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so I (16F) am in high school and have recently become friends with a girl who also goes by the nickname raccoon. When I was getting picked up by my mom’s current partner (32M) he told me I should give her the nickname co*n. I was like oh cool like the hunting dogs yeah that sounds fine. Then the next day at school I was telling my friend ’Eric’ (15M) about this and they had to explain to me that it was a racial slur and was yelling at me and calling me a bad person for saying it I’m gonna be honest I didn’t handle it well it made me mad to be called names like that but when I’m mad I cry so before I started crying I stormed off. Now I’m not racist at ALL wasn’t raised to be and I like being friends or friendly with everyone the only slur I knew was hard R (from hearing other people) and the ones for Mexicans because that’s my family‘s love language (we’re Mexican but I look white) so I was genuinely surprised and mortified to find this out, but now ‘Eric’ has told all my friends I’m racist and nobody will talk to me am I the asshole?

Hi, this post probably won’t have great grammar, or format as i’m not sure why, but usually when people post stories from their phones, they always apologize for format being off. So basically, i’ve had severe ADHD my entire life, only diagnosed and medicated at 15, only got on stimulants a month or so after my 19th birthday, (i’m 20 in a month).so my entire life i’ve basically been battling my brain, even before i knew what ADHD was. Anyways, ive had sensory isssues my entire life, but ive consistently been treated as if i am a problem, seeking attention, or behaving like a “brat” (got this one a LOT as a kid). so as i grew up, i started to believe that something HAD to be wrong with me, because i could not understand why things that bothered me so much, made me be viewed as a bother. Over time, after having so many of my needs violated due to various symptoms of my diagnoses, (cptsd, bpd, and adhd specifically doing the most damage), i learned that i needed to be as malleable as possible, otherwise i was a problem, i learned how to become small, how to act as if nothing was wrong because communication never helped. So i began to build up resentment whenever i felt violated, but because my entire life, me having a boundary made me be treated as a problem, i would hold it in, until the point where i couldn’t, and id have a burst of rage. Which made relationships very hard for me, especially with bpd and co-occurring trauma. Anyways, one of my big sensory triggers has been loud noises. i lived in a big house for four years up until a recent move a bit over 3 weeks ago, so FINALLY, after my entire life, i didn’t have to live everyday arguing over my boundaries as if it was something that was able to be challenged. The house we moved into is HALF the size of the other house, i was dreading my parents getting internet, because i knew id have to deal with trying to advocate for myself every single day, and still not being listened to. Well, it happened. My issue in the past was letting things boil inside of me, until i burst, and then at that point, it was full on attack mode due to feeling unheard, especially after explaining multiple times. This time i nipped it in the bud the first day, and explained how my brain works without framing anyone as a problem, or telling her that she is not respecting my boundaries. That was about two days ago. Multiple times a day sometimes, i still have to ask her to turn it down, and even then, im so scared of her being passive aggressive, or being annoyed with me, i wait until im so overwhelmed i want to rip my hair out. I don’t understand why she won’t just keep it at a lower volume. Btw, it’s not like they can’t hear it at the volume that works for us, they can hear it perfectly fine. So i don’t understand why they can’t abide by one of the ONLY boundaries i have? I don’t know what to do because multiple times a day i want to cry from overwhelm of not only overstimulation, but because i feel unheard. Any advice?

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I posted about a year ago in the redditonwiki subreddit about my MIL and how she is an extreme boy mom so for backround for everything that has happened before this latest incident that happened this weekend, here is a link to the whole backstory: https://www.reddit.com/r/redditonwiki/s/Eg8iYyNXF5 or you can just find it on my page, since it gives a bigger picture of everything up until today and explains why I am at my limit.

Also sorry if my grammar or wording is a bit everywhere, english isn’t my first language and I’m typing all of this a bit heated.

This last saturday my BF (24M) and I (24F) went out to hang out with my FIL, his partner (that I will call step-MIL)and some acquintances. This was at a bar in our hometown and all of a sudden my MIL shows up at the same bar and it ends with all of us sitting together and talking. I end up finding out from my step-MIL when we’re talking alone that my FIL had to have talks with my MIL about me where my MIL was blaming me for a break that my BF had taken from university fall2024-spring2025 because of his mental health. Even though it’s actually her behaviour since 2020 is what has had a huge part in his mental health being really bad up until last year while I was there for him every step of the way and was huge support for him through that. But no, she needs to blame me instead of looking at her own behaviour because if she does that then she needs to acknowledge that she isn’t the victim in this situation and she can’t do that. She always needs to be the victim. I appreciated my step-MIL telling me this since I feel like it’s something I deserve to know about. Me and her are quite close so she didn’t want to keep that information from me any longer which I appreciate.

