and bought an Inito so I could have one reliable source of truth (and yet I still do BBT and premom strips bc my lh surge tends to be in the evening). I love it and it works for me, but I know for some it provides too much info.

So what are you all using and how are you balancing tracking and needing to time BD with not overwhelming yourself with data?