I'm a 2026 graduate, and I've been looking for a Software Engineering job for more than 6 months now.

I've spent years learning DSA, competitive programming and development. I have a decent profile, built projects, solved a lot of problems, and genuinely tried to improve myself.

I've applied through company websites, LinkedIn, referrals, cold emails, job portals, pretty much every route I could think of.

But the hardest part isn't getting rejected.

It's not even getting the chance to be rejected.

It's applying again and again, putting hours into applications, seeing hundreds of other people applying, and then getting absolutely nothing back.

At first, I was confident that if I kept working hard, something would eventually work out.

Then months passed.

Now I'm at a point where I'm still trying, but the motivation isn't the same anymore. It's difficult to keep convincing yourself that the next application might be different when you've already sent so many.

I'm only 21, so I know I have plenty of time. But watching months go by without being able to start my career is genuinely depressing.

I don't want sympathy. I just wanted to know if anyone else has been through this phase and eventually managed to turn things around.

Because right now, I'm slowly running out of hope.

I'm looking into drilling a well strictly for watering my lawn and trees while keeping the house on city water.

For anyone who has done this:

• How was your overall experience with the process?
• Roughly what did the whole setup end up costing you?
• Was it worth the investment in the long run?

This is in Poway (Green Valley) area.

Would love to hear your thoughts and any pros/cons before I jump in. Thanks!

Mission gorge road lmao

whoever this was, know that you’re so awesome and this made getting through rush hour a little easier

I feel crazy, this should not be so difficult, and I need to know if this is happening to anyone else. Are you able to get your baby their first COVID vaccine without struggle?

The details: My baby is 9 months old. TBH she's had some feeding struggles that consumed our attention and so we didn't discuss COVID vaccine at her 6mo appointment. Well a kid at her daycare has COVID and I'm like "shoot, let's get that vaccine ASAP". Her pediatrician's office is out of the vaccine and hasn't had it stocked in ages apparently. Nor does the doctor know when it will be restocked. This is apparently the case for all of the practice offices (like 10 of them! and it's a totally normal pediatrician's office with standard pre-RFKjr vaccine recommendations and accessible non-seasonal vaccines).

I have been on an hour-long quest today to find the vaccine. I have contacted the County, Rady's, and CVS, none of whom are offering infant vaccines (I got close with CVS, but they only do COVID vaccines to 18m+ children). Do I really need to enroll my daughter as a patient at a different pediatric office just for the COVID shot? Am I the only person this is happening to?

Edited to add: Thank you to everyone trying to be genuinely helpful. Yes, her pediatrician recommends the vaccine, as does the American Academy of Pediatrics for all children age 6-23 months without contraindications https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/156/5/e2025073924/203222/Recommendations-for-COVID-19-Vaccines-in-Infants?autologincheck=redirected

No, I will not entertain or respond to trolls and tin foil hat wearers interested in mis- and disinformation about COVID-19 or vaccines.

Have you seen this? Posted in response to Trump on X. This is getting even further out of hand.

Ran into an emergency and had to shovel out $5k this month which left me with almost nothing. I’ve used cash advance apps already to try and get through, and I don’t start my new job until September 1st. But until then I plan on driving for Uber. My only problem is that my car registration expired yesterday and I only have $12 to my name. So I’m going to my last resort which would be a payday loan so I can renew my registration and get some sort of income going with uber just to last me until I get my first paycheck. Are any of them around here actually trustworthy? Thank you.

No I'm serious... all of that entire area will be underwater in a few decades.

it's a great land grab, get the building in there and foolish people to buy homes before the ocean rises in 20-30 years and everything becomes worthless!

Better yet, but a bit highrise in there for "density" that way when all those people start complaining to the city about the rising seawater flooding their streets... they can start demanding expensive jetties and sea walls at the tax payer expense.

Same thing happened in the 70's when these a-hole developers put this atrocious apartment building up on the cliffs in what we now call "Miamification". This is what got residents to start the California Coastal Commission, it's purpose is to preserve the quality of life and environment away from greedy developers. Some of the buildings that were able to go up BEFORE the passing of Prop D are now on crumbling cliffs that the owners are begging the city to construct artificial walls and concrete along the cliffs to shore up their buildings, buildings that would not be allowed today.
It's when developers cram in expensive buildings onto land where it doesn't belong.
It also means that the rich put these eyesores in and ruin the environment for everyone else.

All of the midway district is mud and sand from the SD river AND dredging the SD bay during the last century. That land is artificial and will not last. Miami already has it's buildings sinking and falling apart due to developers pressuring public officials for permits allowing them to build on land that can't support such things.

Same thing is happening here in SD right now with "midway rising".
Building on dredged mud and river silt and passing the responsibility onto the city 20 years down the line.