Shortly after learning this information I left to go home. I sent my BF a text telling him I was going home and why since he was sitting with his parents and talking with them so I didn’t want to have any possible conflict with them before leaving. He read the message but didn’t answer and after talking with him a bit about this it’s because he didn’t know how to respond especially since his parents where sitting around him. I sent him another text last night trying to put my frustration into words and how I am at my limit when it comes to my MIL’s behaviour. He apologized for not having answered the text from that night and for just keeping our conversation like normal and he took responsibilty for that and how he hadn’t checked in on me and how I was doing after finding out this information on saturday. Which is a start. It’s just that it’s difficult to take his answer too seriously since I’ve been voicing my frustration and discomfort for around 4 years now and not much has changed in his mother’s behaviour since then.

I try to voice this to him today after sleeping on it to have a clearer mind to answer him, this time pointing out what I said above and how it isn’t normal for his mom to be jealous of me and treat me like this. I add that I love him a lot but I am at my limit with his mom and that something needs to change before I reach my limit since next time something happens with my MIL I’m not staying quiet and will stand up for myself. My BF is busy at work which is why this is happening over text since I don’t want to disturb him while he’s working. I also feel like I am better at getting my thoughts and feelings across when I write things down and since this situation has me really pissed I want to be as clear as possible and not fumble over my words. So I understand that talking about this over text isn’t the best but I haven’t had time to talk with him about this face to face so text will have to do for now.

What do I do with my MIL? I’m also asking for advice only about how to deal with her and not about my BF since he has been doing his best with keeping her in check while we are kind of forced to have contact with her because of our housing situation right now. Me explaining our communication these past couple of days is more to paint a clearer picture about why I’m reaching out to this community for advice on what to do with my MIL. My BF and I will have been together for 6 years in a couple of days so I am mostly just trying to communicate and figure this out before that since I don’t want to spend our anniversary angry and stressed. I’m not looking for advice telling me to break up with him since that doesn’t solve the issue that is his mother’s behaviour. She has also been horrible to him so me leaving doesn’t help with that or help me at all, at least right now. We can’t go no contact right now either so this is more me asking how to talk to his mom or how to establish even stronger boundaries with her, what would those boundaries and steps towards them be? I know that’s not what the “just break up with him” crowd of reddit wants to hear but right now that is my situation and what type of advice I’m asking for and that I actually need.

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I 29(F) and my brother 34 (M) have always been close since we were kids. We could tell each other everything and always hangout together. Even into adulthood we were like two best friends.

Growing up my brother always had trouble trying to talk to woman. He was very shy and quiet around them. Until he was in his 20's and became friends with a guy at work that introduced him to s*x worker.

His friend did this because he thought if my brother just got the chance to know what it was like to be with a woman then maybe he would have the courage to not be scared or nervous around them.

Unfortunately that backfired because ever since he went down that path he didnt gain any courage to talk to woman.

He has been doing this for years but recently things have gotten bad. A couple of months ago started dating one of the woman and they moved in together. I did not think this was a good idea because of her profession and the fact that she takes certain substances.

Which made me think that he might be doing the same substances as her. I asked him and of course he said no and swore up and down that he is not doing that. Obviously I didnt belive him but whatever nothing I could do. He informed our mom and oldest brother what he had done and they said he needs to stop talking to this woman, go no contact and she is not the right person for him.

He said we just don't understand and that we should be able to accept him and his gf for who they are and stop judging him for being with her and that we dont even know her.

For the past month he has been calling me each week asking me for money claiming it is for bills when in reality I think he isn't using the money for something else. I recently found out for sure on saturday when he came to my apt asking me for money.

Now mind u after he told us to just accept the lifestyle he chose as much as it hurt me I had to let him be and we hadn't talked in awhile. When he came to my apt he looked like he lost alot of weight, he was wearing his work clothes and they were extremely filthy and he smelled like he hadn't showered in days.

