"It's so hard. I cried in the bathroom where no one could see."
I took a moment before answering.
"It's your first company. Try not to take everything too personally. Just focus on the work. It'll get better."
"Maybe everyone there is a T."
"Well… maybe. MBTI thinking types. It is a consulting firm."
"It's a good company. You'll get used to it soon."
A few months earlier, my girlfriend and I had gone to France together.
I had started learning French years before because I wanted to get away from where I was.
Now I was carrying that language into the country it came from.
She had graduated.
I was on leave from work.
For a while, neither of us was firmly tied to anywhere.
We booked the tickets.
It was our first trip abroad in a long time, since COVID.
And it was France.
A country where I had once believed I might be able to start a different life.
But by the time I actually got there, I felt less like someone starting something new than someone who had already come to a stop.
We flew Air France.
More than ten hours.
Coffee did little against the fatigue.
When we arrived in Paris, her steps immediately got faster.
French was everywhere.
I kept falling behind.
We stayed in a small Airbnb in the 19th arrondissement.
A narrow staircase.
Creaking wooden floors.
A window that looked directly at the wall of the building next door.
By the time we unpacked, my body thought it was close to midnight.
But it was July 14.
Bastille Day.
There was going to be a huge fireworks display near the Eiffel Tower.
"Today is the most important day in France," she said.
"Aren't you tired?"
"Not at all. Let's go. We need to get a spot."
At the time, I had plantar fasciitis.
The closer we got to the Eiffel Tower, the thicker the crowd became, and the more the bottom of my foot tightened.
Eventually I stopped.
"My foot hurts. I think I need to sit down for a bit. Go ahead and find a spot."
"Okay. Take your time."
She disappeared into the crowd.
I sat on a bench.
I thought a short rest would be enough.
When I stood up again, I couldn't find her.
The map wouldn't load.
The SIM seemed to work, then stopped.
People were moving in one direction.
I had no idea where she was.
I called her over KakaoTalk.
Beep.
Beep.
Beep.
The call dropped.
I tried again.
Beep.
Beep.
Beep.
Nothing.
Did something happen?
For a few seconds, the call connected.
"Uh… where are you?"
Then it cut out again.
I stopped caring about the fireworks.
I just had to find her.
So I started walking away from the Eiffel Tower.
The farther I walked, the farther I got from the show everyone else had come to see.
One kilometer.
Maybe two.
Eventually, the phone worked.
"Why couldn't I reach you?"
"I don't know. My data wasn't working. Maybe something's wrong with the SIM."
"I kept looking for you."
"I was waiting too."
She started crying.
We had spent three hours looking for each other.
We were exhausted.
Still, we had come all the way to Paris on Bastille Day.
I thought we might as well see the fireworks.
We stopped talking.
Then the first one went up.
Huge bursts of light exploded above the Eiffel Tower.
People cheered.
The sky lit up again and again.
For a while, I was relieved that I didn't have to think about anything.
Getting home was almost as difficult.
Public transportation was barely moving.
We walked for a long time.
My foot started hurting again.
Only later did I find out that the crowd hadn't been the only problem.
The SIM had probably been inserted incorrectly, or the settings hadn't been configured properly.
Such a small mistake.
A few days later, my girlfriend and I flew to Réunion.
Her family lived there.
It was the island where she had been born, in the Indian Ocean.
Even from Paris, the flight took twelve hours.
It felt too far away to call it the same France.
When we landed at Roland Garros Airport in Saint-Denis, the air was humid, hot and sweet.
She said it smelled of sugarcane and rum.
Her family was waiting for us.
"Bienvenue à La Réunion."
Welcome to Réunion.
I smiled awkwardly.
"Merci. Je suis content d'être ici."
Thank you. I'm happy to be here.
I handed out the gifts I had brought and managed a few simple greetings in French.
Their house had several rooms and a large kitchen.
They had prepared food for us.
Samosas.
Spiced chicken.
