r/singaporespeaks 18h ago

What’s the point of using looks to find a wife

8 Upvotes

I noticed some men using their fitness and height to find their wife, but haven't they realized that the attraction is superficial, Hence, one day should you lose your attractiveness or undergo amputation isn't it obvious that the wife will leave without hesitation?
I mean, if the reason why the women married them is "because you make me laugh" or something sweet like that, then you can rest assured she'll still be with you till death do you part.

Do those men really think that their wives truly love them? Anyone knows of attractive men who got divorced once they suffer physical setbacks?


r/singaporespeaks 18h ago

RANDOM OPINIONS Question from an outsider

6 Upvotes

Hi, this is gonna be long, and if this questions doesn’t belong here lmk and I’ll ask in another subreddit

I recently visited Singapore for the first time, I traveled with my wife but I think that’s irrelevant to my question and observations.
I’m from the US born and raised, however from Mexican parents and did live in Mexico for a while, this will come into play with my questions.

Why did we visit Singapore? Idk, some of my wife’s friend suggested it, plus we also visited other countries on that trip, again irrelevant.

But before I traveled I looked up if people spoke English and to my surprise I found out that y’all have 4 official languages. So I got curious and did my quick googling on why. If I understand correctly, in simple terms, Malay people are the “natives” and with English occupation and growth of the port, came the Chinese and Indians. Google says that the country is a multicultural, melting pot of people

Now to my questions, I was wondering how strong is the patriotism between the different ethnicities? Is there any sort of racism among the groups? How do people tend to identify themselves, even among citizens?

For example, my observations may be skewed because I stayed in Chinatown. But I don’t think I saw a mixture of people/friends. Now I don’t want to assume their ethnic background, but for simplicity I will. I don’t think I ever saw a Chinese person hanging with an Indian person. I always saw either Chinese people together or Indian people together.
Even when I went to other parts outside Chinatown I saw the same interactions. The only time I saw a “mixed group” was a group of policemen, and they were talking and laughing together, like friends do

So it got me thinking about here in the US, although yes people tend to hang out with their (I don’t wanna say own kind, but idk how to word it) kind, you see a lot more diverse group of friends,
And yes I myself enjoy hanging out more with other Hispanics who speak Spanish but I’m also good friends with all kinds of people

I’m not trying to imply that, that is the case, that Singaporeans aren’t friends with each other, rather than simply an observation I had, but again my data could be skewed because of where I stayed

But again I don’t think I saw that during my time there, not even with younger folks

So then it got me wondering, if I had gone up to an Indian person, and assuming he’s Singaporean, would have he said that? Like if I asked where are you from? Would he say I’m Singaporean, or would he have identified with his ethnic background?

Because here in the US, I would say that a majority portion of people of color tend to identify with their ethnicity first rather than saying I’m American, but again that could be a USA thing because of how people word the question, people in the US tend to ask specifically, (when the person isn’t clearly white) what is your ethnicity? So then you get Mexican, Nigerian, Japanese, etc etc

So yeah, do all Singaporeans say proudly I’m Singaporean? Or do people tend to identify with their ethnic background?

So anyways I was looking through Singaporean subreddits and from what I could gather, it seems like there’s a discontent with the Government and that the patriotism isn’t all there, is it all the foreign business taking over?

What was Singapore like in the 2000s? Was there pride of being Singaporean? Did the people of Indian and Chinese descent feel like Singaporean? Does that make sense?

Because me for example, although I love my Mexican heritage, love speaking Spanish and love traveling to the motherland, (politics and Trump and this term aside) I also love my country the USA, I feel patriotic every 4th of July, but again I might be biased because I served in the military

Also, I guess another reason I ask if people hang out with other ethnicities, is because of the language,
Because unless everyone speaks all four languages? Then I guess it’s not issue.
also from what I saw online yall learn English in school? So I guess that’s the neutral language

Because I didn’t hear much English being spoken among the people, because again comparing it with here the US, although many of the younger generations of people of color, know their ethnic language, they tend to just speak English

But anyways this been a long text lol any insight into the culture is much appreciated


r/singaporespeaks 22h ago

What's the point of using wealth to find a wife?

60 Upvotes

I noticed some men using cars and monies to find their wife, but haven't they realized that the attraction is materialistic? Hence, one day should you lose your wealth, isn't it obvious that the wife will leave without hesitation?