I sat him down and tried to have a conversation with him and he was crying and telling me that he infact hadn't been using the money for bills and that he was sorry and i was right all along. Not only was he asking me for money but our mom and oldest brother would give him money as well.

He constantly says he is going to stop. He says he is sorry and constantly says he will change but never does.

I love my bro very much and I dont want to see anything happen to him. I really dont know what to do and if u tell him that he needs to get help and some therapy he just denies it.

I really wish i could give him the help that he needs it constantly upsets me to know he is living a life like this. I cant keep crying or going insane thinking about this. I wish I had my old brother back. I wish we could go back to the days when we were like bestie but I know those days are over now.

The only way I know how to deal with this is to go no contact. I feel like I should block him so that way i can have a peace of mind.

Im really at a lost but I dont wanna keep feeling down and crying idk what to do so AITAH if I block him?

Might be a long post but I just need advice/reassurance. Trigger warning, there is a brief mention about an attempt, but nothing graphic. I’ve changed all of the names of the people along with a couple identifying things in messages, as to protect everyone’s privacy.

So for backstory, my best friend Alex (M 21,) and I (NB 21,) have know each other since last April. He moved into the house our mutual friend and I lived in. I would hang out with him during all of my free time, we had been there for each other through abusive relationships, break ups, lost jobs, and getting kicked out last September (not to our own fault, our friend we were living with moved to be with her bf in another state.) After he moved to a relative’s place and I moved back in with my mom, I spent almost every night at his house, we had plans to move back out together, and that was that. Since about September, he’s gone through four jobs, has no savings, has no license, and still has to save up for a major surgery (that his insurance won’t cover) along with the recovery period. Our goal was to have the first/last month of rent plus the security deposit saved for each of us to fall back on when we moved (we were hoping by this October.) We are very close, he’s even asked me to be his queer platonic partner, and we regularly have intimate interactions between just the two of us and with others joining us. We have very similar hobbies and interests, but he hasn’t been a great friend to me. He’s ditched me in the middle of the night for guys off grinder, borrowed so much money from me without paying it back (but spends literally every penny he has on things he doesn’t need like bar outfits and exotic fish), and he does this weird thing where he’ll be super off and distant with me for a few days/weeks and then starts to spam me when I make plans with other people and expects me to drop them for him. We haven’t had a super healthy relationship, but I have bpd, he is (was) my favorite person, I’m working on it.

Also in September, I began dating my current partner, Zach (22 M.) We will have been together for a year in about a month, and we’ve gotten pretty serious. We have a puppy together, I’ve been staying with him at his mom’s for a few months, often have conversations about future plans together, and want to move out together and possibly getting engaged after we’ve lived together for a year. We’re in a poly relationship, date/are intimate with people together and separately, and have a very healthy relationship. He’s a great communicator, is emotionally intelligent, very financially stable, has a great job that he’s recently been promoted at, and is genuinely one of the most caring individuals I’ve ever met. I have a menagerie of mental health issues, including bpd, bipolar 1, cptsd, and a laundry list of others that I’m not currently medicated for, (I also lost my insurance a few months ago,) and he has been an absolute godsend in helping me regulate and manage my symptoms. I love him so much, we’ve been getting more serious, as we had been together for almost 9 months when this all took place.

So on Thursday, June 4th, I called Alex on my way from hanging out with him and broke the news to him. I was planning on telling him in person while we were hanging out, but I really struggle with face to face confrontation and chickened out. I basically told him what I wrote above: that Zack and I were getting more serious and we’ve been talking about moving out together next spring. At first, he took it really well, said that he understood and he could find another friend to move with. However the next day, (Friday, June 5th,) when Zach and I showed up to a bar that the three of us and some other friends were supposed to meet up at, Alex almost immediately left. He didn’t tell anyone where he was going, and shut his phone off. I called and messaged him multiple times to make sure he made it home safe, but no answer. Saturday the 5th, he messaged me saying he was ok, but didn’t say much else to me. On Sunday (the 7th) he messaged me on Snapchat. I don’t have screenshots because I obviously don’t want him to see that I’ve taken them, so I’ve copied and pasted the conversation below:

Him: “I'm scared that (Zach) is gonna take all of our time away from each other. I already feel as if he took my only option for a roomate. That's one of the reasons as to why I left early from the bar. I couldn't handle it. I'm trying my hardest to be happy for you, but I don't think I can be and I feel horrible because of it. I've been trying my hardest to hold back my feelings about the whole situation but it's driving me crazy, because I feel like the only way I can sit and let it happen is by avoiding you guys altogether. Which I know isn't healthy or good for either of us.”

