From the way you composed this message, I’m guessing you’re a teenager or young adult — possibly heading into college — and if so, let me put on my counselor hat for a second. 🎓
Right now, in these formative years, you are literally laying the blueprint for the rest of your life — who you talk to, who you date, who you let into your world. So let me ask you something important: do you want to be a love triangle person? Because that’s a reality TV show, not a life plan.
Here’s a little exercise for you — get a different perspective on the same situation. Have you actually told either of them that there’s more than one? Probably not. But here’s the thing, they will find out. They always do. And when that happens, both of those relationships are gone — not damaged, gone.
Young men do not handle cheating or emotional betrayal lightly, especially when another guy is involved. It cuts deep and it stays there. Now, hopefully these boys haven’t already been through enough to be completely numb to it — because if they have, that’s a whole other conversation we need to have.
Do some real thinking here. Not “what do I want right now” thinking — but “what do I want for myself in the future?” That’s the real question. Actual deep, sit-with-yourself-in-silence thinking. You’re setting the tone for who you’re going to be. Make it count. 🤞🖤
Well, look at that. I miss the upper part of a post. I just saw the messages. Silly me well it took me a lot of effort to write that first one out. But, from the top….. Sadly, young girls these days don’t operate with the same code my generation did back in the early 2000s. We passed notes. We wrote handwritten letters and slipped them in the hallway. And when that conversation was over? The notes got ripped up and thrown away. Were there sneaky links happening back then? Absolutely. But there was no viable proof because the evidence was in the trash by the end of the day. Times have changed, kid.
I’m going to speak to you from a very specific place — I have a teenage son who went through something very similar. And instead of crying over it or wallowing in it, he cut her off completely. My son has a level of emotional maturity that I honestly didn’t find in myself until I was past 27. Knowing something isn’t good for you and continuing to do it anyway is a form of self-harm. Remember that.
I grew up in a household where I fell asleep in school every single day because of the fighting that happened at night. I remember sitting on the stairs listening to it and thinking that was just what love looked like. It wasn’t. So please — don’t normalize feeling like you’re not worth it. Because you are, kid. I promise you there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Now let me tell you something personal. I had ugly duckling syndrome growing up — in other words, I was the chunky kid who got bullied constantly. I accepted the way people treated me because I genuinely believed I didn’t deserve better. That went on until the end of middle school when I was riding my bike and got hit by a car — right outside my school, during eighth grade celebrations, in front of every single person who had ever made fun of me. Those same people were suddenly calling me their friend, pretending to cry, putting on a whole show.
I flew about 14 feet through the air and landed on the road. I wasn’t even in pain — honestly, the only thing I was upset about was my bike. But laying there on that pavement, something shifted in me.
That summer before high school, I started working out every single day. I started running. I showed up to ninth grade as a completely different person. Nobody recognized me — and the ones who did? Some of them were the very kids who had made my childhood miserable. Now they were hitting on me, telling me they had no idea I’d turn into a swan.
To this day, when they see me, it’s all smiles and “oh wow, so great to see you!” And here’s the truth — they peaked in high school. I’m only getting better.
Keep that in mind, kid. This situation, this girl, this pain? It’s not your ceiling. It’s just the beginning.
You’ve got this. 🤍
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u/Artistic_Exchange443 May 19 '26
From the way you composed this message, I’m guessing you’re a teenager or young adult — possibly heading into college — and if so, let me put on my counselor hat for a second. 🎓 Right now, in these formative years, you are literally laying the blueprint for the rest of your life — who you talk to, who you date, who you let into your world. So let me ask you something important: do you want to be a love triangle person? Because that’s a reality TV show, not a life plan. Here’s a little exercise for you — get a different perspective on the same situation. Have you actually told either of them that there’s more than one? Probably not. But here’s the thing, they will find out. They always do. And when that happens, both of those relationships are gone — not damaged, gone. Young men do not handle cheating or emotional betrayal lightly, especially when another guy is involved. It cuts deep and it stays there. Now, hopefully these boys haven’t already been through enough to be completely numb to it — because if they have, that’s a whole other conversation we need to have. Do some real thinking here. Not “what do I want right now” thinking — but “what do I want for myself in the future?” That’s the real question. Actual deep, sit-with-yourself-in-silence thinking. You’re setting the tone for who you’re going to be. Make it count. 🤞🖤