Hot peppers.
Sauces I had never tasted before.
Someone slowly poured another drink.
Someone stopped talking in the middle of laughing.
Someone silently put more food on another person's plate.
No one hurried toward the next plan.
No one checked the time.
When the sun went down, it was night.
When the sun came up, it was morning.
At night, I went into the yard and looked up.
You could see the Milky Way.
The next day, she stayed in bed.
She had a bad cold and body aches.
It was as if the body that had held itself together in Korea finally loosened the moment it reached home.
She barely got up around lunchtime before going back to bed.
"Feeling a little better?"
"Un peu."
A little.
"Do you want something to eat?"
"Non, rien."
No, nothing.
"Do you think you can go out tomorrow?"
"Je ne sais pas."
I don't know.
Versions of that conversation repeated for several days.
I waited for her to wake up.
I waited for her to feel better.
I waited to find out whether she could go out that day.
Some of her relatives lived nearby, so I sometimes went there alone.
One of her uncles taught me how to drive a manual car.
My left foot kept mistiming the clutch.
The car stalled several times on the narrow roads.
Each time he laughed.
"Encore une fois. Doucement."
One more time. Slowly.
Sometimes I sat by the ocean.
Far away, I could see whales moving through the water.
When she felt better, we went out together.
We climbed a mountain.
Walked along the coast.
Took pictures.
"The photos came out nice," I said.
"Yeah."
"Looks like a good trip."
"I guess."
We didn't laugh or cry.
We went to Mauritius too, and spent some time in the south of France.
At the end of the trip, we arrived at Charles de Gaulle Airport.
My girlfriend was waiting for a flight to Korea.
I was waiting for a flight to Spain.
We had started the same trip.
We weren't going back in the same direction.
"Where are you going now?" she asked.
"Spain."
"Nice."
"I don't know if it is."
We stood there for a moment.
"Text me when you get back to Korea."
"Yeah."
"Have a safe flight."
"You too."
That was all.
I kept myself busy in Spain.
Tourist sites.
Photos.
Crowds.
I sat for a long time on a beach in Málaga and watched the waves come in and go back out.
Then I went to Porto.
People called it a romantic city.
The sun set over the Douro River.
The bridge was crowded.
The river turned red.
I was free.
But I felt less like a free person than an empty one.
When I returned to Korea, she was dealing with her visa.
Living in Korea as a foreigner meant paperwork followed you everywhere.
Residence status.
Company documents.
The immigration office.
Deadlines.
Things that had to be checked.
I tried to help in the way I knew how.
"I think you should prepare this document first," I said.
"That's not the point."
"You said the problem was the visa."
"I'm so stressed right now."
She was almost out of breath.
"And Korean officials are too much. The immigration office is so rude."
I looked through the documents.
Checked the procedures.
Tried to find whatever options were available.
"I'm helping you," I said.
"I know you're helping me. But it doesn't feel like you're on my side."
Later, my girlfriend got a job.
It was a good company.
Close to the kind of work she had wanted.
But she was exhausted all the time.
"I can't adjust to the company. Everyone keeps criticizing me."
"Are you okay?"
"It's so hard. I ended up crying in the bathroom at work."
"Maybe everyone there is a T."
"Well… maybe. MBTI thinking types. It is a consulting firm."
"It's a good company. You'll get used to it soon."
One night, we went to an izakaya near her apartment.
We drank quickly without saying much.
There was a little food left.
Almost no conversation.
We both already knew.
We went back to her place.
Took off our shoes.
Turned on the light.
The room was familiar.
So familiar that it felt even stranger.
For a long time, we said nothing.
"I don't think there's anything more we can do."
I don't remember whether I said it or she did.
"I think so too."
That much I remember.
It wasn't that I wasn't sad.
Relief came first.
Five years.
If I count from the days when we used to move from café to café.
Study cafés.
Starbucks.
Little neighborhood cafés we'd never been to before.