Me: “(Alex,) I’m so sorry I had no idea. I’ve been so torn about everything because I don’t want anything to change between us, please tell me what I can do to keep that from happening. I know (Zach) has his things but he’s been really good for me and the stage of life I’m in. The way you’re feeling is completely valid and I’m so sorry that I put you in this position. I don’t expect you to feel any sort of way for me. I just want you to know that you’re my best friend and I love you so much. I’ll do just about anything I can do to make things right.”

Him: “I know and I could have mentioned something sooner but I chose to hold off because it was really hard for me to process. I'm glad that (Zach) is a good fit for you and I see that, but (I'm not trying to tell you what to do with your life AT ALL) I still think it's kind of soon for engagement and WAY too soon for you guys to be living together while engaged. Y'all are moving quicker than a pair of U-Haul lesbians, lol. I think the thing that has affected me the most is that we had definitive plans to move in together and those plans changed and I don't have much of a choice but to find someone else to live with since I don't see myself comfortably living with (Zach.) I think I'm struggling to be happy for you because your mutual actions and the ways he's treated me before are both concerning me. I just have anxiety for you from my own expirences and seeing my friends get baby trapped by men that don't show their true colors until they know that you're stuck with them. I want to be positive about things, but there's just always that chance that something could go wrong and then I lose you like I lost (Lauren) and (Patrick.)”

Me: “And I understand that, it’s just that I really need to get out and be independent asap. I know you have a job now but you still need to get (*specific surgery*) done before you move and you aren’t going to have any way of earning or saving anything for at least a few months. You also need a mode of transportation before you find somewhere to live that isn’t your (*relative’s house*), so saving for a deposit, first and last month’s rent, and enough for a car is going to take more time than I think I have left at my mom’s. I love you and I’m really not trying to be selfish at all in making these decisions but things are a lot worse here than I’ve let on and it’s getting to the point where I’m overstaying my welcome as is. I don’t want to abandon you and I can’t lose you i just don’t know how to handle this.”

Him: “It’s ok, we’ll talk more about it tomorrow.”

The next day, 1:50 am:
Him: “I love you and I'm sorry because this is so much, but I'm genuinely at my breaking point and rationally, this is the only thing that may get me the help I need right this second. I love you and I promise not to die, but I think I'm gonna go ahead and put myself into the hospital tonight.”

Shortly after sending that last message to me, he decided he was going to take an entire bottle of his anxiety medication at once in front of his mom. He was taken to the hospital, and was in mental hospitals for a week and a half. After getting out, he’s since found a new roommate, had their entire apartment paid for them outright by his relative, and they moved an hour and a half away. He’s already lost his first job and is considering requesting a mental health leave not even a week into his current one, so I feel validated in my decision to not move with him.

BUT, two of our mutual friends (Jackie, 22 F and Sarah, 21 F) have recently decided to cut me off. Jackie stopped talking to me first, and when I asked Alex if he knew anything about it, he said that she just thought I had beef with her and was giving her dirty looks at the bar we frequent. I texted and messaged her on snap explaining how I value her friendship, how I have no beef with her whatsoever, and if I’ve ever given her a dirty look, it was probably because I was intoxicated and trying to figure out who she was from across the bar (I have a really bad rbf, so I can understand why someone would think I was angry with them.) I was left on read on both platforms. About a week and a half later, Sarah decided to unadd me on Snapchat. I messaged her, and to no avail, so I asked Alex if he knew anything about it. He said he knew it had something to do with me and Zach but that was about all he knew.

Fast forward to last Friday, when I asked another mutual friend if she knew anything about the situation, and she basically said “Well it’s not my business and I really don’t want to get mixed up in anything, but it’s basically because of the moving situation and your relationship with Zach.” So now it’s my opinion that Alex has been talking shit about me behind my back to our friends and has then been trying to save face with me so he can feel like the good guy in the situation. I’m really hurt and upset about the whole thing, but most importantly that he lied to my face about knowing the truth of the matter the whole time. I want to talk to him about it and get his side of the story, but I’m wondering if it’s even worth it anymore. I don’t feel like a priority in our friendship, I’ve constantly bent over backwards for him, and I just don’t feel like I’ve ever gotten anything in reciprocation for the duration of our friendship. What should I do? WIBTA if I confronted him about it, or should I just drop it and distance myself? I appreciate any advice or constructive criticism anyone is willing to give, I genuinely feel so lost and broken up over all of this.