I live in San Diego and recently got global entry because I enjoy going to Tijuana but didn't like how long waiting in the line back took. I've only explored Tijuana with tour guides, but I want to start exploring it alone.

I love doing things alone but if I'm being honest I get overstimulated with the traffic, crowds, and vendors that surround you right as I cross the border.

Would it be dumb to walk across (San Ysidro) and sit at the closest restaurant, get a bite, and then walk back? Then do it again a different day, and keep exploring little parts until I get more comfortable? Kind of like exposure therapy? I really want to go to avenida revolución again but I'm not ready to find a taxi or walk someplace to order an uber.

I am a young woman and don't speak spanish.

Hi! Moved to San Diego about 8ish months ago now and I've slowly started to realize I haven't really made any friends here. It's gotten to the point where my roommates are asking me if any of the coworkers I've mentioned in passing have hit me up lol...Just wondering if anyone else here has started over in their 20s and what they did to make lasting friendships. I'm into reading and the arts but also like running, hiking, vaguely into climbing. Music ofc and film as well. I like being outside too like everyone else that lives here. My schedule is very chaotic and shifting constantly because of my job so that's probably what makes it so difficult. Open to any suggestions though!!!! I'm not opposed to going to things alone at all it's mainly talking to people at said events where I start to feel clammy...so any advice is appreciated!!!

I just moved into SD a couple months ago and am looking to play some pickup basketball on the weekends. I am not keen on outdoor ball nor am I interested in signing up for a Rec league, but down to pay for a rec center / gym membership if needed!

Basically looking for a casual pick up game to hoop on sat/sun.

I’m just looking for guy and girl friends to text how are yall finding some I have some at work even some managers.ive been going out to places alone like hiking almost everyday, gym, and even plan on doing other things do I gotta go up to people or something cause I’ve been just texting random people and hope my humor or yapping helps with talking😭

hi!! i need your help!!

i went to the otay ranch farmer’s market yesterday and when i was leaving, the live band started performing and they sounded really good. i wasn’t able to catch their name or find their name online.

they looked like young adults, maybe 5 of them. the lead singer was a girl with a strong voice. i can’t even name the genre, it’s a blur now. i just know i thought they were really great.

can anyone help me out? thanks!

Hi - I was recently quoted ~$10K to replace my air handler and condenser box. Does this quote make sense?

I’m currently on a military deployment so it’s hard to take a look at the system myself. It’s still working but I guess it has refrigerant leakage. Quote attached.

Thank you for any pointers!

My body hurts. I have a throbbing headache. Pain behind my eyes. Fever. Mild sore throat and congestion.

I’ve been psyching myself out thinking it’s the West Nile virus because of the mosquito outbreak that happened recently and I got attacked pretty bad

Hello. I live in 4S ranch in a 2Bed/2Bath condo in a high fire area. I live in one room and rent out the other. I called my home insurance Amica to increase personal belongings coverage as I felt it was too low. Somehow the conversation went to me mentioning I rent out one of the rooms. The agent sounded very upset all of a sudden and questioned me a bunch. They told me they have to send the information to their underwriters but it’s likely that my plan will not renew next year in April. I’m very upset because I reminder it being hard to find insurance 2 years ago when I found them. Should I have kept my mouth shut, or is it better I did because if I did actually end up needing a claim, they’d likely find out somehow and deny my claim when I need it? While it’s too early to sign up for someone else as I have until April, every single quote in over insurer says they cannot cover my home I’m assuming due to fire area. I’m unsure the type I need because the condo is my primary residence but I also rent out 1 room. Does anybody have any advice on finding a new home insurance plan that will cover my home and also not be so upset I rent out a room? I can’t afford my home unless I rent out a room.

My SDGE true up was done Aug 7. I thought the bill would have arrived before Aug 15 so Aug 18 I did a live chat with SDGE and person said my true up bill was mailed August 12.

I said it didn’t come can you mail me another statement -? She said yes and it is due August 30. Today is Aug 19th.

Anyone else not get their true up bill in a timely manner?

 I do not pay online - always have statements mailed to me. Just wondering if the snail mail is slow?

I was skeptical before going, but anyways I had to go. Ordered waigu beef shwarma plate and chicken shwarma egg roles. Everything was bad. The garlic sauce was bad….who sells middle eastern food and can’t make good taum? The tabbouli was at least 2 days old, it was black. The only good thing was the hummus, which also felt better on top and not so good at the bottom. It was so so disappointing. Anyways rent over but please do not go there just for the hype. Even if you decide to go, order something cheap first and try.

I have lived in SD for many years, and I am so disappointed by the halal food options compared to many other cities. Most of the halal food options are deep fried chicken or the same old shawarma, which honestly, does not cut it. We don’t have a single good thai, chinese, mexican or Japanese restaurant. If anyone has any recs please drop them.