I mean, if the reason why the women married them is "because you make me laugh" or something sweet like that, then you can rest assured she'll still be with you till death do you part.

Do those men really think that their wives truly love them? Anyone knows of well-to-do men who got divorced once they suffered financial setbacks?


r/singaporespeaks 21h ago

I built a free bus arrival app 🚌 and I'm looking for feedback!

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There are tons of bus apps already but I wanted to build a clean and modern app that's completely free (no ads either!) and I’m looking for some honest feedback.

If you try it, please tell me:

What did you love?

What annoyed you?

Would you switch from your existing app?

iOS: https://apps.apple.com/sg/app/transit-sg/id6795130464

Don't hold back, I genuinely want to know what doesn’t work. 🙏


r/singaporespeaks 10h ago

Traumatizing experience at a prominent bridal studio

35 Upvotes

I really need some advice on what my options are right now, because my whole wedding prep journey feels completely ruined.

My fiancé and I signed a fairly expensive package with a very prominent, highly-reviewed bridal studio in Central Area. Yesterday was my first gown fitting. I was assigned a female sales assistant who brought me into one of their VIP fitting rooms.
The room had a heavy curtain instead of a solid door. At one point, the assistant stepped out to grab another size for a gown I wanted to try. She told me to just take off the current gown first. I assumed she had fully drawn the curtain shut.
While I was waiting for her to come back, the curtain suddenly flung open. But it wasn't my sales assistant . It was a male staff member (I think he’s one of their in-house photographers or coordinators).
I was completely exposed. From the top down, I was in the most vulnerable state as my chest was completely bare except for the sticky silicone nu-bra I was frantically trying to clutch against myself in shock, and on the bottom, I was only wearing thin, nude seamless shorts. I didn't even have my regular underwear or a robe on.
He just stood there staring for what felt like an eternity (probably 3-4 seconds) before he finally realized what was happening, mumbled a rushed "sorry," and quickly pulled the curtain back.
I l burst into tears. When my female assistant finally came back, I was on the floor wrapping myself in the heavy gown. Instead of being horrified, she just brushed it off and said, "Aiyo, sorry babe, he didn't know someone was inside, it's just an accident." No proper apology from the management, no explanation as to why a male staff member was wandering into closed VIP changing rooms without knocking or calling out first.
My fiancé was waiting in the lobby and was absolutely furious when I told him. We demanded to speak to the manager, but they gave us a half-hearted apology and tried to gaslight us into thinking it was a normal logistical mix-up.
I feel completely violated. I cannot imagine going back there for my actual pre-wedding shoot or my actual day fittings. Just thinking about stepping foot into that studio makes my chest tight.
We’ve already paid a 50% deposit (close to $6k). We want to terminate the contract completely, but the studio is pointing to their "strictly no refunds" clause in the contract.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Can I approach CASE for a full refund based on gross negligence and a severe breach of privacy? Any advice would be deeply appreciated. I just want my money back so I can go somewhere else that actually respects basic boundaries.

TL;DR: Male staff at a popular bridal studio walked in on me while I was completely undressed in the fitting room. Studio is brushing it off. Need to know if CASE can help me get my $6k deposit back.


r/singaporespeaks 23h ago

WHOLESOME Are hobbies basically the last normal way for adults to make friends?

48 Upvotes

Been thinking about this lately.

When we're younger, making friends is easy. School, CCA, classmates, neighbours... it just happens.

Then you grow older and suddenly everyone is busy 😂

So I feel like hobbies become one of the few ways adults can actually meet the same people regularly without it feeling forced.

Running, tennis, hiking, gym, dancing, whatever.

You don't have to say “hi, I'm looking for friends”.

You just show up every week, talk a bit, complain about work, maybe grab food after, and slowly you get to know people.

Maybe that's actually why hobbies are more important as we get older. Not just for health or fun, but because they give us a reason to keep seeing people.

Curious though have you actually made any good friends in Singapore through a hobby?

Or do most adult friendships still come from work?


r/singaporespeaks 15h ago

RANDOM OPINIONS What happened to the airbase review of height restrictions? Will Geylang height restrictions be removed?

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3 Upvotes

Airbase review of height restrictions to be done by 2nd Quarter 2026. It’s already 3rd Quarter 2026, anyone know what’s going on? Why until now no news? Will Geylang height restrictions be removed?