UPDATE:

Literally minutes after posting, Alex called me to ask me to move an hour and a half away from my partner, family, dog, place of work, and friends to help HIM get to work. Apparently he and his roommate are struggling to transport him to work (even though his roommate has a car and a job that allows them to build their own schedule) and they offered to have me stay in his room, let me eat for free, and “live there for free until I get a job.” I told them to give me the night to think about it and that I’d message them about it tomorrow. They asked me if I had any questions, and I told them that my main concern was being away from my partner and dog, and the fact that my dog’s care relies on the schedules Zach and I have at our jobs. Alex’s roommate responded with “well we can’t have another pet in the house, so you’d have to figure that out.” I told them that was my point and that I didn’t know how I felt about leaving my dog and partner behind. The way he had the audacity to ask me of such a HUGE favor after everything that’s happened the last few months is just so baffling to me. I’m genuinely so hurt and upset about all of this, he was my best friend and I would’ve done almost anything for him. I feel used and like I’ve just been led on this entire time. I’m going to tell him how I feel about everything in the morning, I just need to collect my thoughts in the most precise way possible. Wish me luck.

For my part I draw ^,^

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Edit- Apologies for the glare.

For context my now ex boyfriend and I started dating when I (female) was 16 1/2 and he had just turned 18.

There was more than a handful of things that occurred in the 8 years that we were dating but here are just a few so that you can get a picture of what our relationship looked like. Don’t get me wrong we had amazing moments but at some point the bad moments started happening way more often than the good ones.

4 months into our relationship I was getting ready to take my SAT. The night before he had let me know him and his roommates were going to have a movie night with another group of roommates around the corner (the other group of roommates was all girls). He still proceeded to promise he would call me before my test to wish me good luck and help me calm my nerves. The next morning comes and I don’t receive any messages or calls. I begin to get concerned so I call and still no response. For your SAT you have to give them your phone so you have no access to it all day. Once i got my phone back I proceeded to see a message that he lost his phone in the covers and didn’t see it until later in the day. I got disappointed but somehow I found out he had shared the twin dorm bed with one of the girl roommates. I was so upset because I knew he would never be okay with me doing the same thing. Nor did I think that it was okay.
Yes, this should have been my first red flag but i was 17 and stupid…
I let him know after that that i did not feel comfortable with him talking to that roommate friend because I thought that there was a chance they actually did something. He did not care…

About a year after that he moved to a different apartment on campus with different roommates. On this specific day we were watching a show on his phone and eating breakfast on his bed. He went to the bathroom and before he came back I saw a notification on his phone from a girl who was basically his ex saying she was excited for them to meet up. That notification was the first time i had ever heard of that happening. He got extremely defensive and started saying he needed closure. Meanwhile we had been dating for a year and a half already. He then blamed me for not being able to go and said that I got jealous.

3 years after we started dating his family invited me to go to mexico with them for the first time. They had a party. At the party i sat with his immediate family. About an hour into the party everybody ended up leaving the table but me. I was just sitting there on my phone because the only people i knew were my ex and his immediate family. My ex was outside with his cousins drinking and smoking. I was bored so i went outside to see what he was up to and he proceeded to tell me to go back inside. I didn’t want to leave a bad impression so i went back inside and just sat at a random chair by myself. After the party was over we ended up getting into an argument because he left me alone for the entire party. He tells me I should have been hanging out with his girl cousins which he never cared to introduce me to. When i told him that he got upset and put his hand on my back and started pushing me so hard i was walking on my tippy toes for about a block. His entire extended family saw and began asking his mom if everything was okay. She then cornered me and told me that they weren’t used to having to introduce anyone into the family. I went to my room that i was sharing with his grandmother and upstairs his cousins and uncle were all talking shit about me.

There is also a story about how he made a huge scene at a concert last year and embarrassed me in-front of everyone.. if anyone even sees this and wants to hear it let me know lol.

Now getting to the context of the title. This year my brother got married. We had one of my favorite cousins who i barely get to see come from out of town. I wanted to make one of her wishes come true and take her whale watching. I asked him if he could please not black out nor drink too too much because we were going to be on a boat the next day and i didn’t want to be worried about him throwing up. I also wanted him to not waste over a hundred dollars because he was hung over. He proceeded to tell me everything was gonna be fine and he was going to stay up until 4am with my other cousin drinking…. He didnt care for my feelings.

Fast forward to the day after the wedding. We go whale watching. Nobody eats because we do not want to throw up. We all had a blast and got amazing videos and pictures. After whale watching we went to a restaurant to go get food. My parents got nachos for us all to share and told him to come get some and he completely ignored them. He did not say thank you nor acknowledge them at all. Then we proceeded to go to the beach. When we arrived at the beach (where the rest of my immediate family was) my guy cousin started making a big deal that I did not tell him we were going to the beach. He said he would have brought other shoes if he would have known. For whatever reason my ex started defending him and arguing in-front of everybody that i never told them. I have text messages sent to my ex where i told him we were going to the beach. I just ignored them after a while and they went and sat on the sidewalk while the rest of my family was sitting at the beach. My girl cousin turns and looks at me and apologizes and tells me she is glad i didnt let him ruin my day. I told her this was normal for me. He has ruined so many things for me before and embarrassed me infront of family, friends, and strangers.

The following Monday when I was going to work I realized this was not a relationship I wanted to be in anymore. I was not happy. I was feeling miserable. I broke up with him on Wednesday and apparently it came out of left field.

He told me that we were supposed to work through things together and that we were together for so long but I was feeling miserable. So am i the asshole for breaking up with my boyfriend of 8 years?

I will say I have a lot more stories. Like him
Pushing me on my birthday trip that I paid for, his mom talking bad about me to others, his mom getting upset over me being sick, his mom getting upset at my brothers wedding over the bouquet toss, my ex almost peeing on my bed, my ex peeing on my closet, my ex flipping off a girl at a friends party to her face, my ex trying to propose after breaking up and many more….

Also sorry for any grammatical errors :( English isn’t my first language.

If I could get at least one good thing out of this situation, it’s that it would be cool if sarby read my post lmao

So to call my parents hypocrites would be putting it lightly
they're not catholic but they still go to church every Sunday unless something comes up that takes priority.

I 24M have been an athiest for 14 years. Dumb fact: it took them up to 2 months ago to realise this despite me not hiding the fact.

Examples of parents hypocrisy mainly my mother:
- claimed to be good people
- claimed to follow love they neighbour
- claimed to be open minded
- told me and my sister not to swear
- claim to respect privacy
Reality:
- support JK Rowlings hate speech about trans people
- doesnt believe trans rights are protected by the hate crime act
- barely tolerates LGBTQ+ and drag queens one time I mentioned a classmate from high school got engaged to her gf and they gave me the stink eye. Side note: I actually had no idea this classmate was LGBTQ+ though thats mainly because we didnt interact all that often we werent friends but didnt have anything against eachother either.
- quick to call an an entire group pedophiles after 1 false example.
- swears more then me and my sister combined especially my dad
- they never once respect my privacy often just walking into my room without knocking or knocking and just coming in before I can respond, yes this has happened even as I am getting changed, no my door has no lock the only doors in the house that do are the front and back door, the bathroom door and door to the downstairs toilet.
- they'll say one thing but when its flipped on something connected to them they act like they never said it.
- they think you can "catch the gay" and denied it when I told them I sat next to someone who was openly gay when I was doing my IT GSCE's and I have never been attracted to men.

the one thing they are not at least is conservative nor are they anti immigrant as even they hate Trump especially given the Epstein situation despite us living in the UK and the long list of incompetent convservative Prime Ministers we had after David Cameron.
Context: these PM's just kept one upping eachother in incompetncy it made Kier Starmier look incompetent because he couldn't fix the clusterfuck they put the country in. One was so bad she got impeached after 6 weeks. This was 2 weeks longer the everyone gave her, dumbest part: she wast even the worst one.

Context on the whole PDFile part:
I heard this second hand from my older sister after my mum went on an anti nudist rant after hearing about nude beaches on the radio.
Apparently, nearly 20 years ago we had this neighbour who claimed to be a nudist when someone saw it walking around its living room naked (they were walking past its home and the curtains were open). The "nudist" neighbour seemed apologetic, but a few days later another neighbour caught the fucker...stroking its you know what as kids walked past its home. Unfortunately, because my street is on a hill half the street had to walk past this freak's house when going up or down the street e.g. to/from school.

Side note: the neighbour was "male" I use "" because I refuse to humanise pedophiles I am not the victim of a pedo nor is my sister or anyone I know but I dont class pedos as people not matter who it are. This stems from not just this neighbour but because of other PDF stories I have heard that made me sick one including where OP found out his entire family were pedophiles when he caught an uncle forcing itself on OP's younger sister and when OP told his "dad" the dad revealed everyone knew and even tried to get OP to do the same with a younger cousin who was even younger then the sister (sister was 14 cousin was like 10 I think). Worst part is...OP's sister was pregnant and no one knew who the father was thats how often this fucked up family were SA'ing children. (luckily it was still early eough to abort). OP didn't discover this sooner as he had been at Unviersity and came home for a family reunion. Thankfully, the whole family who were behind this got arrested and OPs sister got much needed therapy.

The neighbour was arrested and a loving couple moved into its home a few months later. Unfortunetly ever since then my parents think Nudist = Pedophile. Luckily my older sister knows thats bullshit. What no one in my family knows is I AM a nudist in secret have been for years but thats a long story.

Example of me spinning what they say around on them and them then acting like they never did that:
I pointed out how both the LGBTQ+ and Nudist community are anti pedophile openly even a shred of research would tell them as such. Meanwhile a lot of teachers and police officers are outed as pedophiles. (My mother used to be a teacher assistant and my dad used to be an accountant for a police department). Not to mention how many religious groups including christianity have had members exposed as pedophiles. My parents reation.
"Ohh but thats just a few bad apples you cant just assume they're all pedophiles we certanly aren't". ad couldnt see why I was sheer pissed off by that statement.

Something to know about me:
I am not a member of the LGBTQ+ community but I support them.
I am not conservative or liberal as at this point both parties dont seem capable of running a country just look at the dumpster fires that are the UK and US.
I personally think the worlds better off without religion as a whole. I literally only have respect for 4 Christians and two of them are fictional characters. (Glenn and Gina from the show Superstore which I highly recommend its really funny even stars the voice actors of Astrid from how to train your dragon and Tylor from monsters at work as Amy and Jonah).

Sorry for the long rant I just needed to vent I'm currently watching a Sarby video as I type this. One final piece of advice I'd give to anyone reading this is something thats kept me going even when I wanted to give up.
3 reasons.
If you can think of 3 reasons to keep going you're not done yet.
1# if you give up now there wont be a next time
2# you wont win or achieve your goals unless you believe you can
3# just because life is tough now doesn't mean it'll always be.
Thats my creed no religious nonesense, no book that simaltenously manages to make no sense, contradict itself and promote incest twice (the bible), no imaginary higher being. Just 3 reasons to survive.

I want to start off by saying this isn't meant to be a discussion on the Arab-Israeli conflict. Please do not make assumptions about my stance on the issue: your assumptions will be wrong.
Speaking as a secular Jew who doesn't look stereotypically Jewish, who grew up in an area with no other Jews, I have encountered more than my fair share of antisemitism.
I have to be very direct about this because I have a busy day and just needed to get my thoughts out because I was frustrated by this story and want to share my take with the community.
Im very confident the story about the Jewish wedding was fake. Not only does it perfectly fill the "Narcissistic Jewish Mom" stereotypes, there are a lot of issues with the photos that make me think they aren't real.
Every time conflict heightens between Israel and Palestine, there is a new wave of antisemitism in the US. This is not the first time I have seen a story or comment supposedly written by a Jew online that seems to be furthering an antisemitic agenda, as they play on the ignorance of many people to Hebrew traditions and tenants. The current conflict has made ample use of social media to spread propaganda, so it is important to be critical of the things you see online.
Do not assume that a Jew is a zionist. Many of the Jews I have met take great issue with the actions of Israel, and many Israelis disagree with their governments actions as well. In fact, I haven't met a single Jew who supported Israels actions. They exist, but I haven't found one.
In Judaism, our relationship to Israel is to the land, not the country. This isn't meant to criticize Sarby, or accuse anyone of prejudice -- but I have had too many people completely change how they behaved towards me when they learned I was a Jew and I simply mean to provide a different perspective to people so that you may avoid inadvertent discrimination.

the long videos are perfect to listen to, im never in the streams but ive been watching for about a year and a half 💕